Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 2117. page
Images are sometimes not shown due to bandwidth/network limitations. Refreshing the page usually helps.
Hi, I have an almost complete lack of confidence and social skills. Because of years of living like this, any kind of social interaction feels extremely awkward, makes me feel nervous, uncomfortable, and stressed. This is a self-fulfilling and self-strengthening feedback loop, and it has come to the point were even really basic stuff like the bare minimum interaction with a cashier in a supermarket seems like a challenge (I tend to use self-checkout when available, for this reason :))
I would like to improve that situation, and I know that in the long run that will require practice. But unlike other areas, where practice would usually be boring busy-work to get better at the real stuff, here, practice pretty much requires interaction with other people, which is : a) really painful, and b) not actually very nice for them either, especially because they didn't volunteer to be practice material :)
Do you guys have some tips for stuff I could do that would help (even just a little bit, in a little area) without actually requiring human interaction? I know that in the long run it won't be enough, but I feel that if it'll make the actual live practice easier (for me and/or the other person), it would be worth it.
Like apps or websites or books with info or practice routines (or even live evaluation) for stuff like body language, pronunciation, stuff to say, ...
Note: I'm just talking about basic social interaction, not dating stuff, or even friendship stuff, as that's way out of my league for now...
Hey op, do you care to tell a bit more about your situation? Do you go to school/work? Family? Do you live alone? How old are you?
>>16525258
I'm in my early thirties, I have a job (IT, so my lack of social skills is not too much of a problem in my current low-level purely technical position, even though it does severely limit career growth potential).
I live alone, have never had a relationship or even real friendship, though I did, at some point, have a few acquaintances based on shared interests or hobbies.
>>16525258
Missed the family part :
Haven't had much contact with my father the last decade (or really much when my mother still lived either). He moved to the other side of the world a while back.
My mother died almost 10 years ago, no brothers or sisters.
Hey adv. So I'm a single dad, 5'4 fat, Mexican and fucking dumb. I have a stable job but eh. Does all of these factors repulse women? I've been going to the gym but I can't work out for my height. I wish I could an hero but my daughter needs me.
Pic related. That's me. Sorry you had to break your necks to see it.
>>16525135
You're somebody's superman, hermano.
Keep your chin up
>>16525135
>5'4
>fat
Yes those factors do repulse women.
>a single dad
>Stable job
No these factor doesn't necessarily repulse women.
At least you can properly shave m8, can't even tell you how many faggots think crustaches and neckbeards do not make them unattractive. You're honestly pretty well off if you're living stable, at least your surviving and if you have a kid you're not a permavirgin so you've got SOME game. You seem fine to me dude, some people have it a lot worse than you.
Why not focus on your daughter?
Are people on this board ever happy?
All i see is a bunch of depressed people giving advice to depressed people.
I'm not happy myself but I'm just wondering if anyone that actually is happy is on this board.
>>16525086
I am. Life is pretty great.
I'm happy!
But certainly there are days when I'm not so happy, but overall I would deem myself as happy.
Pegasus that twat also seem fairly happy.
But then again, you go to a site basically meant for social outcasts, and on /adv/ are those in dire need of help or facing problems that is taking a tool on them. People are in general not going to be happy here.
>>16525086
Naw not really. I am a miserable self loathing piece of shit. But it's great to come into this board and talk shit about everyone else's problems
On a scale of 1-10, how much do women enjoy man ass?
i cant tell if buttacne or hair
>>16524975
Where's that pic of the animu girl vomiting while covering her mouth when I need it? Ah well, I'll just post the closest one I have.
It depends how cute or hot the guy is I suppose. So I guess I'd say 8/10
I sorta broke up with a chick a couple days ago because she always mentions her ex boyfriend and I didn't like it. She got really upset and I said we could still date. A few days after that I broke up with her again and because she kinda had some body odor going on. After I did it I realized it was incredibly stupid, it was one time she smelled and I had showed up kinda unexpected in the morning and I really like her. Anyway, she's super upset over it and I want to get back with her but I don't know how to apologize, and especially I don't know how to apologize...
Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
>>16524959
> I'm a fragile snowflake. Fix me.
You have issues. We can't fix your relationship because you're just going to snap and do it again. Find out why you're going "full retard" over things and fix it, then try to get a girlfriend.
>>16524968
Its not like I'm some crazy emotional sack. We haven't been together long and she was mentioning her ex like six times per day and she lives about two hours away and there were a few other complications. I wasn't sure if I wanted to be with her because of those things but now that its over I know I do.
>>16525033
Why did you go straight to breaking up instead of having a calm discussion about it? The reasons you seemed to have chosen to break up over are things that can be fixed and talked about.
Don't fall for that shit! Required reading (very short), Survival of the Shit Test. Marriage is all fun and games for about two years, then she will harass you about every fucking thing you can imagine. Nothing is worth this!
Fucking redpillers. Go back to your masturbatorium, creep.
>>16524928
>masturbatorium
I need to build me one of those.
>>16524943
CLAUDIUS STOP SPENDING ALL YOUR TIME IN THE MASTURBATORIUM AND GO CLEAN THE HORSES
A while back my girlfriend and I were in a bad spot, and during this time I found out she was talking to a guy behind my back after going through her phone. I broke up with her, but after some time we decided that we still wanted to be together.
For the past month or so we've been talking to each other and trying to work on things, with the goal to become a couple again. Earlier last week I asked her to be my girlfriend again since the wounds had healed and I had been really happy.
