Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 2181. page
- Home
- Board: /adv/ - Advice
- Reading: Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 2181. page
Okay, /adv/ there's a lot of backstory for this, and I'm not quite sure how to parse it down to a to;dr version.
Around this time last year, I started hanging out with two girls from work, as well as one of the girl's boyfriend. Well call the girls A and S, and S's boyfriend Z. S and I were 22, A and Z were 28. S and Z had recently taken in A after her fiancé had kicked her out for cheating on him with a guy we'll call D. After the breakup, A became really adamant about getting with D, despite the fact that he had a girlfriend. Now, I really don't have a lot of friends, and having people inviting me over every day certainly was pleasant. After a while, I had developed something of a crush on A. I never really planned on acting on those feelings, though, and frankly couldn't see such things working out in my favor. There was one night, however, when I was crashing at their place after heavily drinking. They were living in a one bedroom apartment, so A had been sleeping on a single mattress they kept behind the couch. Now, that couch was an uncomfortable piece of furniture, but I had slept on worse before. A however, insisted that I share the mattress with her. At this point, I had yet to even kiss a girl, and, combined with my decision to nip my feelings for her in the bud, I declined. After some prodding at me rejecting the offer, I gave up and told her I had started developing feelings for her. At that, she started making out with me, expressing disappointment that I didn't push things further than that. Still, I stayed on that couch, and she eventually she just up and dragged me from the couch onto the mattress, and we slept like that.
>>16486017
Things continued like this for a couple weeks: I would be invited over, we'd all be drinking, and I'd crash on the mattress with A. One morning, she had tried blowing me, but I was nervous about Z or S catching us, so it really wasn't productive. Then, one night, Z made a proposition: I would have sex with A, while he had sex with S. Now, I knew the three of them had been going at it occasionally, especially since A had been showing an inability to keep it in her pants with people we worked with. By this point, A had been hitting on me when we hung out, pulling down my shirt to check out my chest, or speculating on the size of my penis. But I was drunk, and I figured what the hell, if she was up for it then so was I. The night went... alright. It being my first time, I eventually got nervous and started pushing rope.
>>16486019
After a few more weeks, A eventually moved into another apartment. I helped her move her stuff, and met her new roommates, W and his girlfriend K. W and K took a liking to me, and A continued to invite me over to hang out. Almost immediately, W and K picked up on the fact that my feelings for A didn't stop at being "friends." W even asked if I'd be upset if he, A, and K had a threeway. I insisted that it really didn't matter what I felt, I wasn't exactly in a relationship with as, nor was I actively pursuing one. At Christmas, A was hospitalized due to blood clots in her legs, related to a pulmonary embolism she'd had the previous year. I decided to be an good friend and visit when I could, especially since W and K could only make it out once, and her ex-fiancé telling her he was glad she was spending Christmas in the hospital. Once the year turned over, and A had been hospitalized a second time, her dad insisted she come back home. I ended up driving her around to The day before she decided whether or not to leave, she invited me over to hang out. I got to her place, and W and K told me she had gone to S and Z's place. I moved over there, to find that the three of them had been having sex. S was mad because A had dominated the session. They invited me to join, and I figured "what the hell." Now, I'm aware that I was rather inexperienced (and still am, to be honest), but I still took A falling asleep on me rather poorly. By that time, Z and S had already finished up. Z walked in, and seeing that A had fallen asleep, woke her up. She immediately started taking off his pants. They had sex, and then I angrily continued what I was doing when Z was done.
>>16486020
The next week, A left. She left with a jacket I had loaned her. I kept correspondence with her, messaging each other at least once every day. It was during this time that she started saying stuff to me like, "If you were older and circumstances were different, I'd scoop you up in a heartbeat," or, "You're one of the strongest people I know." She told me she wore my jacket all the time, and found it comforting because it was mine. This continued until she started dating a guy she met there. I did my best to deal with it, I knew she wasn't my girlfriend or anything. Still didn't stop me from spending $150 to mail the rest of her stuff up for her.
How long does it take wisdom teeth extraction to heal up enough that I can talk more?
also i guess I just need someone to talk to, pretty lonely. None of my few friends are available
I remember that time. That was rough for a little while.
When'd you get yours done, anon?
Brandywine Oral Surgery in Exton P.A, done by Peter M. Famiglio, D.M.D. I was fucking scared over nothing. This was not as scary as I imagined. After I got sedated, the whole procedure seemed to be over in 5 seconds, or maybe my interpretation of time was fucked up
>>16486005
It really shouldn't take long at all. I had mine done in Marine corps boot camp by some crusty old navy doctor and I was good in like 1-2 days.
I believe the internet has made me into a sensitive misguided SJW. It wasn't until I began browsing certain image boards, reddit,and tumblr that I began to see patriarchy and racism everywhere.
