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I was with this guy for 2 months he left me 2 days after my birthday because he has a job that requires him to move a lot. He left me because he thought it would be to hard on our relationship and if we were to ever have kids it would be hard for me to take care of them by myself due to my disability. I would have waited for him but he left me. I have been feeling depressed and really upset it has been over a month and I still find myself crying over him I don't know if I can live again. I haven't heard from him again I am convinced that he is the guy for me he treated...
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Forget about dating for a year, cut both of these guys out of your life.
>>16494732
How old are you Femanon?
In regards to the ex-boyfriends I would greatly consider
>>16494748
Why do you feel that he is the only one for you?
Do you feel like without him you are incomplete?
>>16494773
Because he made me so happy I feel not complete without him in my life I don't know if I 'm trusts the guy who cheated on me
I just want a normal man. Someone without any weird hang ups or addictions. About 6ft tall, loves sex, has an ok job, funny, optimistic, honest, not a shady coward...
I am usually attracted to introverted guys but they all end up being weird and cowardly...
Do normal guys exist?
You're not attracted to what you want.
Basic guys are typicallly more cringeworthy than normal introverts.
>>16494677
I am starting to like someone pretty normal.
My only issue with him is that his ex is still lurking around him, so I removed myself until that shit fest is over with.
I have dated mostly introverted guys and I am left feeling underwhelmed and bored by them. My most recent ex was the weirdest of them all.
This normal guy is very fun and direct, I am finding myself getting more and more attracted to him as time goes on.
>>16494668
>loves sex
You want a man that want's sex...
THEN WHY DO YOU ALL COMPLAIN ABOUT MEN WHO WANT SEX?
Oh my fuckin' god.
>I am usually attracted to introverted guys but they all end up being weird and cowardly...
Gee, wonder why, mixed fuckin' signals all up in every place with any woman around ever. GOD DAMN.
Hey guys, I know this is an oft treaded topic - but I'm torn with how I feel right now.
I don't often get emotional, or let them show when they're there - but my girlfriend is going to be moving very far away, for the foreseeable future, if the job market ends up being a certain way. It's had me depressed for a couple of days now, because even though I'm very independent (Car, Motorbike, tons of extra income which could afford me a rental place - and a house in a year if I continue to save) and told myself that I wouldn't mourn her 'passing',...
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what the fuck is wrong with you
if youre so rich why dont you just go with her
>>16494649
Being rich =/= being able to drop everything and leave at a whim.
But OP there's not much to say apart from make sure it ends on a happy note, and don't burn any bridges. Leave it on a "We shall see each other again" note. I wouldn't suggest a LDR, just be grown ups and realise your paths separate from here. Hide the pain, and mourn when she's gone.
>>16494665
That's being work hard rich and not actual wealth.
Can you tell me if I have a dry socket or an infection?
I don't wanna pay $65 to $75 just for a doc to lay me down, open my mouth, and say "yep it's___" within 7 seconds. The clarity would be worth it but I don't have that pocket change.
I will describe what I'm feeling. Just got my wisdom teeth out on November 20. In my LEFT jaw it just feels like the pain goes down all the way to my jawbone. It's not throbbing. It's just there. A big pain. It hurts more if I drink or eat, as if liquids are getting in my socket? It hurts...
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Oh god I think it's throbbing, this is really weird
sounds like dry socket to be honest, also i seriously hope you aren't eating solid food this soon after getting your wisdoms out.
I need to find a hairstyle that can suit me which is hard cause I don't think I'm attractive, I think it's getting to long any recommendations?
When it's not as messy
Any recommendations would be helpful
I happen to like your hair. Wish I could get mine to look like that.
What do you do when your girlfriend is constantly depressed?
They treat you like the enemy when you're only trying to help. They fuck up, feel like shit, and then feel even worse and run away from the problem instead of just talking to you about it.
They try to kill themselves by smothering themselves or freezing themselves or by ODing themselves. You're an asshole and an abuser for keeping them safe, even if its by force. You literally cannot be on the right side, even if all you're doing is following your heart.
It's starting to make...
