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Tinder match claims boyfriend has erectile dysfunction and wants me to help out with cheating on him. Been cheated on before, wanted to be an hero, swore I'd never be that guy but I'm actually considering it. Anyone have experience here? General advice etc
please man. how long have you been on tinder? that's just one of the more sophisticated spambots. move on. there's no such thing as free lunch.
>>16446614
No external links being offered, what would the end game of this kind of bot be?
>>16446614
Also offering to either host or drive to me, could this still be a bot?
it feels like im being stalked, every where I go, whatever I say, I feel like someone is listening, especially my thoughts. I talked about it to someone, and they suggested it being paranoia, but I feel just fine? They told me to see a physiatrist, but I'm afraid they'll judge me, and might prescribe me over the counter BS.
In the end, I just feel like everyone has these thoughts, and that it is normal, am I wrong ?
>>16446579
How much do you sleep at night?
How long do you spend on the computer per day?
How much time do you spend with friends in a given month?
yeaaaaaah bad news. sounds like the prodrome to psychosis. this is a process where essentially the connections in your brain go a little funny. studies show that the longer you go without proper psychiatric treatment, the worse the connections get and the more dysfunctional you get. I know you don't like the idea of taking medicationd and stuff but some of us just get a bad hand and we have to take them our whole lives, whether it's for high blood pressure, diabetes, cholesterol, or brain stuff. it's entirely your choice, but trust me... it's better to see the psychiatrist and stay on the meds, and sooner than later. please think about it. good luck.
>>16446591
I don't sleep much, I'd say 7 hours ? But I have those natural time bodies, if that makes sense. The word escapes me.
Not on a computer a lot, but in front of a screen (video game, televisions)
A see a friend at least once a week. Just came back from a sleepover over the weekend.
Sorry I posted this yesterday but, I need to figure out what to do with my Snapchat in regards to my ex.
The girl is still looking at all of my snapchat stories... I'm not saying it means anything but I know it hurts having this app still, I post things every day to see if she looks and get anxiety when it takes her 20 minutes to. And then when she does I get this stupid little rush.
The girl loved me, we were long distance for a while longer and she would always insist that she could wait forever for me. I understand that changed over time. I finally had to confront her about it and we broke up. But after how close we were, how she said she wanted to be friends forever, she won't even message me. She still looks, but won't message me.
Anyways, it's been over a month, and I'm sick of this. I want to move on, but I still want her. I've accepted its over and if she ever messages me again I'll just see where I'm at.
Yesterday, I deleted my snapchat thinking 'okay its over'. But I just redownloaded it today... So, should I finally go ahead and delete her? And on skype too? This would give her absolutely no way of contacting me ever...and it's super tough to pull that trigger.
So I know most will say I should delete her. but fuck...do I message her first? Tell her I'll be going, if she needs to contact me she can re-add me or w/e? Please, thanks.
I wanna add...
I want to get over this girl, but i also dont want to necessarily burn any bridges. We did end things well. She was cold when i messaged her later that week after the break up, but i messaged her (for the last time unless she does) a week ago and we had a happy convo, and she let out in a "joke" that she hadnt slept with anyone since
Still no contact from her since then which is sad. But at the same time i understand if she does truly need time just 100% away from me. But what if in a few months or a year she wants to reconnect? I want to hide her from my life, but i dont want to be unavailable.
Bump once
Tldr delete her everywhere giving her no way of ever contacting me?
I mean... she knows your facebook and phone number and email right? just delete her from snap man. gotta get over that.
Thinking of breaking up with my gf, basically because she is a bit dull. She's incredibly sweet, attractive, and has other qualities I like, but doesn't stimulate my mind at all. She doesn't say anything that surprises me or makes me think about things differently, doesn't do anything creative or self-directed. What I am unsure of, since she is the only gf I've ever had, is if I am looking for the wrong things for a long term partner. I'm not some self claimed fedora wearing genius I just wonder if I am missing out on something important or if I should find that with other relationships.
do what you want mate, someone will love her for who she is.
If you don't like her personality, you should break up and find someone who match better with you.
