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I'm bored with life all the time. I work for a living and on days off or when I get home all I do is sit around and browse the internet or watch tv. I have a few friends I do stuff with but if they are busy then I have nothing.
inb4 drink your problems away anon
>>16485619
Get hobbies that interest you, find a job you actually enjoy, save money and do something fun with it, etc. etc. There are plenty of opportunities to be entertained, if you just get out of the house and do something for a change.
Welcome to life, Irken child
Get a hobby dude. There's plenty of shit to do out there. Learn to draw stuff or take guitar lessons or start going to the gym or whatever. Hell if you're not spending much of that money then start saving it. You can save up and travel to somewhere for the holidays. Or get a kick ass gaming PC. Plenty of shit to do dude.
femanons, would you date this guy?
>>16485495
Dunno. Does he have any talents?
No, he looks too old.
>>16485502
Inshalla he knows the teachings of the one true prophet (PBUH).
Are larger labia a turn off? I'm in good shape, eat very healthy, work out a lot, I'm not unattractive, and I'm a virgin, so I don't understand why my inner labia are longer than my outer labia. It doesn't bother me, but what if it bothers my boyfriend? I take showers every day, so it isn't an infection. But most people are indicating that a vag like mine would be a turn off. Should I get surgery or something? It's kind of bugging me now, I don't know how porn stars get their vags so perfect, is mine just abnormal? It looks normal, but the inner labia are longer and darker at the ends. Is this common? Sorry if this is a dumb question, thanks=)
>>16485450
This is b8
Don't fall for it, newfags.
Sage
>>16485454
It isn't bait, I just want an honest answer
>>16485454
this, we had a thread like that yesterday
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Question: how do I stop being a needy bitch?
I'm a 20 year old kissless virgin. I'm a virgin because of social anxiety, not because I look retarded (I swear). In the past month I met a girl on Omegle, she's from Turkey. I added her on Facebook and we have spoken a lot since. Now we talk on Whatsapp and sometimes even by phone conversation, which is all very new to me. She's a genuine 9/10 and she has a boyfriend. There's no way I can be with her, I know this. Yet because I'm a 20 yo virgin who is severely deprived of women contact, I am constantly thinking about her. I check my phone a lot to see whether or not she has sent me a message. I fantasize about her etc. It even makes me literally sick. This shit sucks because it's useless suffering.
So how do I stop to be a needy bitch and get over this shitty situation? I bet anons on here have been through a same sort of process. It's interesting stuff I think, in the end.
pic unrelated
Spend your time doing other things than bitching. Pay attention to the moment, when acting/thinking like this occurs, replace your behaviour with something more constructive. It will "build confidence", just from the mere fact that you experience being in control of your own emotions and actions. It's a fake it til you make it situation. In the progress of growing more experience-oriented, and "less outcome-dependant", you will appear more attractive. If you want to get with women, you should learn "how to build attraction". YouTube is a terrific resource for this. As long as you don't see it as such a life or death situation, but just learn to enjoy the learning curve, don't be so focused on the result, but understand that the first step is to learn "how to hold conversations as a man", you will get there eventually. Being rejected should become a part of the fun. It's healthy, because it allows you to reflect on what you can do to improve. The most intimidating part of approaching, is the moment you walk up and start talking. The moments following makes it easier and easier, like talking to a friend. If you can challenge yourself to do it as much as possible, it will become a natural part of your character.
Protip: don't just talk to girls you'd like to fuck. Talk to everyone, the bus driver, the mail lady, the cashier, people you pass on the street, neighbors. Saying stuff like "What a lovely day!" to strangers, can be enough to warm you up, so that when it comes to approaching girls, you've already talked to plenty of strangers that day.
And about your Turkish friend. Push her further away, in the back of your mind. Look up what I've written in apostrophes, and go out and have fun experiencing. Who knows, one day you might want to visit Turkey. Who knows, one day she might have broken up with her boyfriend. But don't save your v-card for her.
And btw, good looks really isn't the reason people lose their virginity.
>>16485471
Thanks a lot for this reply.
>Pay attention to the moment, when acting/thinking like this occurs, replace your behaviour with something more constructive.
What do you mean exactly by this? What is 'more constructive behaviour'?
>>16485471
>Protip: don't just talk to girls you'd like to fuck. Talk to everyone, the bus driver, the mail lady, the cashier, people you pass on the street, neighbors. Saying stuff like "What a lovely day!" to strangers, can be enough to warm you up, so that when it comes to approaching girls, you've already talked to plenty of strangers that day.
This x1000
You know why older guys are so confident? Because they have more experiences. If a toddler drops his ice cream, it will be the most horrible thing that ever happened to him, because not much else has happened to him.
