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I turned 18 about a week ago. A guy I met on tf2 about four years ago is flying to meet me irl. We both have had a romantic interest in each other for quite a long time, I refused to date though until we actually met. He's 22. He originally planned to come on the day of my 18th birthday but i was busy with assignments. He's going to be here in two days and he'll be in my city for five days. Any advice?
>meeting some fuckface you met on the interenet without extensively checking him out first
You're a dumbass.
>>16516558
Give him a chance
Please make sure you meet in an extremely public place and have a back up escape plan. Like a friend spying or some shit. Just in case anything seems off.
Other than that I hope you are safe and all goes well.
Please help me decipher the disgusting behavior of this guy.
I met him through a mutual friend, in a gathering at said friend's house. The guy was aloof and seemed emotionally unstable, but he was pretty hot to me. I tried talking to him a bit but not too much. Then I'd talk to him on facebook, every now and then saying things like "hey, how're you?", meaningless shit. He never talked too much. I didn't get the hint and then one day asked him if he would like to go to the movies, and he said no, so since then I haven't talked to him. But I know from a mutual friend that he sleeps with a different girl almost every night, he goes to parties a lot so he meets them there. And most of these girls are pretty ugly and fat. I'm neither ugly nor fat, but I get it, not just because of that he's obligated to like me. Okay.
So, two days ago I made a party for my birthday. I did not invite him, but he came over and brought a girl, used the bathroom, and left. He did not even say hello to me, why the fuck show up just to use the bathroom? I get it, he's not interested, he's only interested in fucking ugly chicks, but why does he have to be a bitch? He ruined my birthday, it made me feel so angered that he'd show up and wouldn't even bother talking.
Stop being such a desperate slut. He's not into you, went to the party because it's a party, probably thought it was weird to talk to you since he rejected you, probably doesn't want anything with you - and from your post its clear you're crazy.
Jeez, find something else to do. Someone you don't even know ruined your party because they didn't say hi? Wtf is up with that...
I don't see any disgusting behavior here. I only see over-analyzing and pointless hostility. This man has not wronged you and I don't understand why you felt the need to mention his sexual history or the attractiveness of his partners.
What's to decipher? What will you gain in understanding the inner workings of someone who rejected you?
>in a convo with a friend
>this chick when looking at me will start to kiss her arm
Wat?
Good on you?
>>16516473
Yes that is a thing
>>16516473
You start kissing your friends arm.
My girlfriend is crazy and I want off this ride. Last time I tried breaking up with her, she got all suicidal, tried taking a bunch of over the counter pills and drinking bleach. How do I get out of this relationship?
>>16516444
You have to get a family member or friend of yours to help her out. Tell them you're dumping her and that you're worried and that she shouldn't be alone at first. Then you have an out whether she's clearly suicidal or just being an attention seeking cunt(likely) hopefully at the very least she'll be too embarrassed to harass you afterwards.
Worst case scenario: Call the cops before she loses her mind. This way you're safe and maybe she'll learn a fucking lesson that 48 hours in a nut house is not worth trying to keep your boyfriend.
>>16516465
All of this.
You've got to get out of there ASAP. You're in an abusive relationship.
Fake your own death! If she kills herself then. She'll just be the 'grieving' widow.
Guys idk what's wrong with me pls help asap.
Yesterday I had very serious ear pain which was normal. I have chronic swimmers ear that comes back. Now this hurt so much that my dad gave me two 85mg chew orange flavored aspirins.
It Dident help so I went and had about two more then idk why decided to have two more after that.
Then my dad asked me if I was okay and o said it hurt like hell. Then he had this bag of muscle relaxer pills, pain pills, and tiny pills idk wtf it is.
He gave me a big pain pill and one of the tint pill.
I had a grand opening mtg draft torney to go to (which I came first btw) so I had two more and biked 5 miles down to my friends house and there his dad gave us a rode to new store.
I got a ride back and Dident feel anything out of the normal. Pain was gone.
Okay so today morning I get up and double vision and in swaying.
All day today I've been high like the first time I did dabs and kinda worried. I can't even stand.
Legit terrified rn Cuz I can't see straight and can't even walk for a long time and its been all day and I kinda don't wanna sleep.
Can u get high off of aspirins?
Pic unrelated
Idfk
See a doctor.
>>16516388
Fun wanna.