>>16446432
>She doesn't say anything that surprises me or makes me think about things differently,
so you want a manic pixie dream girl?
>>16446447
I dont know what that means. I'm simply inexperienced in relationships and second guessing it.
Is it okay to kill yourself if you're a huge loser? You know you lack the capabilities to make life better, so what's the point right?
keeping in mind that morality is something that we decide upon collectively and is relatively arbitrary, no. no it's not okay. go seek behavioral health services and improve yourself. contribute to society. good luck.
>>16446422
Wouldn't killing myself contribute to society if I'm a blight on it?
>>16446419
>You know you lack the capabilities to make life better, so what's the point right?
The point is that you're wrong. You have the capabilities to make your life better. There's just something else you want even more, and you probably even already know that it is not remotely worth the price you've been willing to pay for it. But there's a difference between knowing it and admitting to it. The latter is the first step to getting out.
What does "we'll get there when we get there" in a dating context mean?
>>16446405
First, try putting "dating context" into context for your wonderful readers
>>16446405
"We'll do it when I feel comfortable, and if you're not comfortable with it at that point, then that's entirely your fault"
>>16446405
>tfw when I thought I was asexual my entire life and this is literally one of the only three women I've ever been attracted to
y u do dis op
I need some ideas. Trying to come up with the most unlikable person ever.
When it comes to what people hate, it always comes down to murder, rape, etc. But I need something just as bad but interesting.
>>16446394
It depends what society you're in. For example: In 2000 B.C being gay is worse than being a murder.
>>16446403
To be more specific, I'm trying to come up with a character that everyone in today's society would hate.
So far my ideas:
-greedy man that kills his family for their life insurance money
-pedo that murdered a couple, kidnapped their child, raped her and raped her children (kinda based on a true story)
I know it's always murder, but what can be worse than murder anyway.
Con artist.
This question hasnt been found im any website...
So why does 4chan has porn?
>>16446381
Because neet weebs still have a sex drive.
because le reddit has porn
Doesnt anwser my question
Ive heard 4chan had underaged porno...
Why does 4chan have porno? :)
Did this mean more? She kept asking me to bring her something to eat, but I said I have to go to class then she sent me this. Was she trying to imply something? Or am I just being a perv?
>>16446317
Btw we aren't dating or in a relationship. Just friends I guess lol
She just wants you to do/buy shit for her.
>>16446317
Why do people post these stupid fucking threads? We don't know this woman. We don't know what the fuck she means. Women don't have some sort of hive mind. Figure it out based on her personality and how she thinks. Fucking fuck I hate you.
I'm feeling really anxious and emotionally overwhelmed. I think crying might help but I'm not sure how to cry.
That happens.
That happens.
this is normal. you may find it helpful to talk to someone who is a good listener and whom you trust. otherwise, journaling or writing out your thoughts and feelings can be helpful as well.
if you continue to feel badly or anxious and it starts feeling like it's getting in the way of your life or you can't stand it, please seek behavioral health services. good luck.
This might sound a little bit arrogant (because it is), but in most of my friendship groups I've always been regarded as 'the intelligent one'. I'm not a real intellectual, but I go to a good university and consistently get high grades, and I have a genuine interest in some higher-brow hobbies such as literature, world cinema, and classical music. I also enjoy sports and getting drunk so I've typically had fairly normie friends, but I'm looking to branch out and meet girls who might actually share my interests and even be attracted to them, so I don't have to worry about hiding them.
So where can I meet women who are attracted to intelligence? Or at least find some female friends who share my interests?
>>16446198
Where do you live? You need to find a big city, because that's where they are.
At university, there are probably like film, literature and film clubs you'd find them at. Artsy neighborhoods, near/in/around museums, museum openings, gallery openings, etc.
>>16446198
Poetry readings, mate
>>16446216
I'm currently in a university town which is absolutely sports-mad. It's one of the best universities in the world for sport and I pass future Olympians on campus every day, but I think this comes at the expense of the arts scene a little bit.
I'll probably be moving to a bigger city next year, so maybe I'll look out for those things.
