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I'm sorry, what the fuck?
>ask girl, "when we going on a date"
>go on date
>falls asleep on my arm
>ask if she'll be my girl
>she says yeah
>calls me cute, asks about my life, cares about my mothers opinion of her etc
>be today
>friendship etc.
>oh i thought you were joking when you asked if i'll be your girl
What the actual fuck?
Here is my advice to you. You can choose either.
1. Do nothing
2. Tell her you know what you want and she is it. You want to get married and spend the rest of your life with her if she declines find someone else.
>>16507095
Well i threw her number in the fire so i'll have to wait if she ever gets back to me.
She's fucking with you. Cut contact
I struggle to hold conversations because I'm actually a really boring person and the only hobby I have seems vein (powerlifting)
What's a fun hobby I can take up that others would be interested to hear in conversation?
I'm trying to work on my social skills.
Any other advice on
>starting a conversation
>maintaining a conversation
>talking to women
>knowing what to talk about when talking to women
What do you want to be interested in? What did you enjoy doing before you hit puberty and got obsessed with women?
>>16506905
umm... I played videogames...
>>16506928
And what what did you do before that?
Okay, I need to know if I need counseling and/or anger management classes.
I boarded the emotional rollercoaster with a co-worker about three years ago. Several red flags went up immediately that it was doomed. Being the way I am, I have a hard time building up the courage to ask a girl out, even after getting to know them for months and becoming friends first. There was a phase where every day she would say she was done with me, but then an hour later turn full 180 and say she was sorry and that she loved and needed me. This happened nearly every day for a month or more. I never wanted to lose her because she was cute and loved watching/playing video games with me and also enjoyed the use of psychedelics for intimacy and connection. Eventually I got desperate during this phase so I started to stretch the truth about all kinds of things in order to avoid angering her and setting her off into another circling pointless argument that would just wear me down to paste. I had a childhood friend who was female that I hung out with maybe once a month and she contacted me during this phase. I didn’t want to tell my girlfriend about her, because I assumed it would end things, knowing the kinds of insignificant stuff that would set her off (e.g. brought her food to work and there was one wrong thing about it so she threw it in the trash and said she was done). This blew up in my face since she developed a habit of grabbing my phone out of curiosity to see who was talking to me. She never trusted me past that point and many nights she would bring it up and hound me for it. One night she slugged me in the back, then again, and again. I derailed and pushed her out of bed with my foot and then the nightmare began. Another fight broke out a few weeks later where she hit me, I hit her back. We still loved each other but broke up. (1/2)
A month later we found ourselves back together (MISTAKE). She had developed a tendency to text a separate man sexual things when I wasn’t around. Eventually one night after drinking she did it in front of me while we were trying to get to sleep. I took her phone and threw it out of anger. She then said she was going to drive home after drinking half a bottle of vodka earlier. I subdued her to stop her from wrapping herself around a tree, but in the process lost my temper and threw her phone in her face and caused her to bleed. She couldn’t forget that and took 30 pills of anti depressant to try and off herself. I drove her to the emergency room, but as we approached, she began shifting my gears and grabbing at my steering wheel saying she wanted to crash us. She began assaulting me in the car and took off running down the road. I gave her description to four separate police officers in order to get her to the hospital before whatever overdose symptoms would take her. They found her standing on a bridge but managed to talk her down and bring her to the hospital. She told her parents and the authorities everything and asked her if she wanted to press charges on me for abuse. She originally declined. Now, she will, unless I tell my parents the whole story and get help from an institution to prevent it from happening to anyone else.
Is she right? Do I need help? I regretted my actions instantaneously and feel like a monster, but I can’t tell if that’s my own moral decision, or what she implanted into my mind. The whole situation is fucked. It goes without saying that we are no longer together.
>>16506710
What is this? Throwback Thursday? Keep your hippie wisdom to yourself OP
>>16506730
But it's Friday
How do I into banging hot college sluts?
I am a pretty good looking guy. 6 foot 2, athletic build, abs, attractive facial features. So far I've had sex with 5 girls in college (I'm a freshmen engineering student nearing the end of my first semester), but I would only consider one of them to be 9/10, 10/10. The others were 6.5/10 and below. I've made out with countless girls at parties and the like, but there are a few girls I have my eye on. However, they are really beautiful girls and therefore I would like advice on how to successfully make them fall head over heels for me before I actually go into the field and try anything. Please advise.
TL;DR best way to seduce attractive women in college?
Inb4 shallow etc etc
>>16506680
That girl is a ho that will give you stds
>>16506680
Geweldig knijpen
Assuming this isn't bait.... One thing, social skills. If you're the coolest guy at the party then she will be into you. I've seen many guys that hook up with girls a lot better looking than them. Also, freshman girls are new to the whole college thing so it's easier to hook up with them than older girls. So basically, it's easy to manipulate freshman.
