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How do i deal with the social pressure of consuming alcohol? I'm 18 and people treat me like an alien if i say i don't drink.
I am not religious. I just don't like alcohol.
>>16492826
hang out with people who don't drink?
tell people you're an alcoholic
>>16492838
worst. advice. ever
I am 19 year old I recently started studying to be a pastry cook, the problem is I loathe the thing completely can't stand it. Why have I chosen it then? Well, my parents forced me to pick somewhere to study, and I have chosen this area, without prior research, basically on a whim. It's not my passion and never will be.
I thought about just dropping the whole thing and go to work and earn some income, but my parents are forcing me to stay on this program till it ends (It's 1 Year only). I would stay if these studies would not interfere with my real passion...
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>>16492809
hsve you tried telling your parents you're more talented at art and will have more success doing it? (That might be a half-lie because talent is overrated, interest and effort matters more, but most people want to hear that). So that you can transfer to studying it
>>16492824
They won't listen, and to be fair I am not as good to be enrolling into some art or music school ( I think its waste of money to be exact) and I do agree that talent without dedication is nothing
>>16492853
Start creating art masterpieces with your pastries. The world is your canvas.
I've been seeing my friends ex for about a month now. We agrees to keep it a secret. I told him tonight because she's still totally into him. I told her I told him and now she's pissed and barely talking to me. What do I say? I was totally honest with her.
If you agreed not to tell him, and then told him anyway how is that honest?
Either way, move on. Don't get involved with friends' exes.
>>16492765
Because I didn't throw her under the bus. I told him he needs to get back with her or else he wouldn't have felt as bad as he did. I couldn't just be a third wheel and watch them get chummy.
>>16492743
you did the right thing OP. He is your friend, she isn't and was just using you as a place holder out of convenience. Even if your friend wasn't the guy she was still hung up on you shouldn't waste your time with her.
I'm going on a date on thursday (my first ever, for that matter) with a girl who I suspect is pretty straight-edge and somewhat old-fashioned. It'll just be coffee, so no stress (yet).
Here's the kicker though; although we share a lot of interests apparently, I smoke weed almost daily and I've not mentioned this yet.
I can't hide it forever, and I'm not gonna lie about it if the subject should come up. But how do I avoid her seeing me as some degenerate junkie, or worse, as a liar who held this back to get into her pants? I'm...
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>>16492731
You're acknowledging that smoking weed every day is a bad thing, so maybe that should hint you towards slowing it down a little. Smoke a couple of times a week.
I smoke like once or twice a month, because I don't have time between social occasions, driving places, work, gym, etc.
>>16492738
Well, I'm not super proud of it, but it hasn't really affected my life. I used to spend most of my nights playing video games and shit, now that I live together with a few of my stoner friends, we just light up a joint whenever there's nothing else to do for the night.
Whenever I'm with non-smoking people, I can have a good time without smoking though. It's just a different experience. I've never been much of a party person, but I do still have a social life.
The...
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Bump. The board is going fast today.
tl;dr - When and how to tell a girl you smoke weed almost daily.
Hey /adv,
I have a quick question for you.
Can I use nonpermanent markers to write on the glass part of windows and then use the whiteboard eraser to completely erase it without any marks?
The thing is I'm a student and don't have enough money to buy a whiteboard, plus I don't have the time to wait for it to arrive from china. I love working/studying on my feet and the windows I have at my disposal are huge, so any advice you could give me would be appreciated.
Thank you in advance.
>>16492722
Why not use pen and paper?
Yes you can
Yep, people often do that at the library at my uni. Use some general purpose cleaner if it doesn't fully come off
My girlfriend just asked me if it's OK for her to start experimenting with girls since she's bi-curious (she said only kissing)
I love her a lot and I have no idea what to do. On one hand girls kissing is hot but on the other hand I don't want her to kiss anyone other then me.
>>16492644
This depends a whole lot on your relationship. Would you be okay with her kissing other guys? Would she be okay with you kissing other girls? The gender of the person they are 'experimenting' with doesn't matter that much. If you are exclusive, it means exclusive.
>>16492659
I would definitely not be OK with her kissing other guys that would be terrible. I plan to bring up if she'd be okay with me kissinf other girls when we really sit down to talk about it. I'm probably going to tell her No unless I am involved and active in some way.
