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My girlfriend cheated on me when we first started dating we are on three years been living together for about half our relationship. I found out she cheated on me about 3 months into us living together. Since then our relationship has gone down hill, we constantly argue about it mainly because I can't let go of the fact she did that to me also because she honestly never helped me feel any better. She'd always get jealous for practically no reason there'd be times when she'd get drunk and publicly humiliate me by punching me in the face and yelling at me....
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Grow a pair
I think about where she'd go, she's not speaking with her mom and her dad is just getting by as it is. Call me a pussy but I feel bad
Hey adv
My girlfriend did something really stupid. So she's got a gym membership that's paid off for 3 months, she likes it there and there's no issue.
Well she ended up somehow being talked into joining an expensive gym membership at some other gym, which is further away while she already paid 3 months at her current one.
She ended up canceling the New membership cause she realised how stupid that was but it has a $200 cancellation fee.
Anyway she is generally smart, has a bachelor in science, studying business degree too. Yet she did...
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Are you the one paying for it? It's not really any of your business how she spends her own money. Really doesn't seem like a big deal. Why are you so up in her shit?
Lol.because it shows she's still very naive and easily manipulated. Not a good role model for potential kids. Also you want a girlfriend who's incompetent at being able to take Care of herself???
No, people are allowed to fuck up. If your looking for a partner who never makes stupid mistakes, you should just stop looking. Im sure you've done and are going to continue to do some pretty dumb shit. She knows what she did was dumb and is trying to fix it and since it didn't hurt you, you don't really have any reason to be mad.
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How can I do that?
If you wanted to make a difference in the world how would you do it? I want to devote my life to help others.
>>16458470
Suck as many dicks as you possibly can.
>>16458475
I see... that kinda sucks :3
I had other wonderful things in mind really..
I Belive everyone benefits from trees, plant and take care of some.
As the subject suggests, I have trouble getting along with my relatives.
I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome ~18 months ago. I figured my family being aware of my personality traits would ease our relationship, but sadly that's not the case.
For the first few months after I stopped seeing a psychiatrist, my close relatives were willing to "fix" my autism by trying to talk me into making friends and going out. I was really bothered by it, as I had just started attending classes in college and wanted to focus on studying. I explained I'd make friends at my own pace and go out if I felt like it.
Fast forward 3 months and they've become more receptive of my general behavior. I was now told if they were going to make loud noise(e.g. use the blender, vacuum cleaner, etc.) and given space to leave the room. I was also having the most fun in college, talking to people about what was being taught and helping others study. Life was great.
My sister, however, started trying to piss me off whenever she could. We never got along, but she was really trying to annoy me. My family knows I don't feel comfortable with physical contact. She hugged me out of the blue, from behind, making it seem like playful siblings stuff. At first I told her to stop. When she didn't, I ended up yelling at her. The next step was physical aggression, which I didn't want to get to, so I had my grandmother intervene.
Now, she went for loud noise. On trips to my mom's house in another state, she'd take the hair dryer out of the bathroom, plug it in the same room I was sleeping in and use it there at the loudest possible setting. When asked to go to the bathroom and close the door, she dismissed everything I said, called me an entitled kid, told me I had everything I wanted thrown at me and it was "time to stop". I couldn't bear being in the same apartment. I screwed up my sleep schedule on purpose so I wouldn't have to see her. I would sleep from 8:00 am to ~4:00-5:00 pm.
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>>16458309
She decided to do the same so our schedules were compatible. I now had to share the living room with her from 8:00 pm to ~1:00 am. She'd put Netflix on the TV, use her laptop and phone, all at the same time. Her attention was solely on the phone, and when I complained about electricity being wasted on the TV, she shouted "I'm just checking the time. Shut up or mom will wake up." and then turned up the volume for whatever movie she was rewatching on Netflix. (Everything she played was from...
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>>16458327
My aunt, who seemed to be the most worried about my well being after I got my diagnosis, stopped gossiping about me with my grandmother. I could always hear them from my room, but never said anything from fear of retaliation.