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>>16494213
get out now. i am the voice of experience, op. this girl, and most like her, are sinking ships that you will go down with if you stick around. she will not change, and this will continue to damage your own mental health as long as youre involved with her. you need to plan this out- make sure you wont have to see her again after you break things off. she will cry, she will probably get hostile/violent, but you have to stick to your guns. you have to take care of you, man.
>>16494213
Well what I did when she was depressed was stick around and wait for her to get better. She didn't. She simply became more delusional, depressed and psychotic and I became her punching bag for it.
What I should've done was leave. You know that, but are afraid that she will die or harm herself if you leave or you are worried you'll regret it. Maybe you will, but is there anything worse than sticking around with someone as awful as she is? Probably not a whole ton.
What you should do is...
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>>16494241
>>16494241
I really wish there was another way. I really fucking do. I feel so hopeless.
What the fuck is causing this? It's not fair.
What would be more practical to learn , french or spanish? and why? (pic unrelated)
>>16494203
If you're American: Spanish.
If you're Canadian: French.
>>16494212
...i'm scottish
>>16494203
french
more of the civilized world speaks french than spanish.
only learn spanish if you plan to live or work around subhuman cockroaches
I met this girl off ok cupid, and we've hung out about 4 times now. I'm a pretty awkward guy and I've just started to feel comfortable around her. We hung out for a couple of hours yesterday and on the way taking her back to her places she asked me if I was a virgin. I am, so I said yes. I'm 21, she's 19. Her asking me that just threw me off. Do you guys think she thinks I ask like a virgin and thats why she asked?
>>16494169
you probably need more confidence in yourself anon
It's called a shit test. Yes she was testing your confidence. Honestly if I was in your position I would have lied.
>>16494169
Depend from what country she is and if she is conservative.
Many conservative girls prefer and value virgin men more. You don't have to feel guilty for answering honestly something that's not even wrong thing.
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My sex drive seems to go down only when I'm with my girlfriend. Why is this happening?
You may have gotten bored of her sexually. This happens to me, I just need a few days from her and I'm good to go again
>>16494110
Too much porn? It's always new and exciting rather than your girls same old vagina so happens to a lot of guys. You can loom it up porn enduced erectile dysfunction. Cut out the porn and it will improve. If you don't watch it then maybe you need a new girl
Try getting a bf?
quick question, /adv/...
i'm pretty sure i know the answer, i'd just like to get another perspective.
so my girlfriend and i have been living together for 2 years now. we signed another year's lease, so we'd have this apartment until November 2016.. She's having some money issues due to being 26 and not having a full time job (she has 2 part time jobs that equal more or less 40 hours). At age 26 in this state, you can no longer be on your parents' health insurance. So she's afraid of money problems due to having to pay for insurance,...
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melodramatic, i know. but that's how i feel. i don't want to make her sad because i'll overreact because i'm hurt. ( i know this is my problem, and i'm working on it, but i don't want to take the chance of hurting her feelings).
so i'll be stuck paying for this apartment by myself. which i can do. it'll be tight financially, but i'll manage. but, i don't want to "take steps backward" so to speak. so i told her this morning when i got home that we need to talk when she gets home (in 4 hours now).
i'm...
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To rash my nigga. If it hurts you so bad she wants to move back in with her parents why would you break up with her? Tell her how you feel, tell her you wish you had more time to see each other let her know you're there for her and her problems. She probably doesn't feel like she being appreciated or is holding you back. You both sound like you need to sit down and talk, addresses the problems, and try to fix them if that doesn't work then you guys should split, but don't give up on love like that if there is still something going on. Shits hard to find man...
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>>16494111
>>16494108
You don't need to break up yet. But my question is, if you can afford rent on your money alone, how can she be concerned about paying for health insurance? If you can pay the rent and necessities, then her money is just extra income that can be spent on whatever - including health insurance. Important note about health insurance in the states. Because of the ACA (Obamacare), if you make under a certain amount you get insurance credits which makes...
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How can I discern between fatherly affection from someone (who is not my father) and romantic/creepy interest? Or, harmless workplace flirting from something more sinister and serious?