I want to go back where I could just enjoy my day without think of war, social injustice, and capitalism.
How do I go back?
By living your life.
Quit trying to correct injustice. Don't be a massive cunt to others for their beliefs.
Man up, you pussy ass low test beta nigger loving whimpy fuck male.
>>16485997
Here is the thing about SJW: They are racist as fuck. They infantilize minorities and are openly racist to white people.
Hi /adv/
When I was living back home, I had a group of friends I was very close with for years. Then gradually, they stopped inviting me out with them, and any time I'd invite them to something they'd say they're busy with work or school. After seeing pictures of them doing fun things without me on facebook a bit too much, I assumed they just didn't want me around any more, and it was time for me to make some new friends.
About a year after this I moved 8 hours away for college, and a few weeks in I already had a new group of friends. I was getting invites to go out again, and I had people to invite things to again. All was good. Then about a month later, the same thing happened. I see them on facebook all of the time doing fun things without me without inviting me. Any time I invite them to something, they're busy. It hurt especially when I saw a photo of them all having a big early thanksgiving dinner without me.
>maybe you're a douche or annoying
I'm not a douche, I've always been kind to my friends and anyone else around us.
I do talk a lot, but I don't think I'm quite annoying enough for this to happen twice.
>maybe you come on too strong
I hardly ever talk to them over social media, text, etc. I also stopped inviting them to things once I noticed they weren't saying yes to anything. If I see them around school I'll say hi, but I keep it brief.
>maybe you're boring
I've made them laugh quite a bit in the past.
>maybe you're over thinking it
I know I am. But for something like a thanksgiving dinner with friends, I know my name had to have come up at some point when they were inviting each other.
Is it time to move on again? I really enjoyed this group of people, and I know I'm going to miss them when the semester is over, regardless of how much they'll miss me.
>>16485985
Move on and start having fun for yourself with new people. When your old friends see how much fun you are having they will crawl back. Then give them the middle finger for fucking you around and carry on with the new people happily.
>>16485985
Maybe you're creepy or awkward, do you have any anxiety or lack confidence maybe?
>>16485993
I pretty much did this the first time, and they haven't come crawling back quite yet. I like the suggestion though
>>16486381
I'm really not though. I used to be, and people had different reactions than this
19. no passions. failing college. soon to be homeless. should i kill myself?
>>16485972
literally lmao at your life
>this is how easy millenials give up
>>16485974
This.
OP, apply yourself.
>>16485972
>should i kill myself?
If you can't move back to your parents then yes.
I'm in a real need of advice and I can't talk to anybody about this. Here comes another "help me with relationships" thread so bear with me.
I've been in a relationship with my gf for 3 years now. I had feelings for her at the start and still have but it became kind of an on and off thing. I keep telling her that I love her in order to not upset her. I like that I can talk to her about various subjects but she quickly gets bored talking about "non-practical" things or things that "don't have a direct impact on" her. She is very weak willed, she can't say no to something tasty and loves eating more than anything in the world. We also have no common interests.
2 years ago at my uni I met a girl who interested me from the very first day. This might sound cliche but I'm not really sure what got me interested in her. Probably multiple things - her modest way of speaking about things and kind attitude towards life to name a few. She paid extra attention to everything I said or did; I noticed her sometimes recall things I've said months ago at lectures, things that I myself have half forgotten. On top of that she complimented on the products of my hobbies a few times and all this made me to believe that she is also interested in me. She also told me multiple times that I'm "very smart" when I scored A+ on some courses. A desire to be out in nature, spend time to ourselves and mutual dislike towards snobs and hypocrites are some of the things we have in common.
For 2 years I managed to hide my interest towards her but a few weeks ago, after not seeing her for a year, stars aligned in a way that we ended up taking a course which neither of us was going to take but still took because of many variables. Anyways, after a brief chat and a few compliments from her side stating, again, how smart I am, I've been having trouble sleeping and concentrating. Weeks pass and I can't stop thinking about her. It's become so serious that I can't do my homework, I can't concentrate.
1/2
2/2
Despite the negative stuff I said about my gf, I still want to be with her because of solid reasons I won't be mentioning here because of irrelevance.
I feel as if every part of me wants to tell the girl how I feel. I genuinely believe that doing so will end the trouble in my mind but there is a problem: what if she really IS interested in me, me opening to her and saying that we can't be together will devastate her which I really don't want to do.
What I'm asking is - should I tell her or not?
Thanks for taking the time to read this.
Do boys hate when girl is making the first move? How do pull that off without looking like a thirsty slut? What if you two are friends?
A few of my long-term relationships started with a girl asking me out. I've also been on tons of other dates the same way, and they didn't fail to work out simply because she made the first move.
Do it faggot.
>>16485895
No.
Casually mention that you think you'd make a good couple. Maybe shy.
