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How true is pic related?
Will it make you any more or less lonely to know exactly what percentage of men/women accurately fit this definition of loneliness that someone completely unqualified slapped onto some stock images?
Do men light candles while they're drinking alone?
Completely untrue man, there are girls who are ugly as sin and can't talk to anyone without having a panic attack
You don't see them because, uh... they're probably at home
Help me /adv/, ive been hearing voices quite frequently lately, and being only 18 im still a minor here in Nebraska. I pretty much have to bow to whatever my mother says, and I can't legally leave the home without her say so. I told her that I've been hearing voices (i have a history of manic depression) but she doesnt believe me. its almost like a crowd of people whispering behind my back, telling me i should just kill myself. [spoiler]It's starting to sound like a really good idea[/spoiler]
i've talked to about a dozen therapists/psychiatrists/psychologists, but all they can do it put me on more meds that arent working.
What do i do?
>>16462196
A good start would be to find something to keep you busy. Do you have a job/hobbies?
>i've talked to about a dozen therapists/psychiatrists/psychologists, but all they can do it put me on more meds that arent working.
eventually they'd find a pill that worked, even if it has to be one that straight up make you too stupid to hear the voices.
Punt your own grandmother in the skull.
I'm having a lot of mixed feelings about what happened last night. I'm just wondering if anyone wants to listen to story and help me out. I don't think she would be browsing /adv/ so I'm probably safe here.
Go ahead.
>>16462147
Thanks anon friend. I'll try my best to keep this to the point:
>Me: Make an ad, on CL have the house for a few weeks, technically a virgin, just horny and want to bang
>Her: In long distance relationship, just wants sex, BF completely okay, she mentions that she wants just straight up good sex with communication, but knows I'm inexperienced
>Last night, she comes over. It's kind of fucking awkward, but it never goes as planned right?
>We agree we wanna do it, go upstairs, I've drank a lot of water at this point, turn lights off and start kissing/clothes off
>Only had two condoms, same brand, surprisingly they were too small for me... got me limp trying to fit them on
>We decide that we'll just go no condom, she's not on birth control but does pull out method with BF, I get hard again
>We do some things then take a break and I go limp again and go to pee
>We had some really good parts where I was absolutely slamming her in cowgirl, skin slapping just going as hard as a can and I also went really hard in doggy
>But I kept going limp in between, so most of the time we just cuddled. We laughed a lot at each other but it was awkward.
>Neither of us came, she decided it was late and she walked home. I kind of wanted more but she was done
I just feel like shit from this. I know I'm 99% never going to see this chick again, but I just feel disappointed and embarrassed with what happened and what went down.
I just feel like a complete loser for doing it this way.
>>16462171
And just a thanks to adv, you guys have helped me in the past. You all are really nice for spending your time here and helping people out.
>Had a crazy busy couple of weeks
>Saturday rolls around
>Everyone's out if the house all day today
>Girlfriend is out looking at a college
>Looks like I'm gonna have the afternoon to myself.
>Getting kinda hyped for it
>Girlfriend gets home a lot earlier than I expected.
>Asks to hangout
>Tell her the truth, that I was hoping just to have some me time this afternoon
>She gets really upset
>She tells me she was really looking forward to telling me about everything today.
>"Well, were hanging out tomorrow, we can talk about it then. Or if you want I can call you a little later tonight and talk about it."
>"K, whatever, I'll just call someone else."
Did I fuck up or is she overreacting?
Over reacting for sure. It is exciting for her, and you probably understand that. But it's not bad to want a little time for yourself.
>>16462051
>Did I fuck up
depends on how much you care how upset she is anon.
She'll probably remember this and be spiteful as fuck.
>>16462056
And what I don't get why is waiting until tomorrow or a little later tonight to talk about it such a big deal.
