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So me and my buddies are having a problem with a 0/10 girl. She follows us around and we dont want to tell her to fuck off but we dont want her following us and hanging out with us. >what do I do /adv/?
Get a pretty girl to hang out with your group.
Double team her
>>16453221
We dont know anyone like that. Besides we dont want anyone new we just want her to fuck off. OP btw
this dude is pissed off I through his vapor cigarette out of the window on the bus? Now he and his friends are going to try and jump me what should I do?
Maybe you should have left his property alone?
>>16453079
Maybe he shouldn't bring his nasty smoke on the bus? What's happened has happened what should I do now?
>>16453084
Take your ass beating like you deserve. Maybe if we're lucky you'll end up a vegetable so you won't post stupid shit here anymore.
My mother is what people call a "Milf". I have years feeling very attracted to her. So i attracted to the point i make very weird things and masturbate thinking about her. But then i feel so guilty with myself. I don´t like the idea that she is my mother, but physically i am very attracted to her. How can i stop to have this sick desire? I want it to stop.
If that is your mom in the picture, I can see why.
I'd would totally have sex with her.
>>16453075
She is
>>16453067
Oedipus get outta here
This girl I know called me a pedo for dating a girl that's 4'9", I'm 6'6".
Does that make me pedo?
>>16452946
If the girl really is a child, then yes. Otherwise, you're just two freaks dating each other
No. You're a pedo if she's a child and you're an adult. Your friend is dumb, and maybe jealous.
>>16452946
Is she underage?
>Yes
Then yes you are.
>No
Then no you're not.
My girlfriend and I have a good relationship overall. We're happy together. We live 6 hours apart, and I drive to see her 3-4 days a week.
She lives in a house with a couple of room mates, and is a bit impulsive. She spends a lot of money on her bad habits, while having massive student loans. She has a room mate that encourages those bad habits, and is generally a pretty bad person.
This bad room mate wants to get a dog, a Collie no less, and I mentioned to my girlfriend that the room mate would never, ever be there to take care of the dog and it would essentially become her dog. My girlfriend loves animals so she is ok with this(she has a dog of her own), and because it wasn't a bad thing to her she got extremely mad at me, taking it so far as to say that I always do that kind of thing.
I worry a lot, again because she is impulsive and I have to be so far away from her so often. I understand I am supposed to respect her, trust her, etc. And I do, but I fully intend to marry this girl in a very short amount of time, and I consider her big decisions to be our big decisions. She seems to think this too, but at the same time she wants to be independent and make her own decisions, even the big ones. I feel she kind of wants to have her cake and eat it too.
One thing she has specifically said, which makes this incredibly difficult and heart breaking for me, is that I am "smarter than her", and she can't defend herself when we have any kind of debate about her decisions. She says she feels helpless because I'm always right.
I just don't know how to deal with this. Can someone talk to me?
>>16452794
>impulsive
>spends a lot of money on bad habits
>makes bad decisions
>admits being dumber than you
Why would you want to marry a woman like that? Are you sure you have sit and thought about this seriously and thorough?
>>16452800
>>admits being dumber than you
The thing is she is wrong. She is brilliant. She's had a bad life. Bad home life, bad first boyfriend, just bad luck. She struggles with helplessness.
>>16452809
Fine, my point still stands. Why would you want to marry such a woman?
A few weeks ago I posted a thread asking to help with a situation of domestic violence and psychological abuse. Thankfully. me and my mum acted on the advice and social services has been contacted and the situation is very close to being ended, thank you all for that.
However, I am left with some issues. I have a number of friends, some I have known for 12 years, and they are generally nice to me and are like I think friends should be for the most parts. Unfortunately, the ones who run parties and social events do not invite me along and I only really see them during the week and very occasionally out. From what I can tell, it seems to be a mixture of factors :
The first is probably the most obvious. My disposition for around the better part of 10 years was quite aggressive and very sarcastic, and naturally people don't always like that. So naturally, people are repelled by me. I think this has been changing lately as the abuse is close to the end, and I don't think I have been damaged.
Secondly, I am at a selective academic school, and naturally there are a number of people with gigantic egos. Two particular people spring to mind when I talk about this. One is very social and is generally nice to me, although actions speak louder than words, as well as his position. The other is a bit of a slimeball, and while not very social, he is more social than me and is domineering and powerful. They dislike me because I make banter at them and they seem to be too precious to take it, where as other people just banter back..Unfortunately, as much as I may dislike these two, I cannot avoid them as there doesn't seem to be any alternative friends I can find that I like (the one place I have tried is filled with a mixture of /v/, /tg/ and /mlp/ users, and frankly they make me cringe).
