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What is the point of living. We work most our lives and enjoy little of it. If we want to do fun things it costs money and most of the time you cannot afford it. You cant live without working unless you're born into money.
If you aim to build an empire you either need to be extremely smart, or extremely lucky. Sure you can work your arse off and maybe by the time you're 50 you'll have wealth. But by then all the good years are over.
You cant live life to the fullest and invest simultaneously. We study, work then after 80 years or so we die. And then its all gone. What is the point?
Some say we live to pass on our knowledge to our kids, and then inturn onto their kids. But why? What does that achieve?
It doesnt create meaning for ourselves when all we do is follow the trend then cease to exist.
It's one big pointless loop
>>16449858
We live for the good times, anon. All the little things in life that you enjoy. All the good memories you create with family and friends is why you keep going, it makes it worth it to get your ass up and work for a living and be productive.
Yes, you have to work for a living. That's how society and economics work. It's just what you do, you can bitch and moan about it, but there's not a lot you can do about it. You could just live off of welfare and be a sad sack 'cause you live day after day being unproductive, which tends to lead to a depressed state of mind.
You just make the best out of the cards you're dealt, anon. You play your hand the best you can and try to enjoy life and make the most of it
>>16449858
The struggle is to find things that we enjoy doing and be able to pay for them. Most of the time, we can afford it, rather than the opposite.
And you CAN live without working, it's called being a bum.
Building an empire? Who wants to build an empire? That's a dumb way to live, to die, more stress than anything else.
You seem like you're confusing money with happiness. It isn't the same. I won't say that being poor is a picnic, but there's a reason a third of billionares are unhappy in their lives. If money was happiness, they wouldn't have the opportunity to be unhappy. Lack of money creates unhappiness, but money itself doesn't create happiness. Got that?
As to the point of living? Nobody knows, and the smart ones stop caring.
It's all an illusion. Everything is inverted to keep you focused on petty things and lead you away from the truth. That you are a created being and Christ can save you from all of the lies and confusion. I never thought I'd say any of this.
I can't get over my ex-girlfriend, /v/.
It's been 7 months since we broke up. I was horribly depressed for a very long time, even more so when I found out she was dating someone else. I started drinking and doing a lot of drugs as a way to escape from the pain. That's all over now, been clean for a while. But it still hurts. I moved to another country last month, try and start a new life, get rid of the suffering, meet new people, have new experiences, and it's been really good so far but I still have recurrent nightmares about her. I still dream of her. And she keeps popping up everywhere for no reason, like I keep finding things in the pockets of jackets or pants that I brought to my new place, and I keep getting rid of shit that reminds me of her but there's still always something, an old picture saved in a hidden folder, some old folder saved somewhere I almost never look with her name on it. And the nightmares, sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and I'm scared and I hate it so much. I want this to stop. How do I make it stop?
>>16449824
Get rid of anything and everything that reminds you of her, like yesterday.
Pick up some hobbies and start living for you. You may learn things about yourself you never knew before. Furthermore, some hobbies present a chance to socialize and find like-minded people who you may befriend.
You need to learn to love yourself because no one else is going to do it for you. That's really the only secret to life but it's hard to master which is why so many people jump in and out of relationships. They've never learned to be happy with themselves so they seek constant reassurance from others. It's really quite sad if you think about it.
Don't be one of those people. Be you.
that's just it my man
there's not really that much you can do about the dreams, short of finding something that obsesses you so much you dream about it too
you really loved her i guess
>>16449824
What happened? Why did you two break up?
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complex's are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
If you're opening an ask anything thread don't list a million things not to ask, feel bad for whatever boy is sat next to a high maintenance bitch or vice versa
If a girl is secretive about what's in her handbag, it's fair to assume it's sex toys, right?
>>16449802
Girls
I asked my teacher out for coffee in october. she was my teacher when I was a junior in HS, i am currently in uni 1000 miles away.
I asked her out to strictly coffee calling her by her first name. She said yes, then asked where I was studying and how things were.
Firstly, does she likely think of it as a date? I think she knew I liked her. She is also very intelligent, I can't see her being so oblivious as to think it's purely platonic.
Secondly, how badly did I mess up by not replying until sunday (about a month later)? She hasn't responded yet, and I'm worried she may have changed her mind or is mad that I didn't reply sooner. Do you think she's ignoring me or is it just a coincidence? How long until I know she's ignoring me? Should I resend an email?
Thanks
This means a lot to me, not to be melodramatic but she literally is my world, she is all i think about. i will legitimately consider suicide if she has changed her mind. I would wait a while to do it so she wouldn't blame it on herself.
Just got Tinder, what should I put in my bio? Also any other tips, femanon answers would be extra helpful
>>16449795
Tinder 101
>pictures
Get one of you out and about, one of you looking dapper and one of you doing something interesting
>profile
Short and sweet, nothing too specific, but not going for mysterious fedora
>communication
Open with "Hi, how are you doing?" or a relevant chat up line and be jokey, open questions, 1 - 2 sentence answers, keep conversations on topic.