Nu insurance
/adv/, I'm losing it. I'm under so much stress right now and my depression is resurfacing. I feel awful and my best friend hasn't been talking to me lately (instead he spends all his time hanging out with losers and trying out alcohol, parties, weed, etc) when I need him the most. My other friends are mostly acquaintances not friends and pretty much not worth going to for help.
I can't communicate with my parents at all and I need to talk this out... Please help me get my act together /adv/ I'm so lost
Friend here. Let loose OP :)
>>16516379
Hey friend. Yeah, I have a lot of problems right now. And if it was just one or a few of them I could likely deal with it but it's the combination of all these together that's really messing with me. I'm afraid, man. I'm terrified. And everything seems wrong. I can't see the positive in anything.
So long story short
>moved out of parent's house, finally starting to try independent adulthood
>mom gets diagnosed with degenerative disk disease (her spinal disks are screwing themselves over)
>dad gets diagnosed with his kidneys degenerating due to longterm alcoholism (same exact thing that killed his dad)
>both parents trying to guilt trip me for "abandoning them"
>major issues with my parents (long, long history of bad blood in our family. I'm talking arguments and violence and manipulation and the whole nine yards) so we cannot communicate with each other
>mother is leaving the US in January to go live in her home country and is probably not coming back for a long time
>parents getting divorced
That's just with my parents. I'll continue.
So I'm scared for my parents health and a friend died suddenly in a car crash earlier this year, so I realize that mortality is a very real fact. And I could lose them within a few years and that scares me, I have no control over it at all. I can hardly reconcile with them with things being as bad as they are and we have extreme trouble communicating as is. There's a lot of bitterness and anger built up.
Also, I'm trying to prepare for college. Trying to enlist in the military reserves (an important and meaningful goal for me that I don't want to screw up). And I need to learn to drive a car and get a job. Those are just personal stepping stones, but they're still stressing me out.
Plus, my social life is really on the low. I used to have an active and fun one but I let it go after high school to focus on myself and fixing my life. And now I really miss having an active one but most of all I miss my close friends.
I'm a 22 year old gal and I'm falling for a man 50 year old man at work. We're both in relationships and I've been fighting this "crush" for a year now, but it's only been getting worse. Should I find a new job? Should I just take a chance and tell him how I feel? How do I get over this? I feel like we have a lot of chemistry, but if we were meant to be time would have made that so... I just feel pathetic.
The time you hit your 30s this guy will probably be dead. Just ignore it op. Don't be unfaithful to your partner. You must have daddy issues, go consult someone about them. A change of jobs would benefit. Cut all contact.
>>16516351
I'd say pursue it.
Age gap relationships sometimes are the most fulfilling.
>>16516614
Do not listen to this person.
The age gap is way too big in this case.
How do I convince others that God exists?
You can't. That's God's work.
>>16516243
Fuck off faggot
lying
So I got this friend right. She has an abusive boyfriend which I can NOT stop her from seeing no matter what I do. Anyway the other day she got dropped off at my house by her boyfriend and they were fighting. Of course. He tried to speed off and accidentally crashed into my neighbors fence and then He fled the scene. The cops showed up and went to his house, but apparently he doesn't have insurance so they're holding my family responsible for the damages???? Is there something I can do besides go through the process of sueing this asshole? Please help me ruin this kids life. Also he sells drugs if that helps.
>>16516239
Quit hanging out with garbage people
There's nothing to connect his liability to you. You're not going to be held responsible for this
>>16516248
We are though, it was technically "on our property" because it was directly outside of our garage. My mother already had to pay for it
/adv/ I need your help, I have not once posted here but I figure this is more your guys territory than /k/'s. So here goes.
>Meet a girl a while ago
>Find out we have all the same mutual interests
>We start dating, it's my first real relationship and she was my first time
>A few months down the track and I am head over heels in love with her, she apparently feels the same way
>She is always doting over me and she is legitimately concerned about me
>The happiest I have ever been
>She starts using Heroin despite my best efforts
>It starts off recreational and occasional, but it starts happening more and more
>Fast forward a few more months to last week
>I try to meet up with her and hang out but she says she is sick and I think nothing more of it
>Try a few days later and she is still sick
>Last night I messaged her to see what she was doing
>She all of a sudden tells me that she needs some time to work on herself and that I deserve much better
>She wants to break up
>I tell her how much I love her and she says to stop making it hard on her
>I realize that she was avoiding me to get high
What the fuck do I do? She wants me just to let go, but I can't. I honestly think she was the one.
Should I give her space and hope she sorts herself out? Do I try talk to her?
