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Women, how do you take your coffee? Just polling.
>>16438185
I don't like coffee. It tastes awful and it's highly addictive. You'd have to be a literal moron.
>inb4 tea lovers pls go.
>>16438185
Black. Like my men.
Found some possible cheating evidence in my girlfriend's phone. How do I call it out without giving her the chance to lie nor to turn the tables on me for reading her conversations?
I guess that depends on why you were snooping to begin with. Is it a usual habit? If not, what prompted it? if it can be explained, it can be used. share with me OP
>>16438071
you should go back in time and not look through her phone.
>>16438077
I don't usually do this. I was looking at our own conversation and saw her message to a girl about "repaying" her, so I opened the conversation. They seem to be very into each other and the girl makes lots of sex jokes. Not sure if something happened or not. But that's what made me look.
5'5 NEVER HAD A GF.
Should I kill my self ho full neet rather work a job I hate to support a society that has fucked me over?
Work over 30 to 20 hours per week overtime. Hate my job studied SEO/SEM and web dev all those job are done by flips at company I act as a account manager. Another account manager was let go a month ago. I'm doing both her work and mine only at home 34,000 after taxes.
I apologize for poor spelling I'm drunk.
>>16437982
Stop wasting time piston shit threads, quit your job if it's a dead end and go and do what makes you happy on a regular basis.
Help me.
>be me
>19yrs old with bad childhood
>bought 2 cats since i have no family
>everytime they growl On me i get aggresive and hit them
I cant controll it
>i hit both rly hard till they bleed of their eyes and mouth
Then i stopped . I tried to controll myself
>they got 2 kittens
>both rly cute
>today...
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>>16437975
Shamfull selfbump.
OP I'm not even kidding you probably have autism
Why do you get pets if you can't even love them. Just get a rock and go see a psychiatrist before you end up in jail because you clearly have some serious issues. But it might actually be better if you end up in jail, people like you disgust me
I can't even believe I'm asking this as a mildly successful 20 year old male, but where the fuck do you even meet women? Besides parties and when I'm 21 bars and clubs, where are social places where the context is "expect to be hit on here". It seems like today's world is all about online shit. It's sad because let's get real guys, we all know online sites or apps=dis bitch is craaaaazy. I want a genuine chance to find some chicks I actually get along with.
And that's another thing, i feel like my standards for everything...
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>>16437952
no
Online = women in control, that is a losing game. Yes, you can get poon if you are attractive, but you would get it anyway with much less hassle offline, so you are still sucking. That said, 5 minutes of Tinder a day might get you laid. Or if you bold enough just add random qts on facebook and start chatting.
School and work is obviously the go to place as you spend most of your time there. Don't listen to stupid shit who says not to date coworkers because it could backfire at some point. That...
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>>16438016
Well, I'm not a total loser, wen I say successful in my op I don't mean financially lol I'm still in school, and I'll get back to that in a sec.
1st of all believe me I rock the online options like a mofo. I have all the apps. I'm starting to notice the online scene around here is kinda dry. I live in NY, and not the city lol, so shit seems like a small and pathetic pool of less than great women. Tinder never matches me with peeps anymore, all fake accounts. And this is with the humble...
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>>16438027
never said you are not trying
If the best you can say you are not ugly, you are not a 7, sorry mate. Females perceive attractiveness by height. How tall are you? At 6'4 with a healthy BMI chicks usually flock, under that you are shit out of luck.
Are anime cons a good place to meet people with similar interests? I've never been to one befor.
Do you like anime? Then the answer is yes.
I'm in the same boat as op, and I do like anime...but I'd mostly just be there for the sluts. I don't know how that wouldn't become apparent. I've SEEN some animes, mostly the 20-something ep adaptations, but it's all about hooking up for me.
Also, while we're on the topic, why is it nerdy girls are extremely prone to being too annoying and way past any level of cute half the time?
From what I've seen in footage of these cons, both the girls and guys at such places are all equipped with mangled and broken social antennae.
