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What comes to your mind when you see this name? Is it a good and pronounceable name to native English speakers?
>>17295077
I just read that "am I right" at first glance, so I guess it's terrible
>>17295084
slim shady?
>>17295084
It is a foreign name, because you know I am foreign, "am I right" is not so bad... am I right?
Trying not to beat off for 2 whole weeks. On day 3 now. Tips to control yourself?
Also how can you sleep without unloading your handgun
>>17295071
>Trying not to beat off for 2 whole weeks. On day 3 now. Tips to control yourself?
Busy yourself with something else.
>Also how can you sleep without unloading your handgun
Safely.
>>17295071
Bolt action handgun should work
Recommended choice is the welrod
Cut off your benis
Hi /adv/. This is my first post on this board.
I used to have a really good friend, but due to him treating me very badly in social situations I cut contact with him.
However I did not cut contact with his GF because I liked her as a person.
Recently I broke up with my gf and shortly after they broke up too and she told me it's final.
Now I can't help but seeing my old friend's ex as a potential dating option due to the connection I have with her but at the same time feel as if I would be betraying him, even though we're not friends anymore.
What should I do?
Anyone that can offer advice?
One last bump since it seems there's no interest.
No one can answer that for you. Do what you think is right.
I'm a bisexual girl in committed straight relationship. My boyfriend is extremely chill about me having sex with girls and (insofar theoretically) even reasonably casual ongoing sexual relationships with them
We're very open about sexuality with each other, and I don't care about it the other way either (like if he were to fuck men that's fine with me)
I downloaded a lesbian dating app a while ago but never used it, but I got a message on there from a girl and we will be going on a date
My question is, how much of the situation do I disclose to her? Being in a straight relationship and just wanting to bang a lesbian makes me sound really shallow and like some kind of edgelord, and it kind of sounds like I'm cheating on my boyfriend
Yet if I don't tell her, I'm worried things could get too out of hand, and I know it's a stereotypical situation in gay communities to get fucked over by bisexual/straight people
In her position, how much would you want to know? How/when would you want to be told? How would you react?
Thank you for your time
>>17295017
>it kind of sounds like I'm cheating on my boyfriend
This
Be honest about your boyfriend, even that he knows about what you're doing and he's ok with it.
>>17295019
So would that be the main issue for you then? Worrying I'm cheating on him rather than worrying about my lack of commitment to the date?
It depends on whether you give a shit about the other person. If you just want to get laid, then you can either just make it clear to them that you aren't looking for anything serious and just want to have some "fun" or you could lead them on, get yours and then split.
If you do care then just be straight forward about it (keep in mind this is likely to going to make it harder)
How do I hide the fact that I dont have a social life or friends for the past 4 years from my co-workers.
I mean I am more comfy now not going g out to clubs and bars like I used to just because that's what you are supposed to do. because that was never really me. I'm real homebody at heart and like staying in yet it's something I am insecure about if ppl find out.
another problem is how do I avoid going out when people invite me. I sense they know I don't really have plans when they invite me and I make up some reason not to go.
>>17295009
>another problem is how do I avoid going out when people invite me.
Even if you're a homebody in general I can almost guarantee you are going to regret this. That's how I went through college - not accepting invitations because of a combination of being a homebody, shy, and not particularly liking some of the people inviting me, until I stopped getting invited at all.
Just be honest and out right.
People who make up dodgy excuses and bail on plans are not well liked.
I was in a similar situation, being a NEET and all, and told like 1/4 of my coworkers. They'll get over it.
As for declining invitations, I literally just say "Nah, I'm just gonna go home and watch a movie or something". I've made it clear that being around a bunch of people tires the hell out of me, and I'll really only hangout with like 3 or 4 people from work. And consider inviting them to do things as well; they won't invite you forever. Or at least accept an invitation every now and then.
I've got a girlfriend for four years. At first I really fell for her because she was perfect wife material, but over the years she changed. Our relationship is still very good, she's extremely loving and caring, but it's more like being very close friends and not gf/bf.
She became much more emotionally unstable, more clingy, sweeps a lot of things under the rug, and complains a lot. She also became very passive and lazy in bed, she expects me to do everything but then complains if I don't want to have nearly as much sex as berfore. I'm just not attracted to her as I used to, but I don't want to tell her this, because I know it would crush her.