I have never been in so much pain before, and I am seriously thinking of offing myself.
Please help me
Go to her. Be there for her. Get her help. Let her know you'll be there for her no matter what.
>>16516166
I know this doesn't help, but heroine is serious business...In the long run you might be better off..
>>16516172
How do I do it without driving her away?
In all seriousness, if I got rid of her dealer do you guys think it would help?
My friend's father is cheating on her mom.
I saw him on a hookup app and he sent a message to my fake account asking if I wanted to hookup.
Should I write a facebook message to her mom telling her what I found or should just keep it to myself?
Why do you have a fake account? I hate girls like you who just like to troll us. That's why I deleted Tinder. Too many fake piece of shit trolls
And you should just message him and say who you are. And make it awkward for him. Maybe it'll embarras him enough that he'll stop
do it anonymously, and report on what happens periodically with reference to this thread.
Let your friend tell you about it and get good information. Post that shit here.
>>16516138
THIS
Hey so this is a bit embaressing but I really hope I can find answers. I am 19 years old, I am currently in a relationship with a great girl. At first i diden't mind cause i thought it was a good thing. But I struggle to reach orgasm when having sex...First time I ever had sex was like a year ago and it lasted hours. I fap pretty much almost everyday at least once. And it worries me that it takes me so long. to the point I almost do not enjoy having sex. Now good news it isen't too late cause I at least came once with my girl sround a month ago but now it's starting to mess with my head and i get nervoud and afraid i won't get it up. I wanna if anybody ever had to deal with that and if they could help me out. I know it isen't too late but while I never thought I would say this, I need to last less long in bed.
bump of shame
Stop fapping so much
I have this same problem, unfortunately I tink jerking off makes it worse.
For me I find the best thing to do is relax and focus on what feels good and keep things simple. Changing position a lot can be awkward and kind of a turn off if it gets too clumsy.
Also, dont try to overthink what youre doing. It's an annoying suggestion I know, like "be more confident" but I find 9/10 times stress and tension are the key factors.
Sorry for not having a more clinical answer but this has been my experience. I sometimes get self conscious about performance or something, which makes it hard to get off, which makes me more self conscious. Its tough but hardly insurmountable. Just remember the number one rule for sex: it should be fun
I've been pissed off about this for months now. We dated for 3 years. She dumped me when I was flailing about miserably with my life 4 months ago, with all these reasons that shifted the blame on me for the relationship failing. My friend had just killed himself a month ago, I had dropped out of school for half a semester (was returning this one and I'm doing quite well). She had opted for a "break" in the beginning of June, which we cut short since she called me sobbing saying she "almost" cheated on me, which I don't really believe anymore. We had what I perceived to be a good month after that, barring my friend's suicide. I'm 21, and didn't really know how to process it, so clung to her really fucking hard.
Anyways, she told me she had been "testing the waters" and wanted to take another break. She needed to "find herself" by the time next semester started. I thought that was a fucking retarded idea since last time she almost fucked another guy, so I argued pretty intensely with her. She started sobbing when I told her I really needed her for stability right now, since I had been reeling from so many things this summer. She called me back emotionless 3 days later and broke up with me, said there was no arguing it and she wouldn't put up with anything of the sort. I gave up and let her go, haven't talked to her since. She removed me on all social media etc. I felt like she didn't just want to break up, that she actually hated me, which really fucking hurt because not a week before she was going on about how wonderful we were together and how happy she was. Now for the shit I need to figure out is worth confronting her over or not.
>>16516063
I didn't know this until october, but she started dating another guy and put it up on social media like a week into this semester. After all those claims about "being her own person" she apparently settled right back into being a submissive fuckhole for some other guy. I was tired of her doing that for me, which is why I was pushing her in the first place. Second, she lied to me about her ex. She told me a year and half ago that they never dated, and that he was there to visit her and a friend. He spent the the weekend in my apartment (which had 3 roomates with me). She spent both nights in my room. Now, saturday they spent ALL day talking with each other, ignoring everyone else. I thought it was the weirdest shit and everyone saw how uncomfortable I was. She had mentioned before that she had a crush on him in high school but it was gone. We fought about it that night after like 10 hours. I didn't know how to confront either of them when they were together.