I love her a lot so I hope she's not too disappointed
>>16492747
Actually it's just going to be a straight No
I know this is going to be horribly immature but I need to talk to someone and ask advice on how to deal with insecurity and self-doubt/envy/jealousy in a relationship because i know my behavior is unacceptable yet I cant seem to stop it. Also my keyboard is broken so this will take me years to type on my onscreen keyboard.
My boyfriend who I adore asked me what my ideal 'mate' was. Straight up it's him like 150%. He has always said I'm his ideal and that I'm out of his league (which is ridiculous). However tonight he said his ideal is a girl who has very light white hair. I am the opposite, my hair is nearly jet black. His ex however has platinum blond hair. He also has said in the past the only fetish-esk thing he has is the inner thigh bone that very thin girls have, which I do not thanks to my thunder thighs.
I have body dysmorphic disorder so just existing in my body is pathetically sad to me (which I'm trying to better myself in dealing with BDD) so when he told me I was fairly hurt as it seems like he wants the opposite of me.
He has gone to bed after I said I was upset (could have gone better on my part) and he told me to fuck off (which I know is because I pushed it). I feel like I'm not what he wants & I'm not good enough.
I'm not good enough.
TL;DR how to deal with insecurity in relationship?
>>16492641
>I have body dysmorphic disorder
step one, stop being a special snowflake, step two if it bothers you, lose weight, step three, he probably misses his ex
>>16492641
>and he told me to fuck off
You either take this advice or you don't. But I hope you do.
Leave him. Someone who responds to you like that at your most vulnerable is not the man you want standing with you when you get older, fatter, pregnant etc...
I know you won't leave him, but I couldn't leave him for years, until one day I did and I can't believe I wasted years on someone like him.
>>16492646
TL;DR how to deal with insecurity in relationship?
I do appreciate the advice I didnt ask for though. However I'm not looking for that in this thread. That label was put on me my a therapist around 4 years ago now and honestly reading up about it I dont doubt it at all because its the closest thing that explains my inner-dumbness when it comes to my appearance. Not everyone is trying to hide behind labels, I wish I wasn't this way as it would make connecting to people so much easier. Working on losing...
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is this tinder bio a dealbreaker? not mine, a girl that messaged me
Gee that rather depends on what you consider to be a dealbreaker, doesn't it? What, in the bio is it you don't like?
Personally, I don't like the couch potato thing, but I wouldn't say it's a deal breaker
>>16492661
I mean the couch potato really depends. I know 9/10 sporty girls who spend like one hour a day on the couch and still go "teehee I love pizza, I'm so lazy and a couch potato!" But I also know landwhales who actually mean it. And as well girls of all sizes in between. They're weird that way. Rest of bio seems good though
Holy fuck /adv/, I need your help.
I got 4 days to go, to find something easy to wear for a costume party. The theme is evil characters, so it can basically be everything that's evil.
Please /adv/, you are my only hope.
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Be a happy merchant
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I'm an Asian grill, how do I stop moaning like crazy in bed?
>>16492375
this is bait
>>16492375
I know this is bait but asians "moaning" us fucking unsettling. Are you pterodactyles by any chance?
>>16492385
OP pic is so bait
I'm looking at moving out for the first time, from southern California, to Washington.
How the fuck do I do this? I know fuckall about moving out, let alone moving to another state. I have like $10,000 saved, is that enough to not have a bad time?
>>16492366
Try to secure a job in Washington before moving there. This will be tough as most employers prefer hiring a local candidate that he can have a face-to-face interview with. I know someone who found a job overseas as a vet (she only had a phone interview before being hired), but then she has a lot of working experience and she was looking for jobs in a rural area.
If you move before finding a job, things will be risky. You can end up jobless or employed in some job which pays very little (ie minimum wage). Do you...
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>>16492366
Oh, another thing. Can you depend on your parents financially if you really do end up broke? Are your parents well-off or not? There's the chance that you can end up broke, you know. $15/hour at McDonalds will not be enough for rent unless if you live with other roomates.
>>16492377
Yeah, I'm for sure going to try to get a job first. I don't have anyone to live with, and probably was going to try to rent a 2 bedroom place with a roommate, since it's looking like that's the cheapest reasonable option.
