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Girls are always telling be they want my curly black hair and that my hazel eyes are beautiful constanly
Any tips on how to tell the difference between complents and a girl actually liking me?
It happens so often it seems questionable to tell the difference, even guys say they want my hair
>Any tips on how to tell the difference between complents and a girl actually liking me?
Try to kiss her. That's how you tell.
Seriously. Otherwise stop worrying about this petty shit. If you like someone, go after her. Unless you're looking for an easy fuck, in which case ask her out to drinks after she compliments you, and then bring her back to your place and fuck her. Also really easy. And that's about it.
>>16438755
post pics? i love curly black hair.
that being said:
>>16438769
this guy has the right idea. for some reason men are afraid to approach a woman unless theres some algorithm guaranteeing that they wont get rejected. REJECTION ISNT BAD.
frankly if someone is saying they WANT your hair, not really a flirt, but you never know. you notice how awkward you are? you notice how awkward all the other 'how do i into men/women' posters on...
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>>16438787
Sure why not, cus you asked so nicely
so, let's see if /adv/ can give me some food for thought:
34y.o.
I am in a relationship with a woman I don't love at all. Pretty much a no-brainer, right?
Not at all.
The thing is:
On one side, she is an amazing woman and I can't imagine I could find a better match for me unless I had a major stroke of luck again. So I wish I could just keep going with this relationship so that I wouldn't lose her.
On the other side, I don't have any major feelings for her. I do things (cooking, helping, supporting, hearing,...
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>>16438594
Did you love her when you got together?
Some explanations:
>to do anything "major"
Like having kids or getting married, which she wants.
> breaking up will be a major downgrade in my life in the medium term*
I meant: if we break up, I will end up being alone for a while and once the feeling of "being alone" wears off, I will start feeling horny and/or lonely and again start looking for someone. Eventually I will go through the same process of meeting/dating/fuckign as was with her but likely with a woman that...
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If she's such a perfect match for you, why do you feel nothing for her? And if you value prettiness/hotness/intelligence/interestingness over having feelings for her, why is this such a big deal?
i'm an extremely awkward 21 year old guy with social anxiety who has never had a girlfriend (i kind of prefer men, but i'm never gonna find a bf). i would consider myself average in terms of attractiveness.
i recently lost a lot of weight (over 100lbs) and am now having trouble maintaining it. if i had a fat gf however i would be constantly reminded about controlling my diet there would always be someone to finish my plate when i probably shouldn't.
do you think it would be easy to acquire an obese girl as my gf? does anyone have any experiences...
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>>16438569
Become a feminist.
I don't think you should get a fat girlfriend for those reasons, but it depends. They're some who are extremely picky when it comes to men and some who aren't. Some have huge self confidence and some don't. Whatever you are looking for, it's not necessarily easier then acuiring an averaged sized girl.
Why not get a fat bf tho?
If she's of a new- age mindset, she's gonna be just as hard to get even though nobody wants her. Just a fact.
Protip: You want some nutty chick that will love you instantly and forever? Go to a horse stable and get a tour, and be pretentious about your (insert horse's name) living company. Instant wife. Seen it happen 4 times.
My girlfriend flew back to the city she is originally from to visit last week. Last night she was suppose to call me but was out with friends until late and couldn't. This morning she's been texting me and told me she'd call me once she was back in the city. She called but then told me her friend was already at the place and they were about to get lunch and she'd call me after lunch. It has been 2 hours now and she hasn't called. Should I text her to see when she can or let her do her own thing?
>>16438491
Why does she have to call you, why not you call her instead?
>>16438494
Because I don't know her schedule. She was the one taking a train to the city to meet with a friend for lunch, not me. I have no idea what she is doing right now. So, not sure why she hasn't called yet. Was wondering if I should text to check up or let it go?
>>16438494
i texted her see what she says
My younger brother of age 19 (?) labels himself as a girl on the internet. He always chooses a girl name and avatar, and plays as girls in all of his games.
Should I be concerned about him for not labeling himself as his own gender on the web? I mean sure, I occasionally role as females in games, but he does it every time consistently. I feel concerned, because this whole transgender movement is catching like wildfire with our generation (he was born in 1997). To make it more questionable, he's an art major.
A bit of background on him: In real life he is...
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>art major
Honestly, you fucked up right then when you didn't stop him from getting a crud tier major. I would honestly slap any of my family if they told me they wanted to major in art
Fuck you anon for being a shit brother.
