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Is this the herps?
Am I fucked?
>>16500713
pls take better care of your teeth
and I don't think so OP. regardless herpes is airborne so.
>>16500724
I just got a better job to finally acquire dental insurance. Dentist visit is my top priority right now. Thanks for the input
>>16500713
Shameless bump.
How do I stop becoming an orbiter?
Are there general rules of what not to do?
Bump, I also need to know this
Don't orbit someone
Make a move.
My life is well , I do not enjoy it I have no job no friends and the only person I speak to is my mother. That's about it and I just want to die but I don't know how to kill myself fast.
If you're in the UK I could have sex with you, that would be fun right?
I want to die not have sex, did I miss something here?
>>16500677
book a flight to turkey
>have family meeting that was pre-planned
>my gf wants to meet on this EXACT day
>I tell her I can't and I want to meet one day later
>she spergs out completely
>threatens to break up if I don't show up on the day my family and I are supposed to have a big dinner together. I've been excited for this since we've planned it, especially since my father was recently released from hospital and my sister wants to cook.
Now Miss Cunt comes in and tells me to ditch my family because she's feeling needy. She won't take "no" because that apparently proves that my family is more important to me than her.
It would be a 4h drive (+4h back) and she can only spare 3h anyways. I offered multiple alternatives where we would both have time, but she is just completely hysterical about this minor issue.
How do I calm this cunt down?
>>16500617
BITCH THIS DAY IS RESERVED FOR FAMILY! THIS IS MY DAY! THIS IS THE DAY MY FAMILY AND I GATHER FOR DINNER!
SHUT THE FUCK UP AND WAIT!
>>16500617
Does she know this is a special day for your family? If so, I suspect she could be manipulating you and trying to see how far she can shove the strap-on up your ass.
Also don't this bitch know a man love his mamma first, basic bitches second?
>She won't take "no" because that apparently proves that my family is more important to me than her
Family IS more important, fucks sake. You can have 100 gf's, but only one family (in most cases).
I live in a small as fuck cornfield cow town hours from even the smallest city. The thing is I want to live in a dirty ghetto in NYC or something. I want to move to the streets filled with money gangs and women. I want the crime life with fast cars and smoke in the air. I want to do the hand shakes, see the gang signs, hear gunshots ever day.
How hard is this?
>>16500484
Bump
>>16500484
Oh man.
You do NOT want to be a gangsta. Gangstas don't want to be gangstas. Gangsters dream of owning legitimate businesses, playing sports and going to Harvard. Not staying in the hood.
You essentially want to live a life you weren't born into. If you walked into the ghetto as you are, without knowing what you look like I can almost guarantee a real gangsta would tell you to get lost.
>>16500484
You're white with no friends in a huge city trying to "make it" on the street. You're going to fail. The first nigga you'll try to buy drugs from is gonna burn you so hard and leave your country ass crying in the street.
White people don't fit into the "hard streets" aspect of American cities. They just don't. We're good people, from good families and safe upbringings. Fucking act life it before you get shit on repeatedly by minorities.
I was in a relationship with this woman for almost 5 years. I was the perfect boyfriend. This girl was the one I wanted to marry. Been friends forever. I thought everything was perfect. Turns out she cheated on me, numerous times. Went through my cell while I was sleeping afraid I was cheating on her. Completely heartbroken I ended the relationship.
I spent the next year a mess. I wasn't in bed crying every night. I was out bar hopping, fucking random women, I had fuck buddies for every night of the week. I went too crazy with the alcohol. The drugs. Wrecked my car 3 times. Didn't give a shit about anything and kept fucking these girls. Almost lost my job. That kind of mess.
It took me a while to calm down and chill the fuck out as I felt I was spiraling out of control.
I met this new girl. My current girlfriend. We've been together for over 5 years. The problem is I haven't changed from the man I was after I had my heart broken. I'm just extremely good at hiding it.
I've cheated on my girlfriend numerous times. I keep tabs on her cell phone to make sure she's not cheating on me. I've practically turned into the piece of shit girlfriend who broke my heart all those years ago.
I could give a shit less about her. We've had no contact in almost 6 years. But she turned me into a monster. She turned me into her. I can't help it. I know what I'm doing is wrong. I know how it feels because it's exactly what was done to me. But I can't stop. It's like, after that cunt destroyed me, something in me snapped and I'm not even the same person anymore.
The most recent occurrence was last week when I met up with one of my fuck buddies and I told my girlfriend I went out to eat with a guy friend. I even had him cover for me in case she called him.
My girlfriend loves and trusts me to death. The same way I loved and trusted that other woman.
[continued]
My girlfriend thinks I'm the one. She thinks marriage is around the corner.
