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Tomorrow night I'm getting dinner with a girl I like, and a mutual friend had informed me that she likes me.
How do I seal the deal?
Should I talk to her about it, or just go in for the kiss at some point?
>>16512005
Flirt a little, shell pick up. Bring it up at some point where theres not many people.
>>16512059
I am really not good at flirting.
Any tips?
>>16512088
Wear this and you won't have to say a word.
Would you judge a guy for wearing this shirt if he wasn't fat/neckbeardy or creepy looking?
I've worn anime/game shirts in the past, but mostly subtle designs and symbols. Just slightly curious how much the waifu aspect of the shirt would turn off most people, seeing as it's all girls on it.
yes
a lot
>>16511878
If I saw a guy wearing that shirt, I'd probably be kinda weirded out just bc I'd assume that he's looking for a Waifu.
Not like in a big way though, I wouldn't dismiss a guy for his shirt if he was handsome.
>>16511878
It's pretty cringey to most normies.
It's like wearing a Minecraft creeper hoodie. Looks kind of immature.
I'm in a long distance relationship, so I go without sex for a couple months on end. Having experienced real sex with someone, all the clichés and my turn-offs in porn have become way more obvious, to the point of it not getting me turned on enough to masturbate regularly. I get horny after a few days without cumming but porn takes me a long time to cum. This gets in the way of work and other important stuff that wouldn't have been a problem before. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Is there an easy way to get porn to be hot again, or to make me go longer without wanting to masturbate?
I'd like to get this problem out of the way fast before I somehow wind up jacking it to questionable shit.
>inb4 'dump their ass and fuck someone else'
Pic unrelated, I made this bread today
Ask for more nudes or try video chatting naked
>>16511570
Buy lube, an onahole, and an onahole warmer. Or some other various sex toys for yourself. Apparently feels closer to the real thing, and makes masturbating more interesting.
Also arrange it so you two can have cam sex. If you've never had it, it's way better than masturbating alone.
>>16511673
OP here. Thank you!
When I applied for the course - there were shortages and a lot of students were headhunted. Now I am a freshman. Suddenly, the job market became super saturated and many people cannot find a job. Our professors invited special guests (eg. people who work in senior positions in the government and recent graduates) to tell us how job hunting will be very competitive for us and how we should consider jobs not directly related to our degrees.
Is there any hope that the job market will improve by the time I graduate?
>>16511457
bump
>>16511457
bump again
>>16511457
bump
When I was still a young child, I befriended a young girl in Canada and kept in contact with her. In the pre-internet days, we wrote letters to each other. Nowadays, we communicate via Facebook and email. However, since she lives in the middle of nowhere in Canada, her internet access is very poor and she is rarely online. I feel like we are distancing ourselves from each other and we just chat about very general stuff around once every 2-3 months.
However, we have the "routine" of mailing each other presents annually during birthdays and Christmases. The presents I mail in one occasion tend to cost around $20. It can sometimes even cost more. Mailing fees are expensive and I don't use a lot of the presents she sent me. Over time, this has become repetitive and we tend to send similar stuff each year - notebooks, bracelets, pens, key chains, etc.
It is hard to break away from this pattern though. Someone has to start it and breaking away from this "routine" will be rude.
Should I even keep in contact with her? I think it is natural for people to lose contact over time, but our pattern of mailing presents is preventing that.
Whatever decision you make is fine. There's no wrong answer here. However if you're looking for a way to make a gentle break, you could include a letter in this year's package saying that you won't be able to continue the exchanges any longer. Thank her for everything, wish her well and do the slow fade online as well.
>>16511325
Or alternatively, is there a way to change the pattern and become "closer"?
Move on and save yourself the money of a relationship that isn't going anywhere. I am serious here because you aren't getting anything out of this besides shit you find in futureshop.
Need some help bros.
>Dating a girl for a few weeks
>Everything is going really well
>Have a really romantic date on Wednesday
>Ignores me all the next day and then messages me saying how she isn't sure where she'll be in a few months and ends it. Says that she never wants to talk to me again.
What the fuck? Was there someone else?
>>16510871
well what exactly happened on that Wednesday?
Onto the next mate , shes not feeling you. But good practice right ?
She got back together with her ex OP. You dodged a major bullet.
Post pic and i'll tell you what to do to look your best.
But I know the answer already.
>start lifting and eating healthy.
No thanks.
I just watched Hotel Rwanda yesterday and I feel incredibly vulnerable. I can't stop thinking about how much evil is happening in the world and that Western civilization lives in some fairy tale bubble that world is safe and cool. All my problems, even my depression seem so unimportant in comparison to African folks problems. I wish I could do something about it. I want to sign up for some humanitarian volunteering, but I lack the guts. I feel bad for being a weak, cowardly human, I want to be brave and bring change to the world, not just by sharing stuff on FB and crying over post-colonial countries' people. I'm afraid though I'm going to die there and my work won't bring a significant change anyway and I'm paralyzed by this fear. Does it mean I won't make a good volunteer if I'm this weak?
How do I deal with these feelings? Does anyone has experience with volunteering in Africa or other hardcore part of the world? Hope to hear your stories, especially how you overcame fear of death.
The most effective thing you can probably do is get a well paying job and donate to charities you think actually help.
>>16509735
It's ok. Dying isn't evil. People die all the time, both good and bad, both peacefully and violently. Sometimes bad people die peacefully, and sometimes good people die violently. In either case, it isn't wrong if you have no control over it. They are humans, and humans die no matter the quality of their virtue. It is totally natural. The only things you can judge as evil are your own actions based upon your innate sense of virtue. Everything else is circumstantial and cannot be understood. Truly, most men commit evil by mistake, thinking they are doing right but acting out of fear or pride.
