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>tfw gf makes fun of you for frequenting circuits and go karting , owning own kart and gear
It's childish but sounds pretty fun. Don't worry about what she thinks of it
autism speaks
Probably doing the usual female thing of envying how you have lots of fun and she doesn't.
Coworker is on vacation, texted me (we're pretty friendly, have hung out before.) He texted asking how I was doing, and i didn't respond. I didn't because I was studying, then I woke up the next day went to a doctor's appointment, then straight to an out of class test, then I was late to me my brother at our new apartment.
He sent me "You know what I hate? When you know people always have their phone on them and they ignore your texts."
I sometimes don't respond to texts because I'm fucking busy. I work full-time plus overtime,...
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>>16466285
Instead of venting to adv about it, why don't you tell him to fuck off and say you're busy ayyyyy
>>16466285
It depends on what outcome you want.
Do you want to stay friends and keep hanging out or do you not mind the chance that you might hurt your friendship?
>>16466302
If he wasn't my coworker I would tell him to fuck off and quit being a bitch. He is really nice to me and I like him, I want to stay friendly but this isn't a crucial friendship I'm desperately trying to preserve.
Twelve weeks into one of my classes, professor decides he's going to fail me for attendance reasons. I've missed maybe 6-7 classes, but currently have an 85% B. He pretty much teaches straight from the book, which is evident in the fact that I've managed to maintain a respectable grade without showing up. Why does he think his lectures are so fucking important?!
Really not trying to retake this class...
Lol you signed up for it. Either attend the class or drop it. It's not stupid that your professor is failing you for a lack of attendance, you're being stupid by not showing up when it was clearly established that attendance is mandatory.
If attendance is in the syllabus you're fucked
if it isn't and you're passing the class without attending class you're managing time ideally. Go make an appointment with a counselor and explain the situation non-emotionally and rationally.
>>16466258
>spend money
>don't do thing you spent money on
Yeah, the professor sure is the dumb one here. Enjoy your mediocre life if this is the level of responsibility you show already.
Just be yourself, no one should ever judge you for being yourself. I am an obese person, but I am being myself, so no one should judge me because I am being myself. I am single, but I am being myself, so no one should judge me because I am being myself. I am awkward and have a bad appearance, but I am being myself, so no one should judge me because I am being myself. I do not want to wear a suit to my job as I am being myself, myself wants to just wear boxers and a shirt to the job. I am just being myself. People always tell me to just be myself and everything will be fine....
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1. accept the things you can't change
2. work on the things you can change
3. stop taking pointless shit so seriously. "just be yourself" is just one of those meaningless things people say.
>>16466171
I don't really understand what advice you're asking for, or what you're asking in general.
I agree? For the most part, people are who they choose to be, and if what they are is bad, they ought to change it?
Hey /adv/, 19 year old college drop out here. Diagnosed Bipolar. No money, moving with a big family to a small apartment somewhere in NY soon. Not a good situation.
Painting keeps me sane. Makes me feel okay. Keeps me away from drugs. Lets me escape. Thing is I need a place to live, food on the table. Can't hold a job, psychiatrists haven't been working with insurance company and pharmacy to help me get medication. They've prescribed it, then dodge each other during the bureaucratic process. I should have gotten Latuda weeks ago.
Anyway, currently in Northern NJ, no idea what I can do to sell my work. Tried Patreon, people only seem to be interested in stylized cartoons and quick gimmicks. Tried a local art show (there was one and it rarely happens) but it wasn't an actual art show, ended up being a family event kind of thing with a tiny wall of "art", would have been lucky to sell for $20.
What do I even do? I don't want or need emotional support from family (they wouldn't give it, father doesn't believe in mental illness, mother pretends to believe in it but cares more about social status and what people say), no friends, its just me.
Pic related, piece I finished yesterday. Am I just destined for an eventual suicide?
Try Etsy.
Show your work on Deviantart or any other art platform.
>>16466198
Will do.
What can I do for in person stuff?
>>16466220
Talk with local galleries about having a show. Price things beforehand and stick with your prices. If you don't want to sell your art for 20$ when you have it priced for 100$ DONT. Dont undervalue your work because you think it wont sell.
My city has a "first friday" where galleries are open later to showcase local artists, I think most major cities have these. Google it and search for places local to you, go ask the business owners in person if you can have a showing on the next available slot.
I think I want to start smoking. Would it be safer to start with e-cigarettes, or is it as bad as tobacco? Should I take up the hobby at all?
>>16466143
e-cigs are safer, but the habit becomes expensive either way
>>16466143
E-cigs have been proven to be worse.
I'm not going to even bother linking the studies because it's apparent you're so fucking lazy you can't even do a fucking google search for peer reviewed articles.
The safest form of smoking is vaping, despite the rep you'll get from doing it.
Do i have a nice body???. Advice needed
looks like you need some appreciation
>>16466076
Nice enough for a trap.
>>16466076
>>>/reddit/
>>>/soc/
I'm so fed up with my girlfriend smoking, it makes my blood boil, especially at social events. Especially when she tells our daughter "Go be drug free", and I'm just like "Holy shit, are you serious right now?". What do I do, besides leaving, to make her stop? Give me something guys, anything. :/
did she start smoking before or after you got into the relationship? because if it's before you pretty much fucked up right there
Get over it or break up. Just like you can't make someone lose weight, you'll never win the fight against cigarettes.
>>16466037
she smoked once in a blue moon. like, a pack could last a year. now she smokes every single day.
So this will be a long read, but bear with me.
>be me, 27
>been single for 6 years, full abstinence
>start dating this girl i've known a few months
>she lives a few towns away
>just mutual friends until then
>things are going great
>3rd date, we both are having a great time
>lay my arm around her
>things...
