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I am currently speaking with a girl who´s a friend of one of my closest friends, and it´s going pretty well: she was the one that asked for my number and initiated the conversation, she called me "cute", she said she would be interested in meeting up. So it´s all going smoothly. We´ve met with friends two times before.
The thing is I didn´t want to talk a lot via phone messages because I feel like if you get to know someone by virtual meanings (either messages or fb or something of sorts) it gets awkward when you´re actually with that person. I want to...
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t4wjekuKn-4
bump
You could do a coffee shop or a casual bar that doesn't have obnoxiously loud music (I wouldn't recommend getting drunk). Basically anywhere that would allow you to be able to actually talk and communicate with her easily.
Also this anons pic >>16443844 was some of the realest shit I've ever heard from an animated show.
>>16443856
Isn´t going out for a coffee something really vulgar nowadays?
I went through a break up recently. It was my first serious relationship and I was considering proposing to her. Since then, I've been doing some soul searching and trying to find out who I want to be in this life.
In the past few months I've had some one night stands and I've been going to bars and clubs a lot more than I used to (essentially never), sometimes with friends, sometimes alone. Sometimes I really believe that I'm never going to find the right girl for me and I get depressed but I've been trying to stay positive lately.
I'm...
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Same situation, except no casual sex or hook ups, shut myself off women completely.
Hold old are you OP? I imagine you're probably still fairly young. There's loads of time for marriage and settling. I think when you do fall for a new girl you'll go back to your old committed ways, but for now maybe just try to enjoy yourself. Breakups are rough on the mind and they take awhile to fully bounce back from.
>>16443841
I'm 25. Yeah, still young but it seems like everyone my age is married.
I've finally realized how boned I am. I haven't been able to pay rent for the past two months because of not having a job, and my room mate's kicking me out in two days. I have nowhere else to go except for on the streets. Just so it's clear, when I say I don't have anywhere else to go, I don't mean I haven't felt up to asking anyone and that I might have somewhere to go. It means I don't have anywhere else to go.
I can't ask my parents for help. They won't help, as in WILL NOT no matter what I do. They were taking care...
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>>16443729
Have you tried asking your parents for help instead of assuming they won't help? Also, where do you live? You might be able to go to a temp shelter or live out of your car.
>>16443736
Yeah, I've asked and have been asking. There are no shelters nearby, and I don't have a car. It's very unlikely they'll help, anyways, since they kicked me out on my birthday last month.
Offer to suck your roommate off or become his bitch. Women have been doing it for centuries. Are you pretty? Shave your butt hole too.
Is there any way to get free copies of any book digitally? What service provides the most ebooks? Are all the ebooks worth reading or all just freebie memes? (Basically an online public library?) Apple iBooks doesnt count, books are paid.
Pic unrelated. (My snapchat art)
i would like to know a good place to download books too
there are some books i want to read that I never found a pirate version online
popular ones are easy to find, but some that are not that popular are pretty hard
>>16443660
>>16443689
How about you google "<book title and author> <format>" before asking us?
>>16443691
i already did that many times, some books are just impossible to find, you can search it on google and you won't find it even if you look at every single result
Where do I go to make friends?
>>16443581
If /adv/ had the answer to that, there wouldn't many threads here.
/adv/ can't even you tell where to get nerdy/geeky friends.
Work? School? Neighbours? Sports?
You are on the wrong website man. Read the front page of this section and tell me if you think this well adjusted people. The average anon is like you.
Guy I really fancy just told me that I'm the most intelligent person he knows, complimented my sense of humour and said that I'm the only balanced person he knows who is fun and playful but also cultured and smart.
He is my friend so I was thinking he's just being nice, but all my friends say he says that because he's into me.... What do you think?
Why does it matter? You won't have the balls to go up to him and ask him because you are too risk averse.
>>16443488
I will be satisfied that he shares my feelings.
Besides how can you know that I'm too risk averse? You don't know me at all...
>>16443494
Because you are asking anonymous people online about if a guy likes you. If you weren't risk averse, you would have asked him if he likes you.
whats up when a guy does the following
>sends me snaps of himself hanging out with some girls
>mentions random bitches when we talk
>writes to me literally 'tfw no gf' and when i tell him he's got plenty of option he changes the subject
>>16443418
bump
he want you to get jealous, he want you to make a move, make him feel like you want him.
Are you attracted to him ? He may just like the attention too...
>>16443511
kek, I thought he maybe wants me to find him a gf
>Are you attracted to him
yea but I ain't making a move
So we graduated in May and the whole group of us moved to the same city in July. We all found degree-related jobs and everything seemed like it was going to be great.
Now, one thing to note about our 'group' is that a few of us are really into fitness. My girlfriend and I meal-prepped and lifted 5 days a week during college.
But since the move, we've shifted focus to 'enjoying ourselves'. Nothing's been too drastic. We go OUT to eat now, we make an effort to be more relaxed (sweatpants/moccasins, yoga pants/slippers), and we've...
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>>16443369
Weird. Sounds like a dick thing to do. Just wait for them to ask you out, if they don't your suspicions are probably correct
>>16443369
>a LITTLE weight
>about 30 lbs each
That's not a little.
Sorry bb
Do u guys wanna have a 3way w/me?
are you in your senses when drunk? do you have control over yourself? ive never been drunk as ive associated alcohol to partying since my uni days and neither have ever interested me, but now i want to experience it but i am scared, and dont have to confidence the buy it from the shop because its looked down upon.
