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Okay so girlfriend of 1 year becomes pregnant. Im scared but get over the fact. Become invested, think of baby names all night make plasm for the future, real metal stuff. Im not a person to find the concept of marriage easy to swallow so when I told her I was going to make her my wife before our child is born. Best couple weeks in my life. Yesterday she informed me that the time her was fertilized was a day where we wasn't together. But she was with her ex at her grandmas funeral. So it turns out they fucked and his the father. Ive never been so hurt in my life. What should I do
bump because I'm in complete shock and don't know what to do
anybody :/ ?
>>16481388
She cheated you man... I know it's tough to swallow, but it's time to back out.
Hey there, I need some advice/help.
I admit I haven't brushed my teeth in over 7 years. I just stopped doing it and got lazy with it.
My teeth are now yellow. I assume that most of my teeth are rotten now.
Everytime I do try to attempt to do this I just stop and be like why even try it's not like I can fix it. Please. please don't tell me to go see a doctor. I have always feared them and i just know there going to yell about me for this.
>>16481375
>don't tell me to see a doctor
Op. How old are you now? If you have 20+ more years of life left, your only option is to go to the dentist.
It will be costly and they may make an offhand comment.
But you get to choose between a couple brief moments of humiliation, or going the rest of your life with rotten teeth.
You think judgement from the DENTIST is bad?? think about how you'll feel when people see you with gross rotten teeth.
If you need an excuse...
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>I know I have a problem that requires a health professional
>but please don't tell me to go see a health professional
Just make an appointment you shit. It takes about an hour for a basic check-up and they can give you a whitening kit so your teeth don't look like garbage. Your dentist might give you a stern look for not taking care of your gums but hey, you know what you did.
>>16481390
>Op. How old are you now?
I turn 21 in five days. Is there a way I can fix this? What if I brush five times a day? Even use whting stripes. I don't want to go to a dentist. I have such bad social anxiety.
I'm curious, because my situation is a little weird, but how many serious relationships have all of you had?
I've only had one my whole life, and they were my first everything. I've never even been out on a date with anyone before I met them, and now we're getting married and I love it, but I feel like I have no one to talk to about it since everyone I know has had at least a handful of relationships they can look back on, but I have zilch and I feel like I can't relate to anyone about it, especially when they talk about past relationships going...
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>>16481305
>It makes me feel very conceited
Either shit can happen slowly over time, or it can happen all at once. Don't get too arrogant, a piece of paper does not correlate to life long success.
>>16481312
?
I'm not trying to boast, just that I have no one to relate to in terms of relationships in my immediate peer group and that it's a bit frustrating when everyone can relate to it but myself, because I've just never experienced it.
I've had 3
In highschool, for 2 years, but we broke it off after we graduated. Then another for almost a year, then another for 6 months. I'm dating around right now, but yeah, I just don't feel like trying anymore, for anything serious at least
I've made this thread before, but didn't really understand the answers.
Obviously this question is far too stupid and embarrassing to post elsewhere, but I've never had sex in missionary position before:
When having missionary sex, do you lie flat on top of the girl (which I imagine would hurt her) or in a plank position (which would almost certainly hurt me)
Thanks
>>16481304
Just lay on top of her and don't move. Only thrust your hips every 20 seconds or so and keep your arms at your side. Grunt once in a while too.
>>16481316
Epic man! Upvoted!
>>16481304
Someone please make this real simple
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How do I stop being bad at everything? I'm bad at everything. I fuck up and make mistakes constantly. How do I stop?
>>16481280
Bumping because I'd like to know it as well.
>inb4 "by dying and reincarnating as way less of a fuckup"
Fucking up is human. You will not stop fucking up, ever.
Analyze the mistake. Apply logical skills and address what needs to be done. Conquer, move on. Cry into your pillow if you want, but don't blame the math teacher for giving you a math exam.
Maybe you have a food allergy that is sabotaging your physical and mental efficiency. See an allergist and get tested by him/her.
ITT:
Name three things you're either:
A) Proud of having achieved
or
B) Working towards
1) Working in a job related to what I graduated for (even if I don't get paid that much) I get great experience and I love working there.
2) Been in one happy relationship for the past 5 years and getting married soon. They are my best friend as well as my first.
3) I have a really cute cat
>>16481275
All sound brilliant. Nice job, you should be proud of yourself.
I have a job waiting for me out of college. And I am going to be making a lot of money + great benefits. Super excited
So I just cheated on my girlfriend of 8 years with a co-worker I met a few weeks ago. At first, it was us just hanging out as friends. Then, she started flirting with me and that led to her naked in my bed one night. I couldn't stop myself. I feel so bad inside like I am full of guilt. P.S. my girlfriend lives about 40 miles away and we don't see each other more than once a week. My girlfriend doesn't know that this girl and I have been hanging out. My girlfriend is also very rash and jealous when it comes to me and other girls. She has threatened to kill herself...
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>>16481207
good job setting yourself up for this moron. "I couldn't stop myself", yes, you could have, you chose not to despite all of these reasons otherwise.
First of all, stop acting as if you had no control over yourself. You weren't hoodoo'd into putting your dick in another woman, you made that decision rationally. It was a shit choice.
However I doubt your girlfriend will kill herself. Regardless, you need to break up with her. If you choose to tell, be honest and don't make...
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>>16481207
Your either a weak piece of shit or you don't care enough about this 'gf'.
Also 8 years? wtf the rule is 5 years at the most, then you gotta go your separate ways if there is no commitment in sight.
Stop wasting her time.
>>16481207
>She has threatened to kill herself
They're always bluffing, don't let that stop you from leaving her.