>art major
>failing all classes
You should be more concerned if he's retarded.
Just don't care about it, if you really don't like him. Just let him be and live your life, you can't fix people.
Fuck yeah. This.
Also, he's not trying to be a girl. I consistently play chicks on games too, and I'm not trans. I'm ex- military and have served tours, but I enjoy watching a chick's ass waggle when I play. You get free shit sometimes too because playing dudes sucks.
Also, whup some sense into that communist dicksuck. Art won't pay unless you're a savant.
Got dumped more than two years ago by a girl who was my best friend and (briefly) lover. She had told me it was ok that I was shy and she wanted me to be able to trust her with anything, and yet it was exactly this sort of shyness that meant she never saw me as boyfriend material and broke it off as soon as she met someone who was. She wanted to stay friends but things had clearly changed between us and we barely spoke anymore, so I cut contact completely. I was pretty devastated, and if I didn't have trust issues before then I definitely had them after (and continue to...
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>>16438438
There are numerous conditions that affect how long it will take you to move on. Your experience, personality, and the circumstances of the relationship and break up are big factors. Having your heart broken is one of the most painful things you can go through and some studies suggest that the physiological effects of heart break rival that of heroine withdrawal.
People say "just move on and find another girl" but this is honestly the worst and most thoughtless advice you can give someone in...
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>>16438438
>>16438508
I'm not saying go out and try to pick up chicks, obviously, but if the opportunity presents itself, I say run with it. Just be safe. You probably won't find a girlfriend anytime soon but positive attention from women is always good. Ironically, I didn't start hooking up with girls until I stopped trying so hard. People can see your desperation and it will turn them away from you. Just last night I went to a bar downtown without a single...
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You'll never find that shit, if you're looking.
The best relationships I've had are after I've accepted that it's gonna be a while before I get someone, and I focus on hobbies and work. Then, BAM. They show up.
That's my opinion, and it's worked for me. But saying you need the next one to be perfect? That shit ain't gonna happen. You're setting yourself up for failure from the get- go. Also, don't value yourself by whether or not you have someone. That's weak sauce
he broke up with me after 2 years because "it's the best thing for you, trust me".
he said we'll still be friends.
the following day i found out that he became friend again with his long date drug dealer friend, the only person that i've ever wanted dead. he probably told him to do leave me, or at least he influenced him.
now i'm here crying and looking at a necklace that should represent his "promise" of never leaving me.
i just want to die.
what should i do?
>>16438425
Move on.
>>16438493
I just can't, not right now at least
Yeah, I had a girlfriend who was the same.
I decided to finally "accept" her. She became a excrutiating bitch that fucked up my life.
Seriously, sometimes when it's over, it's fucking over.
And you are a girl for fuck's sakes. You'll be ready to move on, heck, problably with another in two months or less.
Sorry If I can't feel sympathetic. It IS problably for the best.
I just found out I have to start paying child support for a kid I just found out I had with an ex gf...
I had no idea this girl was even pregnant and was never consulted about whether I wanted the child or not...
what should I expect in terms of financial expenses? I don't want custody and we were never married.
I'm able to afford my rent and car payment as it is...
I feel like my life is over and don't have any family to help support me.
>>16438374
Get a job. (Might sound immature but that's basically how I would put it)
Find something that motivates you and keep telling yourself, yes I can do it I'm a responsible dad who will take the responsibility for what happened.
If your having a tough time, try doing something to get your stress off. It could be literally anything.
Live without worries.
Good luck, OP
YOU NEED TO GET A PATERNITY TESTTTTAAAAAA
MIGHT NOT BE YOUR KIDDO DONT PAY BEFORE U IN THE KNOWING
>>16438374
Paternity test first
People keep trying to be friendly with me and get me to participate in the things they do or take interest in the things I do but I hate it it ruins my mood when they ask me questions or even make compliments
What do I do how I fix all this hostility I feel kinda bad for hurting their feelings but at the same time I want them to fuck off
And it shows even in my face too my friend said I look absolutely disgusted when people talk to me and like I want them to kill themselves
I don't understand why but it happens
well why do you get appalled over social interaction?
I have a friend like this. He literally never wants to go anywhere or do anything. He never messages me to hang out anymore and he lives right down the street from me.
You need to just get over it because humans are social creatures and you need to accept the fact that you can't just lock yourself in your room/house all the time. That's what's making you feel like shit, because you think that your isolation is what you want but it's just making you hate your friends.
