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So i have a problem /adv/
I am 22 years old and i own a car, but i got fired.
Im currently in trade school that pays me 2,99$ an hour during internship hours.
Thats all the money im getting(16hours a week)
I recently broke my phone by accident and i need a new one..
I cant get rid of my car because my school is that far away and it's cheaper than a bus or train.
How do i get money very very quick so im not forced to sell my car..
Sell your body, or sell drugs
Steal shit and pawn it
>>16486583
>>16486586
these are not an option for me
>start dating a qt
>shes a full normie
>constantly shows me the texts she gets from guys asking her out
>Im a robot
>she always says she talks too much and I talk to little
>"why so quiet anon?"
>"you're not gonna say anything?"
>"whats on your mind anon?"
I cant shake the feeling she might leave me for being too cold. She knows I dont talk much but she still likes me and is very affectionate towards me, but they usually are at the beginning. Should I be worried she might leave me for chad? Ive never had a gf before.
My advice is to focus on your happiness and let her worry about her own satisfaction.
>>16486548
This
>>16486545
>worried about things that MIGHT happen
>so worried that you're never fully engaged in the relationship, always "preparing" yourself for the other shoe to drop
>the relationship never stood a chance
That's pretty much it. There's no guarantee that you won't get hurt in the future, but fear and insecurity like this are sure-fire relationship killers. I don't think there's any such thing as happiness without risk of pain at the other end. Either you've got to take the leap of faith, put your worries aside, and enjoy the moment, or you've got to resign yourself to a lonely, isolated life of emotional "safety."
So an old, old ex of mine who is in a relationship right now tried to cheat with me TWICE and sent me nudes both times.
The first time I actually convinced her not to cheat on her boyfriend and she told him about it, apparently he forgave her. Then yesterday she came back with the same talk. I stopped responding. This morning she sent me a picture.
At this point I'm seriously considering telling him. Should I tell him?
Yep.
Of course.
Of course.
...but maybe...
No, just kidding. Do tell.
Help me.
...just help me.
The dude will catch up to you if you're wasting time on making internet posts.
>>16486426
He's COMING for me!
>got low self-esteem because people treat me like shit
>people treat me like shit because I have a low self-esteem
wat do.
Stop allowing people to treat you like shit. Spend more time around people who don't treat you like shit.
Act differently than you feel.
>>16486400
>people who don't treat you like shit
women
>people I want to spend time around
men
>>16486404
I feel like I should not be treated like shit.
Hey /adv/
My life consists training, anime, porn, work and school. nothing really intresting but i enjoy it. the thing is i might enjoy to much ditched my old friends cause they were waste of time. "friends on school" usage to waste time. Is this a unhealthy life i am living? should i change?
You happy, Anon?
>>16486371
Pretty much, yeah. is this wrong, cause for a lot of folks this is wrong
>>16486385
Fuck 'em. You're happy, bud.
Hey /adv/. I just needed some input on something that came up very recently and how I should go about handling it.
So my friend that I just met at uni earlier this semester invited me to Thanksgiving with him and his parents. I'm a humble person in public and always shy from others offers whenever approached with anything. He knows that I'm in bad standing with my family and haven't talked to them in years, so I'm certain he knows that I don't have plans of my own.
Now since I know we as people like to take a rational and noble approach when giving advice to others when we wouldn't actually handle it like that ourselves, I have a few questions that are worded very specifically. Would you take him up on his offer even though Thanksgiving is traditionally a family event? Would it be ruder to decline him than to invade upon their holiday?
Sorry for the long post. Cheers, everyone.
I'll give this a bump before I decide it's too uninteresting of a topic.
In brief, my concern is that you've just met him. I think that this is a great kindness to pay a friend whom you've known for some time. It might not go so well with a friend you barely know and a family you've never met. I think you can afford to pass this one up and help yourself to a turkey sandwich and Netflix this year.
>>16486335
I'm not clear on whether you want to go or not.
why is it that there are so many more lonely young men than women?
>>16486303
It is better to be chad's sidebitch, than to be an /adv/ OP's queen.
Strong men have harems; weak men have hand.
