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My daughter recently broke up with a boy, and I have been annoying her lately because I still say hello to the kid and just shoot the breeze with him whenever I see him around town. It drives her crazy. I tried telling her that I understand that they broke up, but I can't treat the kid like shit just because they had a falling out. He wasn't beating her or cheated on her or anything. I think they just weren't compatible with each other. Any of you have experience with this? How did the family of your ex treat you after your breakup
>>17295372
what the fuck are you doing on 4chan?
Pretty normally. Actually her mom thought that we were the best fit, so they actually loved me more for a while that their daughter.
Don't be shit to people if they don't deserve it, and be a good example for your daughter to not being a moody bitch. Break up is a break up, not eternal spite and hostility.
Your daughter is a teenage girl, you'd be doing something very wrong if you weren't driving her crazy in some way.
I've always maintained pretty friendly convos with the families of my exes, and I'm usually the one who torpedoes things.
I know I can stop this guy from sending me these files, but he lives only a few yards away from me.
LMFAO
What?
>>17295335
Turn bluetooth off or put on a password
also post the other pictures
guys, my GF keeps fantasizing on fictionnal characters, but I get it, the problem is that she shares it whith everyone including me. before it was just husbandos (which I really only take half-seriously) but now it's gone to the point where she calls herself " *name of human character in a TV show* 's bitch " on small social medias.
I mean, come the fuck on. I never tell anyone (even less, her) How I obsess over people on a screen.
Am I in the wrong? she seems to not even notice that it makes me uncomfortable. Also, how do I tell her to chill and not to make it such a public thing?
Thank you advice bros
>>17295309
also when I mean small social medias, I mean discord
attentionwhore alert
>abort mission
>>17295313
lol why? Is there such thing on a board where you post advice?
>Depressed
>Friendless and lonely
>Staying alone in an apartment. No television or computer so I just do math all day because that's the only thing there is to do
>Do math just so I don't have to think about life
>Gave up on talking to other humans. I struggle to think of something they'd enjoy talking about anyway.
find idiots that are into math to the same degree. i hope you actually got fucking good in it in the meantime.
>>17295308
actually didn't realize it was a gif. now i clicked and sides in paradise. MOAR
>>17295306
all famous mathematicians/scientists lived or at least worked in isolation
Probably because they were so GENISU DESU
>a girl has shitty family situation
>her parent has terminal cancer
>she makes me promise that I'll never leave her, at least not during this harsh time because she won't survive it
>promise
>discover she cheats on me
>break up and leave her
Should I feel like shit for not keeping it?
>>17295284
Nope. She made you promise because she was cheating and wanted to have the freedom of no repercussions.
Good job OP, you were not a faggot today.
Not at all.
It's a complicated situation and I'm sure there are many people (her included, I'm quite certain) which would defend her as being vulnerable, stressed out and emotionally unstable or numb. For me you are in the clear, she didn't uphold her part of the relationship, a part that doesn't involve doing nothing besides being cheating idiot, which shouldn't really be that hard.
Care to share story? How did you found out, how long has she cheated on you? I love good cheating story, was cheated on myself.
>meet girl on okc
>have a date, she seems nice
>second date goes well but I don't actually feel that attracted to her
>meet another girl who I actually like
>refuse like three dates with first girl with shitty excuses (oh no I'm sick I can't make it, there are strikes on my train line so I can't come, things like that)
>she doesn't get it and I'm a pushover so...
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Be honest?
Have you tried using your words?
>>17295264
Yeah but there's gotta be a diplomatic way to be honest. I've always been civil to her but I never actually made any move towards her (nor has she towards me, except for that last line) so if I suddenly go "I actually don't like you" it would be weird.
I really have a hard time trusting other people but the loneliness is getting to much my plan atm is to just get over the trust issue and try my hardest to bond with others and if I get fucked over then I will just kill myself, is it a good plan?
>>17295213
I have the same problem.
Probably a good idea to switch your mentality from "I have to constantly be aware of people who might not be trustworthy" to "I'm just gonna have fun".
Just automatically trust people first, and if they are untrustworthy, they usually reveal it. And even if you get a few of these people, it won't affect you if you just focus on having fun with people rather than determining who you can trust and who you cant.
Don't be so serious.
>>17295244
I don't care so much about an untrustworthy friend here an there I already have dealt with that before the main issue is relationships, I am very mentally ill its either all or nothing for me if I try a relationship and get backstabbed I'll just kill myself lol
>>17295257
> if I try a relationship and get backstabbed I'll just kill myself lol
Of course you wouldn't try a relationship if you consistently think you will get backstabbed.
Just like a lot of things - relationships ARE NOT A BIG DEAL. LEARN from the bad ones - ask yourself what you could do next time to have a better relationship next time.
I still stick to the point that - just have fun. A lot of stuff in life seems like a big deal at the time, but really nothing...
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So here's my problem
>Take up an loading/unloading job, take on shitty night shift thinking I can handle it with college
>Surprise! I can't. After I had to miss an exam because I wasn't fit to drive due to lack of sleep I decided to give my two weeks.
>Fast forward a month after I'm done, I'm wondering where the fuck is my paycheck
>Bitch at HR while getting looped around for hours, on top of that I find out I'm apparently...
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ask reddit.com/r/legaladvice maybe?
>>17295251
I guess I could, but I was trying to avoid having to make an account and all that.
>>17295256
it takes like 2 minutes, and theyre pretty much the best free legal advice you can get
How do I deal with a terrible hangover depression when I have to stay at home to study for an exam?
why did you even got drunk if you have to study familiam?
