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What is the best way to turn a girl down that you've been talking with for a month online and over text, while also sparing her feelings. I was talking to someone for a little while, and she is a nice girl, but I've found someone I'm falling in love with, and I just want to spare this other girl's feelings.
In my expierience this girl is gonna be hurt anyway, just be straight forward no need to hide it from her. If you want you can try lets be friends instead bullshit but she either will use that to talk to you more cause "friends". or she will get sadder.
>>16483634
I want some advice that doesn't involve telling the truth.
>>16483826
So you basicly want to be a dick?
I feel stuck. I'm a junior Computer Science major with no passion for the field. I don't want to do STEM but if I stop my parents will no longer support me. If I get a job to move out then I will probably be kicked out. They would kick me out because they glorify higher education to the point of religion. So it seems like my choices are I continue with Computer Science begrudgingly or become homeless. What should I do?
Be a good kek and get your STEM degree like mommy and daddy and Forbes told you to do
do you have the option to change majors? it might be worth it to convince your parents that you want something else, while still getting support since you are still going to get a high education
dude a degree in anything but stem is seriously worthless, there's no point in even going to college if you're gonna get something non-stem and useless
Is this site responsible for me becoming way too vitriolic and judgmental with people?
I don't don't like anybody. I'll find that they're either too shallow, have shitty beliefs or too confident with poor life choices.
How do you "accept" people?
Do you accept yourself at least?
Or are you very judgemental as a person, even being harsh with yourself sometimes?
>>16483512
Acceptance is an action, not an opinion. You accept people by not avoiding them or being mean to them just because you don't like them.
>>16483531
I can't say I'm a very confident person. I can fake it a little but even though I don't actively hate myself I just don't find much qualities to my person.
It' just that every person will have that something, be it an interest or opinion or way of life that I'll just find retarded. It's like I always want the person to be objectively the best version of herself, as if it was a product.
I could say it as "I don't need a lot to dismiss people out of my life".
I'm a pretty good music writer but how do I into production and shit?
>>16483508
by producing? record your own music with any digital audio workstation (DAW) and practise, practise practise.
offer friends to produce their music when you feel firm in your abilities.
DAW is helpful, I hope you have an interface or mixer to plug your stuff into OP. What instruments do you primarily write with / what are you planning on recording? if you're plugging a guitar or bass directly into a mixer / interface be sure to use high impedance for those specific inputs, but don't use that for anything else. use balanced connections whenever possible (e.g. XLR, TRS), avoid RCA connections completely. and if you don't own any mics you probably want to look into finding a decent cardioid condenser to start, condensers use phantom power but you...
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>>16483554
>>16483515
I have a Focusrite Scarlett 2i2 that I use to record acoustic guitar and vocals. My microphone is a Shure 58 Usually sounds really rough because I record in my bedroom.
I compose a lot of video game music on FL studio but I'm getting tired of using the presets, haven't figured out how to tweak the VSTs either.
Everytime I come close to making a girl my girlfriend, I just get kinda weirded out and push them away.
Im intially attracted, not sure how they feel about me, but when I realize how much they do like me I feel kinda guilty inside, like they like me more than I like them. I know I wouldnt want to marry them so I dont date them. Then later on after I let them go I see them and regret it.
Is this normal? There have been women who I fell hard for, and thought of marrying. But those didnt work out so well. Maybe im just afraid of letting someone be close and getting...
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There's nothing wrong with playing the game.
Do you think perhaps you don't value yourself/your worth enough?
Why do you think dating has to = marriage?
You should be one of my pets and regale me with stories of girls you friend zone. Have fun with it
>>16483470
go away ukranian bitch
>>16483934
You remember so much about me, senpai
why can't we get along?
How would you describe it? How does one get a body like this guy's?
>>16483438
>How would you describe it?
I'd use words like muscular, husky yet well shaped I guess?
>How does one get a body like this guy's?
I'd get into bodybuilding, i.e. exercising to gain muscle size, specifically working on the legs, lower back and forearms. Also you'd need to eat a tonne more than what you probably are atm. Don't be worried to get a bit of a belly since I can't see if this guy has abs or not
>>16483438
chunky, thick, bulky
typical catcher build
>How does one get a body like this guy's?
starting strength
lots of heavy squats and deadlifts and milk
not everyone can get this kind of body but eating lots and doing the compound lifts will get you close
>>16483466
Thanks so much. Here's another pic of the same guy.
Condensing this as much as I can.