>been going out with girl for 1 year
>just found out two weeks ago that she keeps in contact with her ex
>tell her to stop but suspicious that she still does it
>I normally spend the night at her place every saturday night after she gets off work
>text her an hour before she's off work
>no response
>text her again a little after she should be off work
>still no response
>eventually fall asleep
>next morning she says we need to talk
>head over to her apartment
>she said that the night before her ex came over
>says they slept in the same bed but nothing happened
>I believe that they didn't do anything but I dump her on the spot
>she starts crying and trying to justify what she did
>she doesn't even apologize until I start screaming at her
>she tries to kiss me and I tell her not to fucking touch me
>leave her apartment
>even talk to her roommate a few hours later through text and she says she didn't hear anything, don't think she would lie because she hates my now ex gf
>ex gf keeps texting me saying how sorry she is and how she fucked up
what do I do /adv/, I'm normally a very calm person but I've never been this angry before, I want to find that fucking faggot that spent the night with her and beat the shit out of him, and I fucking hate her for being a selfish cunt
should I ever give her a second chance? even if nothing did happen should I bother trying to get back together with her
>>16446161
It's your choice. I wouldn't give her a second chance, simply because I'd be always worried that she might meet him again.
>>16446161
Well not your fault on this one.. Sometimes people do shitty things.
You did right, but I m sorry for you tho
Ask to see her phone, if she says no, she's not marriage material, so move on.
Thinking of killing myself. Had a miserable failure of my first semester at college. Fucking hate my roommates and suite mates, too depressed to get out of bed and go to all my early morning classes.
Thinking about doing the helium tank thing. The only thing is, my older brother died in Afghanistan a couple years ago and it really fucked up my family. Especially my dad. If I were to die he said he'd "probably lose it"
Why did I get put into such unfortunate circumstances where I can't kill myself?
My buddy died on his motorcycle, brother killed himself after his dad killed himself. My dad says the same thing "if you ended it, I don't think I could handle it" If there is no reason in your mind to live, there is no reason. For me, if there is no creator or purpose id just fucking shoot myself, so I believe simply and unjudgementally in a creator (whether or not it's a fucking alien is up for debate) and that deepness gave me purpose and hope.
Suicide is entirely selfish.
You can kill yourself if you want.
Once you are dead, there is no more worrying about the past, present, or future.
Who cares about your parents? I won't be your problem if your dad can't handle it.
Logically it's hard to keep someone from killing themselves, so let me say this, before you do it, you better hope everything goes black after you do that to extremely selfish act. I'm positive it doesn't go black, that's why I'm not going to kill my self, so study and make sure everything goes black after you die b4 you do it.
There's no way to say this without coming across like a bitter lonely virgin and despite the fact that might not be what I am, I'm going to say it at anyway at the risk of sounding like one.
I think that women these days know that men will fuck anything, and so they know they can pretty much cherry pick. They get fed so much attention, that their confidence sky rockets and they feel they deserve only the best of the very best.
Do genuine honest caring girls actually exist anymore? Or are they all clubsluts hitting town every weekend. Or secret closet sluts pretending to be something their not for the attention desperate men give them. All constantly texting 20 men at the same time.
Everywhere I look I see girls like this. I get close to a girl who seems to be alright then they turn out to be the same as all the others.
I'm at a point now where, I literally don't give a shit anymore. I'm not angry or depressed or bitter. I'm just enjoying the moment and being on my own instead of constantly trying to wade through all the bullshit put on me from women. I'm genuinely more happy just being on my own than having to compete for the attention of a girl and satisfy her, constantly performing circus tricks for her affection so she doesn't cheat.
I feel like I'll never find a girl I can just fucking be myself with. Like I'll never be able to let my guard down. I'm always going to have to have this mental emotional shield up.
Anybody else feel like this? Or am I alone on that boat too.
>>16446103
You will never find a girl if you continue to internalize this negative attitude. If you think the world is shitting on you, it will. It doesn't matter what these women are doing. You have no control over it. You can only control your own actions. Choose to better yourself and live with a positive attitude.
>>16446103
you're right, you do come across as a bitter lonely virgin. Because you're generalizing an entire demographic, more than half the population of the planet because you're butt hurt over rejection.
