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How do I get over anger? I'm the typical angry little shit.
>Awful abusive parents
>Awful life choices
>Procrastination in key life events
>Stuck at home until I can get a job good enough to support me or I graduate college
>Awful luck with girls
It feels like I only see red. Walking through my house all I do is shoot dirty, threatening looks at everyone, but not because I'm a jerk, but because if...
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>>16468396
get rid of your ego...
you need to accomplish shit to get over your anger. Get a job, move out of your parents, pay your debts, find a good girl, fug her
then your anger will disappear, in the meantime... just try not to do anything that will make your situation worse. example: breaking the law, getting into unnecessary conflicts, interacting with shitty people.
>>16468396
37. Thus, in order to avoid serious psychological problems, a human
being needs goals whose attainment requires effort, and he must have a
reasonable rate of success in attaining his goals.
>>16468432
I keep trying, I can't find a job after the last one I had a few months ago. I'm still looking, while I continue school. I have no luck with girls and honestly I don't think I'd care if I had the money for a hooker every now and then.
I don't know how to get rid of an ego. Or even how to approach that mentally. All I can think is kill and ostensible future success.
>Girl starts snapchatting me
>Sends me pic of her thigh gap, talks about sex a lot, asking me my preferences, saying she has condoms, all that
>Wants the d.jpg
>Stay with her one night, nothing happens
>Feel like it was my fault, say I get a do-over
>She stays at my place the week after, nothing happens
>That night, say something to the extent of asking if we're...
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>>16468383
>Starts talking about sex
>Still attached to her sex
>Not going to fuck you immediately
>Explicitly says she wants to be friends
I won't even be harsh, just stop talking to her. You don't need to play into that bullshit.
>its not like I can just kiss her out of nowhere and instigate that shit when we're chilling right?
Nigger are you 4 real?
You really think a girl is going to initiate sex with you? The whole girls are sluts things have affected girls and for the worse, in their fucking stupid minds they believe if they don't initiate shit they are not a slut and they was raped making it a-okay.
The key to fucking a girl in the modern age is to actually fuck her, there is no sitting about waiting for her to say "Yes anon you can put it in the warphole of pleasure"
Kiss that bitch, tell her snap chats are often faked and you gotta check out the real goods with your own eyes, and if she seems uncomfortable be the alpha your dad was when he convinced your mum to let him go bareback and go wild on that bitch until shes begging you for the D.
You literally went full Beta and friendzone material when she arrived, if it's that hard for you discuss fucking over texts so it's already planned for you when she arrives.
You won't get any pussy sitting there awkwardly waiting for her to do anything.
>>16468465
I'm leaning more toward >>16468458 , but also feel like the fact she wanted it in the first place means I still have a chance. I dunno though.
>Dated girls of other races (East Asian, Indian to be specific) in the past
>These days just want to be with a girl of my own race
Anyone else know this feel /adv/?
Is it common?
Is it natural? I just feel much more comfortable around white girls. Little things like body language are so much more comprehensible.
>>16468340
No shame in having preferences. It's not a reflection on your character. A basic building block for a relationship is being comfortable with the person you're dating.
>>16468344
Hypocritically, I don't really like it when white women date non-white men, but that's not an issue if I'm with a girl who hasn't dated interracially.
I think that's ok. I'm way more sexually attracted to guys of other races, but i also feel more comfortable around white boys, I hate myself for that.....
Boyfriends being super sketchy with his ex, she's sending me screen shots of him saying i'm jealous and insecure when she likes his shit (which is true, she needs to fuck off) but now I just don't feel right about this at all.
Honestly /adv/, when you're in a relationship with someone why is communicating with your ex necessary? my ex and i are on friendly terms but we don't talk. she messages him every few months and it's irritating. Why can't he just tell her to fuck off? She also told me a bunch of shit I never knew about which is fucking...
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I also really don't wanna have to go through a break up during end of semester times. I'm already stressed out enough and now thinking about this is fucking with me
>>16468316
>every few months
You are just insecure. This is a normal level of contact.
>>16468316
>she's sending me screen shots of him saying i'm jealous and insecure when she likes his shit
How did that conversation go? Both of them laughing about it, or him just venting or something?
I'm not a hunk but I'm not that unattractive am I ? I've been rejected alot lately and been getting no replies for about 6 months on my okc I'm really trying to put myself out there
>>16468300
No homo but you need to grow out your hair bro. And possibly shave.
>>16468300
>I've been rejected alot lately
might I know how you engage in a conversation with a woman?
>>16468300
Grow out your hair or grow out your beard. You're not ugly, but you don't have the right hair for your face.
Sup /adv/, i could use some insight, I'm a community college student and i hate it. i hate going waking up early, going to school and knowing that I'm wasting my time. My credits most likely won't transfer to a real college, the classes I'm taking are boring or otherwise stupid (i haven't learned anything useful), and i feel like all I'm doing is wasting time and my mom's money.