Short summary:
>be male, 23 years old
>meet current gf 1 year ago
>we are very different. I'm a very rational, analytic, calm. She is very emotional, creative and unhappy with being idle
>her behavior raises some red flags but nothing too severe
>she finishes high school (not USA) and has to wait about 5 months to start college
Now comes the problem
>basically it was too hard and she quit, frantically looking for something else
>she moves away 1 month ago and starts her new apprenticeship 4 car hours away from my place against my and her parents' advice
>after about 3 weeks she realizes it sucks dick despite everyone warning her about the fishy job description beforehand
And just now this happened
>talking over skype
>I tell her to quit and move back with her parents
>she spergs out because her family was so "gruesome" with her, apparently her brother threatened to kill her for some petty bullshit
>I'm in college still and live in a small flat, don't earn enough money to support her yet
>I offer her to move to my place regardless, but under the condition that she cuts contact with her abusive family
>she spergs out and doesn't want to move to me anymore
>she mentions a male friend of hers that she could move to
>I call her out on this bullshit
>she starts saying dumb shit like my sister being an animal abuser because she's in an equestrian sports club
>she quotes some PETA article about horse races and high-end equestrian sports as proof
>I tell her PETA regularly kills animals in their shelters, with source
>she actually says that makes them slightly worse than my sister
>I tell her to shut her dumb mouth, especially since she has never met my sister before
>she doesn't regret saying it
>I ragequit skype and I'm fuming about this dumb cunt's behavior
Now what the fuck do I do? To be honest I want to just end this shit, she's been complaining about everything lately and apparently it's also all my fault. She wants to shittalk my only sister. (cont.)
So break up with her?
>>16462000
>move in
>male friend
You've been getting keked. She most assuredly already has the green light from him if she is bringing it up with you. Which implies that she and this guy have been talking and hanging out regularly which further implies she is probably cheating on you.
Just use her for sex while at the same time looking for a better girl with better qualities. No need to cut off a gf if the sex is good.
im really awkward and only have one friend and Im spending my birthday weekend alone. I need more friends but im too scared to make some. Can anyone give me advice on how i can overcome my fears
hi, i can be your friend
Me too
>>16462536
really?!? I would honestly love one
OY OY OY OY!
It's me the great and mighty Kamina here again after many years.
It's been, I wanna say, four years since I've been on here and I suddenly got the inspiration to start these threads back up again!
You know the drill!
Post your problems and I'll do my best to solve them!
It's good to see you all again by the way.
>you know the drill
i get it.
i cant find leipäjuusto at whole foods
>>16461685
Holy shit
Can someone please help me understand my situation.
So I've been talking to this girl. She approached me at a party and then later added me on Facebook and gave me her number. We started flirting a bit but also had some genuine conversation. We hung out about a week later ended up fucking. Before fucking we actually had a talk about how we both enjoy each other's company and don't want shit to be weird after we fuck. We both agree the sex could be a casual thing. So she stayed the night and we fucked a couple more times talking about in between each go. We agreed it was really great and that it'd be fun to do again. So after that we kept texting. Kept flirting but also having real conversations. Then she started telling me she missed me. She would ask if she could come back over soon. She would use pet names like "love" and "baby." I thought it was really sweet so I played along. Then she texted me one morning being flirty so I told her to come over when I got off work. She liked the idea and asked if I could pick her up. I said yeah. Then when the time came to pick her up she started being very flaky and it's been strange ever since. She doesn't ever text me first anymore and when I text her I only get disinterested short responses. I thought maybe she just lost interest and thought that was really weird in itself that she would be all in to me one day and indifferent the next.
But then last night she texted me addressing me as "love" being cute again. We had a short conversation but I fell asleep. I responded to her in the morning when I woke up but she read it and didn't reply. I know she was drunk last night so that explains the text but it also must mean I'm still on her mind.
What is going on? Why did she suddenly stop making any effort to talk to me? I really would love to maintain this friendship even if the sex stops but it seems like she doesn't even want to chat casually anymore.
Is there anyway I can ask her about this without seeming too needy?
>>16461511
Just tell her if you won't see her today, you will put a fork in it and move on forever. That will be very clear and extremely unneedy. Make sure she won't think you're joking either.
She probably developed feelings for you and thinks she's making things weird. She got drunk and texted you which means her inhibitions of being weird were gone cause of the alcohol.
You gotta talk to her in person to get a better grasp on her true feelings.
>>16461525
I agree but how do I do that if she won't hang out with me? My only chance is running into her this weekend at a party but then I feel like if I try to pull her to the side to talk I'll seem really needy and obsessed
How do you stop wanting a grill you have no hope of getting with?
>>16461345
walk up to her and tell her
the age old question
but yeah it actually might help to tell her
>>16461345
you move to other town, college or change you job place
I just want to talk.
