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I have been diagnosed of a terminal brain cancer (tumor half the size of my cerebellum), and feel like a fucking burden.
What's the least expensive way for me to kill myself before my family and wife's family decide to get involved?
keyword: feel
Don't kill yourself. It'll literally make your family feel like total shit, wayyyyyyy more shitty than they will if you die if brain cancer. You aren't doing anyone a favor, you're spitting in the face of all the people around you who care about you. Don't ruin your memory with that shit. Spend the time you've been gifted with your family. So unless you want your wife and everyone in your family to go through that shit then enjoy what you have left, for their sake.
>>16467905
It's worse wasting money on a lost cause. If you see it my way, kill myself will only cause suffering for a certain amount of time whereas if they try keeping me alive and waste ridiculous (and I mean RIDICULOUS) amount of money, it will be a constant suffering.
Just thought of buying those suicide pills, but they don't sell it on my state, bummer.
Is it harsh that i didnt want to reply to a girl because i didnt find her attractive?
Pic unrelated
depends
post what you'd be replying to
>>16467845
Just some girl on the street dont even know her but did not have a good face at all plus im really fuckin tired. But now im thinkin i shoulda responded cause her personality couldve made up for it. Feel really vain but i cant force myself to be attracted to someone
>>16467860
eh harsh but fair I suppose without knowing more
give some people an inch and they take a mile. better to not encourage them. On the otherhand I've had women get pretty close to psycho on me because they felt I ignored them, so be careful.
I need terrible pick up lines to help my mate get a grill. What are the worst ones you know?
If you were a booger, I'd pick you first.
How much does a polar bear weigh? Enough to break the ice; hi I'm [anon]
Whale hello, it's dolphinitely nice to meet you!
If I had to guess, I bet your phone number is 3. Oh it's not? Well what is it then?
That's all I've got. With some conversation finesse I've actually been kind of successful with these.
you sit in a pile of sugar cuz you got a pretty sweet ass
Do you work at Subway? Because you give me a footlong.
>Girl with daddy issues
>Her bf breaks up with her
>She comes on to me buying food for me, trying to cling to my arm, tells me she loves me etc
>Text with her on random things, make her laugh
>Dares me to send a dick pic. Did not
>Ask her if she had feelings for me. Tells me "I dunno"
>Tell her that i have feelings for her
>Tells me an hour later that shes going out with some emo fag
>Tells me she feels sorry for me
>Breaks up with him 2 weeks later
>Tells me that two years difference is why we cant be together. Shes 20, Im 18,
>Goes out with 6 guys in span of 8 months, all older or same age as her
>Tells me its awkward and will most likely always will be
>Gets mad at me for something I didn't do
>Someone told her something I didn't know
>She won't tell me what I did
>We argue and stop texting for a couple months
>After those two months, she texts me "I'm past it. I'm not mad at you anymore
>Occasionally text each other now
What do?
avoid her, she sounds awful
Okay Freud, relax with the daddy issues shit. Not every girl has that as the source of her problems.
>Goes out with 6 guys in span of 8 months, all older or same age as her
AVOID OP AVOID
Major red flag. Just be friends, nothing more. Anyone who goes through that many people that quickly is not someone you want to be with. Trust me it'll save you a lot of headache
Before I lost weight I was 360lbs and generally happy with myself and my life. Didn't really care what others thought. Knew I was fat, but wasn't ready to change, etc. Now I'm currently 175 and I've had so much fucking stress from losing weight. All I ever think about is my looks and how ugly I think I am. I lost weight really quick and my body is flabby and disgusting. My face is also really ugly. With clothes on I don't think I'm that bad, but my face is still ugly and if I ever took off my clothes, people would think I'm a freak. I'm trying to get to 160lbs, but my weight loss has stalled and I'm constantly changing from 178-182. I try and try, but I am weak and always give into temptation. I'm living with my grandma and I literally just threw out a shit ton of food just so I don't touch it. I did this before when I was living at home. This is also fucked up because my family is poor so I'm wasting limited food. I also try to be strict with my calories, but sometimes fail and end up needing to starve myself for a bit. I have 1000 calories left for tomorrow and the next day because I couldn't help myself and ate some sweets which are really calorie dense. I just hate everything about myself and wish I could just be happy. Anyone have a similar experience? I'd love some advice or whatever.
Anon you should be proud of yourself for going as far as you have to lose weight. You literally weigh half as much as you did. So cheer up, you are living your life for the better.