I have a good idea of what i want to be in life and that goal is will take time and money to achieve. I feel like i would rather get a shitty job and help my family...
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>education that won't mean anything
>credits won't transfer to a real college
The fuck are you doing? On both fronts. I would never waste time at a CC that isn't at least recognized by state schools, and I would never waste time in college if I didn't believe the degree I was working towards was beneficial.
What do you want to be in life, anyway? 99.99% of all jobs require education, whether that's school or sticking your face in manuals and how-to books, so I pray that you...
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>>16468264
I'm hoping on just owning a convenience store, i very much doubt that requires a real education.
The community college i am going to is recognised, maybe i phrased it wrong. Some of my classes or credits nost likely won't transfer into a business school which i was planning on doing before realizing that it's a shitty waste of time.
The only course i really like is my history class and that's about it, the rest of my classes suck.
I realize that i don't know what I'm doing in...
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>>16468298
If you think owning a convenience store doesn't require at least self-teaching, you're in for a rude awakening. That's owning a business, and it comes with the same problems owning any other business does.
Well, I guess that depends on the school and the system. Me personally, I can transfer my credits to any school in my state(Maryland) with virtually no hassle.
Take fun classes. Taking classes we hate is part of life unfortunately. Either try to satisfy your credit req with a more interesting...
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I keep having these terrible terrible dreams and I don't know why
they are no night terrors, I have had those as well; but these are just dreams
if I was to put them on a scale of 1-10, a genocide would be a six
that is how bad they are
after I have one I can't eat or sleep for days, I feel like killing myself just to get them out of my head, and I get flashbacks of them in other dreams afterwards
The only posible medical cause is sleep apnea.
>>16468221
I do not think the cause is medical, If I did I would ask my doctor
I asked him if there was anything I could take to stop me dreaming, and he started quizing me
like a baker who tried to force bread down your throat
>>16468257
>>16468257
>I asked him if there was anything I could take to stop me dreaming, and he started quizing me
>like a baker who tried to force bread down your throat
lol what are you saying
see a therapist
TL;DR: I have no idea what to do with my life and it's stressing me out. I don't want a 9-5 white collar job or to be stuck in a routine but knowing that doesn't help me much. Right now every career I can think about looks dim and uninteresting in the long term.
I'm in my first year of college studying something I don't like and I'd like to do something else but I don't know what.
My family tells me I should get into law because I'd be good at it (I'm a Frenchfag, and the law industry here isn't as bloated as in the...
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Just follow your heart, that's what I always do
>>16468440
I don't think I should just say "fuck it" and enlist, that doesn't sound like a very good course of action.
I'm somewhat in the same boat. I'm a Maltafag, trying to make it as an actor thanks to all the work coming in. Problem is while I have some credits, It's still rare (this year had 4 roles) and a whole lotta nothing in between. I also don't know what the fuck to do with my life in between as if I rely on the acting money only (it's great but not frequent), I will never make enough money to be able to move to a European country and try my luck advancing my career there.
The best think I can tell you is this: try everything until something sticks....
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A female friend of mine is trying to dump her current bf, but has been unsuccessful in making him understand its over.
>She does not trust him
>She is getting assaulted by him (leaving visible marks)
>She has solid information about him having cheated on her, but no actual evidence of it (word against word)
>She is not allowed to do certain activities or "accidentally" miss his calls, or he gets very mad at her.
Even if I feel...
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>>16468132
If ass kickings aren't working then I'm not sure what else will.
>>16468155
Abusive relationships are more common than what we believe, at least that is my take of this the past few months.
The only way I would think of breaking them up would be to have an intervention with only the closest friends. But that may not be a good idea.
And why is she still talking to him?
Been posting about my ex and deleting her on snapchat, and how i just deleted her skype yesterday thanks to you guys. 2 year relationship, broke up 6 weeks ago, because of distance
Well she just added me back and sent me a snapchat pic this morning, a pic of her face saying "hey".
Out of reaction i already sent back a pic of me (with a cool city background!) saying hey. Whatever.
Anyways, trying to think what to do next. Im still hurting about her and now she sends me a pic, for some reason im feeling like it was an accident or some shit although that...
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Tldr my ex who im pining after sent me a pic on snapchat saying hi, what do?
>>16468118
its bait...
You deleted her so you could move on. If she messages you with "hey" its bait to see if you are still interested. If staying in contact with her doesn't benefit you in anyway then don't respond.
Benefit you as in, she wants to fug or buy you shit or serve you in some way.
>>16468145
lol true. i probably shouldnt have responded but fuck, i was caught off gaurd...shit. now she probably thinks im a needy fuck, doesnt she? i just sent back a pic saying hey.
should i just forget and block? wait?
god damnit, why the fuck would she "bait" me, is she a cold fucking bitch? this better not be the case.
loser virgin here, but a woman wants to sleep with me.
