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>be me
>18 yo kissles virgin
>ugly as heck
>acne
>4inch penis with phimosis
>already balding
>skinny upper body with wide hips
>gigantic fat ass and legs
>lower half is hairy as fuck, but no beard or chest hair
>depressed for 6 years
>never...
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>>16476038
>supplement 30mg zinc gluconate
>go to /fit/, read sticky
>improve mind body and soul
>go cocoon mode if necessary
do this and you'll feel better.
>>16476038
Tell us a Story, a Story about yourself.
>skinny with fat ass and legs
Maybe become a trap?
So here is me, person who is optimistic, metalhead, works good under pressure, likes to enjoy life. And I have been together with my GF for about a year and few months.
I love her and I don't wanna hurt her anyway, but she is opposite of me. She is quite pesimistic, she is hardworking, she is not as stable as I am and she is quite overly attached to me.
She wants to be good girlfriend, she is trying hard, but she has such expectations I know not how long I can handle. Inside of my heart is fire that wants me to live wild, listen to good music, go out to a great concert, drink some beer and enjoy life and chill.
However, she doesn't want me to drink ANYTHING, she doesn't want me to go out alone and places I wanna go to are just too wild and scary for her (she doesn't listen to metal and doesn't enjoy same stuff as I do).
She is also paranoid about pretty anyone I talk with. She starts arguing with me about why one girl I never had anything with, nor would want to, liked my facebook post, she constantly reads my sms, facebook chat, etc. and she many times finds something she doesn't like. She even bothered me for some chats I had before I have known her.
I managed to go out with her allowance to a metalconcert and she is acting weird since then, she has random mood swings it is just what the fuck sometimes.
I sometimes also just want to hang alone with myself, chill and enjoy silence but she expects me to be some sort of her pet, to write with her 24/7, anwser phone in 5sec etc.
What should I do?
I know what you mean...I am also an independent autist...all I can tell you from experience, is deal with it as best as you can until she breaks up with you. its inevitable my friend.
>>16476036
So what's her upsides?
>>16476050
I would guess you meant artist... I don't know if she is going to leave me, she seems to be living in sort of illusion that she is going to marry me and live with me forever, I don't say it is impossible, but I doubt it will work out if she doesn't calm down a bit. With all she does to me to keep me hers it just kind of strangles me.
How can someone learn "critical thinking "
>>16476016
Go through some literary analysis exercises.
You were supposed to learn this skill in grade school, not sure how well you'll be able to develop it as an adult.
Take liberal arts classes. Not even kidding.
Are we talking "critical thinking" as in analysis of situations and formulation of conclusions, or are we talking "critical thinking" as in summarily dismissing any ideas not in complete harmony with liberal philosophy and agenda as non-thought? Both senses of the term are common enough nowadays that I feel it's important to ask.
How do I stop myself from being angry at my best friend for complaining about how she's not having enough orgasms/sex and how it's practically abuse that he only makes her cum once a day when all I can get is shitty one night stands every couple of months with guys who don't give a fuck about me?
I really just want to hit her she's so ungrateful and spoilt
>>16475968
You could be catty and say something along the lines of
>Wow, if that is unbearable, my loveless existence makes me want to put a gun to my head. You're great at reminding me how alone I am. /Cue sarcastic grin and glare
>>16475974
Yea really, I'd say something sassy back like that. Maybe she doesn't really realize how she is rubbing things in, but you should get her to realize it and understand that it makes her look completely childish and ungrateful, not to mention kind of belittling to you and others.
>>16475968
stop having one night stands then you doormat bitch.
i stopped doing that shit because it didnt make me feel anything. close your legs and wait.
How should I deal with being incredibly apathetic? (I think that's the right term). Is there a way to be less apathetic or should I just pick a random response and pretend that's what I want/feel?
I mean that's largely what I've done, but lately I feel like it's such a huge waste of my time.
For example:
>Boss asks if I want to fire my coworker or give them a second chance
>I truly don't care
>asks if I want time off
>I...
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>>16475888
Being apathetic is awesome. No matter the outcome of pretty much any action, I won't be affected and I'll just keep doing what I'm doing while others would break down.
>>16475888
You may be somewhat lacking in empathy. That said, >>16475921 is right, apathy is a useful life skill that took me years to grasp.
>boyfriend asks how xyz is
>I truly don't care
If you don't care about anything why do you have a boyfriend?
>Someone asks how I'm doing
>I have no 'natural' response to...
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>>16475888
>>16475921again
However, even I have some drive and would enjoy additional time off, so maybe there is something wrong with you. Do you have any goals at all in life?
So I'm not sure exactly how to word this, but I'll try my best. I personally believe that you shouldn't change for others, others shouldn't be expected to change for you either of course; people with similar interests would naturally bond I assume. I'm 19 in community college and have had no friends and never been in a relationship (the usual), but I don't really mind. I like alone time a lot and I've never been sad over being single or having no friends. When people try to talk to me, I'll talk back, but we just never connect. I'm...
