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How many anons on here practicing PUA/seduction? What are your stories? How long have you been into it?
Alright this is my story hopefully somebody is listening. This isnalso valuable advice. When i was around 14-15, I had the biggest crush on a girl(today we are good friends) I used to be the ugliest shit ever. I got rejected bt her and it hit me hard. But to this day I thank god that she did. Made me realize many things. How ugly I was, how shit I was to talking with women and how innocent I could be. I started losing the weight( good healthy diet) and by 16 I learned about PUA's and shit. So of course I started off slow I remember hitting on my first girl and getting her number. Hilarious and looking back, suprised she even gave me her number I was so akward. Anyway bit more time passed and I ended up meering a guy named paul trough a pua site. He is one of my closest friends today. He was a year older then me and knew a bit more abour the game and all. While my skills were raw, I did have the most energy and boldness. we started picking up toghether. It was fun. I just turned 19 a few weeks ago. Its been over a year i havent looked up pickup and shit. If you want my advice, If you are some dumbass that dosen't know how to get girls, it is great. it honestly taught me alot. And it actually helps you in other situations. I was never one to shy away from a crowd but pickup helped me in terms of communication and networking. I'm pretty happy about it but heres the things you should know and the very reason why i'm writing this. Number 1, DO NOT FALL INTO THE MARKETING TRAPS. The whole paying for the pua knowledge is absolute bullshit. I never did it. All the things I learned you can find for free on the internet. Don't get into the whole project go simple pickup shit. You won't be gettinf anything special. Also 2 more things. One, while the concept of getting a girl's numbee as your primary motivation is good at first, personally once i got good at it, i started getting away from the community. You don't want your "game" to be fake.
pt 2: As i was saying,you want to be natural. Be liked and loved for who you are. Don't think you're a hotshot cause you can pickup a girl with a silly hat on. do that at first to prove to yourself anythjng is possible and maybe once in awhile for the fuck of it. But trust you want to acquire it as a skill not somme lifestyle as somme market it. I have nothing but love for pickup but i don't like the traps they set for vulnerable men to make rm waste money and also make it sound very douchy and brolike. I tend to find pua's to sound quite disrespectfull towards women. If I can suggest you anything, Go check out Jad T jones on youtube. His older stuff, back when he used to call the channel howtogetagirlfriend.org. He has somme great real insight on pickup and how it should be done later on. I have way too many things to cover but for now I hope this wasen't a waste of words and you end up replying. Love helping the pickup community!
>>16519906
>>16519918
This guy writes massive blocks of text with poor punctuation, but he speaks wisdom
Can I lie about my height to girls, if I'm already taller than them? Will they be able to tell? I'm 5'9" but almost always wearing boots or some other nice shoes, which usually have thicker soles.
>>16519746
If you're taller than them, who the fuck cares?
>>16519759
Some girls might be 5'6" but still want to date a guy who's much taller than them. I was thinking of being able to stretch my height to 5'11"
>>16519762
You know that no matter whether or not you lie, the height difference is going to be the same, right? It's not like telling them you're 5'11" will increase the height difference
Have you tried fucking yourself in the ass with a selfie stick?
You could also break your dishes on the floor and have sex with the pieces
Injecting horse semen into your anus is something I recommend.
Stick a pool cue up your anus too
Alright, so my partner is a solid 8 and we've been dating for around two months, but they're catholic and I'm a fucking satanist. They're intelligent and don't take abstinence too seriously, but satanic shit seriously freaks them out. They pretty much expect us to get married because they've sent nudes, but I totally didn't sign up for this shit two months ago. So what the fuck should I do? I won't promise to do any crazy shit, I'm just here for some insight.
I would straight up tell them that your not comfortable about how fast things are moving. Just be honest, if they're willing to listen. Is your partner known to only hear what they want to hear? If that's the case then they certainly are not worth your time.
Stop being so edgy with a fake religion you don't even believe in yourself?
Try being Catholic? At least go try the Eucharist and see if you die.
>>16519683
You're a satanist? Maybe try being less of an underage faggot. Try agnosticism, Catholics are mostly agnostic anyway
I don't know what to do right now. I was attacked at work and I feel horrible. I'm in paid, head is throbbing, can't sleep, and having panic attacks about this, because I don't understand what happened or why. I'm confused.
