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How do you stop feeling lonely when dating is not an option?
I do have friends and a healthy social life, but not having a boyfriend still makes me scream internally.
suicide usually stops the feeling of loneliness
>>16480811
I can't do that. My family needs me.
>>16480819
kill them too
I'm 24 and I've never gotten really good at anything. I've never had any ambition to excel and I lament that fact but I don't really have it in me to change it; as it is I'm just kind of a jack of all trades and mater of nothing and it kind of eats me up inside.
Anybody else feel this way?
Pic unrelated
Another bump
I'm in the same boat. Everyone tries to encourage me by saying I'm good at shit like computer problems, when the reason is I spend hours on Google to fix something I fucked up.
I also fear if I do have a skill, it'll be in something that doesn't pay well enough for me to live on my own. Its got to the point where if anything asks me about a career/major I just lie about it.
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Now even my friend has turned on me...I don't get why she would say something like this, making fun of me like I have a mental disease. What do I do at this point.
>>16480722
See a therapist or something
What is your disease? I have a lot of health problems myself and I am a female so I will try to help you best as possible.
>>16480725
I don't want to talk to someone about my thoughts and I don't think I need it.
Why are 40+ adults so oblivious to the high cost of college and national student loan debt? Also, how do I persuade my parents that economy has changed and that college may not be the solution?
Present them with the alternative. When they don't accept, do it anyway because that's the only way you'll be able to pay rent when they kick you out.
>>16480676
Go to a trade school. Tell your parents that you know what you want and that a trade school suits you better and they will save money.
what do you think is the solution? to work at mcdonalds for the rest of your life?
I'm in love /b/. What do I do? I don't know what to say to her to kick off a relationship. I know she at least somewhat likes me, but I don't completely know. She has been recently in a predicament with her parents. How do I comfort her. She knows that i like her but I think she is waiting for me to do something. Help...
>pic related, it's her.
Op here. Wrong board tag. Need some advice...
My advice is to not like fatties
Leverage her daddy issues into becoming the new alpha of her life. She will become dependent on you so long as you insert yourself into the father figure role. Also in seriousness, just open with something like how's life treating you? Its harmless and opens discussion into her personal life
Is there any way to be friendly and loving toward pretty women without them being concerned that you're hitting on them (I'm planning on entering an Orthodox monastery down the road anyhow, so I'm certainly not looking for a relationship)? A lot of the time, when I smile or greet a pretty woman, she looks away and is aloof, presumably because she's worried that if she returns the friendliness, it will send the wrong message.
Is there any appropriate way to be friendly to pretty women while making it clear you aren't interested in them in a romantic way?
Ask them how their day is and listen to what they say that is it.
Is there any reason you are being friendly and loving towards them? Like are you friendly and loving towards ugly men as well?
If not then there's your answer
also
>interacting with women for other reasons than work or hitting on them
>>16480518
>Is there any reason you are being friendly and loving towards them? Like are you friendly and loving towards ugly men as well?
Yes, I try to be toward everyone, especially the homeless. It's part of Christianity for me.
>Graduate highschool in NSW
>Get free piece of shit laptops
>Stoked because I'm poor af
>We got them in year 9 and got them unlocked and end of year 12
>TSO says go to this website and activate the software with your student number
>Otherwise microsoft won't work after a month without activation
>Try it, doesnt work, talk to mate of mine, he had same...
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Find local Linux guru group
Get Linux on your laptop
Browse away.
Use a Linux distro for now. What's so critical about Windows?
>>16480391
Pirate windows you fool
I've had sex before but it doesn't feel as good as masturbation
So I'm wondering why people go on about sex like if they don't get enough of it it's a problem, can't they just masturbate?
Or maybe it's different when you have a vagina like I do, I don't know
I have such a high sex drive I masturbate multiple times a day and I used to think sex would be more satisfying but now that I've had it it's actually inferior
Sex is only better than masturbation when you have feelings for the person you're with
>>16480306
>year of our lord 2015
>being this fucking autistic
>>16480306
Okay, let's try and break this down. How did it happen? How long did it last? Who were you having sex with? Were they experienced? Was there any foreplay?
There's a thousand and one reasons why your time could have been just bad.
Hey adv, I need some help
I'm a twenty something girl, never been in a relationship. I have this friend, we know each other from the university, for more than a year now. He almost always initiates our conversations, and I was wondering if I should ever message him first? Even when we see each other in real life he starts the convo first (like, I would say hey first, but he starts talking and asking me qustions and telling how his day goes, etc)
I don't start convos with him because I just assume if he feels like talking, he would hit me up himself. But...