>Work in currency exchange
>Cover another, unfamiliar booth
>I took over from area manager
>I report £1000 missing on my shift
>Did first count hours after area manager left
>Report it as soon as I find it
>Four weeks later, they are still conducting "internal enquiries" even though I've told them to go...
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OK
I get this might be a little too real for the collective wisdom of /adv/
Does anybody at least have an inkling as to how my going to the police might affect my bottom feeding place at the company?
Going to the police won't help you any. I'd just wait it out and if they try to pin it on you legally, you could contact a lawyer to see the footage. If they wrongfully fire you, perhaps there is a labor board where you live to contact? I think the main reason they're waiting so long is because they can't properly pass off responsibility on you.
Either tough it out or quit, unless there are more details you are withholding.
What happens if you lose your job, anyway? Got a back up in mind?
>>16483357
>Going to the police won't help you any
What can it hurt? If nothing else, I'll have the jump on them.
> If they wrongfully fire you
The only thing they can fuck me on is not following procedure. The two instances of that happening were
>a) Not counting the money as soon as I arrived at the booth.
The manager should have stayed there to make sure I did so but he left immediately...
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Anyone know what the issue is here?
>Head of penis is grey at the back, same with frenulum
>Feels sore and or/stinging. Sensitive to touch.
I previously had a similar problem with the same sensations but with different visual symptoms that was fixed with clotramozone cream. It was believed to have been caused by irritation to shower gel when cleaning.
Could this simply be the result of too much masturbation?
Unrelated picture
>>16483208
I know if you're asking /adv/ you probably can't afford a doctor but if you can please please please god go to a fucking doctor
>>16483216
I'd like to but the appropriate health clinics are closed weekends.
I'm not asking for a spot on diagnosis, just maybe find out if anyone else here had the same problem. I'm hoping it's just wacking off too much
Small red erosions on the glans? Redness? Other rashes on the head of the penis?
Hey /adv/
I'm a 24 years old female; never had sex, never kissed, never held hands (well, I held hands in kindergarten with other kids). I rarely hug, and I really feel very uncomfortable when people try to touch me, or hug me, kiss my cheek, play with my hair, etc.
I was never molested or bullied or beaten, in fact my parents are rather lovely, and I have always had friends. But I'm also a fat introvert who was never really interested in having a close (aka sexual) relationship with anybody. I find sex interesting and masturbate a lot, so it's not sex related aversion
My question is, how do I overcome this? My very close friend, for example, would often lean on me, or play with my hand, or put her head on my shoulder, and I suffer through that, not really confortable but okay with it, since I've known her for 20 years.
But when my other friend tried to touch my leg, or grabbed my hand, tried to hug me, I instantly felt weird and pulled away from him, even though I like him very much (or even fancy)
Same when my other friends try to high five me, touch my shoulders or back, my first instinct is to move away. And I never initate contact either.
How do I fix it? Why am I this way? Is it some kind of a mental ilness?
>>16483110
The problem is the fact that you're fat. And that you lack personality. Fix both of those and men will run over each other to get a wiff of pussy.
>>16483131
how can you say I lack personality? You don't know me
I need some pet names to call my girlfriend because we are at a dry patch in our relationship and I was thinking that would spice it up. Any suggestions?
mule
cumfart
rat
wasp
hardhat
>>16483115
>cumfart
My bf and I live together. We both work full time. I pay nearly all of the bills. Car insurance, gas, rent, utilities, and some food. After all of that, I usually only have around 20 dollars to myself, which I usually end up spending on food when my bf asks me to get dinner for him since be works late nights.
His paychecks go a little to food, and then mostly for stuff that we may need like oil changes, stuff around the house, etc. But its not much. His leftover money he likes to splurge. He is super bad at saving money.
Because of all the bills I pay, I dont have money to buy him gifts for Christmas. He talks about all the stuff he's going to buy me or us for Christmas, but I can't afford to buy anything because I pay the bills.
Is it acceptable to not want to celebrate Christmas for this reason?
Tldr;
> pay all bills of bf and i
> he buys food and stuff we need, then splurge
> he's bad at saving money
> I cannot afford to buy him Christmas presents
> since I pay all the bills, acceptable to not want christmas?
>>16483101
I wouldn't give a fuck but this is something you need to talk with about your boyfriend, OP.
