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So.... How badly did I fuck up?
I am at the point where I want her even just as a regular friend. But I am so socially retarded that shit like this happens.
So. What could I do about the now? I guess just wait it out, and hope it does not effect much?
Note: After I sent that last message, I checked her towns HS to see if the graduation was that weekend. And it was....
You dont sound like very fun to talk to if I was the girl I would never go out with you.
>>17297207
What's wrong with your pops OP?
>>17297207
I chuckled, OP you're way too passive aggressive to have anything other than an acquaintance level with people. The fact that you didn't just accept what she said and move on already proves you've placed this girl on a pedestal and you further prove it by checking to see if what she says is true by an outside source.
If you doubt her already and is she saying no then fuck it man, if she wanted to hang out with you she would have made time. You totally blew it with the 'if u dont wanna...
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This woman won't stop harassing me. I told them police and they've done nothing but allow me to report since apparently you can't get arrested for it. Ivery tried getting an order of protection and the detective she can't be arreated. I've made several police reports complainthat # 3216 on (6/17/2016)for putting my address on Facebook and basically telling ppl to cone get me & # 003192 (6-16-2016) for posting semi nude photos of me and my father, pubically humiliating us after when she came and harassed me at 11 at night. I don't know what to...
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Please someone help me out...
If you're scared defend yourself. The fact that you've already asked the police for help will work to your favor.
>>17297194
What exactly did you do OP? You're not telling us everything.
Hi /adv/.
I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years now. I came in with baggage and emotional damage and anxiety and depression. I was honest about that and was accepted. I've been working on myself, going to therapy, learning about emotional responsibility, non-defensive communication, validating others' emotions, basically, how to be an adult and a healthy person. I've made a lot of progress and I'm happy with who I am and the path I'm on.
Now, my boyfriend and I have been having arguments and I have a new sense of awareness...
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It doesn't sound like he wants to listen.
He's probably frustrated and pent-up from having to baby you into semi-functional normality. I've seen this play out a thousand times, normal person takes on the responsibility of helping fucked up person. Finally, fucked up person becomes functional but never stops to help normal person deal with all the stress,pain, frustrations they've had to shoulder.
Maybe his inability to listen, as you say, has more to do with your inability to destress him.
Get him to go to therapy with you. Then you can have a mediator telling him all of this, and helping you through it. Instead of just you telling him, and you getting his emotional response.
Hey guys,
So my girlfriend's birthday is coming up on the 3rd. Last year she didnt have a very good birthday, so this year i really want to have something awesome to buy her and do with her so she has a good time. However, she doesn't have very many interests.
She likes to sleep, smoke weed with me, be outside (most of the time), eat, explore, do cocaine, drink water, and play with our cat/mouse. She's a little tough to shop/plan for to me.
Have you any ideas?
>>17297167
>drink water
lol
>>17297167
Am I your girlfriend? Shit.
Maybe take her on a camping trip and give her a hammock or something
>>17297182
What, you also like to sleep and drink water? are you me?
I have never got any haircut before and want to step my game up, any tips on what to get?
I do not at all believe your hair has never been cut
It hasn't really. But it's kinda curly/wavy so I have no idea what to get. I can get is staight if I comb it after a shower, anything on what to get?
>>17297121
Try with the typical fuccboi hair
Alright so I need some advice or something.
So my gf is polyamorous and I'm sure she has another partner.
About 3 months into our relationship she told me she started to have feelings for someone else and that she still loved me but she just felt bad because of those feelings because she knew it would hurt me and soon we talked it out and we were still together just the two of us. But earlier this month these feelings began to bother her even more to the point where she started wanting to commit suicide. This is when I told her that she could go on and date whoever...
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Wew lad. You probably don't realize this, but you're in an abusive relationship.
>these feelings began to bother her even more to the point where she started wanting to commit suicide.
>I didn't want her to hurt herself anymore
>what if she gets upset with me?
>What if she decides to leave me for this?
>What if she has to hurt herself again because of my own selfish reasons?
This is all emotional...
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stop. do not continue to pursue a relationship where your boundaries are crossed. it will not work. i understand that you are trying to make it work, but it does not make sense. how old are you two? i hope to dear god not older than 14, because she sounds 14 as all hell. you need to leave. this shit is ridiculous. it's not selfish. she is selfish, and i wouldn't be surprised if she was using the suicide/self harm as bait to get her way. how old are you?
You two just aren't compatible with each other. Just accept it and find another person to date.
You know what you have to do but you're afraid of leaving her. She left you and stopped caring about you a long time ago.
It's fucking ridicolous. 20 YO virgin speaking. I regularly masturbate on boobs and asses but vaginas really turn me off. That's quite fucked up, i feel anormal and i'm really looking forward to get my dick sucked and i guess i could like anal, but finding a gf who doesn’t want to be penetrated is literally impossible.
>inb4 trannies
No money, and dicks turn me off as well.
Why exactly do they disgust you?
Do you think there's a way to start appreciating vaginas?
