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Need advice on my hairstyle and look
i have different hairstyles, but want the one that makes me look most attractive and compliments my face, help me choose senpai
slickback style
or just regular hair, with no gel??
last one promise
which one makes me more attractive senpai?
i have more pics if u need different angles
>>16470438
This hairstyle seems to suit your face best. I'm no hair stylist though.
So two months into our one year lease the couple my GF and I signed the leased with broke up. Guy got dumped. The girl is moving out in a week or two. Currently everything is split in 4 ways. What do you think my GF and I should do? We can't keep her here even though her name is on the lease. Should we force the guy who is staying to pay her share or is that a shitty thing to do? If it makes any difference, it's a two bedroom and we occupy the larger room.
What state do you live in? Laws vary.
>>16470418
Generally if you're on the lease, you have to pay rent. Legally you can ask her for rent. If you don't want to deal with the hassle, then just split everything three ways unless you can find a roommate who's willing to share a room with the other guy
>>16470425
MA. I'm not sure I want to go through the ordeal of forcing her to pay. Just wondering what is proper to have the guy who is staying pay.
Hey /adv/ do you ever have those days were you seem to have a hard time getting it up or keeping it up? I sometimes do and it worries me...it get's to my head and I have a girlfriend, I get worried at one point I don't end up getting it up...Is this all in my head? Never used to have those worries untill last year when I was avout to have a threesome and choked cause i couldn't get it up.
Self bump
bumpity pls respond bump
>>16470416
How old are you? If under 35 or so it's a mental hang up most likely. Worrying about it will just make it worse.
I've never been able to grow a close connection to anyone. Not even my family. I have friends that would miss me if I were gone but I feel so disconnected from everyone all the time. Whenever I see a couple together, I get overcome with this feeling of sadness and envy. Envy cause I want that and sadness cause love feels like such a distant thing to me that I can never have it. I'm not suicidal or anything but everything feels so empty to me. I want to develop that connection with someone and to love them but I just don't think I can
>I just don't think I can
That's your problem right there. I know you've tried to form relationships with other people---that is what you need to keep doing. If you quit then like I decided then you are too far gone. But you, you still state you WANT a relationship, love and all that assorted nonsense. Then keep grasping for it.
>>16470749
I guess your right. I'll just have to keep trying. I just thought that maybe there was a trick I was missing or something. I'm just tired of hearing and having to think to myself "just keep trying" "you'll find the one eventually". Thanks a lot anyways anon. Have a good night
Autist
Can you have a baby and then have your mother look after it while you visit it a few times a week or month (depending on whether you will be travelling for work)
The child will have plenty of love and attention and stability and I could be like a fun mum
What's so wrong about that?
I've got the baby urges but my work involves not staying in one place for very long
What about the father? Or are you trying to get artificially inseminated?
>>16470409
Why not
Hey /adv/. I've been struggling pretty badly with depression for the past few years, and only recently has it been starting to get better. I've worked through a lot of it solely on my own - I've barely talked to anyone about it, and I haven't taken any medications. Recently, for the first time in a while, I've had a few social outings where I felt like my old self again; actually social and upbeat.
However, that state of mind is hard for me to achieve. I actively aim for it now - I realized that I don't HAVE to be sad, which is an improvement,...
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stop smoking pot for a while
yes, pot does alter your brain chemistry
furthermore, your brain is still developing and smoking pot has been proven to exacerbate symptoms of mental illness in people with anxiety, depression, or schizophrenia. going back to the brain still in development, the brain can be easily damaged but also easily healed and you don't want it to ultimately get wired in a depressed state because you chose to smoke pot, right? smoke when you're older and not depressed, that goes for drinking too, worst thing you can do is self medicated with...
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>>16470371
This is why I've been considering quitting. I don't know if it's really been a longterm thing (though it could be), but it's mostly because at the time it makes me even more anxious.
I really do think these antidepressants could improve my mood just enough so that I can finally shake this off. I'd like to at least try them, and this is what I was mostly looking for: is there any reason I shouldn't at least try it?
>>16470381
if you want to take nutritional supplements that's fine, but if you are talking about real hard anti-depressant medications you need to explore all your other options first.
people often look to medication as a cure for these things, but they only exist to manage the symptoms, they don't treat the cause.
if its a true chemical depression that's all you can do, but if it isn't then some lifestyle improvements could be all you need.
stop smoking, stop eating as much junk, exercise some...
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So I had a girl from tinder over my house. Im a virgin, so how do I....You know get it going. I dont know what to do. :( I'm 25 btw
stop being an angsty beta like the guy in your picture
>>16470235
I need some logical steps. What do I do?!?
>>16470237
You should tell her about merits of Bernie Sanders wealth distribution plan while Jamal and Shaquan plow her
Hey, guys and girls. I need some clarification on something.
tl;dr: Why are girls not answering my fucking messages? Why are they not replying even when they already explicitly said they would like to see me again?
Long version:
Let me give you a little context: I'm pretty much a 27 years old kissless virgin in "recovery" who is not bad looking, goes to the gym even though is far from athletic, has a decent job with average-to-good incomes. I still don't have my own place or car and my life is not really that interesting although I'm...
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It sounds like you're asking out girls who aren't interested in you. They get the idea that you've used the friendship in order to get in their pants and I imagine that it feels quite degrading and hurtful for a woman to realise what you're doing.
...Continuation:
>girl 3
>know her for two months but rarely see her
>one day we start talking on Facebook by pure chance
>agree to go have a dinner
>do so, go for drinks
>do so
>tells me to write her any day to do something together
>agree to meet again during the week
>message her on...