But I could have just been watching the wrong videos. I have had some experience with a local MLP group however, and I am inclined to believe that the same people who goes to that group, go to anime groups. And if that is true, I would never ever go to an anime con. Jesus Christ what a bunch of social cripples and autists.
My gf won't give me a blowjob. Help
>gf of a couple months
>she's sexually inexperienced
>were 25 and 26
She says she won't do it because she wants me to be enjoy it and she doesn't know how to do it right.
I don't get it, I told her she could practice on me all she wants.
Once I got her to lick it a bit, but after a minute or so, she froze up and started crying.
I ask for it once in a while, she always says no and insists there is...
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time to break up, anon.
>>16437864
Nah, it's been great otherwise
help me motherfuckers
So my left testicle has been hurting since Thursday when I touch it. I didn't want it removed so I asked on yahoo answers If their is a way to relief the pain. They said that it's swollen and that I should go to doctor unless I want to die from poison in my body.
Even after reading this I still don't want to go because I'm afraid of being made fun of by my doctor.....is their a way to relief the pain.
What sort of pain is it? A dull ache? A sharp pain? Does the pain spread up to your abdomen? Please detail as much as possible.
>>16437776
When I touch it.... It feels like someone just kicked my balls then it goes away and no I don't feel it spread to my abdomen when I touch it.
However, when I wake up at night to try and urinate I feel pain in the bottom left of my stomach. I usually have to wait till morning to try peeing again. I only have problems urinating when I wake up from bed at night.
Doctor will not make fun of you. Testicular pain that goes on for more than two hours is serious. Go to the doctor now or lose both balls instead of one. Considering you still have pain is a good thing, you probably have testicular torsion. Get it fixed now or lose it entirely.
Hey /adv/, Im a 20 year old kissless virgin male, never had a relationship. Im not bad looking or anything, but I am quite introverted, nerdy and a shut-in, so I never really tried or had many chances in the dating game (my fault).
I tried to explore an online dating site with an almost empty profile without any photo or anything, until one day a 18 yo girl from my city (with another empty profile) sent me a short message. We talked for a while and it went well, so I gave her my Facebook, and we added eachother.
She's not only nice but by looking at her facebook...
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>Europe
Good, so you dont have to worry about all that stupid 'murrican >no drinks below 21 bullshit. Going for a few drinks somewhere nice, is always a good option. Since you both seem equally "weird", and you seem to get along in chat, just continue your conversation face to face. compliments probably help too.
And then ,well, uh… see at the bottom of my post
The only real two advices I can give you:
Meet somewhere in public! If she is a catfish or something else, you'll be safer that way, and if she isnt,...
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Oh, and I forgot to add:
>>16437787
>She's not a party girl but she does enjoy drinking, she's pretty damn smart and a bookworm.
How about inviting her to a museum with you? You can still go drinking afterwards. As said above, I am not exactly the perfect guy for advice, but so far, and invitation to a museum always was received very well with intelligent girls, and you are not the 10th guy, going like >ay grll, wanna get drunk?
Shift your perspective. Instead of worrying about this date, worry about your next one. This is a mental task that will teach you to hopefully relax, but never relax enough so that you don't give up.
The most bizarre thing happened to me tonight.
>be me, 4/10
>at an museum event thing, smoking a cigarette outside
>8/10 girl approaches me and starts talking to me
>conversation very awkward and stilted
>she says let's go inside for some drinks (there was a bar at this event)
>she writes her number on the receipt and gives it to me
>we talk some more,...
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She'll invite you somewhere where a couple of guys will be waiting to beat you senseless and take everything on you
It was a dare...my sisters do this to ugly guys.
>>16437762 is wrong.
They'll just steal your kidney, in a very professional manner.
Nothing to worry about.
guys i need an advice
while i was away (from the country) my girlfriend slept at other guys house.
i knew they are going to meet, i knew they were friends.
apparently, by what she says, they met, ate a weed cookie and she got completely fucked up.
she claims she was feeling super sick and could barely move and react to the world around, so she went to his place with him where he put her to sleep.
in his bed.
with him.
she claims nothing happened as she was really sick and he was polite etc but i have haaaard fucking time believing that.
she...