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If he wanted to start the conversation he would start it. That says nothing about his openness to participating.
The only sign is if he asks you out. However the same is true the other way around. The only way for him to ever know of your interest is for you to ask him out.
>>16480234
He asked me out but it was very unofficial and I don't think these were dates, but I don't know how normal date looks like.
>>16480248
A date is when you do an activity together, talk while you're doing it and flirt. That last part is key. Unless you're exchanging innuendo, suggestive language, etc., it's not a date.
I was talking to some guys at work about the new fallout I do not usually admit to others that gaming is a hobby of mine but I was really interested in their conversation. One of the guys called me a gamer girl which really frustrated me because I spend 20-60 hours a week when I am not working playing games. I told him that I do not want to be called that because gaming is a hobby of mine and that I want nothing to do with girls that call themselves that.
Should I just keep to myself again like I use to? It seems like people make assumptions as to what kind of games females...
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but do you play as support?
>>16480223
It sounds like you work with fags. Just tell people you game "sometimes" if it comes up. LoL is for plebs anyway, you shouldnt have to defend your decision not to play it
>>16480245
I like to play assassin classes for stealth in any games I play. My weapon of choice is katars if I have the option.
Is it possible to condition yourself into fearing sex by trying to comfort yourself by masturbating whenever you're anxious?
>>16480131
I'm not sure if I've read your question right, do you mean is it possible to condition yourself *not* to fear sex?
>>16480134
>be me
>anxious often
>try to comfort by masturbation
>actively dislike sex
>what have I done
Masturbation is a common and natural reaction to stress, boredom, and sleepiness, especially at a young age. Babies often use it as a self-soothing mechanism.
I've been masturbating since I can remember and still do when I'm feeling anxious, bored, or sleepy. I have no fearful feelings about sex.
I think those might be from something other than your masturbation.
Hey guys, femanon here with a small problem. no back story needed but I'm absolutely terrified of not being able to breathe. I hate wearing tight necklaces, having my throat touched, Adams apple touched, etc. problem is, my S.O's turn on in the bedroom is sort of wrapping his hand/s around my neck and squeezing. He seems to really enjoy it so for his sake, any ways to overcome this fear? I don't want to take away something that's a fetish just because it terrifies me...
>tell him and take away his fetish
>get over your fear by masturbating to choking porn and developing your own fetish through positive reinforcement
>deal with the fear.
Pick your poison
Baby steps. First it starts with touching your neck, then resting something over it (not wrapped), then loosely tying something around it, etc. Work your way up.
>>16480064
>my S.O's turn on in the bedroom is sort of wrapping his hand/s around my neck and squeezing
Tell him no if you don't want to break down your weird boundary and possibly become another spousal abuse statistic if he ever loses control or ignores the safeword.
Hey /adv/,
Looking for some help with this issue.
>Girlfriend and I very busy all the time
>Stress affects both of us intensely, high anxiety, depression, etc.
>My girlfriend grew up in a family that taught her, when you're upset/sad/etc that you need to hide it, distance yourself, be very private about it
>We are very much in love with each other and care a lot, this causes me to care infinitely about her and her happiness
>I...
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>>16479993
Are you a lesbian couple? Cause you sound like a bitch.
>>16480016
>loving someone truly
>gay
>>16480021
>being so retarded you can't tell he was calling OP a woman
Is fwd really that bad? The guys are making fun of me for not being rwd, sometimes when I ask to tog or ral' they just beat me and leave.
I've been down since gf broke up with me for music addiction .
I'm newer than they are, if I work hard can I pass them and be better and more skilled even with fwd?
Thanks you guys have helped me before
Guys?
Say something I'm giving up on you
>music addiction
lol
Can someone explain confidence to me? As far as I can tell it is a myth. Confidence is just being stubborn/thinking you are right no matter what. I don't see anything wrong with alternative ways of thinking or thinking "I might be wrong about this" yet if you say this, people will say "just be confident"
There have been times where I was "confident" and truly believed things would work and they didn't. And vice versa. I don't understand how some people can stay determined or confident when to me it seems completely random....
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>>16479900
False hope *
>>16479900
>Confidence is just being stubborn/thinking you are right no matter what
That's arrogance.
Confidence is feeling comfortable in any situation that life presents to you.
The opposite is insecurity.
>>16479900
I don't know how to explain in OP but it's kind of just being sure of yourself and being comfortable with who you are. It takes some time to get to that point but I'm working my way towards it.