Any tips or advice on what to do to prepare for when she and I meet up? Im a fish out of water here
Tell her how pretty she is, and why it is that you think so.
>>16468194
i mean like prepare myself physically, anything i should besides the obvious?
She's aware I'm a virgin
>>16468112
She's made it clear she wants to sleep with you and she knows you're a virgin? Nice.
Just try not to say anything awkward or stupid, try to let her know you find her attractive and that you really wanna fuck her without coming across as desperate or weird.
First of all, I'm a female, 23 years old. My problem is my underlying mental issues. Basically what I got is a mix of being autistic, insecure and bipolar with some narcissist traits. I'm a pathological liar (I do that to protect myself and give a better impression, but I'm not actually especially mean nor aggressive or anything.) and the closest circle of people around me changes frequently. People tend to like me at first, I seem to be social, funny and charismatic, but I can't hide my real personality traits forever, so at some point people just disappear around me.
Which I understand, but due to my shattered personality, I find it hard to be what others would call normal. I don't know how people generally view me, and honestly I'm scared to think about it.
I'm not traumatized in my childhood or anything, this is just who I am and what I'm like. I got a family background filled with asperger's syndrome and bipolar disorder, so it's no wonder that I'm like this.
I can not possibly expect someone to deal with me. And to be honest, I don't wanna make myself go through the unstable and out of control like feelings when I develop feelings on someone. If having a crush causes a chemical storm to your brain, my brains gets even more messed up than that. And that state of mind has driven me to do so much crazy shit, fucked up my relationships and eventually made me sadder than anything else.
So I need to avoid that, in order to stay as a functioning and somewhat normal person. It's also almost impossible to date anyone seriously due my constantly changing mood, opinions and fluctuating self-esteem. I either feel superior or inferior, which makes me wanna push everyone away.
>>to be continued
Luckily my personality comes with certain good aspects too. But the fact is, that I have to give up on my dreams of having a family. I can never be a stable and normal spouse, I'll always have my own goofy habits and features. I definitely can't be a good mother. I love children and always wanted to have ones of my own, but I also know myself well enough to realize that I couldn't possibly be a good mother in the long term. I'd be selfish to have a child, and possibly making him to inherit my troublesome personality.
But how do I make peace with this? I always dremt about starting a family, but the truth is that I have to focus on other goals and aspirations in life. Luckily I got a few, but I still find myself checking at interesting men and dreaming about being loved and touched again. (I've never had a real boyfriend, but I have dated men in the past. I'm 24 years old.) I wish I could just stop wishing for approval from the opposite sex.
>>16468108
Luckily my personality comes with certain good aspects too. But the fact is, that I have to give up on my dreams of having a family. I can never be a stable and normal spouse, I'll always have my own goofy habits and features. I definitely can't be a good mother. I love children and always wanted to have ones of my own, but I also know myself well enough to realize that I couldn't possibly be a good mother in the long term. I'd be selfish to have a child, and possibly making him to inherit my troublesome personality.
But how do I make peace with this? I always dremt about starting a family, but the truth is that I have to focus on other goals and aspirations in life. Luckily I got a few, but I still find myself checking at interesting men and dreaming about being loved and touched again. (I've never had a real boyfriend, but I have dated men in the past. I'm 24 years old.) I wish I could just stop wishing for approval from the opposite sex.
bumb, accidentally posted part. 2 twice.
Is it OK to be an alcoholic of alcohol helps suppress something that is worse? So really it could boil down to being the lesser of two evils?
absolutely
its fucking legal for christ sake
we didnt make this situation, we're dealing with it.
What's the other evil? You a serial killer?
>>16468030
Yeah. The feelings im trying to get rid of are highly illegal , so justification righ t there.
please, advice, im scared to death of getting AIDS
>be birthday
>go to a gay sauna
>crowded as fuck, only ugly +40 yrs old
>suddenly I saw a pretty cute twink, 18-19 yrs old (I'm 23) next to the dark room
>I stare into his eyes and he does the same, he wants my dick
>since its crowed by ugly old chasers, I made him follow me to a private room
>I...
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please, help ;_;
You probably got AIDS. Don't be worried though, this is natural selection at work.
Get tested as soon as you can, it's the only way for you to be sure
My first uni girlfriend just broke up with me because she said we rushed into it and she doesn't know if she wants this right now and wants to find herself. I know the real reason and it's because I couldn't satisfy in the bedroom due to my problems with low libido, premature ejaculation and moderate erectile dysfunction.
She was the best thing that happened to me here, and she probably made me the happiest I've ever felt. She was way out of my league and actually started the whole relationship herself. she was the one that texted me first etc etc...
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What's wrong with putting in some effort from now on?
>>16468029
Nothing, it came across wrong. My point was meant to be that if I can't make it work when I basically didn't have to put effort into starting the whole thing off, how am I going to make it work when I actually do?
You should've put more effort in. Did you masturbate frequently OP?
