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Any ophthalmologist here? I'm thinking about purchasing some contact lenses and I need a specialist's opinion.
>>16489075
then go to an ophthalmologist
even if there's one lurking he cant look into it
>>16489080
i can't right now, that's why i am here
>>16489075
don't ask for such opinions on /adv/
did something similar once. turns out this "doctor" made everything up
i was dumb as fuck to believe him
Is anyone here from UK?
I'm asking for someone who is planning to continue his studies in UK
(from foundation year)
I'm from the UK and in my 4th year at uni if I can be any help?
>>16489073
The boys pretty paranoid
his scared that if he goes abroad the pressure might be too much form him.
he's planning to go to Sheffield
a foundation year then university
his English is good enough
except for writing
some of the things his paranoid about are
what if they give an essay as assignment and he can't do it?
how is the school system? the behavior, timetables etc.?
you see what i mean by paranoid?
anything you can say to put his mind at ease?
>>16489066
are you european or what?
if you are not, it will be very expensive for you
most likely, you will be kicked out of the uk/europe after your studies if you are not european
I have a LDR boyfriend but I think I'm crushing on someone who looks exactly like him. The guy works at Walmart. Sometimes I go just to see him. Too scared to talk to him. Once we locked eyes when we looked up at the same time.
Please make fun of me in this thread. Maybe that'll help get my brain straight. If you want some why's and explanations I can give them to you
Please help, I am 100% serious. This is not bait or a troll. I think I love the Walmart customer service man because he looks extremely similar to my boyfriend, who I've been with 2 years but haven't met yet.
It's currently going rocky and I need something to hold onto
>Long distance relationship for 2 years
>Haven't met even once
What.
How.
fucking faggots.
I've been dry from alcohol for almost 5 months now. Wasn't major alcoholic, but lost a job because I was drunk or hungover every day, and lost a relationship.
I've been going to AA since my sobriety date, and it's helped. Now, all I wanna do is go out and drink occasionally. Not anywhere near as much as I used to, but I'd still like to drink. I'll be moving across the US to go live with my sober father and his wife while I go to school. Any thoughts??
Drug addict here. Had a problem with meth, binged regularly, then stopped, then decided to do it every once in awhile.
Worked at first, then I was in the exact same spot.
Thats just me though. Gl with the AA brainwashing unoriginal "youre a bad seed that needs god" pseudo science bullshit.
SMART recovery is better
>>16488815
Define SMART recovery? I call my sponsor and other people in the program when I'm having a "bad" day, and I usually go do something for someone to take my mind off of it.
>>16488800
Depends a lot on your self-esteem, OP.
If you need to drink for courage, you may end up getting shitfaced a lot.
I need to hear the truth. Is this cringey?
I may or may not have committed social suicide.
Oops. Meant to post the video. This is real social suicide right here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DlhQa6jxaI4
>>16488663
DAM SON
>>16488670
How bad is it?
>TL;DR
>Gf has a low- /no sexdrive and is always tired due to medical reasons
>wasn't like this before
>she says it will get better
>been 4 months already
Now for some backstory:
We have had a relationship for a couple of years now, and recently she's had surgery and medication that effects her mood in general.
This has caused her to have more mood swings then usual, she's always tired and she barely wants to have sex.
Now normally I wouldn't be nagging about this, because I understand. I understand she is in a difficult time now and this is a long process, however she just keeps saying things like: 'Let's spend some quality time together!' or that she's horny, and then when we meet she's too tired to do anything.
She's promised me quite a few times that she will try and thing about my needs, however this has been going on for so long now and nothing has changed.
We've talked about this and she understands my side of the story, but it's just empty promises because after 1 week it's just back at the old pattern.
I do really love her, but the intimacy is as good as gone.
What is the appropriate thing to do now? I have noticed myself getting agitated at nothing because I already know we're not gonna have sex or that she's just gonna go to bed at 10pm.
Any advice guys?
Your girl is a typical shitty girl. What i mean by that is 99% of women will say what they know you want to hear and then turn around and do whatever they want to do. This usually gets them results that are in their favor and when someone finally blows up on them its a victim parade full of the words "tired, depressed, stressed, busy,unappreciated, anxious"
Dump her anon, the only way these people learn is like a fat spoiled child getting its toy ripped away finally. Otherwise they will continue to believe that telling you what you want to hear and then doing whatever they want to with the ocassional excuse will always be ok behavior
>>16488659
Tbh that's not my gf at all, but thanks for responding.