Yes, women get the pick of the litter. That's what happens when 20 or more men compete for the same prize. If it was the opposite men would do that shit too, and they often do, so whining about it won't solve anything.
>burr hurr do genuine nice girls exist womp womp
yes, they do, they're probably avoiding you like the plague because you reek of ingratiating self-pitying miasma instead of making yourself a better catch.
Either you can sit around and simper about how bad you have it or you can get up and do what every other sexually reproducing creature on this planet does, make yourself a more attractive, more fit mate
>>16446112
>>16446114
this and this
fuck of OP, stop wallowing in self pity and crying hurr durr I'm such a good guys and all girls are bitchesss
I really start to sympathize with bitches after seeing how many guys are like you, just huge crybabies blaming everybody else for their shortcomings
To give you some context, I'm a 21 year old guy. College was a bust, I can't find work now, my parents spoil me rotten, and I'm a lazy, unmotivated, asocial, shithead NEET sperg because of it. I can't go back to school due to lack of cosigner for loans, and I can't find work due to low marketable skills (I've only ever worked as a college tutor and a temp on my college's groundscrew doing manual labor).
I really want to join the military because I basically have no other option in life besides killing myself, which I'm not going to do. I know the military sucks ball and there's the chance I will die, but I really need to be in an environment that will kick my ass, break me down, then build me back up, and teach me practically life skills and attitudes to get my ass back in gear and my life on track. I'm absolutely sick of doing nothing all day, having no prospects/direction, and I would rather be doing something than nothing.
My parents hate the military and won't "allow" me to go because they are too worried about their precious little god's gift to the world (I'm 21 at the moment) getting shot in Afghanistan. Thing is, I'm much more interested in joining the Navy or the Marines and hoprefully avoiding that kind of deployment.
I'm over 18 and I can make my own decisions, so If I fullblown ran away from home and joined the military, what would be the prospects of making it all the way through without having any real support in the civilian "world"? My parents have cut off ties with people due to similiar disagreements, so I'm pretty sure they would excommunicate with me if I abandon them and join the military. What would I do during offtime if they're not willing to provide a roof over my head?
How physically fit are you OP?
If you can make it through basic the military can teach ya some very marketable technical skills and set you up nicely for government contracting work.
>What would I do during offtime if they're not willing to provide a roof over my head?
I'm pretty sure you'll get a housing stipend or live on-base
I say go for it, but really make sure you do your research first. Check out some military forums for sure.
>>16446110
>How physically fit are you OP?
I'm about 5'11" and around pounds. I like bike-riding and hiking and I don't have a problem with physically-demanding work. The grounds-crew job was a year of heavy-lifting, moving furniture, outdoor landscaping work, using power tools, etc. It sucked balls the first week or two but I quickly got used to it. When it comes to physically demanding stuff, I try to power through and ignore pain/exhaustion if I can until it gets to a point where I'm accustomed to it.
I'm out of shape at moment, so I would definitely have to, at the very least, get into the habit of exercising before boot camp.
The only other health issues I can think are:
Ibuprofen jacks my blood pressure to hypertension levels
I take medication for a benign muscle tremor (no real side effects as far as I can tell).
I usually take Melatonin to help sleep at night.
The one big health problem would be a histroy of mental health issues, but I've heard conflicting things about how the military handles it. Some people have said they got in fine, others have said recruiters will just plain tell you to fuck off.
Like I said, I'm willing to put with drill sergeants or the hell of bootcamp. The whole point is that I'm looking for an experience that will break me down and build me up if it'll help me get my life on track or at the very least give new experience and opportunities.
What military forums do you recommend? I've tried getting information before on reddit (yeah I know, reddi-scum, that's not the point) and 9 times out of 10 assholes just tell me to fuck off whenever I mention the mental health part.
Join if you want. It's a decent starting area for people without a lot of options. I wouldn't join the marines if you're trying to avoid deployments. Go Air Force. Most jobs rarely deploy, and your quality of life will be better.
Joining isn't hard at all as long as you don't have any serious medical conditions and aren't retarded, but make sure you research your job. 4-6 years of doing something you don't like doing is a long time.
