A situation which I never really moved on from is making me doubt what I thought I knew about the concepts of 'friend' and 'girlfriend'. At first we were just casual friends (the type most people have lots of). We'd see each other at social gatherings, enjoy each other's company as part of a group, and not really care about each other any more than that. Then we started to get closer. We'd hang out together, just the two of us. She encouraged to tell me things that I wouldn't tell other people, and I think she felt like she could trust...
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>>16506189
So I handled the 'break-up' very badly, and basically just became socially isolated and depressed. It got me thinking: were we really 'just friends' (or just friends with benefits) and I just thought we were more because I've never had that sort of close friendship before? Should I be closer to my platonic friends, or is it right that those things are reserved just for romantic interests?

I don't think it's a matter of being closer or distant with certain relationships, but a matter of communication. You should have clearly communicated you romantic feelings and that you wanted exclusivity.

>>16506087
>should I try to blackmail her with zero evidence since she's engaged?
hm, I think the fiance knows and he's okay with it since they're getting paid more
there's no way that he didn't put two and two together when she got promoted to manager after a few months
dont think blackmailing is going to work

Imo you should have brought up who was gonna replace him more clearly to the manager before, was that taboo to discuss?
But Im just speaking in retrospect so it's easy to criticize for me.

anyway it sucks, if I were you I'd just keep my job and eventually ask for a raise.

I feel you, injustice at work can be incredibly infuriating, but remember you still have a stable job, don't act on a whim.

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>>16506087
same exact thing happened at my work, anon
it was so fucking obvious too
just accept it, there's no changing in
>should I try my luck, bend over and take it, talk to the slut and ask for a raise?
this is your best shot

Collaborative writing, co-writing of any kind is plagiarism. Discussion to refine your ideas is not. Don't be like the chinese losers that copy paste their whole essay.

>>16506092
Basically I was caught in a snag for an assignment for programming, did some research in some forums, found a solution that uses concepts the prof. has already taught us, and went on my merry way

>>16506086
Professor here.

If talking about your ideas with others helps you refine them, that's OK.

If somebody gives you an idea you didn't have on your own, and you then develop it more fully and put it in your own words, that's OK with a slight tinge of grey area.

If you use someone else's idea without making it your own in any way, that's plagiarism just as if you took the idea from a book and just changed the wording.

If you use someone else's words that's...
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>>16505955
>LDR here
You don't. LDRs aren't called not real relationships by many without a reason.

>>16505960
Well it's not my fault we met while playing a game we liked at the time. Not my fault he happened to live far away. I think in all my years of gaming, I've only met 1 person in the same state as me (Pennsylvania). The closest I've even known someone was from New Jersey. But said boyfriend is from Arizona

>>16505955
> 1-3 hours a day is 'usual'
> we see each other so little

You're super in love with him that seeing him everyday feels little to you.

Many other LDR would kill to have what you have.

Talk to him

>>16505905

We have but I have to also mention, he is a compulsive liar... So every time we do try, he bends the question...

Probably something you have to talk to him about. You're his friend.

We are often shaped by our first sexual experiences. It can go to either extreme, I was molest by a fat woman as a child, so I now have am irrational disgust towards fat people and will occasionally throw up when I see obese people eating.

You can't get over your past so you try subconsciously justifying yourself that it is good. Try rebuilding your relationship with men and intimacy from a different emotional standpoint and only have sex if you got really close to someone. Put sex in a new context that is not broken.

I think you answered your own question. There's nothing wrong with you, it's just how you are. I think as long as you do it in a safe environment and perhaps in a loving environment, you can live out your fantasies without putting yourself in any sort of danger or bad place for want of a better phrase. There are people out their who will indulge your sexual fantasies while also caring for you, etc. Yourself and they just have to be able to differentiate from fantasy and reality.

Some guys want a dumb girl who won't challenge them.
Some want someone who can they can share and debate ideas with.

Though the "I don't want a gf right now" is a pretty standard bullshit excuse from a guy.
You could also be an uggo, in which case I'm sorry.