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>>16475885
I feel pretty much the same way, save for the fact that I desire a relationship but don't really want one. I think I could comfortably live like this. It only ever bothers me whenever well meaning but ignorant people try to insist that I'm broken and in desperate need of living like they do, even though I hate doing that.
So yeah, live how you want. It's not like you can't start doing something different if you ever change your mind.
i'm 24 and its depressing having the same mindset you described.
People are mean and mistrustful towards me and unfortunately i can't just isolate myself I have to see coworkers and people to make it in the real world.
I'd probably like to teach, just so I can speak about shit i care about and hopefully make more than I make now.
>>16475912
I also felt like complete shit today from how badly people can't accept me and I basically just tell myself I need to just enjoy the misery. Somehow twist it around so its for me.
Thats the best I can come up with today when feeling completely miserable and lonely.
So /adv/ did you ever cheat on your gf ?
did she find out?
did you feel like shit afterwards?
I told her.
Wasnt right
I told her but it was right.
I felt bad for cheating on her.
Yes I have. It was great just getting laid and not worrying about it.
>Did you tell her?
Fuck no, she doesn't need to know, it wasn't going anywhere.
How to tell mental health practitioners that I will most likely kill myself within the next 5 years if I will deteriorate even more, without getting myself hospitalized against my will?
I just want someone to know how horrible my existence is, and that my psychiatric illness is incompatible with me living anymore - I don't want to be severely disabled for the rest of my life. I want them to know that unlike many who aren't even aware of their severe mental illness, I'm painfully aware, and I know what symptoms I have, and to what extent they disable me and...
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>>16475807
What are you anon?
A bipolar babby. Not as fun as a schizophrenic.
Can't you self medicate with booze or pills?
>>16475829
>A bipolar babby. Not as fun as a schizophrenic.
I'm schizophrenic.
You won't get hospitalized for that, at least not where I live. Also suck it up and start working on recovering. Try different meds, try different kinds of therapy, even inpatient or IOP if you think you need it, work out, find something to do during the day.
Some of you guys are alright, don't ride a plane tomorrow.
HURR OP IS A TERRORIS MODSSS
>>16475777
Bane?
>>16475796
He is a big guy? For you?
My girlfriend doesnt believe in herself at all. I was up with her while she was crying all night for no real reason, she hates herself and doesn't want to fix it.
The next day I'm in class and there are actually happy people all around, and I feel happy until I think of how she is at home. All of her problems could be solved in a day if she stopped putting herself down. It'd take 3 proper workouts to get her to start to like how she looks, but she doesn't do anything. Meanwhile I'm watching this thin happy girl singing and dancing, and I'm...
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>>16475735
Look man some can be fixed some can't.
if you do there may also be the chance shell think shes to hot for you.
I say you honestly tell her shes fat and that her bitching has gotten so bad that your losing interest.
If she want to stay in the relationship she'll come work out with you if not tell her you don't need a fat bitch when theres better out there.
>>16475756
Anybody else have any ideas less abusive than calling my girlfriend a fat bitch?
>>16475813
Oh dude I just read my own post
I'm hilarious
Geez man a little bit of abuse is good man.
Thats why ladies have secrete rape fetish
50 shades of Gray bro.
I am building a editing/gaming pc finally and would like some recommendations for operating systems. I was exposed to Ubuntu in college thought that was neat. Pros cons? Thanks in advance.
Ubuntu is pretty good. The support community is strong. Would you install it as the main OS or from a bootable drive? Im sure that if you know how to install linux, you'll have minimal problems installing windows games on it.
Just put Windows on it, get Vmware or virtualbox, and mess around with Ubuntu in a VM
>>16475731
This
It's coming back hard. Losing all my levels on Habitica. Feel behind with classes and housework. Meditation hasn't been happening enough.
I hate this.
Only thing you can do is take things a step at a time.
And never forget to set aside time for yourself. Don't let yourself be overwhelmed by stuff that doesn't matter.
>>16475698
listen buddy/girl, with all the respect you deserve, let me tell you that depression isn't a real illness, the only damage you get is given by the action you take by yourself, decide to be better, to get over things, to be strong, start eating healthier, sleep long enough, try to do happy things and your mind will reward you with happiness, happiness and sadness are just mental statements conceived as a result for your own choises. Best wishes anon
>>16475698
> I'm a lazy piece of shit tranny who should kill himself
Is it possible to talk/flirt with girls at their workplace? A cashier in this situation.
Everything I think of either seems really "cringy" (as my friend said, although he's no dime), or makes me feel as though I'll just be a jerk for saying it.
Basically, how do I move from being a customer to someone she recognizes/is attracted to?
Service workers don't want to talk to customers for the most part unless they are incredibly attractive.