However, I told her I needed to go through her phone one more time. I had being doing this previously trying to build our trust again. This time however I found a way to see any texts she may have deleted. Once she realized what I was doing she snatched the phone from my hands and said she wasn't comfortable with it. Eventually she broke down and told she had been talking to some guys. One of which was an old friend from college, and the other being a guy who works at my gym. She actually went on a date with the guy from my gym behind my back.
Now I know most of you will say fuck this girl, and that I should move on. But the thing is I truly love her. She still wants to be with me, and I want to give her a chance. During the time she was talking to those guys we weren't technically together. She said she was having doubts that I would take her back.
What do I do /adv/? I'm confident that this is the girl for me. She's the only one I see in my future.
So when you broke up with her, she went on a date with someone? That's.. pretty normal after a breakup. What was she saying to the first guy that made you dump her?
leave dude. read what you wrote from an outside viewpoint. no reason to stay with such a bitch.
>>16524870
Come over tomorrow, he won't be here
It seems like no matter how hard I try to be a good boyfriend. There always seems to be something I'm doing that's upsetting her/making her angry. Whenever I ask her what I'm doing wrong she either doesn't know, pulls the "I shouldn't have to tell you what to do.", or says " I'm tired of having to figure everything out" and pins everything on me out of "principle" or some stupid bullshit like that.
I don't know what to do, I love this girl to death, and when things are good their really fucking good. However...
Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
Its cos you got a small D
>>16524865
Thnx
She's either an emotionally abusive cunt or you're a genuinely irredeemable human being
If its the first dump her and find someone better
If its the second dump her and seek professional help
How do I approach a woman I can't impress in any way?
>>16524808
Why impress her? What do you have to prove?
ayy grl lemme spredeagle dat shite grlllllllll
>>16524835
Well, I didn't really have a dad or any other guys to look up to growing up, but of what I've understood, the way men approach women can be summed up with the sentence
"hey, look what I can do."
It's a matter of finding a compromise of being able to offer her something that
A. clearly takes effort on your part
B. is something she values and would appreciate
And I don't know what to offer a woman who doesn't care about wealth, despises materialism,...
Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
What can I do to get a better grade on my math accuplacer test?
I fucked around in school so I barely know a lick of math.
I received a grade so low that I am forced to take 3 semesters worth of remedial classes. This will be a huge waste of time so I need to pass the accuplacer when I try again but where can I study to pass it?
Anyone have education advice?
>>16524760
Study.
Take a math-book................open it.........and learn it.
>>16524775
This anon speaks the truth
I'm not an /r9k/ leaker, I just thought it would be slightly amusing to give the impression that I was.
I work 10PM to 3:30 AM 5 days a week moving boxes, and have classes at 9 am and going until Noon. I go to bed around 1PM.
So I call myself a Vampyre because I'm up all night.
I'm 18/M and I of course want to find a gf/waifu because I like the idea of a life partner to be close with.
How would 4chan advise I go about doing such with my awful schedule?
>Look at work
Well I would, except, 1: It's...
Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
bump pls
Don't make finding a gf your primary goal/soul purpose. You're 18 bruh get out here and start making name for yourself.
>>16524886
I get it, honestly.
But you do realize that Turkey shot down a Russian plane over Syria like the goatfuckers they are? Because they're NATO, this makes it basically so that America attacked them? Our world is not sustainable and the tyranny of the majority is dragging me with it.
War is engulfing the world and very well could incinerate it in the near future, but more likely, people will keep breeding and humanity will continue being the cesspool of awfulness that it is. Humanity destroys everything...
Comment too long. Click here to view the full text.
how the fuck do you deal with anger issues? everytime someone disrespects me or acts arrogant toward me I just feel like beating the shit out of them. how do I deal with this? I have really major psychotic issues. I know I can't keep living my life like this though...
same here bro
got a nasty look from this chick on the bus today. Wanted to slap the shit out of her
>>16524716
lel I wouldn't go that far m8 but yeah we definitely need help
>>16524699
The real issue is not that you react to insults with anger, which is totally sane.
Your problem, I'll bet, is that you interpret totally innocent or minor things as disrespect. Think about the last thing that enraged you. Was it REALLY a deliberate insult, or just the kind of blind mental-bumping-into-each-other we all do all the time?
I am 22 and this is one month beard growth result, they are not best beard and in this period i dont like them much because they look weak, but i want to give a try too what do you think
Should i continue to growth?
>>16524646
Second pic
Athelstan is that you? I made an oath to your god I will pay back Floki, dear friend.
>>16524656
Daily reminder that Ragnar did absolutely nothing wrong.
How do you be happy with the tits you've got?
When I see a girl with perky tits I get really jealous
If I see a girl with big tits I get really jealous
If I see a girl with nice nipples I get really jealous
Is there a way to be happy with what you've got? I'm even jealous of flat chested girls
>>16524570
You will never be happy with your appearance, because you will always find something else to be upset about.
You have to accept that your body is just a vessel and you are more than that.
i wonder all the time why god made beautiful people and ugly people. Think about it every day.
>>16524577
Because there is no god
I get stressed so easily. How do I deal with this?
I need details!
Also get out of comfort zone,
also try meditating,
also grow up,
also doe exercises that help with stress.
>>16524724
Okey here's the details.
I get stressed before exams which cripples me an reduces my capabilities.
I worry about things that may happen and I over think about things.
I feel miserable most of the time because of this.
eat the heart of your enemies to gain their strength