>>16449795
Whatever you want, no one really cares anyway. They're just looking to see how hot you are
>>16449805
Thanks, tho I'm not a fan of pictures so I don't have many, one of me in a bar, smart casual so fine with that, and two on holiday, sound good?
How long should I date a virgin before I fuck her brains out?
>>16449786
When she wants you to
>>16449786
Do yu really need to ask? Also, how do you know she hasn't been snatched before?
>>16449786
Blowie
>Have GF of a year
>I just turned 21. She is 19.
>Always feel like its a constant struggle to keep her from doing something dumb
>Almost feels like I'm baby sitting sometimes
>Exhausted because of it
She does so much petty shit, especially on social media. Often times, she just flat out disrespects me, and when I get angry about it, she loses her shit, and ends up a wreck. For instance, something she did today. She is bi, and I've known this since we started dating. She has this lesbian friend, who apparently recently showed her pictures of her newly pierced labia (no fucking clue why anyone would do this), I asked her what the fucking deal was. Her response was, its okay were friends. I said, if I was bi and having a dude sent pics of his dick to me, would you be upset? She said yes, but I asked her why she did it then, and she flat out said "she doesn't know".
Stupid shit like this, to greater and lesser degrees has been happening ever since we've been together. I'm completely exhausted because of it, and I can't take much more. Just today on instagram, said lesbian friend posted a picture of my GF that she took while they were on skype together, and put a bunch of tags like #mine, #notanons (me) #sorry #notsorry. Of course, I said something and the response was "BABYYYY WE WERE JOOOOKINNNGGGG". Clearly something is going on.
If this keeps up much longer, I'm going to lose my shit.
What do I do at this point? Just dump her or what?
Welcome to modern women, between the ages of 16-30 my friend.
Total fucking shitbags, devoid of any real responsibility, and will always lay blame elsewhere.
>>16449778
You need to learn to roll with punches, and she needs to grow up. But she's 19, bro, I don't know what the fuck you expected. She grew up in the generation of stupidshits who conduct their lives entirely online. You're not much better, just 2 years older. You should have known that this is the type of girl you are likely to find in your age bracket.
It sounds like you're incompatible and yes, you should break up. It's not the end of the world. Dumb bitches are a dime a dozen. Set your sights on older chicks, 24+. They start to chill out around then. I'm with a 29 year old and she's so fucking cool, it's great. Not a bit of drama or stupid girly-girl shit you find in the younger ones.
That being said, I'll reiterate that you need to learn to chill. That stupid hashtag shit isn't a cause for concern. They're just being so randummm wacky XDDDDD kids. I'm certain it doesn't imply the things you're assuming. It's very clear when someone is running around on you. They're a whole hell of a lot more subtle than some obnoxious social media habits.
>>16449792
It wasn't just that if you read the post. This same day, the lesbian was sending her shots of her vagina.
Should I be "chill" with that too?
Would taking 60-80 pills of panadeine extra (500mg paracetamol, 15mg codeine) guarantee death?
What would the side effects be of taking this many?
It might. But geez; why, of all methods, are you going with that one? Paracetamol overdose is an exceptionally nasty way to go; you'll be in agony for days before your liver gives up its last.
>>16449746
Just go to Mexico
Paracetamol is a nasty drug. You may poison yourself by mistake, but by the time you start feeling unwell you may be approaching the end of the (roughly) three-day window in which the antidote, acetylcysteine, can save you. Would-be suicides may take a handful of pills expecting to drift into a pleasant sleep, only to find that nothing happens. By the next day they may well have changed their minds about killing themselves – but it's too late: the drug, by then, is already doing its best to destroy their liver.
Paracetamol is a hepatotoxin. As it is processed by the body, one of its metabolites starts to destroy the cells of the liver. This gradually leads to liver failure and, in some cases, death. Paracetamol toxicity is the most common cause of acute liver failure in Britain. It is not a medication to be messed with.
If the patient is too late for the antidote (which is given through a drip usually), and does not receive an immediate liver transplant, then death is extremely painful – there may be constant vomiting combined with abdominal pain. Providing added horror, in the case of a half-hearted suicide, are the feelings of remorse, anger and foolishness that are likely to beset the victim. As I say, it is a nasty drug, and it is very foolish indeed to exceed the dose stated on the packet.
My sink started to fill up with water faster so I realized it was probably clogged. I removed the safety cap and saw this. What do I do? The drain plunger doesn't help. It doesn't smell but looks and very likely is potentialy dangerous. I tried picking stuff out but wasn't successful. What do I treat it with?
P.S. The apartment isn't mine and I've been here barely a month so it's not my fault and I can't pour anything into it.
>>16449715
draino?