She has gone through a depressive term for almost two years. At first she tried therapy and drugs, but she just doesn't want to do them anymore. She is completely absorbed in her depressive little world and has really nothing in her life than me. I really don't want to break up with her because I feel sorry for her and want to help, but I feel like I have exhausted my options and her behavior makes it very hard for me to keep the relationship together. If I try to talk about this with her, she tries to change things, but it's very forced, and it makes me feel awful seeing her like this. Should I end it or try to keeping to make it work?
>>17294994
Hey anon, i struggle with almost the same situation.
I am 3 years in and married to her, she also changed and took the attitude you described.
I tried to talk to her about it and always try to figure out something but i run against a concrete wall. My arguments get opposed with emotional tantrums.
My wife is really frustrated all the time, at the most delusional things, she doesn't take drugs but spends her whole freetime on her phone these days.
First of all, feeling sorry is not a reason to stay with her, in my case i love her still.
Mine tries to make changes too, but she doesn't try very hard at all, and she acts like every single thing that she does different changes everything and then flings back to her frustrated self letting her mood out on me.
Sorry i could not provide you with any help, i just feel the same way.
Whilst you can still see yourselves getting through it dont give up prematurely as you may regret it, having said that eventually you may get to the point where nothing but the shock of a break up can bring the both of you back to normality and that general feeling of happiness/content returns your day to day life. Its hard to see the future but you need to bear in mind that a huge amount of people get stuck in a situation like your gf and find that although it seems cruel at the time in 10 years she will see it as a life changing moment for the better and you yourself will realise how unhappy you are.
Trust me you may think you are okay but being in a situation where you feel forced to have sex with someone you dont want to due to contempt will be seriously affecting your mood and wellbeing
>>17295051
My problem is that she really isn't taking her frustration out on me. She's really loving and caring. It's just that her life is empty, she got extremely clingy, passive, and wants literally everything from me. She wants to live in a perfect fantasy world to escape her depression, at least that's what it seems to me.
I need /adv/ for the situation with my gf.
Bit of backstory. Both 17. We've been friends for about 2-3 years and I asked out out at the start of the month. She said yes. This is my first real relationship. I really do like her but I've been feeling that she maybe doesn't like me as much as I do her. (Might just be my insecurities talking)
Fast forward to today, after her saying no to my invitation, I went to see Nemo 2 with her friend alone. This was a fuck up on my part and she told me that we'd needed to talk.
Long story short, after explaining that I regretted what I've done and how much she meant to me, she suggested that maybe it'd be better if I move on. I'd convinced her to think about giving me one more go before I give up.
I don't want this to end. What do I do guys?
>>17294983
FUCK HER, jesus man you are 17, im twice your age! Trust me women will ALWAYS break your balls there is no secret formula no NOTHING, trust me far smarter men have tried to crack the code but no luck so far.
Look I see cases like yours everyday on /adv/, I know I know "b-b-bbut she is the one, I can feel my sould connection" Nah bro, you are thinking with your dick, Its ok to admit it, seems to me like her friend is the better option, I mean you treat her to Nemo 2 and this cunt says NO to YOU!?!? Then she can go fuck herself, I mean Nemo 2 is not a guy movie like at all.
Anyways, dont fucking sweat it, shes probably talking on facebook with some chad douchebag that will date her for a month and dump her, then she will post retarded "love quotes" or say good men are hard to find blablablabalbal.
Ive seen it a million times, im not saying there is no such thing as love, all im saying is that you barely started life dont go bananas for every pussy, there are millions of pussies in this planet.
Just dont be so hard on yourself, let her be and go do your thing dont waste anymore time in your room listening to songs that remind you of her while that cunt is just not giving a shit about you.
Look, im gonna let you in on a secret about women, they arent so loyal as they claim to be, they talk about us saying things like "player", "dog", etc but the hard truth is that everyone here is out to fuck, its all a big act, doesnt matter if you been with your gf 5 yeas, one crazy shot night and BAM she fucking cheats on you, look there is no escape, the only play you have is to be yourself, be independent, dont play their bullshit games and you will see the results.
I don't think you could come up with a more teenagery post
>>17294999
This guy has trips for a fucking reason.
Every single time I wear nonblack underwear, I get my period... EVERY TIME
>>17294968
That sounds incredibly convenient. Some guy spooges in you, all you need to do is put on some white panties and crisis averted.
You know that generally your period should start at the same time each month, right? And also that there are things called panty liners that you can wear to stop your underwear getting stained when you're expecting your period?