I want her to know that I found out about this fucking lie. I want her to know that she's a fucking deplorable cunt who used me like an emotional tampon for 3 FUCKING YEARS. I thought she genuinely loved me, but when I wasn't able to provide the role she so desperately needed, she booted me out of her life. I dated some other girl to try and forget her but I had to break up because I was still struggling with all that pent up emotion. I never got to see her face when she broke up with me, I never attached that image with one of heartbreak or sadness. The last thing she said to me in person was I love you. Now she's isolating herself with this boy and her old friends are frustrated with her.
Don't confront her. Just don't. What's the point? What are you trying to do?
Just don't do it.
I wouldn't confront her, because you're not really going to gain anything from it. She's going to be an emotionless bitch and have the upper hand in it, and you'll probably come out feeling more pathetic. I know how strong the need is to have someone acknowledge you and what you're going through when you cared about them and you just want to understand and be understood, but after years of trying that in various situations, almost nothing ever comes out of it. You might have better luck, but when people move on and can assume the "emotionless" position, unless you can invoke some kind of human compassion in her, then the talk is going to be shit.
>she was going on about how wonderful we were together and how happy she was.
She was trying to convince herself or at least assure herself that this is what she wanted and she was making the right decision by sticking with you. Some people talk out loud, and they don't talk out loud for the benefit of the people around them, but for themselves. She seems like one that would do that. Talk about this out loud more for her benefit than yours (unless she was trying to convince you, too).
Now, I don't usually fall back on this reasoning, but you were dating a careless slut. She probably didn't "almost" cheat on you, she probably did. If she didn't fuck him, then I can almost guarantee she made out with him for awhile. And if she's close to your age, then she's probably thinking with her pussy and wanting to "experiment and experience," and you're sadly in the way of that. She was a slut. She thought of herself first all of the time. And it was only a matter of time before she did something incredibly fucked up (and I think she already was). I don't think she wanted to be supportive if it cost her anything. She wants to be young and have it super fucking easy. You were just more invested, and she was more self-involved. Focus on the fact that she was just ramping up to really fucking hurt you.
>Talking with a girl in our friend group
>She tells me she has a crush on one of our friends because he is super chill
>Thinks since she told me I can move the gears and somehow get them together
>I have a crush on her and it hurt when she said this to me.
> I didnt agree to help her but I didnt disagree either I just moved the conversation around
>Fucked up and said I used to have a crush on her a while ago but that was when I didn't know alot about her and slipped in saying that feelings can change over time but i dont think she took the hint.
What the hell can I do here, im pretty sure she doesn't like me more then a friend and she expects me to help her get with my friend which would shatter me honestly. I would have to cut all contact from them just so I could not be depressed when I see them in a room together.
Send her a message. "I wasn't completely honest with you. I still have a crush on you."
See what she says. It's probably not going to be what you want to hear, but if you try and just keep flirting and hinting then pretty soon they're going to be together and you'll have missed your chance and have no good excuse for cutting contact. If she rejects you, at least you don't have to invent a reason for keeping your distance.
Honestly, this happened to me once. I am typing so give me patience
>>16516060
yeah but I really don't want to openly ask her about that since there is a chance I could lose her and she could ignore me. We had a weird talk a while back about how people are just friends with her ( the guys in the group) because she is a girl and I told her that thing about used to have a crush but then saw her as a person before a girl and became friends, but it sucks because over time I started to get to know her more and notice her differently but I think I fucked up so badly by telling her I used to like her. On top of she probably doesnt like me past a friend anyway.
Seeking advice and I have to ask your opinion.
First the opinion, I have a friend who strongly believes that the idea of going to a bar and picking up a girl to take back home or to a hotel to have casual sex is straight out of a movie and "real life doesn't work that way." Do you think there's truth in that or is my friend overly naive?
Advice: Assuming he has SOME truth to what he said, then whats a guy to do when they simply want to casually get laid without having to pay for it?
I have done that exact thing many times.
Your friend is overtly naive.
What? It happens. Pick a random bar and it probably happened there yesterday, maybe more than once. It's not that rare. Maybe in some demographics is it rare, but not in general.
Your friend is naive, it happens all the time. But if you want to pick up girls that way, you have to be very attractive in some kind of surface-level, immediately apparent way.
Meaning, you have to be very good-looking, or naturally very charismatic/funny, there has to be SOMETHING about you that'll make a girl want you within a few seconds of meeting you. And don't whine or cry that girls are superficial, because that's just the situation you're putting yourself in.
If your good/attractive qualities are deeper down, if you're shy upon meeting new people, then you can expect that it will take more time for a girl to develop attraction for you. With rare exceptions, you won't be able to meet a girl and sleep with her that very same night.