1. Have roommate call the landlord
2. Get a long, skinny brush (like a bottle brush) dip it in bleach and scrub
3. Go to your local hardware store and ask for "air pressure drain cleaner"
- it's basically a high-pressure can of air with an end that completely covers the drain. When you press on it, it blasts the gunk away.
OP here, I wrote that "I can't pour anything into it" but I meant to say that I can't pour every weird thing into it so it doesn't get fucked up. I can pour simple things, so if something still goes wrong it doesn't go too wrong.
>>16449720 Sorry I have no idea what's that, is it American? What's a good European version of it?
>>16449731 Thanks, man, I'll try it in the morning. That's realy helpful.
Long story short i had a guy who i thought was my friend move out of my house on supposedly good terms (couldn't afford rent) since then he has been roasting me on all social media and convinced our group of friends to turn their backs on me and not want to hang out anymore, Telling them loads of lies and bullshit about how i did nothing but sit on my ass (I work full time and go to school) when he left his room had mold and shit in it and my sink was clogged.
Since then i have just ignored him and others assuming it would die down but its been weeks now and it still continues, Do i continue to ignore him or defend my honor? Thanks in advance /adv/
Find new friends. If they can't take the time to confirm the rumors, they aren't worth your time.
>>16449710
I have pretty much already begun to do that, I just don't know how to get all this stupid shit on social media and blowing up my phone to stop. Ignoring it has seemed to do nothing.
bump need advice
I want to be a millionaire. How do I do that?
One word: lottery
Marry a billionaire
>>16449679
Fuck off bellends.
Learn a skill. Find a product/service that your region needs that you can fill. Work your ass off and constantly improve and work on yourself.
Anyone have tips for how to get rid of social anxiety and awkwardness quickly (within a couple months)? I'm not a total beta. I have tons of friends and people like being around me, but I struggle with women and I constantly have a feeling of awkwardness and anxiety in everything I do. I have literally no reason to be awkward. I'm decent looking, I'm top of my class, I have a great personality. I just have no confidence in social situations. Please help
You fat by any chance?
Do you have a shitty taste in clothes?
>>16449632
Fit as fuck. Stylish as fuck
Im on my phone, but give this one dude giving a tedtalk a chance at how he defeated his social anxiety.
He said that laying down on the floor of a crowded area for 30 seconds worked wonders for him. Google it
How does one build an identity as a man despite of not being fit for physical labour or war?
>>16449554
Increase your intellect and knowledge. Learn.
>>16449554
Read the Way of Men. A lot of it can be pseudo-intellectual, but he talks about masculine substitutes for warfare, labor and conquest.
Are you not fit for health reasons, or not fit because you are lazy?
>>16449562
How do you increase intellect when you're dumb as shit?
How would you feel if your daughter came home from school wearing a guys jacket, implying that a guy gave it to her to wear since it was cold and raining? How would you feel, knowing it was from a guy you're not very fond of?
>>16449553
but why are you not fond of this guy?
>>16449553
Be honest with yourself. Are you EVER going to be fond of a guy who wants your daughter?
Scuzzballs aren't likely to do such a gentlemanly gesture. So at the least. be glad your daughter goes for guys who treat her like a lady, as opposed to some punk ass.
>>16449553
>a guy was polite enough to give him her jacket when she was cold
why would I bitch, at least he's a gentleman.
My gf told me a coworker of hers asked her if she wanted to go for coffee after work. She said no politely and left it there, not wanting to say that she has a boyfriend because she wasn't sure if he was just being friendly or coming onto her.
To me it seems pretty clear because he's also been texting her in the mornings (though seldom). It's not that I dont trust my girl but is it natural to feel uncomfortable about this? I know the guy doesn't know she's taken either so he's not doing anything wrong. How should I handle this situation without looking jealous or controlling?
>She said no politely
How is there even a goddamn situation here that needs handling? I wouldn't bat an eye at my gf going out for coffee with a co-worker, much less her DECLINING it immediately to protect your fee-fees.
fag
>>16449525
The guy's obv going for her, kek
>not wanting to say that she has a boyfriend because she wasn't sure if he was just being friendly or coming onto her.
This statement bothers me, OP.
To me, I would see this as "she is keeping her options open" and may not see you as long term material.
You might want to consider talking about this in more depth.
How do I get my girlfriend to not be nervous around me and be comfortable? She said she feels really nervous around me. How do I fix this?
>>16449474
Break up with her.
>>16449474
Well I guess the relevant question is why is she nervous
if she's nervous because you're a creep then it's more of a Stockholm syndrome thing than a relationship
if she's nervous because she thinks you're HOT ROD TOD then you pretty much have to find a way to humanize yourself while also not devaluing your status. Slightly embarrassing secrets work just fine, especially if you're making it into a quid pro quo sort of thing
Communicate.
Ask her why. Tell her some "personal" stuff about you. Make her feel more comfortable.
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