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After being way to long on the Internet it started to get weird for me around men. I read so much hate towards women on the Internet every single day (not just on 4chan), I never get used to it. It's has started to affect me badly, when I see men I can almost feel how much he resents me. It gotten so bad I don't know how to deal with it. All my male friends come to 4chan, and I know they write comments like "dum cunt" and so on. I bet they look at me as potential cheating lying bastard like their ex girlfriends.
How far is the Internet from reality?
Guys aren't really like that right?
Do you really actually hate women are is it more like venting?
Are they just saying what they don't dare to say in person? Meaning people are more "real" when it comes to their opinions and values online than in "real life" ?
Specially all those comments that justify rape makes me freaked out around men. I'm not afraid they are going to rape me, I'm not that nuts. But im afraid they are going to blame me for it regardless of the situation if it did happen.
4chan is the pit that spawned Elliot Roger.
If you think Elliot Roger is the norm, your reality is definitely warped.
Most guys (well adjusted guys) just don't really give a fuck and see women as regular people. There is also a large pocket that see women as sex objects, and a large one that sees em as goddesses. Even as pockets they eclipse the fervent women haters of 4chan.
Percentage wise it probably goes like this:
60% Normal, well adjusted
24% Players
14% Awkward, goddess worshipers
2% woman haters
You got along with them fine before, right? Nothing is different. If they "hated" you before and you didn't mind, you shouldn't mind now.
That said, guys generally don't despise women 24/7, we're just really sick of the few things you do that piss us off because you do them so often.
As for justifying rape, most of the time it's really about justifying not giving a shit when it happens.
Normal healthy minded men don't hate women.
How come there are no stories of guys losing their virginity after 30? It just doesn't happen does it?
Think about it, once you reach that age you're not gonna admit that you were a virgin are you.
>>16503799
ex was 36. I was 24.
don't lose hope.
>>16503808
there are plenty of guys that talk about it, but it's nothing but stories of being dumped.
>Have great bf
>Relationship for more than 3 years
>Subtile engagement plans
>Suddenly fall in love with someone I have 0 chance with, like literally impossible
>He's on my mind too often now
>I don't want this, I just want the comfy life with my bf
How do I get over this crush? Contemplating to tell my boyfriend because we're honest with each other, but that might be unnecesarrily hurting him.
Cut all ties with the guy and it'll eventually pass. It'll be hard to do but it's worth it if ou really love your bf.
>>16503771
I don't really have personal ties with him to begin with, but I do run into him often at uni. Now every time I enter the faculty building I get anxious but I can't stop going to uni.
I'm this close to just straight up killing the guy this is really bad.
Well not really but I do need some advice.
How do I stop being afraid of men?
All fears are overcome the same way. You approach the object of your fear little by little and get use to it until it doesn't affect you. It takes a lot of courage and patience but it gives a great feeling of personal growth. What is it about men that scares you?
>>16503712
Put one in your hand and let him sit there for a while. Face the dear.
>>16503724
I'm scared they'll get hostile. That I do or say something wrong and one of them decides to break my nose. Or if we're in a secluded place, rape me.
How do I throw the biggest ,wildest,drug filled party in my state?
>>16503677
Have it at Sunday School
it's gonna cost you about 5-10k, if you have a venue, more if you don't.
you need good music, the right kind of promoter, liquor, a place where the police aren't likely to be called at and good sized social network.
>>16503692
I don't think they allow that at Sunday School
hey /adv/ this is the girl i like, how would you rate her on a scale of 1-10? the pic is from a video on her instagram page that she has since taken down
eyebrows/10
>>16503646
>that neck
lol is she 40 or something?
also she is on the taller side and thin but with a very nice figure
How does a schizophrenia begin and what are early signs of it? And what happens if it's untreated ?
The earliest signs are usually very slight & faint auditory hallucinations, like you hearing your name being called or being convinced there is interference/static coming from your speakers or TV even when everything is swithced off. Another early sign is paranoia - suddenly thinking bizzare things like what if your friends are out to get you or what if you're being followed. If left untreated psychosis can take hold and you'll be left a paranoid, non-sensical wreck, totally cut off from reality.
if you're worried that you may have a psychosis I would recommend seeing a psychiatrist
>>16503581
I do actually
My gf decided to become vegetarian last weekend, and has refused to cook anything with meat in it since then. What should I do, /adv/?
>>16503535
what do you want to do?
Well, you can cook for yourself or become a vegetarian.
I'm not understanding your issue.
To start off, I'm a guy. So this dude I've known is really submissive as has started to ask me to control him. He voluntarily wants to go to glory holes but he wants me to "command"him to do it, then he wants to send me pics of him sucking dicks as proof. He wants me to dominate him and keep the keys to his dick cage. BUT. He wants to pay me to be his dom.
I'm worried that if he sucks dick for money and gives it to me that it'll end up being like prostitution and I don't want to go to jail. He won't leave me alone because he wants to give me his money.
that's a pretty common arrangement. it's not prostitution.
if you don't want to do it, don't.
If it's not your fetish then he's dominating you from the bottom, as they say. Look how demanding he is already.
>>16503458
It's easy money, but something feels weird. Is getting paid to make another guy suck dicks that common?
>>16503461
I can see what you mean. It's not my thing at all, I just want the cash.
A girl stopped talking to me after we spend most of our time together for months
I pressured her to tell me what was up, and turns out she got tired of me after spending too much time with me.
I lost my cool a little and told her stuff like "that's shitty of you" "it's annoying as fuck" and asked her to meet up to talk it over.