>at work
>having altercation with fellow coworker
>we are face to face talking shit
>other coworker butts in
>tell coworker it's none of their business
>coworker runs over, grabs me
>starts punching me.
>I fight back
>coworker Starts choking me, punching me relentlessly
>we get separated and I say wtf are you doing
>coworker keeps talking shit
>don't remember what I say back (probably talk shit back to them)
>coworker sucker punches me a few more times
>punched in the balls
>take a thumb to the eye
>endless hits to my head
Currently awaiting to hear from HR. Refused medical treatment. Didn't call police. Was kind of scared cause this person been there longer than me and I've been told by everybody that there's certain ways things are ran at my job and certain people get favoritism and stuff.
Right now idk what to do and even if I somehow don't lose my job I don't trust this guy. He told me that he'd kill me if he gets fired. I need the money and don't want to lose the job, but my god I don't trust anyone there and I'm in so much pain I had no idea what was going on.
We are both suspended until HR is contacted. Dude is a serious lunatic, mentioned about doing time in jail, being in a mental hospital, mentioned he needed to get home to his medication after the fight and all kinds of stuff.
What should I even do??
I have no idea about legal stuff, I don't even know where do you live, so I'll just throw a random idea: leave asap and sue your company.
make sure to document EVERYTHING that happened. go to normal courts, do NOT accept special courts...
I'd ask reddit instead of this shithole. https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice
>>16519668
Lawyer up and have the cunt charged with assault, obviously. How many witnesses were there? You should get checked out for concussion and get the eye looked at as well.
I honestly didn't have him arrested because number one I thought I'd be looked down on if I called the cops and he also has a kid and threatened if he lost his job he'd kill me. I felt bad he had a kid, but also if he has a kid he shouldn't put himself in situations like that.
There's like 4 witnesses but idk if they'd say anything for me or not cause I'm new at this place and it's one of those places where like people know each other work. A lot of inside pull.
1. I admittedly like to drink and I like to drink frequently and in relatively high volumes
2. I almost never drink to excess before important events or in lieu of getting things done
3. I have landed in bad situations bexuse of alcohol. Mostly suicide attempts and verbal fights with boyfriend. Recently these things are infrequent but do still happen.
4. My boyfriend calls me an alcoholic.
5. I've realized most bad situations regarding alcohol happen when I'm around my boyfriend.
6. My boyfriend called me gross when I drink. When I asked if it was because ofbpast bad situations he said that was partially it and that in general I'm just annoying while drunk and that he dislikes that I like to drink so much.
7. He was mad at me for drinking on our first night together for a week and again called me gross. However he had been actively ignoring me and being rude to me so I didn't think he'd really miss me if I went in the bedroom and drank.
8. I had 2 beers and he started treating me like I was so drunk that I couldn't understand what he was saying when that was obviously not the case. He continued to list off other things besides drinking that he dislikes about me
9. I tried to talk with him about it and he refused. Just looking at his phone and telling me he was sick if fighting when he was the one who was ignoring me and insulting me and I was just trying to talk about it
Any ideas at all. Im at a loss because he has been emotionally abusive to me before but I don't want to deny the fact that i drink a lot...i just don't know if I really have a problem or if he's just trying to find ways to bring me down.
Bonus facts.
-I have a job, go to school, and regularly work out. I've been super busy the last few days with no chance to relax. so I was looking forward to drinking a few beers
-he has no job / school and jsut got back from his parents house where they bought him shit and hr had no responsibilities
-all of my drunk suicide attempts have happened when he was around and all were a reaction to him saying really rude things to me
Idk. I really am feeling like he's being a shit head to me but if anyone thinks I might actually be an alcoholic and that his actions are justified feel free to show me your pov. I've spoken to people close to me and while they admit I like to drink no one else has ever said that I'm an alcoholic
>>16519580
>he's an abusive cunthole and belittles me at every possible opportunity
>but I feel like I'm to blame somehow
>multiple suicide attempts that he has triggered
Why are you acting as if this shit is normal? Leave him, that environment is toxic as fuck.