>>17297114
I don't like how vaginas look but it feels nice being inside one
My girlfriend of over 3 years has recently had anxiety about her stagnant life and relationship with me to some extent, thought we were on the verge of breaking up, but she said she still loves me and doesnt want to let that go and thinks shes just confused etc. Now that we didnt break up we talked about how we need to communicate more and express our fears/concerns to have a stronger relationship. During what i thought was the break up she mentioned how she wanted to move overseas where one of her best friends recently moved and try studying there and then moving around the...
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>>17297091
And just a note, i feel like if we didnt have such a bumpy near break up recently the idea of her travelling for a month with a friend wouldnt have sounded so bad, i think its the little bit of insecurity i currently feel in the relationship because of how close i felt to losing her that knowing she wants to travel without me makes that feeling a little stronger.
>>17297091
Bullshit. Love my ass, If she truely loved you, she would not move over seas to ''study''. It's just a shitty excuse to break up, she just shifted the breaking up, onto you, so she won't feel bad about it. So she can definetely go, without hesitation. Bro, just end it, find someone you want to marry, and live your life without bullshit.
>>17297112
She's not moving anymore, that was what she said in the heat of the moment when we were discussing our relationship, its what she was saying she would probably do if we were to break up, after we talked however and she told me she wanted to be with me, she said she will still want to travel with a friend time to time, and the first trip is going to be around a month, that was what my post was about.
It's almost half past two in the morning.
My eyes are wet.
I can't call her.
I'm drunk.
She was last online on fb 3 hours ago.
AMA
>>17297082
>AMA
Astronomical bodies are all formed via gravitational collapse. Gravity exerts an equal force in all directions, which is why every last star and planet is spherical, or close to. In fact, if you took a planet and squashed it in a giant vice it would, over the course of a few million years, spring back to it's original shape.
So how is it that so many galaxies are disc shaped? The stars are bound to each other by gravity and the whole lot is bound together by a supermassive...
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>>17297082
what's photosynthesis
>>17297157
centrifugal force
This chick matches with me and is willing to talk to me but can't be bothered to have a give and take conversation.
What is the point of her doing this?
Maybe I should just ask her number?
>>17297007
Ask her out. Tinder is not meant for long conversations.
>>17297007
>>17297007
She's interested, but you sound like you're having a bad time. Try to initiate something exciting, or don't bother at all. Don't ask her straight up for her number. Instead, see what she thinks about relationships and stuff like that. Don't ask her out without actually knowing if she wants anything or not bad move.
>>17297007
women are near enough always like this. not sure why they do it. you're asking her questions that give her enough leeway to give a decent reply.
There's a girl I'm kind of friends with, I asked her out on a date and she smiled a bit and said she's busy studying these days but I insisted a bit and she said she'll text me. I've asked her to do something more casual some weeks ago and she had the same excuse but acted like it bothered her at least a bit that she couldn't go. It can be legit since she's falling behind with college but I don't know. Should I text her first if she doesn't? How much should I insist? Needless to say I really really like her.
>>17296995
She's not interested
Let it go
Paradoxically, letting go can sometimes lead her to be more interested - but don't count on that
>>17297008
I wish she'd just say that she's not interested, I would
>>17297014
It's not that easy unfortunately - especially if you haven't got a great deal of experience with these situations
When you go through this a few times, you'll eventually see when she's not interested and just drop it soon on. Thankfully, this becomes fale-safe... As if you judged wrong, and drop it when she is interested, then she'll be sure to let you know that's the case
Shit hurts, OP. I know. But don't make this harder on yourself than you need to (yes, I used...
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HOW DO I STOP BEING JUST A BACKGROUND CHARACTER
Your always the main character in the story of your life
Do you wear glasses? That could be the problem.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EW85eGmydEI
>>17297004
Absolutely not.
what's even the point of trying to learn something when you can't get better?
i have no skills or talent, and every time i try to get better at something i just fail and go right back to where i was. it makes me feel like i'm worse than anyone else, because they've all got shit they're good at and i've got nothing. my learning curve is literally a straight line.
it literally feels like improvement is impossible. is there any way out of this?
>>17296924
are you a furry
>>17296924
Talent is negligible. You just lack dedication. Mastery takes roughly 10000 hours. Want to learn an instrument? Practice properly for 3 hours every single day, in 10 years you will be good at it. Period. That's how it works, other people with talents and skills have already sunken the time in, you just need to start.
>>17296924
there is no such thing as talent, you're just a lazy fuck that doesn't want to work towards anything so you're using that as an excuse.
How do I find passion
I'm 26
Too late?
That's so vague, what do you mean?
>>17296939
How do I find passion? Something that I'm driven to do for it's own sake.
>>17296919
https://youtu.be/6MBaFL7sCb8
You don't find passion, passion finds you.
You can't become passionate about something until you've put in effort and see results
Frustrating I know but it's not something that is easy to plan around
I'm almost 29 F and I have never had a boyfriend. I don't think I'm particularly bad looking, but I've never had anyone so much as offer. I'm really social and I love going out, but it's always my friends that get hit on and I have to sit there as they go off for the night and ditch. I seriously think that I am broken, /adv. I don't know what to do
>>17296908
I'll fug you if you want me to.
If you're fat that answers your question.
>>17296908
Have you tried approaching people?
>>17296908
You female? If you fat go for chubby chasers. I'm personally a chubby chaser myself