You could do something like make him a nice dinner and then give him some pampering and a thorough sexing. Or find something really fun the two of you can do together.You don't need to spend money to give someone a nice gift. If I don't know what to do for my husband's birthday I spend the day making him his favorite meal (which is something that's hard for him to get regularly). It never goes awry.
There is no such thing as not being able to afford Christmas.
Ever since I was a little kid what I liked about Christmas was the atmosphere. I never got any presents or anything like that because my family was poor.
All you have to do on Christmas is talk about it with your boyfriend and spend quality time together. Just think about it, getting like a 1000 buck PC for Christmas would be pretty nice, but what is better, a PC or a person that you love?
Hi /adv/,
Europe, Germany in my case, is slowly but steadily turning to crap. Shit may hit the fan within the next 5 years, but even if not, if there's no drastic change in the near future, this is not the country I want to raise my kids in.
My gf and to-be-wife and me talked about leaving Europe for the US. We both are German citizens and have no criminal record or anything. We both are Christian and have college degrees. We would like to live in a climate similar to ours, so we were thinking about the north eastern part of the US. In case we are leaving,...
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>>16483043
>north east a region
very crowded very expensive very liberal politically restrictive gun laws
north west not as crowded not as expensive still liberal looser gun laws
do an internet search for jobs boards plenty of them
if you can speak English well no problem with acceptance
>>16483060
>if you can speak English well no problem with acceptance
dude can't work in the country legally or stay for more than a couple months, would that be a problem?
>>16483060
OP here, thanks for your answer, with north east I meant Maine, New Hampshire, Vermont and the like.
I don't care too much about gun laws, because in Germany I will probably never get one anyway. Being too liberal is a con though. Will look for job boards then thx, didn't know the term for that.
do any of you know if you could overdose from adderall? Considering you have ADD, how much adderall will it take before you just drop dead? Help.
>>16483038
Over 9000
Depends on your tolerance/weight and yes you can. It would not be painless.
However, instead of ODing you should be one of my pets. I'm collecting.
>>16483064
thanks, and I'll think about it.
I can't live like this
I can't live like this
Im trying to stay ahead of the game but the game is too far away. I can't take it anymore. Enough is enough. I can't live in this isolation, in this contamination.
Everyday in the morning and at random, I get these angry and sad filled thoughts on how I want to go back to when things were normal. When I was innocent. The monster inside me has grown this big. I feel permanent damage is coming from this isolation. Me without contact with anybody. Why do I have so much love them? And it's not even...
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>>16482980
>I really do think professional help is in order.
I agree.
Start by purging your mementos of her. Everything must go, physical or electronic. Giving things back does not seem to be an option, so donate, sell, or just throw away. This includes ALL pictures. Yes, even those. I normally tell people to put things they can't part with in a box, and then put the box somewhere safe but out of sight, but I think you may need to be more ruthless with yourself than that. Everything...
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>>16482980
stop being a creeper and pestering the girl, get some girl
why some guys are so damn pathetic
>>16483022
I just want to be friends with her again. Or really anybody to be my friend. But I need friends to make friends. But I'm just a loser. Who wants to be friends with a loser? I befriended this qt asian girl but she is increasing distance from me. Probably because she knows I have no friends
I just want to hug somebody. I want a little of gentle physical interaction.
Learning a new hobby is OK. But when I do those hobbies I still think of her.
22yo, been balding for last 4 years. Jumped on minoxidil, and been holding it on a Norwood 3-ish.
Cant grow a proper beard yet, and I'm not super muscular; just very athletic built (6'4, well defined muscles from strength training, but still slim). In general, I'd look like a slavbro neo-nazi if I shaved.
IMO, I feel like girls are really repulsed by my hair. I keep it short and trimmed, and maximize the illusion of thick(er) hair. I haven't gotten laid in over a year simply because of this reason I honestly belive, because when it comes to...
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pls
>>16482930
hey, man. maybe consider going on finasteride. it's kinda one of the only real solutions to combating hair loss, besides hair transplants and experimental drugs. maybe look into it a bit more. i've been taking it for like a year and a half now, so i might be able to answer some questions you have
I'm in a similar position, slim-fit, can't grow a beard, and only on minoxidil (for under 2 months) Except I will never naturally get big or have a beard, I don't have the genetic potential.
I'm also only average height, shy, and have had long hair all my life so shaving or buzzing it is a nightmare.
I've never posted pics, how bad is it? I think I'm between norwood 2 and 3. Should I do finasteride if I have a history of depression? Or try other alternative treatments / wait for setipripant?