>>16467538
Thanks a lot honestly. My main issue is that I can only seem to focus on my looks. I'm not even a social person or am even trying to date right now, but I still obsess over it. The person I see in the mirror makes me hate myself and leaves me depressed and doing stupid stuff that I know is wrong, but I can't help. I acknowledge that I'm healthy weight for my age, height and whatnot, but I don't actually feel good about it. Not trying to be negative, but it's just how I feel. I've thought of seeing a counselor or something, but I dunno.
>>16467614
You can curse your younger self for that, but you learned it was bad and have changed so much. Leave your past behind and keep stiving towards your future goals.
Since this an advice board, I think it's appropriate to ask for advice or suggestions on what hairstyle should I get. Help would be greatly appreciated!
HRT
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>>16467487
Your hair's fine, just smile more because you look like a serial killer atm
You're a good looking guy. Just actually styling that cut would be fine
Reasons not to kill myself today.
OP life is to precious to throw away no matter what you did and the fact you came here signifies the fact that you most likely wish to continue no matter how horrible things are. If you can't think of reasons for why you deserve to live I am sure there a plenty of others in your life whether you recognize it or not will sorely miss your presence and be emotionally affected for you leaving in such a manner. no matter how hopeless a situation gets there is a always a silver lining and when at the worst often the only place for things to go is up. if you commit suicide then you risk loosing the chance of ever making it out of the mess you are in and truly living the life you lived and being there for the people who truly require your presence whether now or later. in the future you could've been someone's mother or father, good friend and when they needee someone like you, you were unavailable and made them that much more resentful for living in this world. Rather then being a victim of your circumstances you should become a survivor one who uses these emotional hurdles to change and improve their lives. I know it's hard but don't do it, take a good honest and realistic look at your life and see what causing you to feel this way and get help whether it may be from a friend or physiologist and find something that gives you purpose or keeps you anchored. you will be okay and you will get through this it's just another phase. things happen and we aren't perfect but that is what makes us human.
Come up with a list of goals, or a list of things you find interesting, yet never really looked into.
Think of things that make you happy, and right them down. Think of what you'd consider your ideal, happy self.
Complete short term goals, even if it's something as small as taking a 5 minute walk, or greeting someone.
Do breathing exercises, listen to relaxing music, exercise a bit. It makes you feel good.
Keep a journal of your feelings, if you are afraid to talk to anyone about them.
I may be an anon, but I'm willing to listen to what you have to say. I'll try to help you through it as much as I can. Just try to stay strong. You made it this far. You can keep going.
>>16467472
Sex, do you have money? Go have sex with a hot human being you little scamp! ;)
>A Boy's Best Friend Is His Mother
Do you agree with this statement /adv/?
I have many friends but I've always considered my mother to be my best friend.
What about you /adv/?
Mmm no. I think that's really sweet that you have a close relationship with her. That's very important and good. However, I think your best friend should be your partner ultimately.
>>16467439
queer lmao
>>16467439
Utter bullshit.
My mother destroyed me from childhood to late teens with passive aggressive behavior. And I am less of a person because of it
>In 5th year of PhD program
>shit is not going well at all
> Boss let me take (or maybe talked me in to, idk anymore) projects that were/are really risky and they just have not panned out at all
>Other students who joined lab with me have already graduated (got a project that was basically half done) or have the go ahead to (boss gave him a defined project)
>Co-author on high tier publications and wrote a book chapter, but not first author so it doesn't help me graduate
>even worse my now wife moved up here after her masters and it took her 3 years to get a teaching job
>finally got a full time position
>all in all it probably is a difference in her earnings of about $120k pre-tax, loss of experience, pay raises, and retirement contributions
>Starting to think that I should just Master out and move on
The fuck should I do?
Why am I even asking about this here?
I went through much the same.
>>16467218
what'd you do?
Anyway, what's the plan? What to move on to, in other words? Medical school?
what is the best place for one to meet girls? bars, libraries perhaps? what do you even say to a girl in order to spark a conversation that doesn't sound totally forced?
>>16467125
Literally anywhere
"Hi, Im ____ whats your name?"
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>>16467125
This does not work >>16467134 unless the situation is absolutely perfect and you're on your a-game. I wouldn't suggest walking into every place you go with the expressed intent of meeting girls.
Anyway look for situations where you're likely to shoot the shit with them. Work and social gatherings are obvious ones. That way you're less likely to sound forced no matter what you approach with because she knows you're there to meet people and so is she.
>>16467134
bad advice
So I've been fapping to my sister's instagram for a few years now. First I did it because 1 - shes hot but mostly because the wrongness of it turned me on even more. Now I'm legitimately into it and I don't even feel guilty anymore.
My question is, should I feel bad? No I will not post pics, but just know she looks like pic related but a much more lewd dresser.
I don't see any reason to feel guilty, it's not like you're fucking her.