I can't deal with the guilt anymore. Do I come clean and tell her everything I've done? Or do I break up with her for "other reasons" and hide all the scumbag shit I've done?
Or do I keep this sham going. Stay cheating on the low. Stay keeping tabs on her phone knowing where she is where she's at at all times keeping her on a secret complete lockdown. And just stay in this relationship and become the bitch who broke my heart in the first place.
You became exactly what you hated. Confront it, kill it, and move past it. You know it's going to take a lot of harsh acceptance with yourself to feel okay. You know you've acted like a piece of shit. It's cool though, you don't have to be what you don't want to be. Remember that.
Confess all the scumbag shit to your current gf. She deserves to know, and if you talk to her, and explain why you did it she may not leave you.
Two really good friends of mine just got into a fight (for the first time in ~20 years), and I'm partially involved as well. How the hell does one handle these things?
>>16500373
By organizing their duel to the death with pistols at dawn
You're just gonna have to try not to say too much. Don't take a side. Don't bother reasoning with any party. It sounds hard but I've learned this from experience, don't involve yourself. You'll end up causing some damage in one way or another
I'd suggest some self defence training, are they known to carry weapons? Are you? If it comes to you or them meeting their maker are you going to have what it takes to deliver a people's elbow direct to the heart thus prematurely ending their life? And that's not the worse bit, it's living with yourself after that taking their power for your own
I texted my gf yesterday afternoon and she still has not responded. This is my first gf and its a new relationship. Is this normal? How should I deal with this? I don't want to text her again and seem needy but I do want to know wtf is going on
has she seen your text? she might just be busy
It's over m8
say something along the lines of "Is everything cool?" if she doesn't respond to that for a day send a "Hey you've been difficult to contact lately. Is everything ok?"
Regular contact is important for the health of a relationship, and it's not needy to want to maintain it. After a certain point, she is being inconsiderate and it is a bad sign overall. However, it's possible that she's just busy lately and forgot or something. Don't just to conclusions yet
I recently got back together with my bf after being a few months apart. I still kind of love him and all that shit, but while we were apart he picked up alcohol and gets drunk now, and he smokes weed. What do I do? I want to be with him, but I don't like him doing that stuff
>>16500332
Stop being a controlling cunt and just leave problem solved.
>>16500339
I'm worried about his health. He is under the legal drinking age as well
You have 3 options
Accept what you got into
Talk to him about new found habits
Leave him
Does being a bad ass make you keep your hairline? One of my friends is an ex blood that grew up in Harlem during the 80s and he's got the hairline of a 12 year old girl. All the rappers I listen to have full hairlines but if you see childish gambino he's a total pussy and going bald.
>Does being a bad ass make you keep your hairline?
No. DNA does.
>>16500315
This is a meme its not genetic
I'll humor you.
Bad asses tend to care less, which means they are generally less stressed out individuals. They also tend to be people that handle stress efficiently. We know that being stressed out can lead to baldness and a receeding hairline, so it certainly seems likely being a bad ass would be conducive to hair and hairline retention.
I want to get my hair cut differently, but I'm not sure what to do with it.
Any advice or suggestions?
Are you 10?
>>16500326
I'm 18, brah
>>16500264
underage b&
>inb4 yeah i know im 18 but i look 14 haha ell oh ell
Hey bros,
Where the fuck are all the beautiful + smart/witty/well spoken women at?
I've met so few in my life and they were always taken.
Pic awesome, but unrelated.
They're around.
But they won't date someone who ever went here.
>asking where good women are
>on 4chan
>on /adv/
>>16500239
They're with all the handsome + rich/successful/well respected men already.
Just got the random, off the wall "I love you" from my female friend who we agreed to have a platonic relationship
What the fuck do I say, how do I react, I love her too but she told me she didn't want anything and now idk what to do
Throw it back but try to make it just as casual as hers.
>>16500249
Like what? Tell me exactly what to say here
>>16500231
she's bullshit-testing you to see whether you mean what you say
if you agreed on having a platonic relationship, then tell her "femanon, we talked about this.."
also what do you mean you love her? why do you platonic-zone someone you love?
>in a relationship with girl for 5 years, literally no problems, excellent personality, great body, etc.
>girl gets hired at my job ~3 years ago
>amazing personality, has a boyfriend, few habits I'm not too fond of, but excellent girl none the less
>have several months where we work together
>literally don't even work when shes around, all we do is talk and have a great time
>we start hanging out outside of work
>find out she's very physical when she's drunk
>respect the boundary, dont do despite wanting to
>time goes on, lots of eye contact, she touches me occasionally, rub my head, massage, slaps my ass, slightly flirty talk
All this happening over the course of those years.