>>17294981
I got no sense of time
So a while ago I creeped on my ex's Facebook. We split up a while ago and we weren't together even very long, I just had a lot of strong feelings for her and I was very depressed/suicidal at the time, so the whole thing has stuck with me. I've felt more for her than any other girl.
To cut a long story short, I creeped again and one of the pictures I was looking at has now been taken down. It was the main picture I was looking at. All the other ones from what I assume were that night are still there intact. It's just that one photo that's gone.
I'm sure I didn't download it or anything. I probably clicked "full-screen" but I don't think that alerts the person.Is there any way she could have known?
>>17294956
wait are you trolling or does facebook notify when someone saves a photo... this may be an awkward situation for me if true..
also, sorry to hear about your troubles OP. I hope you are able to move on and find someone you love even more!
>>17294961
I will sacrifice love just to know that I'm not being considered a weirdo loser.
I'm not 100% sure if it does notify them. If you use the Facebook link to download, instead of 'right click > save as', then you might be in trouble
>>17294969
I know what you mean..
I am fairly certain i used the facebook 'download' button when i saved a photo of my ex a few months ago just after we broke up.
Welp we might both have just been made out to be the creepers we are OP, fucking facebook and it's privacy bullshit! I just wanted to save a sentimental moment dammit.
What can you do though, not much. if we did notify an ex of saving a photo.. at worst you look like a creep and at best you look like you still care.
>inb4 this thread is shitposted so much I abandon
I want to meet someone compatible with me and this for me means someone older/dominant. I'm getting my life under control for this idea, working on my issues.
My question is: I have no real idea where to find dom women. Fetlife is cringe and every other dating site is probably just as horseshit.
I don't know how to spot dom women in the wild, either.
My ideas so far are
>Libraries
>Universities
>Anime Cons
And that's about it.
Looking for input.
Thanks
Don't try. The women who are dominant are almost always batshit and take their insecurities out on you. Women who are actually dominant and not batshit are one in a million. Rarer than a unicorn.
>>17294948
You should go for petite latinas, they are for sure feisty.
>>17294952
>wake me up inside
I'm not putting up with the typical 'doms' that are bi and poly and cuck everyone. :/
>>17294955
Yeah, I don't care for traditional people.
Bitchy/whiny/promiscuous women are not dominant, sorry to say.
Also, Latinas seem to be really stuck up nasty cunts, I've had 2/10s and 4/10s cringe at me and treat me poorly just for trying to talk to them. (As a low 5/10)
What's the most successful way to make a fake Instagram account?
One that I can get people (girls) whose account is on private to give me access to so I can creep in them
>>17294941
Use a picture of a dog as your profile picture. It works a lot better than a picture of Nick Cave, I assure you.
>>17295000
how about uploading pics.
is there a way of doing it from your pc
>>17295002
I don't know. I just followed people with public profiles first, then later sent requests to girls with private profiles. Most of them added me without any pictures.
I should say that you might end up feeling creepy and deleting the account.
I've wanted to make a thread about this for a while
In many respects, my brother seems to have matured to the mental and social limits of a 14 year old.
He is, however, 25. He is not enough of a burden on my parents for them to accept him as a handicapped person but he is living like a child while being expect to live as an adult.
Please assume everything that you would about a typical NEET plus pretty bad dyspraxia and very immature.
My parents are really tired and it makes me sad to see it. any suggestions on what to do?
bump, please
>>17294921
Well, does he have friends? goes out? Has he ever had a job?
>>17294943
he has friends, also in the same boat.
as a rule he leads a very sedentary lifestyle.
He does temporary work at the moment, but as far as obtaining skills he begins at a base level far lower than everyone else i know, and he doesn't have the resolve to improve. In fact, he has no drive for anything much (biggest problem i think)
Hello anons, Today my grandmother passed away and this is the first real death that I have ever had to deal with (with someone who I was really close too). I keep alternating with emotions numbness to sadness and then guilt for things I wished I could of done but was too lazy or selfish because there was always more time.
How have any of you coped with death? When does it get easier or does it always stick with you.
>>17294915
I've only experienced death in the family twice. Once was in sixth grade when my grandfather died. My greatgreatgrandmother died several years after that. About a year ago I was panicking at random just remembering that I was mortal. The best I've been able to deal with it is to try and accept that eventual death is the price we pay to get to live. It's not perfect, I know, but it's helped.