>>16519663
Idk because he's good at manipulating me I guess he'll come around for a while and then all of a sudden be really mad about something I thought we had gotten past (me liking to drink alone, me using social media frequently). Rinse and repeat. and we live together and shit so that makes it difficult. But yeah he was just gone for a week and I was feeling pretty great. Comes back and the first night he's callibg me gross and we're sleeping in different rooms. I just wish I had someone who could like watch our relationship 24/7 and 100% tell me hes a dick so I could stop doubting myself
Well I done goofed,
I walked into calc today and saw that only one other student showed up (it was me and him and then the professor). I took a snapchat of myself mainly, then the other kid in the background and the prof even farther back.
He confronted me after class saying that he wanted to get disciplinary action through the dean and even pursue legal action.
How fucked am I?
tl;dr took photo in class with professor in the way background, he caught me and wants to get a lawyer
...delete it? Why does he care you took a photo?
>>16519546
well he caught me taking it, and because it was snapchat it doesnt exsist anymore. But is there anything he can do?
am I just being paranoid?
He sounds like a dick on a powertrip.
You didn't break any laws.
Please help /adv/.
I'm a specialist undercover operative for the Administrative Vice department of my country and I am coming out of my first and probably only cover operation. I've been at a high school in the final year as a UC as an unassuming student to bust some people involved in a forgery ring. It's been a success but I now have to leave all these people I have made friends with including a girl I wanted to have a relationship with. If I continue it I will have to tell her I was undercover and the only reason I got to know her was because of the operation.
I think she won't react well to this but my feeling is genuine for her and I don't know what to do. I'm moving into overt operations after this.
I dunno what to do, should I tell her and try make a go of it or just disappear and try to forget her?
>>16519529
Follow your protocol. Do your job. If you have more questions ask your unit. If you think your the only one with this problem your wrong. In the past in WAY MORE serious operations, operatives have become too close. This caused hitman to kill other people who the criminals THOUGHT was the person snitching at the end. The moral of this story is, dont get too close. Ofcourse its hard. But now you choose. Criminal life or law life.
Please let this be a fucking troll post. Do they really not prepare you for this sort of thing when they train you?
Did you, a grown man with a career in law enforcement, seriously allow yourself to fall for a high school girl? What is wrong with you? This can't be real.
>>16519529
Definitely bait.
In the 1/10000000 chance that it isn't, you're a stupid piece of shit OP, just do your job.
TL;DR version: i invited a guy to go with me on vacation thinking he wouldn't accept or that my friends wouldn't bail on me. my friends ended up bailing on me and now i'm going on vacation with a guy who i don't know very well and he's starting to creep me out. wat do?
long version: i've been planning on going on vacation and wanted to get a good group to go with me, so i invited all my friends. well one by one they started flaking out, most of them couldn't afford it which is understandable.
i was at a work party and started ranting about this to another coworker, and i was like "so would you want to go with me??" and he was like "yeah totally!" and i thought he wasn't serious. turns out he bought the plane ticket and everything.
i'm female and he's male, and i originally planned to stay in dorm hostels and am going to stick to that plan, but he keeps pushing on getting a private room because of "noise" and "partiers." (wtf is the point of going on vacation if you can't party?)
so not only does that weird me out a little bit, but it's also the fact that he barely talks at all and is also a big guy who used to be in the army.
what the fuck do i do? at this point it's too late to refund tickets.
>>16519527
you made your bed, now you get to lie in it.
with a creepy dude, most likely.
>>16519532
if he gets me in bed i'm going to be kicking and screaming. not in a good way.
is there any advice or am i screwed?
You literally invited some guy to go with you on vacation, and you want to bail on him because he wants to sleep with you, which is the natural idea when YOU invited him to go on vacation.
Go fuck yourself. Make it clear asap that you fucked up big time and said shit carelessly.
Honestly go fuck yourself OP.
Someone convince me that being a guy doesn't blow.
I don't know how I fucked myself up, maybe I drew too much animu or chose female characters in too many games, but every waking moment, it feels like, I'm distraught over the fact that I'm not a girl.
I can't act in the goofy ways that I like without being labeled a creep or loser, while a girl could do such things and look super-cute because of it. I have no interest in male fashion and I torture myself when I look at girls in cute winter wear, or cosplay, or god forbid a good lolita. I can't even strip down nude for comfort in my own home because the male body repulses me, yet I hear from female friends that they do it all the time, in one case in front of others. There's so little I can be open about, so many places I can't go and things I can't do. There's other things in particular I'll probably think of later.
Lastly, I have good genes, every man and woman in my family is beautiful, so I wouldn't have needed to fear not turning out pretty. Or rather, take solace in that.