So try to get as much experiences as you can.
Couchsurfing or meetup often have meetups,
I'm worried that I may have fucked up my friendship with someone I really care about, /adv/.
As short as possible, I've been friends with my group of friends for 2 years - Me, 5 guys, and one other girl. When I met them, one guy and I ended up hitting it off really well and flirting with, until the fact that he had a girlfriend came up. Throughout these last two years, we've had instances where we've flirted with each other, and we've more than openly admitted that if we were both available, we would definitely give each other a chance.
I've pretty much been hermit mode these last 3 months because I got a new job that demands a lot of my time, so I haven't seen my friends. We all got back together to catch up a few days ago, and I ended up talking to my friend to find out his girlfriend and he broke up 2 months ago.
We decided to party, get a high, and hang out, and eventually, we were left alone together. He kept getting closer and closer to me and I kept putting him off, until it eventually happened and we ended up kissing, which turned into more.
We had sex twice that night.
(1/2)
Now, by nature he's not one to wear his emotions on his sleeve. He's always the sarcastic, snarky, funny, smarmy asshole ("fuck you man!" is a common phrase yelled at him all day, every day), but that night he was completely different. Now, he's back to being himself. and I'm worried, because he seems to be avoiding me now. While we were having sex, he actually asked me "We're gonna do this again, yeah? Tell me we're going to do this again." and wouldn't stop until I practically screamed yes at him, kept telling me I was the best he ever had, held my hand, told me how long he had been waiting and how much he wanted me, etc. And now I can't even talk to him because he keeps putting me off.
I had told him I didn't want to have sex with him originally because I didn't want to complicate our friendship or ruin things, and now I feel like that's happening.
I don't know what to do. Now, I'm really regretting the decisions I've made here. What do I do? Do I just leave him alone for now?
I guess I'm more just trying to get an outside opinion, or something from a male perspective. All of our guy friends/his roommates (they all live together) keep hinting that "you guys will figure it out for yourselves" and "you two are perfect together", but nobody knows about us hooking up. I'm just confused and worried, and I feel like an idiot for letting myself do this.
>>16485373
>>16485378
>>16485427
There's not really much we can tell you. We can't exactly read your friend's mind to find out why he's avoiding you. There could be a million different reasons for that.
The only thing this thread will do is attract bitter /r9k/ trolls.
>>16485433
At least you're keeping it 100, I appreciate that. I just don't really have anyone I can talk to about this irl, I prefer to keep my dirty laundry away from public eye. Thank you.
Hi /adv/
So i used to work with this girl, I was working at the bar and she worked at the restaurant at this particular hotel. We would always tease and flirt with each other. Anyway, I end up leaving the job because of personal reasons so I add her on facebook just to keep in touch. We would casually talk on facebook here and there but i never really pursued anything.
Fast forward to today, months later I happen to see her on tinder and thought what the hey hey and "liked" her just for the lulz and didn't really think much out of it. Notification pops up and says that we've "matched".
Well fuck me with a cactus. Is this a sign for me to stop being a bitch and just ask her to hang out?
I messaged her and said:
"Hey i know this is awkward but it's been a while. i think you're pretty chill and would be cool to catch up or something :) or not thats cool too hah"
She replies:
"Hahahaha yes let's do it! It's only awkward if you make it awkward :D"
By the gods. Is this all i had to do?
So i reply and say that her and I should catch up over coffee when she's free. She says, "I am keen".
A couple of days later i flick her a message and asked if maybe we can grab a coffee tomorrow afternoon if she's free.
She replies with:
"hahahaha I have work :( I never stop haha"
I'm thinking fair enough. But she never really did say when she was 'free'. Was she just trying to be nice to me by saying she's "keen" to catch up? Did she "like" me on tinder just for the lulz too?
Wat do /adv/?
depending on your thirst level, either just tell her "cool, give me a shout when you're up for a quick catch up"
or wait for 2 weeks and ask her whether she's up for coffee at [insert coffee shop close to her work here], with no exact time, but be sure you're free right then and the day after in case she says "see you in 5 mins" or the next day or so
Stop being so incredibly beta. Why would you say that it's awkward?
Just tell her it'd be cool if she made some room in her calendar and told you when she'll be free
>>16485203
I purposely left that part out. We had a love/hate thing going on, the usual teasing when flirting is involved so it was unusual for me to ask her out for coffee out of nowhere. Appreciate the advice mate.
Anybody else with constant depression have any tips on staying alive? I've accepted that it's a part of me.
>>16485141
Do you work out?
>>16485146
Yes, I do many things. It just feels like a constant battle though, at every lull in my life I want to commit suicide. I don't think the urge will leave I'm trying to see if anybody else lives like this.