>>16488680
>has been saying shes horny for over past week when you arent there
>whenever you show up withholds sex
Alright m8
Reposting something from yesterday for more answers and more audience.
Approximately 8 days ago I purchased a good's gym 5 in 1 door gym trainer. Have since only used it once. i want to return it but upon disassembling it, the cheap plastic part of the design broke. That part is very much essential though it was cheap plastic.
Option A) return item and no not even mention it's broken. This might work depending on the mood of the Walmart customer service person I talk to
Option B) be honest. Tell them it broke while trying to disassemble (or assemble) it, and that I don't want a replacement. I just want my money back.
>>16488637
Don't forget to tell us you're a well-known regular there. That's probably an important detail too.
I don't really want it anymore. It dawned on me I could've just used a cinder block to put my feet in to help me do sit ups, not an expensive piece of equipment. And I can use tree branches for chin ups and whatnot. Or even go to the park and play on a jungle gym. So yeah I could keep this product, but for only 1 part of it, and I don't feel it's worth it anymore
>>16488647
Oh yes hello you must've seen the previous thread.
Yeah I'm well known there. This Walmart is 2 miles away from home and has everything cheaper than all the local stores. Seriously. I've been known to visit more than twice a week sometimes.
Hey guys, I need some advice and some insight.
I'm in an awesome relationship. Like he is the one, no question. I gave birth about 2 months ago to our second kid. He was literally counting down the days until we could have sex again. Finally when we were cleared, we did and honestly it just...hurt and didn't do anything for me. I used to be a super sexual person and we were very passionate with sessions a few times a day. I used to masturbate a lot. I mean I loved sex.
Now, just the idea of it makes me anxious. Obviously he needs it but it feels..like such work. I think it could be fatigue. I work night shift, take care of the kiddos during the day, cook, clean, etc. Sleep is...rare. alone time together is rare since he works days, plus the kids. I can feel him getting increasingly bitter about me not...putting out..but I feel like I'm losing it. I have no sexual urges in me. Plus I'm tired. I just hate it. I want to make him happy but I also don't want to make myself unhappy.
Anybody experienced this themselves or with significant others? Does it go away?
Pic unrelated obvs
This is hard... 2 kids is alot of work aswell
As far as the sex hurting lube is the obvious answer.
Maybe him taking on a share of the choores would help younrelax durring the day and therfor reduce life stress maybe even inptove your sleep. After these things start to clear up you will most likely gind yourself getting horney again.
Out of curiosity I have a few questions.
Your and his age?
Age and sex of the kids?
Length of relationship?
Country of residence?
>26 yr old father of 1 atm but we are planning our second one for next year (we are hoping for a little girl)
>>16488625
You will have to forgive the spelling and grammar im typing this out on my phone lol
I had my 2nd child almost 3 months ago.
I don't work, I stay at home and look after them. I also get okay sleep cos my baby sleeps well at night time (I don't get any naps during the day though). But I'm the same as you.
We haven't had sex since having the second baby. Did you have a vaginal birth?
I honestly have no desire to touch myself or have sex. I did have a sexy dream the other night so hope that means I'm starting to get some desire back.
My husband is very understanding though. Can you talk to your partner about how you're feeling?
Today mom brought me some bratwurst. They're these kind and they have natural casing, which means intestine wall, and veal in them.
What do I do? The idea of eating either grosses me out. I eat sausages all day long if they're artificial casing, but the thought of eating veal and intestine doesn't sit well with me, and of course I'd starve in a south american home.
Now sitting in my fridge. What do?
stop being a cunt
>>16488278
What?
>>16488282
stop being a cunt
Hello friends, basically one of my closest friends broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years about 6 months ago. I've always been very close with his ex even when they were dating and as of about 6 weeks ago we've been seeing each other casually. We've made it clear we have strong feelings for each other but as of today have decided to take a break from what we're doing. It's been kept a secret for the most part, only telling a couple of people we know wouldn't say anything and there's no way a relationship can work like that. I see it as us having 3 options.
1. Forget about it entirely and just be friends (extremely hard because of the mutual feelings.
2. Tell my friend that I'm seeing his ex and deal with the consequences
3. Give it time and see if things will be any easier later down the track (would still have to tell my friend I'm seeing his ex)
So any thoughts or recommendations are appreciated because I'm pretty torn with what to do.
You should have asked your friend before you started anything if you even remotely valued his friendship
>>16488117
She initiated it and there's no way I could have told him what had happened at that point in time.