If you're not in a fraternity I recommend joining one simply because they throw the best parties.
>I'm in a fraternity
>I'm in an engineering course
>I'm 6'5 and athletic
I'll make it clear:
my girlfirend told me I'm not being brave, spontaneous and making stupid excusses. Help me with this shit somehow.
Will post any additional info if needed
See a shady kebab restaurant at the dark alleyway? Go there with her. She propably hesitates and then say "Its k, Ill protect you if anything happens" and then she will be all *blushy blush*.
And then you get stabbed by some niggers, but it cant be helped, you went to a shady dark alleyway, what you expected?
No but seriously, my ex had this problem with me, you just have to decide something spontaneously, and make it happen.
Like, "hey theres a new shop, wanna go there?" And then you spontaneously buy her something from there.
Or you spontaneously suggest thing x which requires some balls from you.
And so on. Good luck.
>>16506659
Some girls are such control freaks they can't be spontaneous; Talking to them would be like trying to talk to a robot. Shit's difficult. They should be only making one thing hard, if you know what I'm saying..
I'll keep shit simple - I recently met a friend of a friend who I think is pretty. She seemed to think I was funny and we seem to have similar tastes. How soon is too soon to ask her out on a date and how long is too long to make a move?
Thanks in advance.
Bump. Anyone got any wisdom to share here?
>>16506626
No such thing as too soon, only too late.
>>16506781
That's what I thought, but my friend said to wait at least a month. That's too long, isn't it?
Im a 20yr old guy and I have this thing where Im really good at attracting a girl during the first week or two, but for some reason I become super full on and possessive (quoted). This has resulted in many short term sex driven encounters. Im genuinly looking for a serious relationship, and I recently completely fucked up everything with a really nice girl because I got angry after she started having doubts on our compatibility. She told me at least 3 times to chill out and go with the flow, but I ignored that. It's as if I have the girls interest, I want her to cut off all contact with other guys. Ive learnt this is stupid, but I come from a conservative background so the dynamics are not natural to me during the first month or two.
What advice would you give so that I can chill the fuck out? Pic Related.
Why is she covering
Her face like that?
>>16506539
It was cold and she wanted me to come over and keep her warm.
Your problem is partly the possessiveness and partly that you're escalating the level of commitment you expect out of a woman way too fast. After a couple weeks it's appropriate to be exclusive not have authority over her social life. Realize that relationships take time and that it's a good thing.
Femanon, here. I've been going to uni, and am taking useless classes like art/English/history, and I feel like I'm just headed for a job as a teacher, which would suck.
So, my question is, would it more more logical to go to school to become a masseuse, and do looks have anything to do with it?
Learn to be a therapeutic massager. Pays well, and if you are good and fix and aching back, you will respected and seeked out.
Why is teaching a shitty job?
>>16506538
>Why is teaching a shitty job?
Terrible working conditions, crippling bureaucracy, a fundamentally misguided regulatory regime, and generally being spit upon by society (both right AND left, these days) more than any other profession outside of sex work.
>>16506565
Why don't you take meaningful classes?
How do you deal with a significant other who refuses to give in on anything? In our relationship I'm almost always the one either flat out giving in or getting the raw end of a compromise. Recently we've been fighting a lot because there's an issue I just can't give in to and I can't let it go. Without saying what it is, it's a matter of them simply agreeing to something that would give them no extra obligations on top of what they already have or hurt them in any way to agree to. At this point it's not even so much the lack of agreement that is upsetting me but the unwillingness of the other person to even compromise on this issue.
I do love this person dearly and I do not wish to argue or fight with them. We have a wonderful time together when we're not fighting but this is a huge issue and this person seems wholly unwilling to resolve or compromise on it.
About a week ago I was talking to someone from more of a counseling website when I was in a crisis and the topic changed to my relationship with this person. Most of it made me think of this person as pleasant and good for me in general, but one question really struck me. The person asked me who I felt put more into our relationship and well, it was me.
I give in on almost every issue we have (and the person rarely gives in, I can only think of a handful of times), I tell the person that I love them every day (but I hear it from them maybe once every other week, sometimes not even sure they still do), I'm always available for the person to talk to (some days they don't even speak to me), I never send them angry messages (but they do send me), I never say horrible things to them out of anger (but they have to me), I never yell at them (they do not yell at me either, however), I never got upset at them for doing something and then doing the same thing if not worse (they have), I never almost threw them away like garbage because I was mad at them for something (they have), I never compromised with them on something and then broke the compromise (they have).
With all the horrible things this person has said to me I forgave them for it the second they said it. But it's so hard to deal with thinking back on it. Especially when we're trying to be happy together, an issue pops up, and this person is unwilling to make the tiniest compromise for something that I really need.