If men aren't falling in your lap then you clearly aren't as pretty as you think you are.
There must be a massive flaw that you conveniently left out of your post.
My guess is that you're fat and by ''strong and rational mind'' you are probably referring to STRONG WYMYN DON'T FAT SHAME ME, YOU BASTARD form of feminism.

>>16505838
men are falling in my lap just none want to commit to my lap I'm not skinny i guess you could say I'm sorta chubby I'm 5' 7 and 140lbs but my waist is tight and shit i don't know maybe I'm just a fat arrogant idiot

Smoking makes you cool and a badass, stop smoking only if you want to be a betafag whimp quitter faggot.
otherwise keep sucking on those bitches.
>no homo

>>16505809
>Should I stop smoking?
IF you really need to ask....then no.

Stop it, smoking is for weak faggots who need something to escape life and reinforce their omg I'm nervous bitchy attitude.

Get over it
or never talk to her again
or put her in position where she does something so disgusting you can't even look at her that way anymore.

those are your 3 options, anything else will lead to problems.

>>16505774
>or put her in position where she does something so disgusting you can't even look at her that way anymore.

ask another friend to get the both of them to prank you and pretend to be extremely offended by it. or... ask another friend to get the both of them to prank you, then make that friend fuck things up so the prank ends up a trainwreck, but planned trainwreck

Be a man stop beeing a pussy and take her by force her like she deep down wants you to

open your butthole and take it like a man
>no homo

I think you might have meant "depraved"

The reason this is an issue to you is you find sex itself to be a superficial and depraved act. Most people do not feel this way.

Regardless of your personal feelings, you can't deny that intercourse is certainly, and has been since time immemorial, an absolutely intregal experience in life.

>>16505694
I never have sex and I've stopped caring about it.

>>16505683
fuck you

>>16505683
Fuck you.

If it keeps you from killing yourself and doesn't make you feel like a zombie, where's the harm?
You should probably trust the doctor who prescribed it to you. Otherwise, get a second opinion from a qualified psychiatrist.

What are man muffs?

>>16505537
What the fuck is that?

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>>16505542

> beta meme let
We are not animals. Humans can strive to do good or not, that is simply the path they've taken, everyone is strong on their own way. Don't put humans on the level of animals, people can change, animals cannot

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>>16505510

>Tfw I will never have an alpha male bf because I don't have the confidence or personalaity to wear attractive sexualizing clothes...

That's retarded. You're retarded.

Secondly, whats an "alpha male bf". You mean an asshole? Any girl can get an asshole. They're everywhere.

If you seriously think that the only two categories of men are alpha and beta you deserve to spend the rest of your life with a guy that looks like Jon Heder...
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>>16505515
Just a term referring to ones core personality ...chill out bro

>>16505399
The first girl I ever fell in love with (twas one sided) told me that "we don't chose who we fall in love with." And that really stuck with me.

Either he loves you or he doesn't.

I think you should just give it some time, don't talk to him nearly at all. If you do, be brief. You could try to make some of the changes that he wanted, as long as you want to make those changes. Show him, indirectly, that you've changed and maybe he'll say something and start caring again...
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>>16505399

>He tells me it doesn't matter and that even though he still cares about me he doesn't want to date me and he will never want me again

Seems pretty cut and dry to me. The bottom line is you're "desperate and lonely and sad" and no self respecting dude wants to be with some pathetic sad sack.

You're a pushover. He will never respect you because he honestly views you as kind of a sad puppy. No one wants to fuck a sad puppy.

You definitely...
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>>16505463
>"we don't chose who we fall in love with."

False.
It's true that we don't choose who we're attracted to subconsciously, but we do tell ourselves stuff to fall in love with someone.

Example of your thoughts when you're falling in love with someone:

"Wow, she's so cute... and she likes videogames.. so smart, funny.. God, I wanna marry her"

We tend to idealize the other person, telling ourselves nice things about them.

Just chill. He probably wants to be with you so straight up ask. No bullshit.

Gay or a chick?

>>16505367
I'm hoping that's the case. I don't think he would use me as a cumdump.

>>16505371
chick