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You'd be stupid not to break up with her
Don't be a kek
There'g great chances she's actually telling the truth desu
>>16437738
damn man i know but...
she says she thought shes dying (im not even fucking sure this can happen from a weed cookie, shes not a smoker but i am and never had a problem like this) and literally was unable to do anything
shes not the super flirty type and i dont think shed generally be prone to cheating...
fuck...
Are orgasms important or is that just pointless hype?
I've never had one and I keep getting mixed information on whether that is damaging to my health.
>>16437714
>never had an orgasm
Imagine finally peeling after a long time of peeing. Now, amplify that joyous sensation by a factor of 10, add a bit more for the dirty, naughty feeling, and extend it by being the most relaxed you'll ever be. That's a good orgasm.
Orgasms are good for you, but not required. Try it for yourself or find someone to give you one
It's the best way to relieve stress, at least for me. Better than comfort food and a massage combined. You can live without one, but I think life is much, much better with orgasms.
>>16437721
I've been trying, I've tried a dildo and a vibrator and everything, looked up all the instructions and all, and I still don't get what I do wrong.
Anyone else legitimately want to kill themselves because they can't stand people? Not people you know so much but the annoying shitheads you see on your commute to work or just out on the streets. For a long time, I fell tense around people just because they lack basic manners (walking on the wrong side, talking loudly, their body odour, the way they want to sit next to me on the train, the guys that approach me thinking I'm even remotely interested in them, the way people look at me). What is this, how do I deal with being annoyed so much. Don't get me wrong,...
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>>16437684
you're not alone, smoke some weed it helps
Weed does help. Also, what kind of person would you be if you let the shitheads get the best of you? I mean I really hope you are joking about killing yourself because of the fucking abominations that plaque this world. They're everywhere. Get used to that shit.
You should try telling someone to fuck off sometime too. Anger is an underrated and necessary emotion. You'll feel better too I promise. Just be prepared to have to defend yourself if necessary
I can relate except for the suicide bit. If others piss you off you will have to tell them. They might not listen to you but at least you won't be holding in your anger and stress.
When someone is giving you a hard time, open your mouth right then and there.
Is telling an online friend you've been chatting daily with for a year your real name dangerous? What about skyping with this person?
>>16437652
For a year? God no.
>>16437656
How is it different than chatting for a month?
Depends on the context. Is "she" from a poor country that wants money? Or someone who claims to be 15 and wants to have sex with you?
>27yo
>married for 4 years
>having 3yo daughter
how wrong is it to break up with my wife? I'm not feeling good. i think i'd be more happy without her. also the time we spend together isn't anything special. we argue a lot, no matter what we talk about. it seems like a common problem among couples. it probably is.
but there's me: having no balls to tell her what i feel or what i think. to tell her i want to break up. to destroy a part of her future....
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>>16437565
Sorry to say, but your life stopped mattering the moment the pregnancy test was positive. Having separated parents can destroy a child's self esteem, as they'll often blame themselves for the spilt. Or your little girl will grow up to hate you for not being there and resent her mom for trying too hard, and end up doing interracial creampie gangbangs on Pornhub or something
If you love your child, you'll man up, stay, and try to work out your problems with the wife
>>16437577
Yeah, because growing up in a toxic, poisonous environment is so much more better.
My parents divorced. Calmly, found their next partners and I grew up in a healthy family. Sometimes I lived with my mom. Sometimes with my dad. Mostly mom, though.
My gf's parents "divorced" when she was little as well, but they actually stayed together. They lived in the same house for years on end. The parents would sleep in separate bedrooms and date other people. Whenever they talked, it was nuclear. The...
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Personally I think it's more detrimental to the child to have parents who stay together but argue like hell and clearly don't love each other. The younger you divorce the more time the child has to adjust. If it's something that hasn't been resolved for 3 years it's time to go.