Oh, yeah, you should leave her. You don't have to tell her what happened, but leave her asap. She obviously had good reason to be jealous about you and other girls.
She'll probably never feel good enough nor trust again, so screw your feelings about "getting it off your chest."
How do I get a gf if I look like pic related?
>>16481180
Loose the hipster glasses, you look like fag.
you don't
stop caring about your looks
I've been dating this girl for 2 years now, and we are the perfect couple. We're in love like no two people could be in love, and I trust her more than anything... But I get extremely jealous over menial shit. She has like 1 female friend, and a ton of guy friends, and I hate it. I hate all of them, and my jealousy gets to the point where it starts interacting with my Schizophrenia, and I end up always thinking about butchering those guys. What do I do? She's tired of it, and I hate feeling like my heart is pumping venom. I need help.
Pic unrelated, obviously.
>I get extremely jealous over menial shit
You obviously don't trust her more than anything then.
>>16481129
It isn't like that. It's not that I don't trust her, it's that I can't stand the thought of her thinking about someone else. I don't think she's cheating on me, but I know they stare at her, and that is enough to make me want to kill them.
I get extremely jealous due to my own insecurity and huge lack of confidence in myself. I'd love to kill girls that are prettier than me. We have so much in common.
Do you like yourself, OP? Because this is most likely not a problem specific to your current relationship. It's a you thing. You have to have the confidence that you can trust your girl, and the confidence to face life if she ends up being unfaithful.
What if you like a girl, she's smart and you enjoy her company but you find out she's been a slut. What do? How do you get over it? I don't need touchy feely bullshit or stupid shit like "hurr she no need no man", or crap like the past is the past or man up bullshit.
I need sensible advice that gets me through this mental block.
>>16481072
You are either a poor judge of character or get too attached way too quickly. Work on those things.
>>16481078
How do I work on not getting attached too easily? That is definitely something I need to fix. As far as poor judge of character, I don't see this as much of an issue but what would you say is good "character" anyway?
>>16481078
>>16481072
Honestly you have to think of it like who gives a shit. Could you blame an attractive desirable woman to have slept around ? I mean you enjoy sex right? If you could have sex with anybody, you'd probably have slept around too. Keep in mind its typically easier for girls to get away with it
>born in upstate ny
>nothing but duck dynasty looking rednecks around me
>every picture I see on Facebook is in an open field or in front of a tractor and hay bails
>have only seen one job in the paper in the past month and it requires a car
>4 months out of the year its -30 with 100 inches of snow
>no matter what direction I go in I see nothing but broken down shacks and barns surrounded...
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>>16481065
Well op, do you have ANY relatives somewhere else?
Otherwise you may just have to look on craiglist for chaep room in virginia, florida, texas, california and then buy a bus ticket. Then go litterally to every place within walkinh diatance of new place and find part time work, explain your story to manager. Hustle goes a long way.
>>16481082
Can Florida or cali be cheap?
Miami and la are my top choices
>>16481065
do you have work experience?
There are also some seasonal jobs that will provide housing. Or americorp which will put some money in your pocket/housing so you can save up to move into a city and find a job there.
you'll also benefit from sharing a place with a stranger.
My school is telling me that even though I'm 18, my parents still have the right to control my education. Is this a load of horse shit, or is it legitimate?
Horse shit.
>>16481017
state?
>>16481023
Yep, total horse shit but OP is too much a faggot to do anything about it.
It's called you move out and take care of your own damn self and make your own rules.
I need some relationship advice.
My boyfriend made a new friend that he's incredibly cuddly/hands-on with, going so far as to sleep in the same bed. It's not sexual in any way but it still makes me sick to my stomach.
I have explained to him how it makes me feel and he understands, but he keeps doing it. I'm going away for a week and I know they have plans to spend it together.
I'm conflicted because on one hand I feel violated by them being intimate together in our own house, on the other I feel selfish for wanting him to stop.
What...
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>>16480854
How much dignity and self-respect do you have? My answer depends on it.
>>16480864
Enough that I would break up should things come to it, if that's what you mean.
>>16480854
Lol move on. This guy is bored of you and already boarding the next ship from the sound of it.
holy shit just had worst experience in my life with a girl, even worse than a rejection.
girl i have a crush in my art class, i was supposed to be her model and she was supposed to draw my face. there were two other models next to me to draw, she didnt draw me and drew the other guy instead of me.
now i've been showing this girl interest deeply, while she shows no signs of anything. she simply said "he was a better angle" when i askd her why she didnt draw me, when i was right in front of her. Is this the ultimate rejection?
Her eyes do not...
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this is OP again
my last attempt will be to ask her if she wants to go eat sushi with me although i am gonna do this through email....
or should i do this in person? but if i do it in person i feel if she says no then its game over
why do i feel like she's testing my confidence? am i just a needy beta orbiter? i dont want to give up not yet, there is 3 weeks left till class ends
She doesn't like you romantically. Don't force yourself onto her..
Do you ever have any conversation with her to begin with? Bring up to go do something together casually. If she doesn't want to you know how it is. Don't feel bad about it, just find someone better who likes you.
how do i fix my uneven tanline without overcompensating for whats already tanned? being outside for 3 hours a day due to classes fucked my arms, my neck, my back, pussy, crack, etc
something similar happened to me
afterwards I spent many weeks (maybe months) without going on the sun and my skin became normal
>>16480826
How have you not learned to wear sunscreen when you go out?
No exceptions, sunscreen on every time you go into the sun. Spf 30.
>>16480848
classes require going outside. entire commons/quad has no roof, besides halls and rooms.