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>>16452666
Thirdly, I have almost no confidence or self esteem, which of course gives other people bad vibes.
Honestly, while If I gave it more thought I think I could find a bunch of solutions (or simply wait less than a year when I will go to university), although honestly the fallout from the abuse and my parent's relationship I think may be clouding my judgement, and so I ask you lot what you think I should do.
So what should I do? Thank you again.
P.S : Sorry if I write like a fedora, I just finished writing a bunch of essays.
>>16452666
It'd be nice to get a response
Help
I want to major in English but everyone is discouraging me. So I've been thinking of double majoring with sociology. I want to be more into literary journalism, (like Tom Wolfe), but everyone keeps discouraging me about what that will mean for my future. So i'm really lost right now, and I don't know what classes I should take. What are you senpai getting a degree in?
>>16452535
I got a film degree. despite the reptuation that sort of degree gets, i didnt have anyone fighting me over it. even my strict military father wanted me to go for it, cuz its pretty much all I did with my life from 8th grade, so much so that he offered me the largest bedroom in the house (after his own of course) just so that I could film easier.
i graduated 2012, havent had much film work since then though, as it is a competitive industry thats hard to break into in any serious way. I happen to manage a small office though so that pays the bills and all that nonsense.
moral of this story is that perhaps you should go for what you want but definitely have a very real back up plan.
my big question is why would you want to major in english? unless you also get a teaching degree you cant even teach highschool english with just that, so what good does an english degree do?
>>16452545
Well i could go into peace corps, i hear also that its helpful if going into law. But its pretty limited which is what makes me extremely doubtful about the degree
>>16452545
also i would really like to become an author and perhaps even start up my own magazine one day
I feel like I ruined my body because I got fat and when I lost weight (slowly and with nutritious food and while lifting heavy weights while doing chest exercises) my tits deflated and got very saggy and empty.
I just think of how attractive I would be if I didn't gain weight in the first place and permanently damaged my body and ruined it
How do I accept the damage I've done?
>>16452483
Get a boob lift
I think this is an appropriate situation for plastic surgery. I'm losing weight right now too, and considering maybe doing a lift if they look really terrible.
Whats the use of losing all the weight if you look like a raisin with your clothes off.
>>16452483
It's still better then being fat. That's how you gotta think. It's to bad really but we can't have everything exactly the way we want it. Life sucks that way.
Hey,so when I was younger I never brush my teeth and not than I'm older their gross and yellow,what would be the best method to white my teeth? Other than going to a dentist. (My camera is shit so I found this image that matches my teeth the closet,the stained ones)
>>16452433
My teeth are yellow despite taking perfect care of them. Dentist says they couldn't be more healthy. White simply isn't the natural color of my teeth. Shit sucks.
>>16452464
White isn't the colour of anyone's natural teeth. Teeth naturally have a yellow tinge to them, the right OP picture is unnatural
I gonna assume my teeth are healthy too since I don't have any cavities, tooth aches, etc... I just don't like the colour of them and I want to whiten them without paying a fuck ton of money to get them professionally whitened.
Is 24 years too late to make yourself part of a new social circle?
How do people do it?
Look mom I posted it again!
>>16452426
nope. happens all the time. 24 is a pretty typical time to leave college for instance (between 22 and 25 is average depending on all the variables) and people are constantly moving places and starting careers and such.
getting into a new circle becomes harder to do, as does making friends, but both are possibly especially the latter.
as to how, its completely unique to each person.
a lot of people become friends with who they work with. others have chance encounters. others attend events relevant to their interests and meet people there.
it depends what you like to do. if you can make one friend, you can often join their circle.
for me it was
>have no friends
>start a web series
>hire an actor
>hes pretty cool and doesnt afraid of anything
>invites me to play board games with him
>i meet his friends
>the circle is now complete.
other people might go to a magic the gathering tournament at a comic book store, and make friends there. others might go to a super smash bros tournament. others may go to a bar and just chat up other people drinking alone. others get a new roommate.
if you are desperate for a situation go to meet up dot com and go to a bunch of random events that you have somewhat interest in. or go to /soc/ or /b/ meet up threads and look for people in your area code. i made friends with a guy that way til he asked me to read his script.
How do I find out my GPA for a college I graduated from and don't have a list of all the courses I took and the grades I got?
Call the records department.
>>16452418
How do you not know? Request an academic transcript
>>16452423
>How do you not know?
I was never told? It's not like they printed it on my Diploma.
>get a gf
>one time after we have sex she says my penis (6") is "perfect, not too big, not too small"
>well that's nice i guess, don't really need to be reminded that it isn't big but ok
>"my ex was HUGE, i'd hurt afterwards every time"
>didn't actually need to hear that
>"like 8 and a half inches long and REALLY thick, you can't even imagine how sore i'd be all day after he'd fuck me for an hour and a half with that thing, it was like torture"
>...
