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Do you guys have an advice for a loser that falls in love with every girl that is being nice to me?
I've never been in a relationship, I'm almost 21 and i have serious problems with social skills.
To escape reality I listen to Alan Watts' lectures until I fall asleep. Thanks to that I'm still alive.
I wish I had advice for you anon. I guess the normie way is to be cold as fuck and don't feel emotions until after you are officially dating the person.
>inb4 boner boy respect women stop worshipping women etc.
I wish advice on this board hadn't been reduced to memes
>>17299429
Just stay friends with the girls you fall in love with and you will like them less over time and number of said friends as you allow yourself to see their shortcomings.
I have the same problem. I think it's the depression and loneliness getting into you. Someone being nice to seems so rare, most people wont really care for you or something. You have understand that women are just people. Some are bitches, some are actually nice. It's way harder to find a girl that will go out of their way to treat you special unless you're some handsome alpha or something. People just want to be nice just because. Don't look too deep into it. Just take it into face value.
>>17299480
Jesus...
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How do I deal with "chronic" procrastination?
Just a way to call it. I think it is actually not being able to get my shit together and focus. And working with a computer isn't easy because internet. It's like trying to work with a Nintendo.
Any tips?
Thanks in advance.
>>17299412
same boat here, buddy. I got nothing.
My boss needs to manage me better or something, because I have no will power of my own.
Like, I do enough work to get by and not to raise any question.. But, I literally spend the majority of my day shitposting and browsing the web.
>>17299412
Take some time, think about and address it tomorrow.
>>17299412
Convince your doc to hook you up with ADD meds.
My skin is usually never dry, because it's mostly oily. Recently, though, I've been having dry patches all over my face that flake, and I've never had this problem before. I tried putting on coconut oil, I didn't use some products that I thought dried my skin out, didn't take a shower to dry it out, exfoliated- and nothing worked. But I haven't been breaking out, either.
I've been 10% Benzoyl Peroxide cream overnight to prevent breakouts, and I have the feeling it also dries out my skin, but I have the fear that if I stop using...
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>>17299404
Utilize it to get a good career on filmsets, the machines they use for snow are super expensive, and you could help them out
>>17299404
>10% Benzoyl Peroxide cream overnight
Yeah no shit your skin is dry. Either stop using this or try a lower concentration. You can also try using a moisturizer.
>>17299404
Benzoyl peroxide is usually not recommended as this causes harm to skin.
Just use a good moisturizer OP, then you'll be fine. Go to the store and ask one of the chicks, they'll be able to help you out.
I need job advice. A while ago, I posted here about being moved from my Safeway's Starbucks department to its bakery department. I fully understood why: my performance sucked. I simply wasn't performing my duties well enough. Now, though, I've been told that the bakery "wasn't a good fit for me, either," which again, obviously means that I wasn't doing well there. The thing is, I wasn't given feedback on how to improve, and was told by people in the department that I was doing a good job. The only issue I could see is that I wasn't...
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>>17299393
Well yes, ask your boss why you weren't "a good fit" in the bakery since the only feedback you got was that you were doing a good job.
If you know that you don't work quickly enough, do you know WHY you don't work quickly enough?
>>17299448
I always knew that I could be at least a little faster, but I just figured it'd come to me in time. It only occurred to me that I could be a lot faster when one of the other workers who normally doesn't work the same shift I do mentioned it to me. She basically said, "If you don't pick up the pace, you're not going to last here long." I thought she was right and was planning to work a lot harder this week, but I wasn't given the chance. Now , I won't be allowed any further...
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>>17299475
But I didn't answer the question. I've always been really meticulous, no matter what I do, but that means that I work a lot more slowly. That usually meant my work was a cut above the rest in school, but I guess I never learned to turn that off, especially when my work so far has been nothing but packaging bread.
got 4 cavities. dentist wants to fill in each one on a separate appointment. wtf? is this normal?
his explanation is that they're each on a separate corner of my mouth so it'd be "uncomfortable" to do them all at once
My dentist took 15-20 minutes per to fill in cavities I had. He's probably just trying to make sure he doesn't take too much time on one patient if he's a busy dentist with a good practice. Do you really want to sit through that anyway?
>>17299391
Possibly. It might be more comfortable to at least do them on separate sides of your mouth (left in one session, then right in another, for example).
I would suggest that before permitting any drilling that you get an examination by another dentist. Don't say anything about having cavities, just see if the second one reports that you have four cavities and that they're all in the same places.
There's often no clear evidence of lack of a cavity in an x-ray and a LOT of dentists lie to try to make money because they know that once the drill & fill is done, there's going to be no definitive proof that they were lying.
No, its a move to get more money since you pay for each appointment. His reasoning is to get money. Dentist will do that a lot, vets as well.
I'm struggling with depression and motivation.
What's a good way to request pills by name, and not have the doc think you're a pill seeker?
Ritalin, or Adderall for example.
1. Go to doctor
2. Talk about symptoms
3. Mention you've done some research on possible drugs that might help
4. Propose to doctor: "Would it be possible for me to try <drug> to see if it helps?"
>>17299399
This pretty much.
Also try to consider pills that are actually used primarily in your condition, not pills that are fun and enjoyable to get high off of.
For example, at my next visit with my shrink, i've got a list of about 6 meds to talk about, starting with the venlafaxine + mirtazapine combo.
>>17299383
Just smoke weed, it'll clear that right up.
>tfw smoking 75 cigarettes a day
anyone here managed to quit smoking?
>>17299327
20 bucks worth of cigarettes a day? damn bruh.
something something buy car
>>17299332
36 dollars a day
Lets say there's this thing that me and this girl I am dating (N) was supposed to keep secret from her brother (K) and her brother's best friend (H).
I end of telling this thing to a female friend of mine (A) as she has kept her promise of not telling secrets before. Without me knowing, she goes and tells H (they used to date) who tells K.
The next day, K and the H question me about the thing and I could tell I couldn't get away with lying (just gut instinct + they made sly threats and I pussied out) so I told them the truth. K tells me to stay...
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>>17299311
What the fuck is the "thing"?
I have no fuckimg clue if you don't give me an idea of how intense this actual situation is
>>17299324
My bad, I explained this wrong. The 'thing' is the fact that me and her were dating. Everyone on the outside just though we were friends.
Should I kiss her. We have been all over each other multiple times and randomly held hands. But have never kissed. We are both married btw, which is why I have been reluctant to kiss her, I worry that she will draw the line there and then things will be awkward. However I have always been overly cautious with women and lost out on a few opportunities because of it. I have smacked her ass and rubbed her legs inconspicuously and she responded by holding my hand with our spouses walking in front of us. Whenever we part ways she always gives me full contact hugs... pelvises touching....
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>>17299300
Introduce it in a passive way that can be answered easily
"You keep this up, and you're going to get us both in trouble" when she starts getting physical with you. If she keeps it up, that's an invitation to push the limits and show how far you're willing to take your relationship with her.
Given you're both involved, it'll make it easier than just one of you taking the risk. You both have something to lose.
Are you man enough to cheat on your spouse?
Then go for it. You wouldn't want another missed opportunity, would you? She's already holding hands, that mean she must want you to deepthroat her. You clearly have no respect for your spouse, why not?
-Jimmeny Cricket
>>17299300
Do it.
Best way to get over being in love with someone and not being able to have them? How about if you still have to see them from time to time.
Read Ovid's Cures for Love and call back in a week.
>>17299301
I'm not one for poetry.
If you really loved this person, you'd care more for his or her happiness. The language you use reflected your selfish desire, whereas love is selfless. You have an infatuation, not love, for this person.