>>16488109
Well your friend doesn't own her, nor has anything to do with her, obviously it will hurt him but if you want to be with her be prepared to stop being friends with him. If I were you, I'd say fuck that fool never talk to him and get with the girl. It's not like your friend is gunna suck your dick or give you anything remotely close to what she can do for you
>be me, college student
>live in gated apartment complex
>leave on foot at 1130 at night
>approaching gate, see three college kids outside waiting to get it, on phone telling someone they're outside
>open gate and one rushes over to grab door, say "hey man." close door before he reaches it. I don't know them and i don't want to be the guy that lets three college guys in that dont live there who might end up vandalizing, or doing something I dont want to be involved in.
>keep walking
>hear "that wasn't cool man" "HEY FUCK YOU" and "GET BACK HERE PUSSY"
>keep walking.
I feel I might have been too much of an asshole, I mean really what were they gonna do rape someone? Should I have just let them in? Thoughts?
You did what you had to do. They were being cunts. You might feel guilty and replay it in your head but at the end of the day don't feel bad.
They called you a pussy for not opening a door. Im sure they were up to something really honest and kind inside the building
its fine op better safe then sorry
I am 21 years old, and live with my parents. Sad, I know, but I am going to university and am on my way to becoming a highschool teacher in two years. My problem is, that my parents are very controlling, mostly my mother. She constantly gets on my ass about grades if they go to a B. Think asian standards, but white. She scares me almost every other day with threats of forcing me out of the house, searching my things to catch me doing things, even going to the point that if I want to do something, she makes it seem like its a waste of her time and not mine. She has even gone to the point to instill in me a fear that everyone is out to get me, and to trust no one, because they are out for themselves. What can I do to tell my mother mostly, that I need to be treated like a man, and not like a child. Will give more information if responded too.
I suppose you don't have any options on moving out?
>>16488084
Nope. They know this fact. Saying that if I left, I would lose a check I normally get, and in this way, I can't leave. So I am trapped until they essentialy die.
I was abused by my parents, and all I have to say to you is just suck it up and get over it. Abandon hope of her behavior ever changing. It won't. Learn to control your own emotions so you don't get riled.
Got a job XD what should i buy first?
stocks in bitcoin
a treadmill
>>16488034
isnt bitcoin just a shit gimmick that will never last. and a sure way to lose money? (im no expert but i know a few people who have bitcoins and lost thousands)
>>16488040
lol its not me, its a match from my tinder account (i generally just swipe yes very fast)
I have a really hard time talking directly about anything sexual. Usually I'll just replace words like dick/vagina/breasts with "y'know" or a gesture. I struggle with this both in general sexual conversations and in more intimate settings. I've got a hell of a hard time talking dirty in bed or asking for whatever I like directly, although I don't have any trouble saying I like something, and very little trouble asking about what my partner likes.
I'm not anxious about sounding stupid or otherwise embarrassing myself, and I know what kinds of things I want to say and how I want to word them. It's just something that feels inappropriate to me and I can't force the words out of my mouth. I imagine it's partly because I grew up in a house where sex and bodily functions weren't something you talked about and curse words - both sexual and not - were off limits for me to say, and even now as an adult I've gotten lectured by family for saying them casually despite the fact that they're all fine with other members of the family and themselves cursing.
This is frustrating and detrimental to my relationship and I want to change it. But most of the advice online is for people who're insecure about talking dirty or who don't know what to say. For me, it's more that I'm just overly conservative in what I feel is appropriate. How do I work past this?
Just force yourself until it comes naturally, I guess? Doesn't really seem like that big of a deal, though. Everybody acts like their parents to some degree, you could've ended up with habits a lot worse than shyness over "dirty words." More of a funny quirk than a dealbreaker.
If you really want to change, I guess you just need to force yourself until it starts to be natural.
>>16488029
It's detrimental to my relationship though. I can't ask for what I want in bed or talk about what I want or how best to satisfy me. And I can't talk dirty even though both me and my boyfriend want me to. I have tried forcing myself and most of the time I full on can't make the words come out of my mouth. That's not a quirk, it's a character flaw.
>>16488047
I dunno. I guess you could just practice. Like, literally just practice saying the words out loud when you're alone, like a crazy person, until you can get past the mental block.
My bf is at work and I can't sleep because I'm scared ):
Hold me
>>16487971
GAMAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
>>16487975
im a girl
>>16487981
gama means toad you cubic zirconia