I need help in defeating myself in this argument. What's there to love about being a guy, what can I do to get rid of this dysphoria?
become trans, it's widely accepted nowadays
visit /lgbt/
1. do manly shit like shoot guns and chop trees
2. remove faggoty influences from your life such as anime
3. do things that men do like lift heavy shit and eat meat
4. wait
>>16519521
no, don't feed mental illness you degenerate cunt
he just needs to actually live like a man, and not chop his dick off and become a deformed freak
It's 8:05pm I just had dinner, no ice cream in the freezer, wants some sort of dessert, has time to run to the grocery store, has $8. What do I get?
Mother fucking brownie ice cream
Bring me some too though
>It's 8:05pm
>23:20:58
>:20:
Oooookay.
Get some vanilla sandwich cookies, like Vienna Fingers. Those are nice in the evening with a warm drink.
I'm considering other options on the way
>live with dad
>he gets really depressed around holidays
>pretty sure it's clinically Seasonal Affective Disorder
>even tho no diagnosis
>had a rough childhood, lost dad to suicide, his mother beat the shit out of him
>im the only living member of our family that is close to him
>he won't leave his room
>i ask if he's alright or suggest he come out and at least hang out with me in living room
>doesn't want to
>extreme lethargy
>any time he does spend some time with me
>conversation goes negative, no matter how much I try to keep things light or reassuring
>he gets either more depressed or angry
What more can I do? Do I just leave dad alone?
If he isn't willing to help himself, there isn't much you can do.
At least attempting to keep him busy is better than nothing.
>>16519395
Yeah he's depressed, but just leave him alone if he wants something he'll talk to you. Maybe you can make a meal for him? Talk to him then?
Sounds like extreme depression. He should probably be admitted if it doesn't let up/gets worse.
. im a woman, ive never been able to say no to a guy putting his hands on me trying to fuhkk me.
i literally cant even say no. i cant resist, theres no receptor in my brain that even tells me i should say no or resist.
i dont actively seek real life sex, and i dress more or less "frumpy" all the time, i am too shy to wear very revealing clothes.
so its not like i try to get guys to sleep with me.
why am i like this?
i'm also not that hot and i'm still a virgin but guys have touched me and seen my nude body before. i cant tell you any good reason why ive never been fucked, having said that. lol
but yeah, if for example my ex boyfriend would have shoved my face to his dick or forcibly took this pussy i'd never resist
i cant think of a single time when a guy touched me sexually and i stopped him.
in fact i think what stops some guys from going all the way with a girl is if shes "too" passive, too accepting of his advances, i guess there isnt enough 'friction' to make your average guy to care enough to take it.
Go to /r9k/, that'll teach you to say no real fast.
What advice are you seeking?
>>16519371
she wants attention.
she sounds underage
So here's the deal. I have a flight in 3 days that I'm dreading. I have a history of generalized anxiety disorder, though I've learned to cope pretty well with it. But with recent world events, combined with the anxiety I get any time I'm looking forward to something (such as what I'm looking forward to on the other side of this flight), it's almost unbearable.
I just have a nagging feeling that something is going to go wrong, even though I've had that feeling before and had it proven to be a false alarm. So I'm trying to brush it off as just anxiety, which I logically know it is. But there is always that little voice in the back of my head saying "what if this time something bad actually happens?" I hope this post is coherent, it's late and I'm desperate for some sort of coping method to get through the next few days and get through the flight without being a wreck. Thanks.
>>16519321
Oh lawdy mr skeltal, what are you doing?
I find alcohol helps a lot with my social anxiety. They still have bars in airports, don't they?
If I want to pay a premium
Is it cheating if I enjoy knowing other women want me while I'm in a relationship? Flirting, pics, dirty talk etc but I doubt I'd ever do physical cheating. Idk I just kinda get off on "someone else" while not physically engaging
>>16519319
>Flirting, pics, dirty talk etc
That is cheating. How would you feel if your gf did that?
>>16519325
It's more like wank material except it just so happens to be real people, I don't necessarily know them so what real difference is this to porn?
Taking pleasure in feeling wanted isn't cheating. Dirty pics and dirty talk is cheating, though. Flirting is borderline, I definitely wouldn't appreciate someone I'm with flirting with others, but it depends on the dynamics of your relationship.