Cont.
fast forward to a few nights ago
>girl and i at work party
>she gets drunk, I stay sober because I'm designated driver
>she gets a little too drunk, starts talking lots of sad shit
>co workers talking a lot of hippy bullshit to her, making her feel worse
>finally get her in my car and just vent my frustration
>she's just quiet and listens, makes her feel better to hear me be raw about shit because no one else ever is
>>16500069
Cont.
>finally get her to smile, she starts flirting with me
>she starts asking me questions about my sex life and shit
>she asks me how I am at satisfying the girls I've been with
>she tells me about how she's hard to get off
>offhandedly comment that I just don't think she's had the right touch and that id love to try
>she smirks and asks if I've wanted to fuck her
>don't lie, tell her id never say no to something like that
>we pull up to her house
>she sticks her foot out the door, then turns around and says "I'm just gonna do this"
>she grabs my face and starts kissing me passionately
>panicking because right in front of her place and boyfriend is home
>she pulls away, stares at me smiling and says "what? :^]"
>I tell her I'm trying to be respectful because I know she's drunk and it feels unethical
>she leans in a few more times before pulling away and saying "I'm drunk. Oh god lol"
>I tell her "that kiss was years in the making though"
>she laughs and says "oh is that right"
>gets out of the car, I do too, give her a hug and say "not a fucking word about any of this!"
>she says "aboooout what :^]"
>give her a hug
>she walks off happy as fuck
>drive away shaking, realizing just how much I wanted that and feel weird about it
>go home and play it back in my mind over and over savoring the memory
Next day
>get a text from her apologizing for anything she may have done because she didn't remember anything that happened
>meet up with her later and her the story, didn't really leave anything out
>she thought it was way worse
>wrote it off, no real feelings explored beyond that, but she was glad I told her and that she hopes she didn't weird me out
>>16500074
I've had a crush on this girl for years and after being so close to her I want more, but I feel like anything I'd say to her would fuck our friendship up.
I feel like I'm in love with two women right now. I don't know what the fuck to do with myself. I've been working with her all day and she keeps commenting on how somber my expression is. What would you do in this situation?
I will be as brief as possible. I am a biracial person in the US and with Affirmative Action it is insanely easy to get into great schools. Even with these privileges I have failed everyone from my past who said I had potential. When I was sixteen I made the fatal discovery that life was meaningless and that my government was linked to inexplicable horrors, such events proved shocking to me because our public schools feed us a shallow narrative that paints us in a much better light. I began to focus on learning as much political history as I could. I did this wrong, of course, and decided to keep above a 3.0 GPA just so that people would listen to my opinions. I felt that in a society so shallow, all I would have to do is maintain this and I could preach my simplistic understanding of world policy and economics. This was the first of many mistakes in my life. I could have easily gone to any school I wanted with AA. If I would have simply try and keep my GPA at a 3.8 or above I could have gone to a good college. Of course, I bullshitted and never studied for exams. I graduated high school with a 3.4 and enrolled in community college. The only amazing thing about my SAT and ACT scores were that I got a 34 on Reading (which is nothing, do people really struggle with reading comprehension?) and that I didn't study for either and my SAT score was around a 1300 -- absolutely devastating to my sense of pride.
I dicked around in community college for three years battling depression. Now at 21, I'm clean and at a third rate university. I still struggle with self-doubt and procrastination but generally get good grades. I wanted to be a teacher but common core dissuaded me; I wanted to be a journalist but realized I don't want to serve a perpetual propaganda machine; I wanted to be a musician but realized that I would go back to doing drugs. Finally, I realized it'd be cheaper to go abroad and study but then the attacks happened in Paris.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1c6OoOHXz0k
try to do nothing for a while. do not dick around just calm.
I realized that my incredibly shitty college GPA of 3.2 won't do anything for me anywhere. I feel stuck. Lately I've been forcing myself to learn French and Esperanto; forcing myself to get up at 5-6am every morning. I've been reading philosophy and that's been a healing process for me but I've been doubting myself the entire time. I no longer feel like I'm intelligent. I feel like a moron. I'm finally saving money at my shitty job but I just spent all of it to pay back the shitty UNI I'm going to. I still owe them money. I feel like my dreams of going abroad are over -- and I've dreamed of exploring England or France since I was 14. I feel like I've been spoiled in life and have nothing to show for it (I consider growing up in a first world country to be the best one could hope for in this world). I might have to just stay at my current Uni and amass debt in this state I don't like. I feel so trapped and so alone. I don't make friends easily and I do not mesh well with most women. I've thought about buying farmland and running into the country never to be seen again, because when I look at what I was and what I am now my failure becomes self-evident. All of my life I wanted to be a writer or an artist: something that would help society or give lonely people support or advance culture; and I just don't think I can do it. My life is a testament to my laziness.