>>17294915
I've experienced it a couple times. The only time it really ever hit was when I was 17/18. My grandfather died, I spent a lot of time at his farm with the family. I'm normally a very, very reserved person but I was crying with my whole extended family at the hospital and at the funeral. It was a very strange experience. It was easier when we left back home. We still visit my grandmother regularly at the farm for days at a time. We're at peace with it.
It's very weird though, looking back at when he was alive, he tried to talk with me more, he knew what was coming. He wanted to get to know me more, I'm not the best talker but it's nice knowing that he was comfortable with what was coming, at least at the time.
I'll never forget though, on his deathbed, he kept moaning over & over "Take me back to the farm, take me back to the farm" almost like he was a little boy.
He passed some hours later right in front of us.
I lost my father, and older brother because of a drunk driver. The way I managed to get over it (and this may sound cheesy) by getting a notebook and write everything I remembered of them. The notebook felt like a huge release for me, and it might help you. As for the feeling switching between being numb and sad, it's natural. Try to go out with friends, push yourself to be with anyone who supports you since it'll be hard. Losing someone close is never easy. Best wishes man.
So, /adv/, I'm 18 and I smoke lots and lots of weed and do lots and lots of drugs. Me and my friend got VERY fucked up last night and forgot to clean up our mess, which included coke, DXM, weed, and some Klonopin. In my high state of mind, I drove my car halfway out of my driveway into my dad's car and then ran back inside. My parents awoke to find their cars mashed together, and two 18 year olds stoned out of their minds. I'm never allowed to speak to him again, and my parents are forcing me to go to a Catholic college. What in the fuck do I do? I'm seriously considering suicide.
hahahah guess you fucked up
You're 18, all I can say is petiton them to let you atleast get clean and composed enough to go to college before you waste their money and their time. That should naturally mean some form of rehabilitation. I'm not saying you're really troubled, I don't know you but from someone who's had much the same experience I think you probably do have some things in your life that bother you and lead you to do this. Care to share?
>considering suicide because you're a degenerate
Lol
>My entire family has always had a very patriarchal relationship with my father.
>He's always very removed from our lives even though we live together. Left everything to our mother pretty much.
>He was an abusive piece of shit. Beat me and my siblings when he was in a bad mood and made our mother feel like shit.
>My mother is a very timid woman who married her first love and still loves him even though he clearly uses her for a lot of things.
>I dont doubt he loved her at one point but I'm pretty sure he's cheated on her multiple times throughout his life.
>He also had untreated mental problems. Often accused us of going through his things, kicked my mother out of their room and installed multiple padlocks, accused his own family of conspiracy type shit against him often.
>Had to physically fight him when I got older and bigger than him to stop him from abusing the rest of my family. Now he just leaves us alone and never talks to us even though he lives down the hall
>My father is now on his deathbed. He developed lung cancer after smoking for a decade. None of my siblings will admit it but we're all glad to see him go and I'm pretty sure he knows it.
>The only problem is my mother still loves him and I know it's going to hurt her badly when he finally dies.
>Me and my siblings decide we need to talk to our mom before he dies about how he treated us so she's not in denial or blames herself.
>we all decide I should do it since I'm the closest to her.
I'm going to talk to her in the morning. Any advice on letting an abusers wife know its not her fault and that it's okay not to miss him? I know she is going to be going through some fucked up emotions because of all the emotional shit he's pulled on her for decades.
You do this after he dies, not before. I'm shocked that you would even consider doing it before.
That's making everything about you all, not about her. Sounds really selfish in general, actually
You're trying to take something from her and tell her it's bad..what does it matter after he's gone?
>>17294893
>Someone wants to make their mother know its not her fault after being abused by their father for decades.
>you're making it all about you.
Really don't know where you got this from. I don't see what they have to gain from talking to her about this. Abusers often instill guilt and blame with their victims so I 100% agree with what they're trying to do.
I agree with waiting though. I would even suggest waiting a few weeks after the death so she can calm down and think a little clearer.
>>17294884
Why do you hate your mother so much?
If, as you say, her love for him is the one thing that has enabled her to live with his cruelty, it is likely to be the one thing that enables her to live with his death.
Be clear - I am not talking about any fantasy that he loved her. She almost certainly has none. But finds meaning in her life because she chose to go on loving him in spite of everything.
And now you want to steal that from her, just because you and your sibs don't love him.
You must hate her very much.
