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32-year-old woman here. How bad is the dating game for me? Also, what are my chances of finding someone for.a long-term relationship?
>>16496000
sorta depends on a few things...
looks
family (kid) y/n
personality
hobbies etc....
if you post a pic i could at least tell you what you are out of 10 lol
whats exactly are you looking for in a guy?
i obviously think you could find a LTR worthy guy just depends on what you deem LTR worthy haha.
as for dating game that really depends on WHERE you are as opposed to who you are..
im 26/m/married but before i met my wife (when i was in my early 20's) i dated 30+'s a few times ......
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Are you crazy?
Blame everything on the dude?
If no pof and tinder work fine.
If kew kew,seek treatment,then get back in the game.
Betas males are disappearing because Gen X and above will no longer tolerate crazy or jail sentences from liars.
Depends where you are. In an urban area with many young professionals? No problem at all. Plenty of quality singles in their 30s. In the boondocks? Consider moving to a big city.
Is it true that there is a shortage of Physics/Chemistry teachers in the UK/US? If so, why are there Physics and Chemistry graduates working in Starbucks/unemployed in both countries?
Dont know but there are nuclear engineers driving for uber.
dont know but do know most college students in past 2 decades chose business degrees to go work for wallstreet cuz thats where the $ was.
So brightest minds in the us were ised to do what?Yeah,fuck over everyone else and figure how to to make theft legal.Mensa,the new mob.
>>16495971
Because being a teacher pays fuck all for the amount of work you do, and they'd want high paying STEM jobs.
Being a teacher is one of those jobs you have to want to do 100% or it'll destroy you
>>16495989
Isn't doing research more stressful though? It's publish or perish. From what I know, there is huge competition for tenured professorship posts these days. Also, what about those with only a Bachelor degree working at Burger King/the pub? Scroll down and look at long tall the "bar work“ bar is in that graph: http://www.prospects.ac.uk/options_physics.htm
So I got a coffee-date lined up with a girl, and I was just curious about the "logistics" involved. Like, play-by-play. Do I meet her out front and walk in together? Stand in line to order together? Or do I show up before her, maybe ask what she wants and have it waiting? Never really thought about those specifics until now...
>>16495876
Sit outside like a boss and wait for her, then go in. Don't do any beta shit like holding the door or paying for her drink.
>>16495876
You can wait outside or just have her get there first so you don't have to worry about it but everyone does things differently.
>>16495876
wow what some people think about... wtf does it matter? just go there, if your on time, text or call her and see if she's already there. if your early go inside and get a table, text her that you're already inside and wait for her. just don't be late!
Jesus talk about overthinking things.
I'll tl;dr this but I'd like to hear from some people on this
About a month and a half ago my girlfriend of 4+ years cheated on me, what she did though wasn't as drastic as most. She basically sexted some guy she met online. No nudes although pretty close, some provocative gestures and some shots of her in underwear. Mostly it was her sending dirty texts and receiving pictures. She confessed immediately afterward. She was worried I'd break up with her and kept in contact with the guy as a backup, even during our small break from each other so she...
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>>16495823
>>16495823
Fuck, forgot tl;dr
>gf of 4 years sexts guy, no nudes, mostly text
>It's because she cracked under pressure and can't manage her stress
>Loved her insanely, now look down on her and can't respect her/love her
>Want things to work because I was very happy with her before, worried she'll always been unable...
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blah blah blah
you're approaching this like a woman.
you need to confront the fact that she is sexually attracted to other people. that doesn't mean the relationship needs to end.
stop getting walked all over, stop treating her like a possession, and think about this rationally.
>>16495831
you're getting so keked, bro.
my girl cheated on me, i cheated on her, then she cheated on me a few times during our "break" over the summer. we are back together now. the first time we split up and she got with other people my approach was like yours . . . filled with self pity.
now I have so much more clarity. I love my girl and she loves me, but i'm so unattached in this pussy way that you are describing.
I really need advice, or someone to tell me something, I'm not sure, but I think I just need to talk, and for someone to call me a faggot, and to stop being melodramatic
>inb4 not your blogpost
I'm 22, I suffer from depression, anxiety, and panic attacks. I haven't worked in years, I haven't talked to the opposite sex since highschool.
When I was in highschool, I was your typical student, I did/taught martial arts afterwards, had a job, had a girlfriend, seemed like I was going to do well in life.
I'm...
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>>16495772
Aside from some slight differences you literally sound like me.
>>16495799
What are my options, other than manning up and offing myself? I honestly don't see myself living out my natural life.
Look, you don't need to off yourself or man up. That's all nonsense, and either way you're not actually going to deal with the problem.