Now for the past two weeks I don't even feel horny around her any more. She doesn't seem to understand what I could be insecure about but every time I think about fucking her I then start to think about her getting demolished by another guy's monstercock. Should I just break up with her now?
Yes, dump the roastie and find yourself a non whore gf
>>16452380
>someone dates a guy and find sout he has a big penis
>she continues to dat ehim anyways, but is not happy because the big penis ruins sex
>she is a whore despite leaving him and appreciating men with smaller penises
jesus, do virgins really think like this>?
>>16452375
er.... stop? mines six and a half, and its often called big, even by guys with bigger cocks then mine (Faggot here). six inches is just barely over the average, so its like you're a B- student. whats wrong iwth that?
if you are going to let something that is a huge part of your life bum you out, an hero now, cuz ur cock aint going to get any bigger.
considering she appreciates it, calling it perfect (mine is often called perfect as well, because of how well proportioned it is) why are you even bothered? on the contrary, she gave you an honest opinion, a good one at that, you should feel less self conscious than before.
>Best friend and I we're inseparable
>We spend a lot of time just hanging out together
>As time goes by, I'm starting to feel slowly weird around him. Everytime the plan ends, I leave feeling like complete shit. As this progresses, I'm slowly becoming more unconfident, like my point of view never matters. Like I have no talent
>I start to hang out with more and different people. I start to get close to some people that were just acquaintances, and I start to get closer to some friends
>Funnily enough, I don't have any of these feelings when I hang out with this people. I have fun with them, we do lots of things, and they help me grow my self-confidence. I always leave them feeling full of energy...
>... energy that leaves whenever I meet this one best friend I'm talking about (Let's call him A)
>The final Straw comes last friday, when during a party with A, he starts to annoy me and dig into some of my insecurities, and I end up leaving the party because I'm no longer in the mood. People tell me to stay, but I'm just no longer in the mood
>Following days I meet with other friends and I tell them my situation. And they both aggreed on something: This looks like a very toxic relationship
I've been swallowing the bullshit this "friend" has put me through because he's a friend, and I loved him, but it's just something so overwhelming... He's someone so grey. He's always cynical and disgusting with people (not in a hygienic way, but in a rude way) He's always trying to put me down when I achieve something, and it's something I've been refusing to believe (telling to myself it was all my imagination) becuase I don't really believe why would he do something like that!
What I'm going to do with this friend, /adv/?
Even my ex girlfriend kind of warned me about him, when we were still dating, "You're a loyal guy, Anon, you're a good friend, but I feel like he doesn't deserve your loyalty..."
>>16452325
this isn't unusual. sometimes it happens after 20 years of a great friendship because things change. there is always the chance your friend needs help, but if he refuses to be helped you can't really stand by him.
we meet people and we use them to help us grow and develop, and at some point people stop helping each other grow and develop. at that time the friendships usually dissolve. as much as i want to believe the romantic idea of best friends for life, even the strongest ones have to end at some point.
so id suggest ending it with him. it sounds like hes become a bad person to be with and treats you like a bit of a sidekick. as long as he can put you down, he will feel like he is superior to you. so anytime you accomplish something, especially something he hasn't, he needs to put you down to maintain that 'at least im better than OP' mentality.
it sucks but here we are. good luck anon. try giving him the boot and just see what happens. sometimes people fix themselves and things can go back to normal. regardless if this keeps up, please do leave him.
>>16452325
I'm re-reading my thread, and I feel like it's incomplete. There's way too much shit I haven't explained.
>Last friday he tells me "Because you don't have a job and you're finishing your studies, and I have 2 jobs, I feel like we don't have much to talk about. I don't like movies and you don't like cinema..." After dropping that he just got back to the party and I left.
>It's been a while since I started feeling like I would rather stay home than go out with him to parties. He works in a big club and we always get there for free, VIP pass and all that shit. We know everyone there. And sometimes I feel like I'll rather stay home than go out with him. This friday there's gonna be a big party in this club, and for the first time in years, I'm going to stay home
>We had a fight a year ago because I started to hang out casually with a girl he hates. He told me, during one of these club parties "I don't feel like I can trust you anymore because you hang out with this girl" and he came back to the party. I left, and shortly after I found out he deleted me from facebook and all social networks. of course he added me later, still I couldn't get angry because I thought that was so silly and childish...
Like those, there's lot of little things. Little things I went through because he was a friend....