>>17295181
was supposed to have just a couple drinks, but you know how that goes sometimes
>>17295182
>but you know how that goes sometimes
no i don't because i have selfdiscipline.
what was your plan of action so far?
get a bottle of water and empty it over the next few hours.
eat some fruits high in vitamin c. get your electrolytes. iow, make some veggie broth.
then go for a jogg and then take a shower. get dressed and take out your study material.
you're welcome.
I'm a femanon who has always been a sub in bed, since the dawn of masturbation. But I want to switch it up and try femdom in a bad way. The thing is, I really love getting fucked hard from behind, for logistical reasons. Also, never been a fan of getting eaten, but it seems that's a big thing in femdom.
So I'm wondering, do you think there is a way to get banged hard, especially doggie style, while still framing it as me being in control? And do you think that there are a lot of femdom-loving men out there who would be into that? 'Cause I meet a lot...
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there are literally no rules to femdom. you have to etablish the roles. i'd suggest going for the "sex slave" scenario. then you use your new toyboi the way that you need it. if you need him to ram his hard cock inside your dripping pussy repeatedly and with great force, then he has to do exactly that.
also, don't do that with different guys. get one and train him well.
>>17295161
I dont see why you cant try to find something and or someone to work that desire.
i cant, however, imagine how doggiestyle can be considered "femdom" though. Maybe try to get some femdom foreplay thing going before letting him wreck you from behind?
Dunno really.
>>17295172
See that sounds good on paper but since he's not an actual slave he can just not come back if he doesn't like it. Do you think there's a market for that kind of play among men who are into femdom and raised on femdom porn? Or a place I could go to find out, without a shitload of independent research?
Also, good idea on the finding one guy thing. Maybe someone less experienced.
So I lost my virginity last night to another guy.
But this other super hot guy wants to fuck me this afternoon.
Can I bang 2 dudes in 2 days, or is that degenerate?
>>17295136
You're gay, it's "degenerate" enough to the eyes of society. So why would you care? Enjoy yourself.
>lets guy stick it in his boi pussy
You already lost your "not degenerate" card
Assuming it's not degenerte to have gay sex, it's definitely to have sex with changing partners that rapidly.
Assuming it's not degenerate to have sex with rapidly changin parners, nah, you're find bro, enjoy your sexuality.
>n-no homo
>>17295136
Have some fun, man
you already crossed the 'degeneracy' line, so go all out
>also banging dudes is fine, no homo
So, my gf smokes weed more than I do. This ain't a problem. My problem is that I will occasionally do other drugs maybe once a month if I have access to them. However, I am a giant procrastinator and I've just rediscovered speed. I've never felt more focused on getting shit done in my life. I won't let myself be addicted to it, but I feel as though using it semi-regularly (once or twice a week to get shit done) could be helpful to me. If you were my girlfriend, what would you think about something like this?
>>17295108
ffs ask her u lill shit
>>17295108
she wont care, but it depends on her values, some girls are complicated
>>17295108
>Won't get addicted
>Twice a week
>Can really get stuff done
LoL. I used to smoke weed a lot, but I would dump a guy in a second if I knew he did speed. Better find out how she feels about it. Or do Adderall like a civilized person.
What are some topics to have a banal conversation about?
By banal conversation I mean a conversation with the goal of establishing a social and emotional bond, rather than talking about something meaningul and important.
I'm asking because I have moderate autism and don't have any friends because I'm bad at banal conversation.
>>17295088
Boring backstory, but i think it's important to understand the setting:
> be me, 5 years ago
> 28 at the time
> work on a ship, 5 week rotation, 12 hour shifts, pretty much cut off from the rest of the world
> spend 99% of my shifts in a control room with 5 others, each of us with our area of responsibility.
> at times very calm days, where people try...
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>>17295088
weather
sports
movies
TV show last night
celebrities
news
new store/restaurant/bar in town
gossip
>don't have any friends
I think it's because you used the word "banal" 3 times in your OP.
Is it possible to make yourself attracted to someone you're not attracted to?
The only guy I'm ever going to get is short, ugly and loves me to death. We tried it for two years, I never got used to it, we've been apart for roughly a year now and since it's becoming apparent he really was my only choice, I keep thinking about going back.
He was my first real boyfriend, and for the longest time I thought I just wasn't sexually attracted to HIM, and that I was missing out by being loyal to him instead of just finding a guy I'd actually be into, but the longer I try the more obvious it becomes I'm really just not interested in sex, at all, ever.
So wouldn't it be just the same if I'm dating a guy I don't like sleeping with, if I just don't like sex anyway?
>>17295114
Damn, both your lives are sad.
>>17295140
When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade.
When life gives you rocks, you eat sand.
Hi I'm pretty shy/nervous how would you suggest going about job interviews?
Learn about the company beforehand, make sure you know them well.
Remember that it's not just them interviewing you, it's also the opposite: ask question, be inquisitive, and be interested. Never discuss salary during the first interview unless they bring it up. Beforehand, pick a possible start date.
>>17295078
>Maintain eye contact.
And if you are nervous at that, look between the eyes.
>When asked to say about yourselves, keep it considerably short and don't try to make it long and expect them to have a sympathy on you.
>Watch videos on being confident.
>Don't fap like at least 1 week from the interview.
(Assuming you are a male.)At the 4th day of abstaining from...
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there is no other way than to try and fail, that is the best way to learn
go to an interview and even if you end up being nervous and shy and shitting your pants, you have to do it again and again in order to overcome it. no matter how many times it takes you just be persistent.