Nice cabbages.
We're gonna need more detail.
By separating things into 'perverted' and 'tame' lables.
>>16494324
Thank you! He is my boss, and a prof I do research with. He has given me extremely kind compliments on my personality (calling me fascinating and intelligent), and always compliments my outfits. He's had me give him a back rub, gently chastised me for smoking, and tousled my hair. We text regularly (almost every day) about not-work, he normally is the first to text. He wants me yo come over to his house so we can do a pottery project together. He is older than my dad by a few years.
I was mugged by a group of 7 and I've suffered a number of injuries. But the most alarming thing is my right eye is always now blood shocked, so I'm wondering do i need to go get medical help or is it nothing to worry about ?
Take into account:
- My sleeping patterns fucked i could sometimes have 2 hours sleep or on other days I could sleep for hours.
- My monitor broke so I'm using a 47" TV at the moment because student life and can not afford another one yet. I sit pretty close to it and I'm always on it.
Pic related.
>>16494090
>number of injuries
>sleeping issues
You fucking idiot go to the doctor
I would say visit a doctor so you can be sure you're alright.
Oh my gosh op. That is terrible. I am deeply sorry that something like that had to happen to you. Your eye sounds like it might have gotten infected or become re from a sleep deprivation. I have that same problem when I sleep 2 hours to write a last minute assignment. The shock or injuries could be causing the irregularity. Definitely go to the doctor if you have suffered several serious injuries and not sleeping properly or having eye issues. You don't want the symptoms to worsen or loose your sight if its infected. Feel better soon and hope nothing like that happens to...
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I'm going to be killing myself soon. I'm not going to talk about why, nor am I going to change my opinion, so please don't try to talk me out of it.
I have two questions:
-Since I chose the method of shooting myself in the head (because it's quick, painless, and effective), and guns are illegal where I live, how do I avoid getting caught buying a firearm, and what should I do if I get caught? I want to buy from the darknet since I don't know any arms dealers in real life, so the prospect of getting caught is real.
-Where should I donate...
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Just get an exit bag, it might be legal in your area and it quick and painless
>>16494075
It's not effective - most back out when using this. On top of that, I'm not sure as to whether buying large amounts of helium is legal where I live.
>>16494066
You can give the money to me. I will buy a boat and we can have an adventure before you off yourself.
Hi /adv/, I've run into a moral dilemma.
My little sister is in her final year of high school, but has been struggling with math since grade 9. We tried getting her a tutor, putting her in a smaller class and even tried a private school, but she still can't seem to do well (her highest mark was 60 in gr10). She excels in all her other subjects and I would hate to see her get rejected by good universities because of this.
She flunked gr 11 by a small margin, but the administration wouldn't bump it up for a pass so we put her into an online school....
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>>16494039
Anon, I don't want to be mean, but if she's too stupid to pass HS math, maybe she's not smart enough to deal with going to the university. I have hard time to believe she excels in other subject, as you cannot excel in physics or chemistry without knowing basic,HS level, math.
>>16494039
Yeah, don't do that... It's probably illegal as well and if the uni ever finds out that she cheated her way to a high school degree then she could get kicked out of school.
Also, what are you planning to do when she takes math classes at college? Are you going to take her tests for her or something?
>>16494063
This. If she can't grasp basic high school math then there's no way she can cut it in the sciences as well.
Has she...
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>>16494039
its not going to help in the long run. if she gets good marks from you taking her exams, but she cannot reproduce them herself in uni, she will fail calsses/waste tons of money
I'm an ugly chick and people almost completely ignore me. Nobody talks to me in my classes and I've made no friends in school. I can count the conversations I've had on two hands and the first semester is almost over.
Now is this because I'm ugly or because I'm hung up on being ugly and my cynicism shows? Also is there anything I can do?
Post face. Seriously
>>16493955
It's the ugly. Push education and being comfy. Money means plastic surgery if it helps. Stay strong it won't be easy
>>16493960
Nope, not here. I get 3s in rate threads if that helps.