Bounce. You're trying to weigh action against the history of the friendship, as though that history hasn't yet paid its dividends. It has. You enjoyed years of a good and happy friendship with him. That enjoyment was the reward. Now the joy has ended and so has the time to keep fighting for the friendship. Yesterday it was good. Today it is not. Act on today.
I have what I guess is a fairly typical /adv/ story. I got close to a girl and eventually she became my best friend. She started to get very flirty, we fucked a few times but kept it 'casual' (even though we were hanging out all the time too), and I fell for her hard. Then out of the blue one day she dumped me in a bit of a shitty way. She was genuinely apologetic when she saw how hurt I was, but said she wanted us to still be friends (but nothing more). I couldn't handle that, especially when she started dating someone else, so one day I cut her from my life completely and resolved not to contact her or check her social media again. I've been depressed on and off since it happened and frequently turn to /adv/ for help, but the one thing that helps is not knowing anything about what she's doing now or who she's doing it with. She still follows me on social media and 'likes' loads of the pictures I put up, but has only actually spoken to me one time, on the pretext of asking my advice about something (though I think she just wanted to check up on me).
She's just messaged me again, asking how I am. I've not replied yet, but I will a little bit later on. I wish I could get to a place where I could be happy to have her as just a friend, but I'm a long way from that yet. I don't know whether to admit that to her, or just have a fairly bland conversation and move on, because she probably won't contact me again for another six months or something like that. I just want some opinions really. What do you think I should do?
>>16452313
Lie. Say you feel great and that things are going really well. She's probably checking up on you because she thinks you're still hung up on her.
Also, if you lie enough you might end up believing it. Heartbreak is fucking tough but when you remember that you're an individual that's got a life separate from the person you love(d), you'll become okay with being alone.
>>16452331
I already got a little bit obsessed with that via my Instagram account. I took a year off to go travelling, and made sure I took pictures of every incredible place I went to (because I knew she had always wanted to go travelling too). I'd sit by my phone and wait for her to 'like' it, and she usually would. I think that was a very unhealthy mindset though, and I'm trying to concentrate a bit more on actually enjoying things rather than pretending to enjoy things.
Generally speaking that's good advice though, thanks.
>>16452353
Going through a heartbreak right now myself. It was a 2 year relationship that ended about a month ago, because of distance but mostly because she lost feelings for me.
It hurt and although she said she wants to "be friends" she doesn't message me at all.
BUT, she would look at every snapchat story I would post. That was my only 'contact' with her anymore, and in a weird way I liked seeing that she was still looking.
But I decided this was incredible toxic of me. I would be checking Snapchat every 10 minutes to see if she updated. I would go around my city thinking "should I snap this?" JUST so she would see it. I would post a snap, and get anxious waiting for her to view it.
It was just overall bad even if I did still get a rush when she would look. I knew deep down the fact of the matter is, if she wanted to talk to me, she would. So I deleted her. And it sucked for a day or two to accept it. But it feels much better without that anxiety and toxic situation happening 24/7.
Hopefully some of that helps.
My father-in-law cheated on his wife with a woman ten years younger than her, and got her pregnant. They maybe knew each other for a month or two at the time. This woman is a former stripper, and an ex-con with three other children from three different fathers. All of the fathers are dead. Strange coincidence.
Father and mother in law went through a messy divorce, he has to pay out the nose for alimony now (which he sort of deserves, but not to the extent that he's paying). He gets mad that I still talk to his ex-wife and have a friendship with her. I've known her for over eight years, she's still my mother-in-law.
I also have been more or less refusing to meet his new baby mama.
Number one, I can't respect someone who doesn't respect marriage. I take it seriously.
Number two, I don't have any interest in meeting her. My husband's family is big enough as it is. I don't know how long their relationship will even last once the baby's born. If I get to know her and befriend her, what's going to happen when they break up? Do I stop talking to her? Will my father-in-law get mad if I don't? Never mind how my mother-in-law's feelings would be hurt if I had a relationship with this woman.
Now that the baby's birth is looming, my husband has hinted that maybe I'm being a little unreasonable, and that it's becoming obvious that I'm avoiding meeting her. Should I suck it up and give her a chance, or stick to my guns on this?
>>16452279
He's already been punished by the court. Don't make it worse.
I say do what your husband is doing, for his sake if anything.
>in-laws
It's not really YOUR family, it's not really your business what they do. You don't have to be friends with them. But it does seem a bit unreasonable to flat-out refuse to meet her. Just go, be at your husband's side so he doesn't have to deal with his crazy family alone. Presumably, he does the same for you at your own family functions.
Don't bring this woman into your life more than you need to, but don't make such a big show of your disapproval. The guy's not your father, he's your father-in-law, it's literally none of your business who he chooses to be with