For starters, I'm fairly mentally unstable, and have been depressed for a long time, but never suicidal, except for recently.
Things have been going south, fighting with my girlfriend, father and aunt dying, didn't get a job I wanted, everything is fucking shit.
Is this what life will be like for me, for the rest of my life? Struggling with family, friends and other relationships?
It just seems so tedious and painful.
literally the only thing I had to look up to was my girlfriend, and right now, things are looking grim between us.
>>16461058
This isnt going to be a long reply.
Im only going to give you some general adv.
1) life is really shit. Like mega shit. Learning to deal with it and the situations it presents is what helps us grow and develop as humans.
2) depending on anyone else for YOUR happiness with a horrible idea and its not fair to that person. I would even say its the primary reason why relationships fail. Try finding happiness within yourself.
Im not going to carry on with this, what i will day is GL it took me 10 years of theropy and alot of relationships before i figured those 2 things out.
>>16461078
Thanks. I'm in therapy for my issues atm, but it's just hard. Once every 2 - 3 weeks just isn't cutting it for me.
Been diagnosed major depressive for years and I can feel you there lost both my parents within the last 3 years I've moved so much nowhere feels like home and any activities feel like a waste of time I've isolated from the world and it hurts and I don't know how to live anymore life is megashit just know if you do commit suicide your putting the pain you feel on someone else's plate people will feel guilty for not being able to help you its really the only thing that keeps me from going through with it
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complex's are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
Just in case it dies in the old thread
There's a guy who I get along well, and he'd usually be my kind of guy, but he's shorter than me by a bit. I want to keep him as a friend, but I'm worried if he starts wanting more out of our relationship and I don't really want to tell him its just because he's shorter than me.
>>16460986
Men
Are you attracted to girls that are vulnereable ?
Do you consider a 27 year old woman to be too old for you?
>>16460893
In a drunken haze I told one of my female friends How badly I want to kill myself. Femanons, what're the odds she tells everyone
Is there anybody else that really dislikes when people are affectionate to you? It really bothers me. I don't like when people compliment me, give me gifts, hug me, wish me Happy Birthday or other holidays, or really anything else. I purposefully work on holidays so I have less interaction with people on special days. I've had several people over the course of the past year tell me "you need to get a girlfriend" but I don't want one because it would fail anyways. I don't really know what advice I'm asking for, just curious if I'm the only one
Anyone?
Therapy.
Sounds like a depresso-anxiety mix.
>>16460740
It's weird tho, because I'm completely fine being around people when I'm working. But when I'm off work, I don't want to be around ANYONE. And that's when my what you call "depresso-anxiety" kicks in. It doesn't make sense to me. I've thought about therapy, and I even started looking online for a shrink but I don't feel comfortable paying to sit in a room with a stranger and tell them everything. I feel more comfortable talking to you all
Hey /adv/
So just a few hours ago I completely destroyed my forearm and wrist during a Football game. The doc told me I had little chance of ever doing contact sports, as well as basketball and baseball, ever again. They suggested that during my recovery time that I try and find a new "hobby". But aside from Track season and playing guitar I have nothing to really do from now on. I don't really know of any after school activities that pique my attention. Do any of you have any good ideas on what I can put my time into and not regret later?
Also broken bone/dislocations general I guess.
>>16460621
Wtf happened?
So, there is this Tumblr girl who said she would do a topless sign for me if I guess her breast size at the first try.
Any idea what size she might be? I'll share the pic if I get!
another
>>16460007
32 DD I'd say. Maybe EE?
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How should I go about stop giving a fuck about literally everything. Many people would say how lucky I am to have an opportunity to learn yada yada. But fuck them.. they don't fucking know how much I bust my ass off every single day, to still failing in all of the shit I am learning and then getting bad grades in the end.
>>16459003
Consider what impact your giving a fuck has on the world around you. What is the net benefit of the fucks you've given? In most cases you'll find that it isn't even a null set, but solely a negative on your mental well being.
The next time you decide to give a fuck, take note of it, and carefully weigh the outcome for future reference.
So does that forum even have anything that'll help neets or is it just a place for neets to be neets? Cause a neet is something I'm trying not to be, knowing more neets isn't gonna help that cause.
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