Besides, the infinity of time stretching behind us, and the infinity of time before us make their lives, whether short or long by human standards, a trivial grain of sand on a great beach. There is no point to live in such perturbation over things utterly natural, and take less time than a blink of the universe's eye. Your life is yours to be enjoyed, do not worry over those things you have no control over. You change nothing, and feel pain over it, when you could instead have peace in the acceptance of the course of the world.
There will be many more massacres you cannot stop. There will be fear, jealousy, pride and conflict across the world you can't change. This does not mean you can't be happy. Accept these things as they are, a part of nature and neither inherently good nor evil, and move on with your life.
You don't have to go to Africa to do important good in the world. Look at Nepal, for instance. It's one of the poorest countries in the world. They had an earthquake that killed almost 9000 people in late April, and those left alive lost the little commodities they had. Disabled children aren't recognised by the government. India just cut off their fuel supply, so it's very difficult to get around. But many people claim that it's one of the most beautiful, spiritual places on earth. Go there and build some shelters. And at the same time, meet incredibly peaceful people. There's very little conflict among the citizens. I know a couple of people who've been there, and they came back more beautiful themselves.
Tell me. Why do you go on?
>>16505403
I want to make movies, and i have this delusion/hope that things might get better. :(
>>16505403
Dunno, slim hope I'll feel well somehow.
Drinking myself to death.
So I've been with my girlfriend for almost 3 months now and she absolutely won't do anything physical with me.
We have hooked up before and it was goddamn amazing, but this was over a year ago. Now that we're dating she won't even kiss me.
Now, I'm pretty sure that eventually she will crack and we will make passionate love again, but I am starting to lose my patience. Is there anything I can do to speed up the process or do I just have to try to keep my patience?
My efforts have inspired temptation but they certainly haven't been successful enough for her to give in.
>Hard mode: She no longer drinks or does drugs
Communication!
When you talked with her about this, and told her how important physical intimacy is for you, what did she say?
>>16512787
She's probably not attracted to you.
Honestly I'd just flirt with other women because: a) it'll show she's not the best you'll ever have (which I bet she thinks) and; b) you might meet somebody better
How do I into girls /adv/?
Started working seasonal retail recently. So naturally I have a couple of cute coworkers that I get to talk to on occasion.
Talking to them isn't really the problem, I can hold a conversation forever talking about whatever it is they're interested in and be confident or opinionated or whatever the whole time. So it's not like I'm spilling spaghetti everywhere every time there's a cute girl near me.
My question is, how the fuck do I escalate this. How do I go from just talking, to actually doing things outside of work, or getting a number without totally misreading the situation?
>>16512713
>Hey I was wondering if you wanted to go grab a coffee with me on X at Y?
A warning anon, dating or even attempting it at work can be a risky game. Not just in terms of getting fired or whatever but be prepared for lots of drama if anything explodes in your face.
>>16512719
Yeah, that was a concern of mine as well.
Best to avoid entirely?
Or just not do anything proactively, so that I'm not really liable for potential "explosions" ?
>>16512729
it isn't anything that you can really control. Let's say you invite one out and you go get coffee and she gets weirded out by you for some reason. Now every chick in her department and possibly the rest of the store will forever know you as "that guy who creeped out that poor girl"
So /adv/ i haven't been going out with this girl, for a long time, no more than a month, but we've been connecting really well, yesterday, we ended up holding hands and her laying her head on my shoulder, next day she tells me she tought it was weird that i held her hand at that moment, but, why would a girl hold on to my hand, and even hold tighter when i tried to let go for a brief moment, and still act so interested and nice, she just said it was weird, and she doesn't want things to be misunderstood, but still acts as close, i really like this girl...WHAT DO!
bump guys
>>16512622
sounds like you're on your way to the friendzone my friend.
>>16512634
id really like to think its just cryptic female language, need some more advice than that.
my boyfriend pick me up and throw me around in front of his friends and pretends to hump me... he done it several times and i feel embarrassed in public when he does it. he won't stop , i asked him to.
what was the line in american psycho?
Pumpkin, you're dating the biggest dickweed in New York. Pumpkin, you're dating a tumbling, tumbling dickweed. "
Literally haha.
you are basically his sex toy
So, I'm transferring to a different university in January and they require three semesters of a foreign language. I've taken Elementary Spanish I at my current school, and I struggled HARD to pass that class, and that was with some help from the professor showing me mercy. I am really nervous about taking two to three more semesters of Spanish (or another language) at my new school.
So I have a few questions.
One, should I stick with Spanish, or is there an easier language to grasp for a monolingual English native-speaker?
Two, any tips on learning and retaining the language?
Three, what other languages do you speak? Just curious.
Naw man, I tried Japanese, German and finally Spanish. Spanish was the easiest by far. The spelling is predictable, the sounds are almost all the same--no weird inbetween vowels, and the word order is nearly all the same, except casa blanca vs. white house.
At least in the US, you can leave then TV on the Hispanic channel and learn by osmosis, you can find people speaking at and practice for free, it's all good.
Well, I'd say Esperanto is easier, but most universities don't offer it as far as I know.
>>16512293
BILLE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=flpxujAPNYE
How do waiters and shit asfford NYC and la
>>16512267
Damn that's a big nose.
rich parents
you will notice they are all well put together young affluent whites
my room mate had an apartment with me in manhattan, simultaneously with one she had in boston so she would have a place to stay when she went there on the weekends to visit her friends from school. Her dad was paying for both of them.
>>16512267
Multiple roommates to keep rent costs down. Parents' trust fund.