Is 10,000 really too little? It seems like everyone I know who has moved out managed on significantly less than that. (granted, most of them were moving locally)
>>16492383
In an emergency, yeah I probably could.
Dear adv,
I have an issue. A problem per se. I am a teenager, and recently I have been spending more time with a friend of mine. Now I am a guy, and he is a guy. We like to joke around a lot a shit. Some of those jokes are about being gay and shit like that. Well in the last few days we joked about stuff like that and I think something changed in our relationship(as friends). To clarify, I am not and I have not ever been sexually attracted to him. But I am romantically attracted to him now, and I don't know if the feeling is mutual. This is putting me in a very uncomfortable state of mind. I just want your opinions on this. Thanks
>>16492362
It is sometimes very hard, even for adults, to tell the difference between intense friendship and love. They sometimes joke about "bromance." It's even harder for teenagers.
Whatever it turns out to be, don't worry about it. Whatever is, is natural. Chances are that these confusing feelings will pass and you'll settle back into a good friendship.
I'm not entirely sure what you mean specifically by "romantically attracted".
I absolutely hold genuine love for my female and male friends. I've known them for years, and we've never done one another wrong. I'll tell them this, and they know damn well that I mean it.
I don't know if this is what you mean. I would consider me and my close friends very intimate...but can't say that I've ever been romantically attracted to any of them.
Could you perhaps clarify a bit?
I consider myself highly fortunate to...
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Guys who are ugly fall in love easily.
Know the difference between love and friendship, dipshit.
My family hates me for some reason. Every time I say something they do the whistle thing (like they're saying "woww"), act like they're pissed off at me, or say "right...", and sometimes I hear my family members call me retarded underneath their breath.
this makes me not want to be around them at all, because this toxicity is just bad for my well-being. but they're my family, so unfortunately i'm tethered to these people.
what do?
>>16492345
Have you asked them about it? Communicated to them how you feel and ask why they act as such?
>>16492350
Yep, they just deny it and say it's all in my head
sorry OP but your picture made me laugh. I have so many questions. Who holds a duck so close to his face? Do ducks have teeth? Why does the duck have an afro of feathers? How much do you think it hurt? Are ducks soft? Was this a dare?
Let's have a skin care general and share knowledge on how to have a nice, smooth glowing face. What steps should be taken to accomplish it?
I know a good part of it has to do with genetics, which I haven't exactly been lucky on because I have huge pores. Here's what I got so far:
>try to make it a habit not to touch face often ESPECIALLY if you've had your hands on public shit like the handle if a bus seat
>moisturize every time you're done showering
>change...
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>>16492312
When you get home from being outside, use makeup remover at the very least. Even if you're a dude who doesn't wear makeup, it removes dirt and oil.
I really like Simple's Micellar Water. It's not harsh/drying AT ALL. Just put some on a cotton ball/pad and wipe your face down. Use a few, until the cotton ball comes off your face clean.
I also like to wash my face earlier in the afternoon because I feel like it's too harsh to wash my face before I go to bed and once I get up (essentially...
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>>16492565
Good advice, though I generally avoid chemicals on my face beyond moisturizes and body wash simply because it's pricey and my skin gets somewhat easily irritated/dry.
As for exfoliating I find that gently scrubbing my face with a wrinkly, cloth-like foam works nicely on my face, but my biggest trouble is tiny blackheads-sebaceous filaments on my chin, some borders of face near the cheeks, that space surrounding your nose and bottom of forehead near the eyebrows.
So basically the only non-gross parts...
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oldie but goodie
is there any external way to know if a guy will be good in bed?
If I ask, I'll bet dollars for dog shit they're not going to be honest.
you're not very clever. If the dude is out of shape of course he is going to suck in bed. There's one honest answer. If he's in shape (cardio and muscle) and knows how to flirt, he probably will be good in bed (honest predictor at least)
>>16492286
I've had bad sex from fit and slender men, though. So while fat men are virtually inexistent where I'm from (to my dismay, if we're honest), BMI 21 isn't a surefire bet. The sex is still bad.
>>16492261
The only """sure""" way to know is asking his exes or someone he had sex with,and even then it's not that sure.Just fuck him.