Same deal, but remove the shy.
The longer you don't do anything, the more you aren't going anywhere.
JUST DO IT
How bad r my teeth? Should i get them ground down or just live with it? Or should i get them repaired?
They're fine.
No really, don't sweat it.
You have all your teeth and they're all aligned & straight. 10/10.
Just use Crest Whitestrips
Do guys hate girls with flat chests?
>>16485833
Hate? Of course not.
>>16485833
not hate, but for some guys small chested girls are unappaling because they look more like a child than like a woman, so they choose to date girls with boobs.
No, but they seem to hate me.
Along with all other women in general.
i've been expelled from college for street racing and also my roomates sent in a complaint that i didn't contribute to the dorm at all (not cleaning, stocking it with food, etc.) despite the fact that i dont fucking live there
how do i not feel like my life is over
i dont know what to do
i dont want to go back home
i dont know what to do
i've just been driving around, i've left the state
Just keep rolling.
You're living free. What's to hold you back from whatever you want now?
Get a job, live broke for a while, start college over.
>>16485828
c'mon man
Do you think someone who looks exclusively for love online is doomed to either be alone forever, or stuck with a crazy, fat, or otherwise screwed up person, regardless of the tiny amount of success?
My best friend only looks for online love and puts a lot of emphasis on it. I always tell him that if he wants better quality women, he'll have to take a yoga class or something, or obtain a hobby where he can do something he likes to do, without exclusively looking for the opposite sex. He refuses, and continues to look online. What advice can I give him? Personally, I stopped looking online. There's just nowhere I can go to obtain a hobby to give him an example, though.
Church maybe? I'm not religious though.
I pretty much told him that if you don't meet tons of people in college or high school, or any other point in your life where you're around tons of women.... your chances of finding a really good woman are cut by more than half.
If he is unwilling to look outside of online, that is his choice and it's going to be hard to convince him otherwise.
Sorry OP. He is locked in until he comes to you for help on the issue.
Why is he so insistent on looking online? Does he think it's better, or is he just too afraid to meet people?
How to stop worrying about your future all the time?
It clouds my mind so much that it makes me unable to make changes in the present
I think about big things all the time:
>should I change my major
>should I move to another country after graduating
>how do I make my relationship work
I also have so many doubts about the place in life I'm in this moment that all I want to do is talk to people/browse the net/seek others advice what should I do and it's harming my progress in college.
I should be studying right now but my mind is clouded with regrets, doubts and insecurities should I be doing that because I find no purpose in it
How do I just shut off my emotional state sometimes?
Physical exercise in the mornings.
>>16485790
It always cracks me up when somebody advises things like 'eat well' or 'exercise' as a solution for major problems which need to be adressed by not avoiding them
>>16485802
Crack up all you want, 'facing' the problem of obsessively worrying about the future by obsessing about it can't work.
Hey /adv/, I don't normally ever come here but this is kind of a big deal and I don't know where to go. I got sperm-swaggled by a girl in the middle of the night and I didn't know until recently when I was accused of rape and she was pregnant for months. This isn't about the criminal side, but rather, how much am I legally required to be involved in all of this? It's extremely unfair and I wanna know if I can go to court to completely absolve myself of the issue.
Pic related.
You can ask for a DNA test. That'd be step one.
Otherwise lawyer up.
>>16485762
Thanks. I'm kind of at a loss for what to do, so you're really helping a dude out.
http://www.mommyish.com/2011/11/23/woman-steals-ex-boyfriends-sperm-has-twins-sues-for-child-support-836/
My ex randomly hit me up after not talking for a year and her reason was "it was stupid of me to ignore you for so long". It seems like she just wants to be friends but why the hell would you hit up your ex after an entire year just to be friends? She said she'll be in town in a week and is willing to meet up with me.
Is she giving me the runaround or is this just a dumb women's thing? I still have feelings for her but don't want to be 'just friends' but I also want to see her when she comes down at least one last time.
Wat do, am I destined to ride the heartache train or what
>>16485704
>Wat do,
tell her you dont want to meet and be done with it.
She probably thinks she wants you but ultimately it's not going to work out
Fuck her if you want but beyond that it's way past time to move on.
>>16485704
>"it was stupid of me to ignore you for so long".
> It seems like she just wants to be friends
I will tell you why straight up. She got fucked over majorly herself with every type of cock in her and out. And now she wants you back to be a little bitch to her so she can be reassured she still have that hold on you of emotions. Do not even consider it man. You do not know where that cunt has been for a year let alone what has been inside her.
This place seems fucking toxic and I'm trying to figure out how to get away.
>>16485621
Get off internet, turn off computer, go outside. Problem solved.
>>16485626
I'm trying to be realistic here. Internet addiction doesn't just somehow end like magic.