>>16486321
rape isnt ok desu
>Crush on this qt I see at the gym
>He places his stretching mat next to mine and start doing abs stuff
>As soon as I finish my set, I pick up my mat and move it to the other side of the gym
>Mfw that probably gave off the wrong impression
>I was about to do stiff-leg deadlifts and didn't want my butt to be right in his face
>Tfw not stacy enough to be that lewd
Also that same day
>On my way out of the gym
>Idle around the qt, thinking of a way to approach him while pretending to be on my phone
>Some other dude is standing on one of those balancing balls and doing some weights
>Remember a /fit/ comic about that
>Kek'd out loud
>Qt saw me, I probably looked like a bitch
>Power walk the fuck out of there
Do I still have a chance?
>>16486261
Get out, fag
>>16486264
But I'm female
>>16486275
You sound pathetic
How the hell do I live with a crazy abusive "mom"
Today as soon as I woke up she was already screaming at me. If I stand downstairs she just mutters bitchy comments under her breath and if I go upstairs she just slams shit. She has 0 friends or anything not even her family talks to her. Today my dad stole money out of my wallet and I said holy fuck i wouldn't mind if he stole 5 for food but he took like 12 for cigarettes, then I hear ya know that's our money anyways you owe for us for all the food and shit and I said ok I guess and she's been screaming at me for 3 hours and slamming shit. I have a sibling that tried to sexually abuse me and gave me PTSD and she always compares me to him saying he's better than me and I have a cat and she says she always hates it and is always mean to it but when his cat comes around and I'm around then corner she acts all nice to it just to traumatize me.
If my dad is home she barely makes a sound but as soon as he leaves she goes fucjing crazy. If she sees me shell start doing shit around the house and slamming shit and yelling. Even if I don't respond she just sits there and yell at me no matter what I do. She's a crazy cunt who just sits in her room getting drunk 24/7. The other day she got drunk and I was just sitting on the porch and she just says fuck you and tries locking the door. She tried saying she was going to slit my cats throat and attacking me. She started bring up my sibling and my trauma just to get me going and i punched a wall. I tried calling 911 to see if I can get her help and they sent the cops and they told me she should kick me out and I got arrested and taken to jail. I was hoping I could go in a program to help me find a job and get me out of my house. My dad doesn't believe me or care but she literally goes from when she wakes up to nighttime just yelling at me and slamming shit. Oh and were freakishly poor.
>How the hell do I live with a crazy abusive "mom"
get job
acquire apartment
>>16486218
No car in the middle of nowhere PTSD no sleep, I want to move really fucking far but that just makes it harder
Get the fuck out and never speak to any of then again.
What kind of answer did you expect?
You could also just kill them all, and then yourself. World would be better off without them in it, and you wouldn't have to live with what you did. Win-win.
How do you convince yourself that you're just as valuable as people who have relationships? I'm in my early twenties and I've never had a relationship, that makes me feel really bad about myself
>>16486125
You are probably not. Need to know why you can't/don't get any.
>>16486125
Your time will come when you have someone who gives a shit about whether you are alive or dead. Start branching out slowly but do not rush like everyone else. It will come tho my friend.
>>16486128
I'm trying to be happy, so saying that I'm not as valuable as them isn't really helping.
Please help me to stop feeling depressed
Short: I've been busy with uni lately and my girlfriend is getting pissed off that I don't see her often enough
I'm in my third year of biology at university at the moment and I'm also in a 2 year relationship with this girl. This month I've had a lot of work - lab training, a write-up, an exam and a literature review - and I've had to cut down on the how often I see her (usually twice a week). Apparently though, this isn't enough as she thinks that I'm always too busy to see her even though I'm making an effort to see her as much as I do. This is in addition to the fact that she thinks I need to get more friends/hobbies so I'm not spending time on my own so much, even though I have just as many friends and hobbies as I always have (very few).
I've told her that it's just this month and next month it'll be back to normal but she clearly doesn't give a shit because she keeps bringing it up. I should mention that the same thing happened a couple months ago and things did go back to normal like I said.
I'm thinking of talking to her about it and telling her that it's selfish of her to expect so much of me when I'm doing my best.
I thought I'd check here first that I'm not just being a bastard.
Put your education first desu.
>>16486123
So she wants you to ignore your real-life responsibilities and priorities to pay her more attention, and she wants you to transform yourself into a more extroverted person than you are, just "because."
I'm not going to freak out and say "dump that bitch!!!!" but neither of these are fair or reasonable requests. Just hold your ground. Either she'll get over it, or she won't.
>>16486296
>she wants you to transform yourself into a more extroverted person than you are, just "because."
I'm glad someone understands it. I've never had more friends than I can count on my hands and I've never been a part of any clubs or anything. I spend my time either playing vidya by myself or occasionally going for a drink with work. I don't know why it matters all of a sudden.