Keep hanging in there OP. Live is fucking hard. Mostly i stay positief but fuck last night it was a kick in my confident balls
It's 2 pm on a saturday. I am a NEET. I have not gotten up from bed or seen anyone all day. The thought of sitting in bed with my laptop all day again does not sound thrilling, but I don't know what else to do.
My current gear includes
- one bottle of reasonably strong liquor
- a laptop
- smartphone with 84% battery
- no friends in a reasonable travel distance
- weather too cold for a long walk
- a bar within a walking distance with shit customers and free coffee
- a half-read book too embarrassing to read in public
- roughly ten euros in small coins
wat do.
What kind of a book is worth reading but too embarrassing to read in public?
>>16485137
jerk off
troll on 4chan
fantasize about not being a neet
i'm a neet and that's what i do all day.
>>16485137
if it's too cold for a long walk, it's best for a short jog.
I need to get sick or have some medical condition in two days so I could have a reason not to attend a meeting.
I am trying to get a cold by not wearing anything warm, taking freezing showers, sleeping without cloths/bed sheets but nothing is working as of the moment.
Someone suggested I break my thumb, but I am afraid of complications that could arise.
Faking it is not an option.
Ideas ? Suggestions ?
nigger are you serious
>>16484953
Yes.
>>16484942
Wouldn't it be a whole lot easier just to go to the meeting?
And by the way, that is not how you catch a cold, though it might produce pneumonia.
I'm new at my job, and so far it's been great. It's just a retail job so nothing too high end or career orientated. I have three managers, and one of them is micro managing me (and other staff) to the max.
The other two managers are lovely, helpful, friendly and open to have a chat. The other one in question not only micro-manages staff, but she's cold, sociopathic, unfriendly, eccentric, unhelpful, completely ignores you a lot, and disappears often when apparently "helping" with the job at hand.
I've even been micro-managed to the point of almost at closing time, everyone is winding down, not much work to do in the afternoon and I'm the only one being asked to do extra jobs, even as close to 5 minutes before shutting the store.
The manager pretty much got stern with me and slightly angry today and said I'd been standing around talking all day, when in reality I'd been working and had made plenty of sales for the company, albeit talking to my co-workers throughout the day, as you do with any other job to try and keep your sanity.
I spoke to my other manager about it and they said that they'd sort it out next week. I don't think I'm in trouble or anything, but as I've only been with the company for a short while, I really don't know where I stand. Although I've been told everyone in the store doesn't like this particular manager, nor do the other two managers who know exactly what they are like to deal with.
tl;dr sociopathic, unfriendly manager is micro-managing me, i'm new to the job, other two managers are cool, told one of them and said they'd sort it out next week, complaints from other staff haven't been dealt with yet.
Get over it, new guy.
>>16484862
Good advice faggot. I've spoken to every single staff member, including the managers, and the other managers don't get along with her at all. Others have made complains yet nothing has happened.
>>16484840
You're still new, so you really have to prove yourself to the others. Keep your head down, your mouth shut, and go above and beyond what's expected of you. Take initiative. I pretty much had to do this, and now everyone turns to me when they need a go-getter to get shit done. People that were hesitant when I first started love me.
Go ahead and skip to the end for a summary if you want
Pic related, looks like bf's sister but sister is prettier.
What happened: I lived with my boyfriend and his sister, let's call her "Camisole" for almost a year. I had been kicked out earlier in the year and could not afford living by myself, so my bf, camisole, and I leased an apartment together, and bf's mom paid for Camisole's rent. The mom did not live with us, practical and convenient. For about 6 months at the first apartment everything was okay, she seemed like an OK person, sometimes had some drama but thought she was just an emotional selfish teenager. Lease was up and decided to move to a new apartment with bf and the sister. First few months were hell for me and I moved out soon afterwards. I am sad that I was completely fooled by her, she managed to act like a completely normal person in front of me for so long.
This is what happened at the newer apartment:
Discovered she has victim complex to the ultimate max. Anytime you would CALMLY try to have a discussion where she was in the wrong, pointing to evidence she would ignore it and either: 1. Scream that no one loved her or 2. threaten to commit suicide. Thing is, no one has ever treated her horribly and if someone had ever wronged her in the slightest way, like saying she was selfish for minor things, she would hold onto it and throw it at you in future fights. She would also alter events that never really happened the way she would describe in her head. I want to note that I was extremely careful the entire time to make sure she would never have anything to use against me, no matter how many times she wronged me I did not yell at her.
(cont. in post)
>>16484748
>skip to the summary
>no summary
OP here, continuing. first time posting to 4chan sorry
Ex: My boyfriend and I had a separate room in the apartment, but it had folding doors so we couldn't put locks on the doors. The sister stole my things when I wasn't home, we all had "meetings" to address stuff like this, she would promise to not do it again (but she would do all this shit again). I was calm, but of course it bothered me.