The most helpful thing you can do right now is to ease up on yourself. You're being so much of a mean bully to yourself, and your problems appear far larger than they are. You haven't ruined anyone's life, and anything is possible. I want you to tell yourself and believe that you have chosen to be in this position, even if you feel like it's ridiculous or absurd.
You're really overthinking...
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Long-term relationship. Very long-term, I'm the guy, she's the girl.
Sex almost non-existent. She never initiates contact, doesn't respond to my attempts to. She acknowledges that it's not what most unmarried couples do, attributes it to anxiety or tiredness over whatever's going on in our lives at that specific point but will perpetually get better.
I was hoping for my sex drive to die down as I grew older in order to be happy in this otherwise perfect relationship but it's not happening, what do I do?
ask her about some sex. how hard can it be to ask that question. i mean it's literally the most essential and natural thing in a relationship
>>16495747
>sex is the most essential thing to a relationship
Umm... No. It's important, but not "the most essential".
>>16495745
Op, if you're unsatisfied in the relationship for any reason and the situation hasn't improved after you've made your feelings and desires clear- then it's time to break up and move on.
Don't be afraid of being single. I know it's worrisome when you're...
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>>16495745
Find a girl who will not cu.ck you
Any advice for a white guy who is a freshman in college at a big 10 state school with about 40,000 other undergraduate students who is looking to date a foreign girl from China? Approx. 15% of the students at this school are foreign students here from China so there is a wide selection, just need to know how best to approach them and enter into a dating scenario with them. Also, she doesn't even have to be attractive honestly, and I'm not a weeb or anything because I don't like anime/manga/hentai or any of that. I just find Chinese girls very cute and interesting...
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Lose 50 lbs and if you're not STEM start being interested into stuff she might be interested. Most of the Chinese girls at your school are probably not into non-chinese people and also most are virgins. Those that are into white guys are into skinnier than fat white guys. If you're not white, korean, chinese, jewish, or japanese, your chances are super slim at getting in her pants btw
Get a melbourne cut. afterwards ask her if you can spare her a cig and say "safe mate"
Try ask her for some Chin-Chin or how it feels to have blackborders on a widescreen vision.
>>16495738
You're kinda heavy, OP. People in China are nearly all very slim by American standards (my wife is native Chinese, and we lived in Shanghai for three years). It doesn't mean you can't get a native-born Chinese gf, but it means it will be a bit harder, because to them, you're going to seem pretty fat. But if you're very friendly and smile a lot, to the point that girls might describe you as a "big teddy bear," then that's not so bad. Also, you're tall. That's good.
As for how to date them, it's not much different than any other girl. One thing that's different is that a native-born Chinese girl might feel uncomfortable talking to someone she doesn't know, so striking up a conversation on the street might not go so well, whereas chatting with one that's a classmate or friend of a classmate would go better. Every girl is different, of course, and so to some girls, chatting on the street might be okay. Just giving you loose guidelines, here.
As others have mentioned, expect them to be virgins, and don't expect it to be *at all* easy to get into their pants. Generally speaking, even kissing is a big deal. Don't expect a kiss before you're bf and gf, and don't expect sex at all unless things get really serious. Again, individuals are all different, you might meet the girl that breaks all these norms.
Overall guideline: Be kind and go slow. If you start dating a Chinese girl, you are going to be the ambassador for all men of your country, and if you're a jerk, she might make negative assumptions about all men in your country. Don't be selfish, and don't be careless with her heart.
>met tinder girl for first time downtown Sunday night
>it seemed to go well, we went to a restaurant then a pub and were out talking for a good 5 hours
>texted a bit after we both got back to our homes, I said thanks for coming out, she fell asleep and said it was fun, thanks for coming out as well the following morning
>texted her after that, she replied a few times then stopped
Up until we met she would text me every day and would always get...
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>>16495652
Leave it. She's checked out, it's holiday time. Text her next week with a "how was your holiday?" and see if she responds. Take it from there.
Chances are she got her free meal/drinks out of you, and placated you with some follow up texts so as not to seem like such a cunt. Happens all the time.
>>16495657
I only paid for 1 of her drinks, and that's because she bought me some Starbucks as soon as she met me at the train station. Other than that, we split the check. You don't pay for a girl you just met..
So I assume the general sperg consensus is never speak to her again even if the date went well?
Starting college next year. Not sure what degree to get into. What degrees have decent job prospects and decent pay? Thanks for any help /adv/
Anything does if you're prepared to work for it.
>>16495645
Here, let me save you the bullshit that this thread will become. A pissing match between STEMfags and non-STEMfags who each think they know the world and every possible career's prospects, even though they don't know who you are, what your motivation is, where you live, or how you'd conduct your educational career in such a way that would help you land a job in the first place.