I've never told this person I hated them or that I wish I had never met them no matter how they made me feel. But they have to me.
>>16506512
You sound like a doormat and being used as one. Speak up and don't let them walk over you. Others will only respect you as much as you respect yourself.
Communication with my ex has gone from nonexistent to somewhat casual and lighthearted. How do I transition from casual texting to heated sexting?
I want her back because the sex was fantastic.
that's sorta gay. obsessing over one person like that. is your self worth really that low?
go outside
>>16506571
Nah, dude. We've been split for over five months now and while the break up shook me up for a while, I am cool with it now.
As far as I'm concerned, she's a stranger who just happens to know precisely how I like my women to move.
I just don't want to accidentally pick any old scabs while texting her.
>>16506434
Always about sex. Keep it in your pants boy. And stop staring at the womens boobs. Even if you didn't look stop looking you disgusting perv. They should cut your dick off! I hate male desire! I still love you, though! Please forgive me, I didn't mean it like that..
I have been with a guy for almost 5 years now. He is 32 and I am his first girlfriend. He used to just fuck girls and leave them. We had crazy nasty sex on the first date that was enough to hook him for this long I guess but he is really immature and he can act like a real jerk about how long my hair is (about 2 inches past the bottom of my shoulder blades) and he is also mean sometimes about how I dress. He is a real tiny hipster white guy but he plays at being a thug because he is a drug addict. He once found a photo of a huge black dick I banged on my computer and sometimes I think that is part of why he is so mean. He seems to want to break me down but at the same time he wants a lot of romance and kissing and love. It is very very confusing to me and I am rapidly falling out of love with him. He wants to stay together. We have a beautiful baby girl and he asks me to marry him often. But I cannot say yes when he treats me like I am the ugliest piece or crap sometimes because my hair is not past my butt and I don't wear name brand clothes. What should I do?
Or maybe i should put it a different way: can a little white dude with a big dick obsessed with rap and black men get over the fact that his girl had a threesome with two hung muscular black twins? Or should i just find a new guy that knows nothing about my past?
>>16506362
>It is very very confusing to me and I am rapidly falling out of love with him. He wants to stay together. We have a beautiful baby girl and he asks me to marry him often. But I cannot say yes when he treats me like I am the ugliest piece or crap sometimes because my hair is not past my butt and I don't wear name brand clothes. What should I do?
Tell him this.
>>16506397
You have a kid with him, that changes things, also if he has big dick, he doesn't have dick envy.
Hey /adv. so I'm a gay guy who is hopelessly head over heels for a straight guy. We've become extremely close friends & it pains me to know that I'll never be able to fulfill his needs as both a sexual & emotional partner. How do I go about suppressing the feelings I have for him while still preserving our friendship? He's by far the closest friend I've ever had.
Burn in hell like the rest you mentally ill twat.
Get help for your mental disorder. This way you will be bro's for real and hunt pussy together.
Go to church and pray for Christ to save your soul. Truly you are an abomination that could bring about the destruction of the world. Purge Satan from your soul, don't ruin everything your ancestors worked for, truly they are turning in their graves
Hey guys, I'm 20, pretty decent looking (6.5-7/10) and have mediocre social skills. Basically, the last five girls I've pursued some sort of relationship with have all dropped me before they even got a chance to know me. Thing is, I would try and set up a date so that we could meet in person, and regardless of whether or not the conversation went on, I would never get an answer. Not even a "no," the question would simply be ignored. Why is this? Some of the times, after it was clear that things weren't going to work out, I would even ask why. Never got an answer as to why they just quit talking to me, so there's no way to get better. What the fuck am I even doing wrong?
>>16506249
Are you meeting these girls through tinder or what?
It sounds like your social skills are worse than you thought.
Post screenshots of some conversations for actual advice
>>16506271
First one I went to school with, and reconnected with later, she lived several hours away. Three were on OK cupid, and the most recent one was a co-worker's niece.
>>16506272
Yeah, probably. Most were awhile ago, but I could probably make one up for you.
A week ago, a found a (presumably) diamond ring on the floor at Wendy's. I forgot about it until now because I was busy with exams. How can I turn it in to the police without them thinking I stole it?
>>16506245
pawn it pussy
Why would someone turn in jewellery they stole when it's so easy to sell. So you're fine, but you're better off leaving it at Wendy's. No one had ever called the police because they lost their ring
>>16506336
They might if it was an engagement ring
>meet girl online
>get infatuated
>it's mutual
>she lives in northeast india
>few days ago ISIS starts bombing and beheading people there
>she says she can hear bombs and gunshots daily
>tell her to gtfo the country and come stay with me in scandinavia till it blows over
>she says she can't
what do, /adv/?
>>16506218
Let it be, you're not Superman.
>>16506218
Thats really impossible.
>>16506218
Have fun getting catfished.