>>16467130
I probably would if given the opportunity. I'm that far into it.
>>16467106
>mostly because the wrongness of it turned me on even more
Exactly what dragged me into the dark world of lolicon. Save yourself. Don't end up fucked up like me.
I have to pick a book for a grade 12 ISU (independent study unit)
I'm gonna have to analyze it and write essays on it and shit.
I don't know what to pick, thought you might help me with some suggestions
(Anything between 100-300 pages)
I was thinking of:
The Alchemist
Death of a Salesman
The Stranger
Catcher in the Rye
Difficulty/ Enjoyability of the books? I don't know, just lay it on me
Finnegans wake
Trust me you'll love it :^)
The Road to Serfdom by FA Hayek. You'll learn something.
Catcher in the Rye is the worst piece of crap I've ever read. You will make yourself dumber by reading it.
I am loosing control over my life and I suspect I have add.I have always had a problem with self regulation but it's gotten much worse as of late in the time when my focus and attention is required the most and my bad habits from high-school are being carried over to uni and struggling to work at my full potential. in middle school despite my procrastination habits I did well and got into a good high-school and had a dream of studying abroad and becoming a doctor. yet I struggle to cope and often was late to class and on assignments due to me spending way more hours then required on fanfiction and Manga. as a result I could no longer attend the program in my previous high-school and had to go to a regular one.Even though the material was easier my ego was completely destroyed by my failures and I had low motivation to do much of anything except occasionally watching online college courses for academic enrichment. however, I never completed these courses. I got fed up with my attitude and cut myself of Manga and fanfiction. I tried to change my self in senior year by starting a science club and trying harder in academics in general but even then I was putting minimal effort and one of my courses had a mark closest to failing while the others were subpar. I was worried I might not get into uni.I stopped caring for myself and my grades began suffering once more and I talked to a counselor and told my parents about how I was seeing her. they got upset as they thought it would be a hindrance and wouldn't help it got worse when I asked her to give me a referral to a psych. I denied it eventually fearing that it would jeopardize my chances at becoming a doctor. I also never used to take the counselors advice. I just disconnected from her and upon the insistence of my parents to see tutor who I saw only twice I put in some effort and somehow salvaged my grades and got into a decent uni which made me happy. however,everything got a lot worse
Now because I have lost an interest in Manga and never had hobbies or friends to begin with I'm procrastination of new more dangerous things once it was constantly chatting and now compulsively flapping which makes me fueled ashamed. on top of it I am lying to my parents about my grades and doing bad and skipping classes because it's so far and doing work till the last moment messing up my sleep schedule like today with my exam tomorrow. I can't seem to focus or concentrate and my memory is super poor and like always I rush through things making silly errors. When I was young through online medium which eventually resulted in the calling of a counselor and talking about my frustrations I reached out several times but discontinued it or was told to regulate myself better. I already know what my problems are and what I should be doing but I can't do anything. I hate myself and probably shouldn't even be posting this. I used to love learning and helping people out even listening to others vent and giving solutions but now I can't do anything. Everything feels pointless and everything leads to regret cause I am performing under my true potential and I don't want to get help so is their any hope for me? No right sorry for the long post.
Reply please ;-;
oh my god, I know exactly what you are going through...because I am going through it as well. I have ADHD and have the exact same problem. I honestly want to cry right now, I've never met or seen anyone with almost my exact situation.
My boyfriend is planning on proposing to me in December, probably around Christmas. We've been together seven months, have lived together for four of those.
We recently went through a little rough patch where he betrayed me and shattered my trust in him. I still love him, but I can't accept his proposal in December because I need time to trust him again and make sure it is what I really want.
How do I go about letting him know to not buy a ring and propose?
tldr:
>bf is going to propose
>he broke our trust
>would reject proposal but still want to be with him
>how do I tell him to not propose while still being with him?
>>16466883
How do you know he's going to propose?
>>16466883
tell him before he buys the ring idk if those things can be returned
and note you may never recover that trust depending on what happened
good luck
Watch him not propose and she's upset he didn't propose
hi, just a lurker here.
i'll be 19 soon and i am tired of my living situation (at home with mom in the middle of nowhere)
i graduated highschool atleast 7 months ago and i have done absolutely nothing since then. i have no interests or goals..and my family doesn't push me to do anything either. i've got my own car, and i do house/dog sitting jobs on the side for extra cash. my plan was to just to rent a room in someones house and get a decent enough job. any advice?
>>16466831
you're going to need $$ to move
why not try community college ? get a computer job
:^( please
>>16466909
i honestly don't think i'm patient/intelligent enough for that sort of thing
if i did i would want to go to a college out of state and my mom wouldn't allow it