So skipping all the horseshit, go to Google and type "highest paying 4 year degrees in <place that you live>"...
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>>16495645
If you just want decent job prospects and pay you dont even need to go to college, go to trade school and become a machinist or welder and you'll have a solid union career for life.
College is for people with academic interest in a subject. If you don't have that you're going to be here next year making a thread like this:
>in uni
>in __ major
>fucking hate it
>have no...
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What do you do when you're just at the end of trying to just live? I've been on meds since I was 15, but I feel like nothing helps, attempted suicide once and avoided going to a psych ward. I feel like I no longer can control my thoughts, everyday my "inner voice" tells me to do things, I have agoraphobia and don't leave the house often, when I do it's usually to sit on the deck. My "inner voice" will constantly say things like "jump off". It's not an outer voice or anything, but that voice that people i guess have inside...
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>>16495615
You're a good baby.
>>16495615
>>16495615
Its good to have goals, even small ones. You build on successes like a sturdy brick wall, and you learn from mis steps, like a rocky road. And there's not only one solution to every problem, you may get better at walking rocky roads, or just learn different paths that are less rocky.
Either way, setting and meeting goals is psychologically validating in ways that are difficult to objectively realise from person to person, but are almost always subjectively powerful in a positive way.
Either...
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There's a possibility that my house will be robbed in few weeks maybe months. Is there anything I can do?
Picture not related.
Explain
>>16495557
Move
This is probably one of those threads where I already know the answer, but I'm gonna ask anyway
>get fuckbuddy
>fucking for about a month
>notice we're starting to act a bit closer than is normal for fuckbuddies
>cuddling and staying over long after sex
>drinking together, getting food
>holding hands while we cuddle (and in public if drunk)
>don't...
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Next time you're at her house, throw her coffee pot against the wall and watch it shatter into pieces
>>16495453
I don't understand this kind of shitposting, what do you get out of this?
Sounds like it's really between you and her. What do YOU want from her?
You're fucked. You were just fuckbuddies, you were growing attached, you liked it, she didn't, she ended it to browse for someone better suited to her taste
My girlfriend and I broke up tonight. I am absolutely devastated.
How can I ever get over this? I love her so much, and we were together for three years, but now I have to throw all that away? All the dreams I had to spend my future with her I have to give up...?
I can't stop thinking that I will ever find anyone as good as her again, anyone that fits me so well. There is so much hate in the world. She was my light in the dark.
How can I get over this? It's hard to imagine ever not being depressed enough to date again.
Go to her house, and throw her coffee pot against the wall, then take a baseball bat to her microwave
Girls like it when you destroy their appliances.
>>16495442
That was me a month ago. Time heals everything, keep yourself busy OP.
hey /adv/
I am 20 and recently got married to my gf whos 21 and finishing college. I recently started college ( I was held back a year because I moved to the U.S 7 years ago). i do not feel like college is what I need right now. I'm living with my mother and my wife. I am currently unemployed and I'm looking. I do not know what I wanna do but I do know what I enjoy learning about and working with. I enjoy computers, crime and shady business.
my question is. I want to live with my wife and stop depending on my mother. She has done enough for me. I want...
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The majors and certificates aren't that important. Learn how to IT, do IT and post it on the internet, and find people in your field online or at conventions that can lead you to employment.
I'm in a similar situation myself, so I'd also like to see someone's advice.
Best of luck to you
>>16495432
how do I go about learning IT? I am currently going to community college and the classes for IT are limited.
tl;dr: why no gf?
Seriously though, how the hell does one gets a girl to go get a coffee with, cuddle some in the sofa while watching people walking in the cold outside during christmas season?
I have tried almost everything I could think of. I went out with girls I knew for a while, I asked out girls that I already knew and girls I just met from friends in common. I went out in the night and got kisses from girls that I'm not sure I liked but never went further than that.
I'm a nice guy with a decent job even though I don't make too much....
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>>16495350
By the way, add to the 2nd paragraph that going out with all of those, asking them out or hanging out on weekend nights didn't work out.
>no car
lol
You need some hobbies, man.
You don't really need them, though. The statistics say that you'll find a single girl who likes you sooner or later. But whether she's a NICE girl is up to you. If you're a little more aggressive in your search (and in bettering yourself) then you'll find better people. Don't resign yourself to a life of petty bitching and a dirty house.
>>16495364
Well, I'm making some progresses with my guitar and bass and I'm looking forward to getting in a band next year. But beside of that, I really have no worth-mentioning hobbies.
I'm also working on the no car thing by currently taking lessons for the licence.
Neither of those things seem to be valued by girls it seems.
What do you mean by more aggresive search and what do you think I should improve?