>>16475676
Yeah that's kind of what I was thinking.
I'm good looking, but Idk if I'm distract you from work good looking.
Is it still worth it to try? I've been in there a twice in the last 2 weeks, and saw her looking at me. It's possible that was all in my head, though.
>>16475697
bruh just go up to her and ask her out. Whats the worst thing thats going to happen she rejects you, big deal dude. I asked a girl out who was a cashier at hastings she rejected me and i was totally cool with it and that was it. The point is you never know until you try.
My youngest sister (15) is blind. We get along exceptionally well, since her accident brought us a lot closer together. I helped her through a lot of stuff back then (still do) and was basically the one going to her appointments with her as my father couldn't just quit working because of it, although he did take quite a lot of time off.
Ever since my sister turned blind, she just seeks a lot more physical contact. She tends to sit really close to me, I lead her around holding her hand in crowded places (jokingly referred to as me being her seeing eye brother), we hug a lot and she also like to cuddle up to me.
Now this girl I have been kinda dating for a few weeks and was friends with before "caught" us cuddling up while watching a film on the couch in my room (not like we were hiding anything, but that's how she saw it). It's nothing unusual for me and my sister, we were just having a lazy Saturday, so still in pyjamas, and she came by.
I can understand if some women are uncomfortable with this, but I never told her because I simply didn't think about it. To me that's just my everyday life. However, she went totally berserk, cussing, screaming how this would be completely disgusting and so on.
I tried talking to her about this in a calm manner, but she wouldn't have any of it, didn't even listen. Nothing I can't take, so I just wanted her to get this out of her system and then talk to her, we were friends after all and sort of dating.
When she started insulting and threatening my sister, I just saw red, threw her out and told her to never come near either of us again. It's just something I won't tolerate at all and she knew, all my friends know talking about my sister is a line you simply don't cross, especially like that. She did it anyway.
It took me a good while to calm my sister down again. She was pretty shaken up and crying because of being legitimately scared by that girl.
>>16475665
Now my question is whether she or I or both overreacted. Is the relationship between me and my sister really that weird? I have had one girl before stop dating me because she said she wasn't comfortable with it, but we ended things on good terms and both understood the other, so now we are pretty good friends. This time it has just been so different and I am wondering if there are even women out there who'd be okay with this situation. Pushing my sister away is not an option for me, I won't ever consider doing that.
>tl;dr: Girl I have been kind of dating saw my blind younger sister cuddled up to me on the couch and started screaming that'd be disgusting, insulting my sister and me. Threw her out, told her to never talk to me again. Did anyone (possibly both) overreact? Is our relationship really that weird? Are their women who could accept this?
>>16475666
Well, she overreacted, but she was also working off of faulty information (i.e. that you were fucking your sister). You should probably have known better than to reinforce this impression by losing it, but whatever. Now you know it maybe an issue going on in future. It does sound like you may have dodged a bullet with that one.
Although with her being blind it really does make a lot of sense for her to be touchy feely, and some families are like that anyway, so
>>16475665
Well you did overreact. Simply calmly telling her to leave would have been good.
If you really like the girl apologize for losing your temper but tell her calmly that she deserved to be kicked out. If she freaks out be happy you dodged a bullet.
No, but seriously. I WAS going to post this on /fit/ but...let's get real here. Basically, I'm 5'5" male, and in the last few months alone I've gone from around 185 lbs. to today, at the gym, weighing myself and seeing 159 lbs (with clothes of course). So it's not that I'm not satisfied, my eating habits are better, I feel better, I haven't had munchies since panic attacks from weed got to be too much and I haven't smoked in a little over a month now.
But, I still feel like I'm missing some info that would change things....
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To maximize weight loss you should limit either fat or carb intake. High carb low fat or high carb low fat. Can try carb cycling too but make sure there's a minimum of 5 hours between cycles.
There's a lot more to this than calories in calories out. If you're really wanting to jumpstart weightloss try a mono diet for 3-7 days. Like eating only potatoes (with vinegar and like salt/pepper if you want for taste), or going wth just steak and eggs. Bananas might work too. I suggest potatoes though, and always cool them after cooking (can reheat again f you want) to turn it into resistant starch.
And for eating in general, make sure you're not eating anything too processed. Ideally most of the food you buy will not even come wth nutrition labels because it's like meat/eggs from a local farm and fresh vegetables/fruit.
Oh and if you want you could try intermittent fasting. It works well for some people but I never liked it. Being hungry sucks.
>>16475678
Well I'll tell you right now any diet that isn't 'eat basic good foods' is out of the question. One of the things that's acted as a barrier for me in fitness is my stubbornness, back when I started it was to dealing with hunger and I wanted to eat the same amount. Now it's more about laziness with actual exercising, which will make any amount of food I eat, even a lower amount of calories/better nutrients/less fat stick to me more. I do run, but I haven't been consistent with it...
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