Ex2: She is extremely passive aggressive and delusional. We shared a bathroom at the new apartment, and one day she brought up in a conversation that she was going to buy me conditioner in front of friends. I asked her why, and she said it was because she noticed that I was using hers. I told her very calmly that I did not. But no matter how I denied it, the bitch then whipped out her phone showing everyone photos that she had been documenting "proof" by taking pictures every day of her conditioner. She claimed that the little sud coming out of her conditioner was from me using it, but no matter how many times I denied it, she still thought I did it. Even after I told her that I can't use conditioner for my hair and I only use shampoo.
These kinds of examples happened almost on a daily basis and larger events at least twice a month.
BIGGEST OFFENSE WHY SHE DOESNT DESERVE TO LIVE: her mother was diagnosed with tumorous cancer and on the day after the mom's surgery we were in the hospital, the sister started extreme drama about HERSELF claiming no one loved her and how everyone had it easier than her. How no one expected her brother to be more than he had to be, etc (random delusional things just for attention). She never went to any of her mom's chemo treatments either, I was the one who was there with her.
OP here, last part
She never apologizes for what she has done, if I mentioned I was not okay with something she had done in the past, she would just go, "oh it had nothing to do with you, it was because of ____." well piece of shit, you still caused me trauma by threatening to kill yourself because your brother left a plate on the counter.
She is the worst kind of person and has threatened to kill herself whenever she does not get her way, especially in logical discussions where she is a hypocrite. I truly wish she would commit suicide. She doesn't deserve the life she has. She gets free money from the gov't for "disability" and going to school. She doesn't have a real "disability", it stems from everyone allowing this bullshit behavior while growing up. With all the money she gets, no one asks her to pay rent and her mom buys all of her stuff for her (clothes, textbooks, food, etc). No matter how many constructive logical meetings I had with her, where I tried to have solid reasonable compromises, it only got worse for me. I was baffled that my bf, and his mom allowed this bullshit- so I bit the bullet and now work fulltime while going to school to live at a different place.
Summary:
My boyfriend's sister is a spoilt piece of shit. No one ever holds her to blame and I truly wish she would die. Because of her I have some serious psychological trauma whenever her name is mentioned or think of her, and I desperately want to get over it, instead of having negative thoughts about her. If I'm an awful person, how do I stop being one? I believe I will meet more people like her, so how do I get over this. Thank you
So I'm a 5'6" guy. All my life I've been smaller and never thought about it or gave a shit about it. Even when people made fun of me for it I thought they were retarded. Now for some reason I always think about my height and constantly pay attention toon to other people's height. I know deep down my height doesn't matter that much but it's like ever since I noticed I can't notice it and I think about it all the time when my mind is wandering. Has anyone else dealt with this? And how did you over come thinking about it? Through out life I always end up realizing it doesn't matter but for some reason it bothers me.
Are you getting laid?
>>16484558
As a "tall girl" (5'7") height is a big deal to me. This stems from being embarrassed in middle school as I was taller than all the boys and was therefore rejected by them. Eventually most of the boys grew to be taller than me and everything became normal.
But now, when a guy is shorter than me, I am not attracted to him because I associate that with selfconciousness.
It's awful and shallow, but I can't control it.
Luckily you're not a manlet, op.
5'6" is not that bad. If you were 4'10" or something then it would be something worth worrying over.
Just go for girls who are shorter than you. You'll have more luck with them, and most girls will be fine with a partner who is the same height of taller than them.
>>16484572
I never understood this. Tall girl=longer legs. The jokes were born from the guys being insecure
Where to look? Needs to be online, most likely. It's not a very big sum, but considerable. Where should I look? I am someone with mental health issue who needs urgent help. I would be willing to share info about myself and my situation to receive help and to make a person more or less sure that I am honest.
More details
I see only one option so far to get money sent to me - Western Union, because of different reasons. One of which is I don't have a bank account where I am (UK).
>>16484517
I'd try not to give out too much information, until and if I am able to find someone. I need a bit more than 100$.
Is this a thing? I like knowing that I'm taking something that's supposed to belong to another woman.
>>16484423
Yea, it's called being a faggot.
In my culture we call that being a whore.
Could doing this be bad for me? Not counting possible stds but like hurt me emotional somehow?
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
To the ladies: What do you think about guys who masturbate every day, and about guys who rarely or never masturbate?
>>16484415
Don't care either way as long as it doesn't affect our sex life.
how many of you, both genders, are in relationships you know you need to end but haven't yet?
Bonus points for you hate your partner and have silently suffered for a long time.
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