She'd try to make me eat beans and shrimp, despite having tried both of them before, more than once, and really disliked them. "If you don't want to eat shrimp, then you can't have lunch.", she said. I could see her point, but since I couldn't take those...
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>>16458309
You don't have trouble with your family. You have a nasty sister.
She is totally in the wrong, but it might help if you tried to see it from her point of view. All your life you have been a little "weird" as she saw it, and now that you've got a diagnosis, everyone is trying to support you by helping you function at your best.
But she sees this as just one more example of everyone serving you and ignoring her, and that makes her jealous and mad.
A more mature person might...
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Long distance girlfriend of a year and a half+ wants to move in together.
We're both 25, she has a well paying government job with benefits, I'm a waiter. We live approximately 80 miles apart right now. She doesn't want to move too far from where she is because her county is the highest paid in her field in the area. That basically means I would have to move to her, and then find a job near there, or the other way around (which might be very difficult). She says she's ready, and I think it's time for me to be ready (we both live with our parents)...
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>>16458293
Find a new job in the area you want to move to before you move out of home
>>16458299
But how does that work? How would I interview with a place 100 miles away?
>>16458301
Take time off work and stay in a motel or with your gf
I think Im legitamately attracted to my little sister's teddy bear.
>>16458280
Are you complaining or bragging?
>>16458280
If it's a boy teddy bear, that makes you gay.
>>16458280
Is he a consenting adult?
A girl that I REALLY cared about just cut contact beause she thinks I sexually violated her. This is what happened:
We were extremly good freinds, I'd say best friends until recently. And I was perfectly fine with that, until well, one evening shit escalated. We were kinda checking each other out because we found both each other hot, I noticed she was kinda turned on, and at some point I started to seduce her. Talking dirty, turning her on etc. She did resist at first, said "maybe we shouldnt do this", sad sometimes "no" because she was afraid...
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Umm she is a crazy slut.
There is some leeway if she was actually being more serious with the no's in the first place. And if any contact initeated against her will, then yeah you're fucked. Girls can enjoy rape play, but you shouldn't just keep trying if she says 'no' , that was your clue to fuck off.
You can't force her to drink tea even if ahe said yes a few weeks back.
>>16458204
She is not crazy, and not a slut. She was raped several times in the past though, so I might have completly miscalculated the situation.
She said no, but I wanted it to happen anyway. She definetly had objections, but she also was turned on. I just kept pushing by turning her on, until she gave in and we fucked. She told me it felt good, it felt right etc afterwards, we cuddled, everything seemed normal.
But I can see where I went wrong. I shouldnt have kept pushing her to it....she kinda list control...
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Let's talk with me here.wwwwwwwwww
Guten Tag.
Wie Gehts?
hi how are you?
>>16458153
Hello.
Help legalfags of /adv/
tl;dr of my situation is
>Fight with gf got out of hand
>charged with class 4 felony
>plead down to class 6 undesignated
>it'll be closed as a misdemeanor after probation
Basically I'm wondering how much time I'll be doing. This is my first offense and indeed my first time ever being arrested. I'm in the army and I know I'll be kicked out but that's besides the point. I've heard from...
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>>16458150
Shameful self bump
Did she deserve it OP? I'll assume yes
>>16458178
In a way I suppose. I know I shouldn't put my hands on anyone. Though I just got lost in the moment.
In 27 years I haven't figured out how to have sex with a chick. Prostitution is illegal, talking is fucking boring as fucking fuck, not rich, decent looking though, steady job, shit car, what do?
what have your experiences with tinder, craigslist and dating sites been like? how likely are you to approach women? do you want sex or a gf?
good looking should make your chances of online dating and apps easier. just tell them you are interested in sex and keep fishing until you catch one.
if its a girlfriend however thats a different story
Sounds like you better start enjoying conversation real quick.