What the title says.
>>16486116
So what are yah selling then?
good, i definitely need some solid, forthright advice from knowledgeable and experienced people. please be outspoken, but do take into account that changing anything takes time and i can't jump to a different mental state in a matter of minutes, hours or even days.
i have posted this in another thread already, but might as well try here:
how do you deal with the realization that you deeply love a girl whom you have known forever already (literally speaking about a decade)?
how do you deal with looking at older pictures with that new realization?
how do you deal with that decade long emptiness that could have been so full - and if it simply were the knowledge that it might have worked out or not. the "not-knowing"/nescience/ignorance is what's tearing me apart... and going back on our messages, i see so many signs now... how could i have been so blind???
how do i approach her about it? not at all?
i feel like i have to apologize or overwhelm her with my feelings, both which is obviously totally wrong!
it hurts! it fucking hurts so much it's killing me. i feel like have i wasted an endless chain of opportunities and i want to cry my eyes out...
I got 2 turkeys and a duck stuck on the I-5 round south with a cradle of hickory and ya aunt jemina's mixes down the rear. Port side's a coming and we still 8 rounds shorter than we's though.
What's the square side of the barn in moonlight got to be?
Is it accurate to say that women are more emotional than men? Why would you say so, and if you don't agree, how are men more emotional? Maybe they're equally emotional?
>>16486083
No, because 99% of suicidal threads on here is created by men. Depression threads the same. Men nowadays are giant pussies overflowing emotions, ridden with 'anxiety' and 'depression'
Equally emotional, but guys are socialized to lock it in because showing emotion isn't masculine or whatever
Part of the reason guys can put women on pedastools is because they feel like they finally found someone they can express their emotions to without being judged for it, and they see her as special because of this, when literally any other girl will be the same way, but the way guys are socialized is fucked up
>>16486086
You would need to analyze the demographics of 4chan. Since woman in 4chan are only the few girls who post pics of boobs with timestamps, I'd say you'll see, most of the time, suicidal threads created by male OPs.
Thing is, women is, indeed, much more vulnerable to emotions. Me (male, hetero yet attracted to qt traps, been through a lot with women) cry a lot and I've yet to know someone that cries more than I do, but my former GF cried even more.
hey /adv/
i have a question that might seem trivial to some of you, but it's actually bothering me quite a bit.
so, my girlfriend and i live together. we're breaking up. she's moving out, and i'm staying in the apartment we rented together. that's whatever. its upsetting but i know how to handle it.
the problem is pic related. i have a cat, and she really wanted another cat, so i got her one last Christmas. (with her permission, it was all planned, etc. i didn't just surprise her, she went to the shelter and picked it out herself). the pic looks exactly like him. she loves him. i'm sure she'd take him with her if she could, but she's moving back to her parents' place, and her dad's allergic to cats.
So here's my problem. i really do not mesh well with this cat. don't get me wrong, i don't mind cats. i have a cat of my own. (its a bombay, or at least looks like it. think salem from sabrina). but my cat and i have similar personalities; we leave one another alone most of the time.
my girlfriend's cat, however, constantly needs attention. he meows obnoxiously loud whenever you're not paying attention to him. and he attacks my cat. i'm not sure if he's trying to play or what, and i've been trying to discourage it with a squirt bottle. it's gotten better, but i dunno.
my question is this, what should i do with this cat? would i be a terrible person if i took him back to the shelter? the shelter is a "no kill" shelter and said they're take him back (girlfriend called them to ask). should i try to find another home for him? should i just suck it up and let him stay here?
i feel like an asshole for even thinking about taking him back, but i really don't mesh too well with his personality. not even to mention that he torments my cat.
TL;DR girlfriend is moving out, wat do with her cat?
thanks for your time.
You would be a very shitty person to take the cat to the shelter simply because you dislike his or her character
Why not give it away to someone new?
Then it's their problem.
>>16486045
i kind of figured. just needed some reassurance that I'm doing the right thing i guess. I'm leaning towards keeping him, out of pity more so than anything. is it fair to my cat though? she literally sleeps on the fridge half of the time because she's afraid of him. but right now she's laying on the floor next to me and he's asleep on the couch. i dunno.
>>16486047
i was thinking of doing that, but how do i know it's a good home? one of my co-workers was possibly interested. i don't want him going somewhere where he's in danger of being abused. i don't like his personality, but it's still a living creature. i don't want it to suffer simply because it's more convenient for me.