So last night I met a girl that I really clicked with. She invited me back to her room and we started making out. I propositoned her for sex which she turned down, I then propositioned for a blowjob which she said she didn't like giving. So I just ended up fingering her, until I guess she became horny and asked if I wanted to fuck her.
So I fucked her, but I have a God tier amount of stamina so she ended up cuming twice before I came. She said after the second time She was too sensitive to go on and if she could just Jack me till I came. So I agreed and she did but...
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You didn't pass the hotness test, lift more and try again with somebody else. You already fucked up with this one.
>>16438346
Yeah that's not it. I might be a piece of shit but I'm blessed with amazing genetics. She even told me she thought I was out of her league.
But I agree I fucked this one up.
>>16438339
You dodged a bullet, tell her friends what happened and she's fucking crazy and cut contact with that bunch of retards.
I was texting a girl who likes to play mind games, and she suggested that we meet up. Wanting to sound resolute, I declared when and where we would meet. She never responded, so I didn't show up. That was two days ago and I still haven't heard from her.
How likely is it that I stood this girl up? Mind you, she's not a straight shooter and is very pretty.
I'm slowly getting better at dealing with girls who play games, but I'd hate to hurt them even if they deserve it
Zero.
Nah you did good OP. If she comes back around, try to make a second date. If she doesn't respond, oh well. Move on. Do not pursue.
>>16438295
Your choice of words is a bit odd
>Wanting to sound resolute, I declared when and where we would meet
You just said "lets meet here this Friday?"
>She never responded, so I didn't show up
Which is fair enough, because she didn't agree, you would have been waiting a long time
>That was two days ago and I still haven't heard from her.
Maybe she isn't interested in you and your weird...
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how do you say no to your desires?
Self-control.
Considering that it's a personal virtue outside of serious psychotherapy there's nothing any of us can do through the glass to advise you on how to do this.
>>16438242
By stop being a faggot.
consider a desire as an offer, you either accept, or reject. and don't dwell on it.
Help me out. I don't know what to do... Seriously. I'm so bored and playing games is getting boring for me. Does /adv/ have any tips for entertaining myself at home, preferably on internet? I just seem to not get excited about anything, it's all just dark and boring.
why is entertaining yourself the goal? everyone today is so entrenched in hedonism, it's just all about video games and funny videos.
how about reading some non-fiction books, finding an interest that way? you'll find it much more fulfilling in the longterm to develop intellectual interests.
let me tell you something about video games: they're pathetic. you're buying into and feeding an industry that is made purely to make your life stagnate, lost in unreal fantasies that have no real life application. they make video games to appeal to the...
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>>16438202
Well I should be on this website either way, you probably have the mindset that I'm over 18 which is wrong but that is a good reply. And I don't find anything entertaining in books, it's just boring to read them and it's a waste of time for me, I realize that playing video games is wasting my life basically but I'm young and I have nothing else to do. But thanks again.
>>16438194
Video games are great to use once in a while. For instance, I will never be a professional soccor player, so it's nice to play a soccor game. I'm never going to be in a desolate wasteland, and wouldn't want to be, but creating a story is fun.
But you really should get out more. I went to this Ren fest theatre dinner, and it was pretty silly. I work with kids, so I spend some of my free time concocting learning games for them, testing some of them out on my family on Sundays, when we all have the...
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Be me
22
Havent had oral in almost 3 years
Gf won't do oral
Consider letting a guy do it
I might even fuck a guy in the ass if it wasn't hairy
Seen dicks in porn
Possibly would blow
Not attracted to muscles or short hair or abs or anything masculine
Would never want a girl with a dick
Refuse to receive butt stuff including licky bum bum
Is op bi or no
Inb4 op is a faggot
Inb4 op can't inb4
Op should licky bum bum
Lol no. I will fuck ass, but no licky or receive licky
Sexuality isn't some black-and-white bullshit where you have to fall into a category 100%.
Why does it fucking matter?
You're not 100% straight but you aren't gay enough to be bi either.
I was going to use a condom so I unwrapped it and then put it on my penis but they I didn't use it so I took it off and wrapped it back up, is it still able to be used if I preserve it correctly?
Yeah, dude. Also, here is a money saving tip: if you use a condom, just wash it out and wrap it back up and you can use it again.
No, that's not safe. Throw it out and get a new one.
...
No.
Why are you risking fucking with teen pregnancy? (I assume you're underage--otherwise, why would you ask this when condoms only cost a couple cents/free and are available basically everywhere?)