It's been three days since I saw her, and one week since she stopped talking to me. And now that I think about it I think I made a huge deal out of a perfectly normal situation. Now will it play a lot in the process of recovering her, or not ? I'm just afraid I'll have to wait for a long ass time, worse, that it's over forever.
leave her alone dude
Millions of girls in the world
Keeping in mind that, when we saw each other, we kinda laughed it off, like we joked about the situation and ended up saying we'll have to wait until she's not tired of me anymore.
>>16503431
I already did, I stopped talking to her as soon as I understood she "got tired",but I'm still hoping that she'll come back as I made a circle of friends through her and that I like being around her
(I was afraid of these kind of reactions since /adv/ is "just drop this girl" general)
I woke up to the person I'm seeing scrolling down pages and pages of naked women. I ran out crying and left the house. Needless to say I have some prior emotional issues that contributed to my response. I'm so fucking angry and disgusted and hurt. Why the fuck are you looking at that trash right next to me? When I'm sleeping? In hindsight I would have immediately said "what the fuck are you looking at" and go from there. But I just booked it out of there. Fucked myself over. Now I don't know what to do. I royally fucked up my response and now I have the lower position. Any advice?
>>16503399
break up. leave that poor guy alone.
>>16503399
Yeah, reconsider your notion that looking at pics of naked women is bad.
What is the most painless form of suicide?
Apart from the thing with the car's smoke.
>>16503389
I don't know. Just don't shoot yourself, it gives more ammo to the anti-gunners.
Honestly a short bit of pain shouldn't be that big a deal if you're trying to kill yourself. Dont be so demanding of death. Your entitled, demanding nature is probably what's leading you to disillusionment and suicide in the first place.
overdose on pain meds, you wont feel a thing
I work as an EMT and I once got sent to an overdose call where a guy ate a Fentanyl patch, that shit is 100x more powerful than morphine, the guy died almost instantly and I'm sure his pain receptors were basically turned off
What difference would it make? When we die, the pain stops.
So I'm a 21 year old virgin and I've been getting close with this girl. I think she is getting curious about why I haven't initiated sex yet, but I have a pretty small dick that I'm self conscious about. It's probably about 3.5 inches hard. What should I do?
learn to give head
Initiate sex and dissapoint her or never fuck anybody. It's not going to get any bigger.
>>16503348
This. Sorry bro you're going to have to play the hand you're dealt or never buy-in. Right now you're that guy at the poker table who folds at every hand.
I feel like I'm competing his ex-girlfriend.I don't know why they broke up (they were together almost a year ago) but then they stay friends. She has been in the same group of friends he was in. Now she's dating his brother..
I had 2 horrible weeks where I was really down and paranoid, that's when I've seen that the girl and his brother are together.
I told my boyfriend that I would rather be hurt by the truth than kept secrets from, and that I feel distant because it seems like he is hiding something.. so as a way to make him possibly confess this.
He said he has nothing to hide and reassured me that if he had any problems he would be honest about it..
I am afraid that if I tell him he will think I'm a creep for knowing so (because I only know it from stalking on social media) and that he would realize that he is only using me and it is useless...
So I am knowingly the replacement, and I don't know if I should risk asking about his past relationship because of the things I said before. I just want to be reassured that it ended for a valid reason and that he doesn't want her anymore.
However, from seeing his blog, he posted something that is, I think related to her. It was posted on the day his brother and the girl got together.
>>16503208
Be careful, tread lightly. He doesn't seem like the best boyfriend
How exactly do you feel like you're competing? Their relationship was a year ago and now she's dating his brother. Do they all seem tense or upset about it?
I currently have a very complicated situation regarding my ex-girlfriend. We broke up about more than two months ago, given the reason that she's in conflict with her feelings for me and her ex-boyfriend. The breakup was harsh on me but I accepted it and started to leave her alone in order to move one myself. We still wrote about every week or two, nothing much, just the typical "how is life doing" small talk. During this time she and I had a little argument that involved my sister (who happens to be a good friend of hers). During this argument she called me and told me we should not have any contact anymore and deleted me from her social media platforms. A few weeks later she then writes me on fb again asking wether I want to talk and I took her up on the offer (that was yesterday). During this chat she told me that it feels wrong to her to not have any contact and that she wants to reestablish contact with me. Being a bit sceptical, I ask her what she wants from me and why she's doing this. I also told her that I am not yet over her and that I don't think it would be a good idea to stay in contact, so that I can move on. To this she gave me the following reason: "Just because I'm not "in" love with you, doesn't mean I don't love3 you. Distance does the thing where you don't actively think of a person but you don't just "unlove" someone, you just don't actively love anymore, at least it's like that for me." This and because I was good to her are the only reasons why she wanted to reestablish contact with me. She also claims that she could live without having contact to me, which confuses me even more. In the end I decided that we will write from time to time. But I am confused as fuck. What exactly does she want from me. The way I see it atm is that she either slowly wants to crawl back, wants me to fight for her if I want her back or she keeps me in orbit as Plan B for when things go wrong with other guys. Howe does /adv/ see this?
Tl;dr
Ex-gf wants to reestablish contact with me because she kinda loves me bt kinda doesn't love me. What the fuck does she want from me?
>>16503178
Stop being a retard cut contact.
Also don't get into another relationshit unless you enjoy the drama associated with it
Boy that was complicated.
>>16503174
it's very possible that she keeps you just in case anything goes wrong.
just ignore her. maybe she will crawl back, then it's up to you what to do with her. if she doesn't, move on.