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>>16470177
Could be the case for girl #1, althugh there has always been a lot of chemistry between us to the point of flirting with each other a lot, getting drunk together, stay up really late talking about anything and even confessing me that she wished she wasn't with her ex. Then she suddenly became a ghost to me, never get to see her, never looks for me like before, nothing. It's like we stopped being friends all suddenly.
My texting game sucks. I've gotten numbers from quite a few girls in the past few months after chatting with them in person but I guess I bore them so much with my texting that they lose interest.
This past Friday I met a girl who seems to like me; she texted me after we parted ways and said she was glad to meet me, etc. We've been texting ever since. I've made it clear that I'm interested in her by complimenting her looks and generally sweet talking her, and she's reciprocated so far. But I get this feeling of dread sometimes when I wonder if...
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>>16470099
>I've made it clear that I'm interested in her by complimenting her looks and generally sweet talking her, and she's reciprocated so far.
Don't do this idiot. Too much texting kills interest FAST. You should only ONLY text to say Hi, it's so and so, maybe ONE text to smalltalk if you're feeling especially gay, then just find out when she's free and ask her on a date or to do something together. It may seem arbitrary or unfair or whatever else to...
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>>16470115
and what if she texts me frequently? Just tell her to fuck off?
>>16470131
No, no... Just don't reply. Don't ever be rude, that shows insecurity. Then reply the next day I was busy (never say sorry or make excuses, just state facts), let's get coffee at X time at Y place or something.
Has anybody been admitted into the hospital for depression? How is it? Considering admitting myself.
I've been in a closed ward three times. It was pretty boring, there wasn't much to do except for watching TV, chain smoking and colouring those mandala things. One time another patient broke a window, and some more things happened, but overall I felt pretty safe.
If you think you're a danger to yourself, you should definitely go, but don't expect to get actual therapy and shit. Closed wards are for safety, not for treatment.
>>16469988
Do it, it'll feel good realizing how crazy you aren't
>>16470017
How does one get treatment..? An heroing has been crossing my mind alot lately, although I don't know if I could bear acting on it.
How can you be funny without being offensive?
Protip: You can't.
you can't
people will always find a way to get offended for the stupdiest reasons
>>16469982
Impossible
damn, guys.
I've been crushing on this girl for a while. I've talked to her a few times, but other than that I've done nothing. I'm pretty sure she knew, but recently I messaged her saying what's up. We had a pretty decent convo. Next day (yesterday), I'm talking to her friend, when she brings up my crush.
Yeah...my crush thinks I'm creepy.
I'm afraid to do anything else. What if I screw things up more? What is the next step here?
>>16469969
Just fuck her friend
>>16469969
Your crush sounds like a bitch, why do you even like her?
>>16469987
cause she's hot, likes all the same stuff I do, she's funny...
Hey /adv/
How do I go about being more confident about myself as a person? I know its a very broad and both hard and dumb question, but bear with me here.
>Always thought of myself as competent. Not the best, but I made it to a prestigious engineering program (top-10)
>Perform mediocrely academically, but excel with research, projects, and other academic and non-academic extracirriculars. Am vice-president of a larger (120 current members) social group
>Friends are all better academically than me >Feel worse than them for performing less spectacularly, they reassure me and say that my activities balance it out, as they don't have that.
Then
>Get girlfriend. Is a year older than me
>Near-perfect grades
>Currently involved in 3 different advanced research projects with AI and machine learning
>Jumps from opportunity to opportunity without effort. Has juggled 5 other impressive research gigs in the past years.
>Has a few papers published with her name on them
>On the fast track for grad school, and yet still will be teaching English abroad.
>Perfect balance of qt and smoking hot
Yet she still somehow is impressed by me. She says she's not in as challenging of a program (Linguistics vs Aero Engineering) and chalks the research up to luck. I feel uncomfortable sometimes. I don't care that she's doing better than me, I just feel bad that I'm not as good (In my own eyes.) I don't let my insecurities affect our relationship, which is very strong. I support all of her endeavors, and often assist in what way I can.
But on my own I get nervous and anxious a lot.
What do I do?
TL:DR
>Am decently competent
>GF is high-achiever, and has a strong, impressive resume
>Feel bad for not being as awesome.
Wat do?
>>16469890
Has it occurred to you that the whole "unattainable" thing she's got going on can actually make a person very lonely? Has it occurred to you that she probably just wants someone to talk to and have fun with, and not a "perfect" boyfriend to fit the rest of her "perfect" resume? Has it occurred to you that this kind of insecurity can easily wreck a relationship, and the only real problem is that you think she's awesome? That's pretty stupid. Just get over it. If she...
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>>16469921
Op, this is good advice.
>>16469921
It has, which is why I don't let it be an issue in our relationship, and do my best to enable her to do succeed even more. I convinced her to join my social group to make a few connections with the graduate students, and do my best to support her in what ways I can.
She sees me as "perfect" to her, and I consider myself extremely lucky every day.
It just bothers me and myself only that I don't feel...worthy sometimes.
Thanks for your advice, but I definitely do try to suck it...
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I've always had puffy eyes and I'm sick of it. It makes me look tired and sad all the time.
They give me extreme anxiety and make leaving the house very difficult.
I literally don't even know what to do anymore. Help?
Vitamins and 30 minutes of sunlight every day.
I guess you're a guy, but if you're willing to, you could try concealer. If you wear a good quality product, no one will notice.
>>16469842
is the rest of your face cute tho?
What could I expect if I started using TOR? Any backlash from my ISP? Police harassment? I wouldn't be venturing into the darknet. Nothing illegal. No hacking.
>>16469774
Why would you use TOR if you aren't doing anything illegal?
>>16469786
I think I may have some stalkers. Im an animator and graphic artist. When I post I get threats. Its nothing political either and it seems like more that just people that don't like my art.
>>16469786
Sometimes people just like to be anonymous.