There's no clear line for "drunk." You can become intoxicated enough to have no clear sense of your surroundings or actions.
Don't drink very heavily on your first few goes. Start with beers, then mixes like rum and cola (you can look up ratios), and then ease into stronger mixes or straight shots.
it depends on how much you drink. i've drank a little and had a good time and been completely in control. i've also drank so much that i got lost when the whole time i was two turns away from walking home. take things slow. drink one drink, wait a while and see how you feel. beer, cider, and wine also make me feel buzzed quicker than other types of alcohol
>>16443368
>>16443361
is this alot for first time?
how much is 1 drink? also beer smells to me im more interested in vodka or whiskey mixed with cola
I went round to my friend's house the other day and we went to his room to hang out and he turned on his computer and his browser was filled with shemale porn. He quickly tried to close doesn firefox and open chrome but that had tabs of shemale porn too. It's about this time I remember he's going for a trip and has mentioned before he's specifically having a layover in thailand along the way.
I couldn't stop laughing, I almost fell out of my chair. Not out of meanness but the absolute 2nd hand awkwardness/embarassment.
I don't want...
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>>16443344
You accept him as a fruitloop friend or you don't. He knows you know, no point in embarrassing him.
This relationship is over. You know his deep secret and so I see him slowly cutting you off in his life.
>>16443360
It doesn't matter to me what he's into, I just think my uproarious laughter might have been misinterpreted as laughing at him when it was laughing at the situation.
I just dunno how to broach the subject moving forward.
My friend is looking to quit smoking. He hasn't smoked a cigarette in a week, but he says the cravings are just getting worse (he thought that nicotine was completely out of your system within 3 days of quitting). How long does it "take" to quit smoking? He says it's just too fucking expensive these days to be a smoker, but he gets bored or anxious and wants to smoke.
The physical cravings pass in a week or so, though they'll occasionally pop back up for the rest of his life. He'll just get that taste/smell memory out of nowhere and want to smoke. That's just a fact of life.
The mental compulsion depends on his unique psychology. Some people have personalities which can't let go of things. If he's obsessing over it then what feels like nicotine withdrawal is really a psychological hook that's sunk deep. It might never go away without special attention or intervention.
>>16443351
Yeah. I've heard from many former smokers who have quit for over 15-20 years and they all say the same thing. "you're a smoker for the rest of your life". For some people it's a struggle for the rest of their lives to quit, but eventually you get so far beyond it it becomes pretty easy for most. Of course it kind of depends on how long you smoked in the first place.
>>16443351
fugg man, that's rough. He's made it through the week just fine (no anger problems, impatience, etc.), but he currently lives with his parents, who are both smokers. He's an introvert and doesn't drink, so he used to look forward to studying and shit in peace at night while smoking. He also can't smoke weed or anything like that because he works, and understands the importance of being a proper employee. I don't know if I should tell him to just stick with it and enjoy it while he...
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how much of a horror show are craigslist personals?
or is it not nearly as bad as people think it is
I check out my local personals to laugh at how cheesy and stupid they are. These people type like they're dumb as rocks and can't even into English.
Do it, Anon, they're hilarious. Maybe it's just my area, though.
It's pretty bad in 2015, but I met my wife on craigslist in 2007.
it's pretty bad, but the rest of your life probably would look like a horror show to me too, so w/e, knock yourself out.
How do you start messaging a girl?
Is it as simple as just saying "what's up?"
I don't have her number, just Facebook, and I really don't know how to get started so to speak.
And yes I am actually this retarded. Anxiety is a bitch sometimes.
I ignore 'hey', 'what's up?' etc. If you want to talk to me, have a reason to talk to me, don't expect me to carry the conversation.
What should the reason be here? We don't have classes together, we're just in an organization together (admittedly she has become less active in it) and I like her.
My sweetheart of a boyfriend left his facebook logged in so I decided to try and find a message in his inbox that was from me on my old facebook account that had old funny pictures in it and I stumbled on a message from a girl in one of his college classes who called him her "buddy", correct me if I'm wrong but the only time you call the opposite sex a "Buddy" is when you're referring to a fuck buddy. Also lots of innuendos and smiley faces were found within these messages as well. Very flirty messages to the point where it made my fucking stomach...
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>>16443084
I dunno, the answer depends on whether you believe men and women can actually be friends without sex being involved. Either way, I'd say you probably need more concrete evidence than just some facebook flirting
>>16443084
are you fucking serious
you're making the rest of us look bad with this retarded shit
I call people buddy because they're my fucking buddy. If I'm talking to a fuck buddy i'll call them something flirtatious like cutie or hottie or something, holy shit
relax!
You should confess and get dumped immediately. "Buddy" doesn't mean what you think it means. The slang these days is "fuckboi."
Admit you spied on someone who trusted you, and resign yourself to being single.
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I just drank coffee and I have anxiety (stupid idea). Now, I'm really hyped up and feel crazy in a bad way. I'm not sure what I should do to calm down. Thoughts?
>>16443054
In few hours you'll settle down. Just distract yourself in the meantime. You will be okay.
>>16443054
>Masterbate till either you rip your cock off. Or fall asleep.
Or you can eat food to soak up the coffee and drink lots of water.
Drink a bunch of water and pee it all out. Go for a brisk walk. Play a repetitive vidya that doesn't piss you off too badly, like Katamari or Smash Bros or something. Eat something with a lot of carbs, but nothing sweet.