>>16458117
Can always become gay see if anyone's interested,batter than nothing :b
>A month ago, have drinks with uni friend in a bar
>A female friend of us joins us, she's with a friend of hers
>Her friend is really cute, joyful and fun to be around
>She stays with us until the bar closes, we have a lot of great chat
>At some point I say to her she's a really cool girl, she says I am cool guy too
>The day after she adds me on FB, and a few days later she asks me if I want to hang out again in that same bar
>Turns out she only asked me, not my friend
>Tell her that I'd like it, and I'll let her know when I'm available
>We have trouble scheduling, not available the same nights, then there's a week of holidays
>Finally, last monday, she joins us again with same female friend
>Again we have a very good night. She asks me how things are going with girls when we go out alone for a smoke
>She also jokes about how I didn't invited her again. Also I'm pretty sure she was deliberately reaching my legs with hers under the table...
>She says we should go dancing, ask me if I know I place, I say yes
>We all go. She dances with my friend at first but when she dances with me she gets very touchy, she gets me to grab her by the waist, etc.
>The day after, she texts me again to tell me that it was really cool and we should go dance again, that she could learn me how to swing properly. I say yes and tell her about a place I'll go to dance with friends on friday, asking her if she wants to come.
>No answer
>Yesterday I was with friends in the same bar as the two other times so I let her know we're in for the night if she's around
>No answer
Today is friday so should I let her know again about the dancing night ? I was thinking on giving her a call. Considering all her signs of interests and texts I find it weird she didn't answer...
>>16458065
>Today is friday so should I let her know again about the dancing night ? I was thinking on giving her a call. Considering all her signs of interests and texts I find it weird she didn't answer...
I can tell just based off of that sentence you're trying to get a girl to hit you back up after she's giving you silence. There's really no need for that wall of text, but if you come here regularly you probably have autism.
>>16458066
She gave me silence literally after hitting me up all the time. I mean I was answering to one of her text.
>>16458078
Just call her tonight and if she doesn't answer then oh well. Life goes on.
>tfw job interview next week
I can't do it lads. I'll forget all my answers and look like a moron on the spot
Give advice plz
what for? if it's a high up job idk but if it's typical low end stuff don't worry.
I am always fucking nervous for job interviews, but I realized for jobs that are low tier, don't rehearse answers. I went in without any practice, and got the job. Prior jobs, my answer was waaay to rehearsed and sometimes not even answering their question, just shoehorning in random stuff.
good luck m8
Just bee yourself
>>16457954
storeman
still nervous though
I found some sliced ready-cooked ham in my fridge that was use-by a month ago, and I've shoved it in the microwave for three minutes. It smelled okay beforehand.
All the bacteria should be dead after nuking it in the microwave, right?
Use by or sell by?
>>16457863
Use by, like I said.
But my point is, if I've nuked it in the microwave to the point where it's searing hot, how can I get sick?
You'll be fine, those use by dates are legal mumbo-jumbo
I purchased an Xbox one on Craigslist only to find it infested with roaches. I know it's fucking disgusting.
The seller isn't responding to my calls so now I have to figure out a way to get these bugs out of the vents and stuff. I currently have it sealed inside a plastic bag but I have no idea what to do.
You're going to have to leave it sealed for about 6 months to be sure. Any means of killing them sooner would damage the console or wouldn't reliably kill them all.
>>16457840
Throw a raid roach bait in the bag and seal it up again. They will come out and take the bait and die since its poisoned
Diatomaceous Earth
I think my friend's boyfriend is using her and shes completely oblivious to it. My friend's boyfriend is, not to be mean, but out of her league and completely different from her. Shes shy, overweight, nerdy and doesn't upkeep her appearance, where as he is very Frat boy esque, with muscles, a good sense of style and was well known for partying and being around a lot of girls. I'm not the only one suspicious by him, so are other mutual friends, and I've talked to some of his friends and they don't seem to know why they're together. I don't...
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>>16457817
Mind your own fucking business... is what you should do...
>>16457817
Stop acting jealous. Be happy that she's happy.
>>16457821
This.
Also, maybe quit being a bitch. You're a shitty friend.