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>>16465882
sage
>>16465882
>next day
>we meet up with some friends to have some drinks
>good times, i leave her some distance
>later, try to get in contact with her
>she's somewhat shy at first, but finally ends up kissing me in front of our friends
>three days later
>can't get her out of my head, can't...
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>>16465899
>next weekend, we meet again
>go to a museum, then go to a bar
>try to make some contact, putting my arm around her
>she doesn't refuse
>end up watching a movie at her place
>cuddle on the couch, dancing fingertips and such
>both just watching the movie, nothing more
>I stay at her place overnight, no more fondling though
>next morning, we go get breakfast in a cafe
>we have a good talk, everything's ok (?)
>she says goodbye to me at the subway
>just a hug when i try to kiss her
>maybe i was too vague
>same day, in the evening
>i call her and ask if everything's alright?
>"what do you mean?"
>tell her she seemed kinda unresponsive to my approaches and after what happened the weekend before
>she's glad i bring it up and explains that she wasn't thinking about how her pace would be too fast for someone else
>says she was just really tired, but that she's very comfortable with me but doesn't wanna declare anything more definite at this time
>tell her it's fine and that I also like her very much
>we settle to just go along and see how things are going
>I feel like having built a wall between us, kinda awkward
Apparently I'm not supposed to feel any anger or hatred over recent events. How do I become unemotional like everyone else?
Either recognize the lack of personal impact or, if you were personally impacted, concentrate more on those affected and not on the perpetrators.
>>16465673
>if you were personally impacted, concentrate more on those affected and not on the perpetrators.
Bullshit, join the french foreign legion; they're about to destroy those responsible for the mass murders. Those ISIS dogs won't stop until they're put down.
If I was personally impacted by those extremist thugs, nothing would stop me from getting my revenge.
>>16465691
>OP asks how to become emotional
>Be emotional
You're like a Sith with poor reading comprehension.
I need someone to talk to /adv/. I'm tired of feeling alone and worthless. I'm not a virgin, i'm not socially awkward, and I think i'm somewhat decently attractive. I've had sex with well over 20 girls but at the same time that doesn't really mean anything to me. I wan't someone who I can just vibe with and connect with mentally. Every time I like a girl it just falls through and goes nowhere. I can provide pics if people want to see more
>>16465585
I'm in the same boat, so you're not alone.
And we're certainly not worthless.
>>16465585
>>>/facebook/
>>>/soc/
>>>/trash/
Actually I'm in the same boat as well. I'm in a relationship right now that I know isn't going to end up anywhere but I'm too content with it to end it.
![male-and-female-relationship-sign[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/7GvzxZ7.jpg "male-and-female-relationship-sign[1].jpg")
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Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get...
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Iv'e been in a 8 week class that lasts 1 hour and 30 mins each week. i like this girl and try to be friendly to her but there is hardly anytime at all to talk.
the class ends next week
should i ask for her number even if i don't know her too well or would it seem a little awkward?
TLDR: should i ask for a girls number even though i don't know her that much?
>>16465537
What do you have to lose? The worst she can do is say no
Girls, how romantically successful do you think you'd be if you had been born a man?
My friends think I'm a physically abuse asshole now.
>Came just home drunk, friends broguht me there to crash.
>Sister got upset at me.
>Usually when I'm drunk I get weird and little "feely" with people .
>Friends tell me she was sat ng I had a drinking problem, and that made me me upset.
>I'm not sure if this is true, but considered how pissed she is now , there's a chance it happened...
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>>16465369
Oh gross
I hate drunk people
>>16465392
Hey don't group me with him, I have an alcohol immunity.
>>16465369
Stop drinking.
Better than going to jail.
So my girlfriend told me she was "raped" a few years back (before we even met) but I just don't know if her story could be considered raped.
She told me she had a friend that was obsessed with her but she wouldn't sleep with him. One day, he showed up to her house drunk to talk to her but she didn't want to talk to him, but let him inside the house anyways. Once she got tired of listening to him, she pretended to go to sleep to see if he would shut up and leave. Instead, he took down her pants and fucked her while she pretended to be asleep. She...
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>>16465281
>girl psycho
I guess you've never heard of "yes means yes". This is now the law in New York State.
Unless sex is between two CONSENTING adults, the act is rape.
>>16465281
Think of it from her perspective, a friend whom she trusted was willing to take advantage of her thinking she was sleeping. That's fucking sick, and she was probably too scared to say or do anything because, realistically, if this guy was willing to take advantage of her like that, who knows what he might have done if she tried to force him off.
So ya, I would consider that rape. Rape isn't always rough and holding a girl (or guy) down and 'forcing' them, it's mainly mental and the...
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>weird name
>wrong race
>thousand mile stare
ITT list things people say are wrong about you
>>16464787
>>weird name
Tell them they have an uninteresting faggot-name.
>>wrong race
What the fuck does this mean? You don't act white/black/Asian etc.? Just go full Dumblr on them and say they're being a racist for telling you how you should act based on ethnicity/skin color. Unless you're mixed, in which case still call them a racist. Go full Leftist/SJW.
>>thousand mile stare
Just don't...
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>>16464787
With the staring, is it when you talk to them? When talking to someone, you look around, look at their mouth, eyes, somewhere behind them, etc. You don't have to stare at them.
I know lots of Asians that give themselves a Western nickname.
Nothing wrong with your race unless you're making a big deal out of it.
>>16464830
>>16464857
I moved from the country to a uni that is mostly asian. It was ok at first, but no one will talk to me and they're all very rich. I failed an assessment once and the administrator said I should reconsider whether I need to be there 'because you have such a different background to the rest of the student body'. I think I'll just move back home when I'm done, I can get a job there.
I think I might try to interested look thing....
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