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Everyone post a reason why suicide is a bad idea.
>>16528101
It's not
>>16528101
It's illegal
You might end up in a place worse than Earth where you can't use suicide to escape.
tl;dr How do I approach the subject of my girlfriend's weight?
She's gained about 70lbs and has gone from a size 8 to a size 22. I still love her, but I'm no longer attracted to her. We haven't had sex in about 3 months and the last time we did I found no attraction to her body.
How do I talk to her about it? Do I suggest we start going to gym or something?
youve gained alot of weight. its unhealthy, im not as attracted to you anymore because of it. lets start going to a gym. i know your fat isnt you.
Just leave her. She'll never lose the weight and she doesn't respect you enough to keep herself worth fucking. You'll be happier with a new, thin girl.
Why should she lost eight for you? You're just a shallow pig, if she's happy with her body she should stay that way.
How do I get a prescription for adderall or vyvanse without talking to a psychiatrist? Can I talk to my normal primary care physician for it?
I'm in a situation where I need medication to focus, work, take care of myself. Without it I'll end up homeless. Not interested in fixing whatever is wrong with me, been diagnosed Bipolar in and out of a psych ward, medication doesn't go through, doctors don't approve their own prescriptions, the time and the struggle of trying to get help as someone on medicaid has drained me. Even if I didn't invest emotionally...
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>>16527938
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>>16527972
I have had a crush on the girl on the left since high school and now she is dating the blond
How do I get over this
I cant stop thinking about how this situation has fucked me over
best way to get over somebody is to get under someone else, nom saiyan?
You listen to Pink Triangle by Weezer, then cry, then you move on and be happy for her, essentially.
>>16527899
If she's bisexual she may eventually want to incorporate a guy into her love life. This could end up pretty well for you if you play your cards right.
Why the fuck am I so tired all the time, like I literally have not had one good day. Every day I'm so tired I can't do anything because I feel so spacey and out of it. At the end of the day I always have a headache from fatigue, my eyes feel like someone's pushing their thumbs into them, and as soon as I lay down and close my eyes my head starts pulsating. I think maybe its in my head and I look in a mirror and my eyes are sunken and black and I'm literally colorless. Every day I feel sick and every morning I wake up so tired I don't even know where...
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Try improving your diet and force yourself to stick to a sleep schedule. Exercise wouldn't hurt, either.
Do you exercise often? What's your diet like?
Guys its not diet me and my friend spent 2 years jogging and exercising and dieting together and I didn't feel better.
Every day when I wake up I eat apples celery and carrots and shit because I feel sick and its all I can eat then I just eat normal meals all day
I know I deserve what I get.
I just need solid advice.
Shortest way to write it:
>6 year relationship
>I have to relocate for job
> See gf once a month
> relationship over the phone
>hire a new employee. She's 18y cutie. 12 years younger.
> act like brother to her
> always there for each other
> we end...
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an hero
>>16527785
Thanks anon.
Sorry anon but you gotta man up. Hard times ahead. Clearly you could have either at this point but you need to make a decision soon or you will lose both. You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and decide who you could possibly spend your life with.
Whatever your choice is, dont hold on to what could have been or you will ruin what you have. Both girls sound amazing so dont fuck this up or you could end up with someone who could never make you as happy. Make a choice, stick with it whole heartedly and dont look back.
Youll either do this and be happy or fuck...
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I want to ruin my life and start camming for money but my current laptop webcam is potato quality and I'm wondering if should shell out for an HD webcam or tough it and wait for someone to gift it to me(which is unlikely).
It's just that I've seen other girls get gifted webcams and I want that too but I think it's better to come out the gate swinging and have HD from the get go. I honestly seen it as an investment, a cost I can potential recoup in a day or so.(If anyone comes in my damn room).
Help me out here guys.
get an hd cam first
There is no real money here unless your gorgeous. If youre a dude then abandon ship.
Id probably recommend working a job. It may pay a bit less, but it will never come back to bite you. Remember, anything you put online is public property and there forever.
also, i get the impression youre trying to get someone to buy a webcam for you. Which is fucking scum.
>>16527770
>also, i get the impression youre trying to get someone to buy a webcam for you. Which is fucking scum.
Yeah I'd admit that, I don't want to spend unless I have to.
>desensitized my dick from years of deathgrip
>started dating girl, lose virginity
>discover I have extreme difficulty achieving orgasm during sex
>initially whatever, still feels good
>she starts becoming self-conscious over the fact that i'm not cumming
>thinks she's doing something wrong
>reassure her that it's fine I still enjoy the sex a...
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this is hilarious
sorry i cant help but lmao
Have you just told her it gets better? Or did you explain how it was your deathgrip? Just saying "it's nothing, don't worry" doesn't really stop people from worrying. In fact it makes them think you're hiding something.
You just need to keep repeating that the getting off part isn't what makes it special to you, it's the intimacy. It's maybe a more common conversation women have to have, since piv by itself won't cause an orgasm for a lot of women. What about a handjob or something else to finish you after?
Another...
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>>16527706
You on any antidepressants, OP? Many are known to cause loss of libido or the ever-dubious "sexual side effects."
I take Paxil, and while abstaining from it can cause a pretty harsh withdrawal, and nasty negative thoughts, I'm consistently hornier and my dick is way more sensitive without it.
It's a shit show of a conundrum.
Had a GF of about 2½ years. We recently split. I could count the times I actually came for her on both hands. (Pun not intended, but acknowledged.)
A question for girls here (I know there are lots) -- did any of you manage to permanently lose some weight? Did it actually change anything in your life? Did it make you happier?
pic unrelated
I decided to lose weight when I started sleeping with my friend. Even though he loves my body and makes me feel so sexy, I feel like I have to be fitter for him. We are going on our first real boyfriend/girlfriend date this weekend! I am weird, when I am not having sex, I gain weight, when I have sex, I want to keep feeling sexy and makes me want to lose weight.
tldr; sex is my motivation to lose weight
>>16527704
Made me happier. Was able to fit into all sorts of nice clothes, was also able to do a lot of things without being short of breath and all that.
>>16527728
My motivation. It just takes so fucking long. Did you loose a lot of weight?
I think my friend is paranoid schizophrenic, or something. Maybe just manic depressive. Anyway, we've been friends for a really long time, and after a couple days of not having a phone, he sends me this message on Facebook, which to me is out of the blue becuase we just hung out on Friday.
How do I bring this up, and how can I help him?
What are some signs that an older girl might give a younger guy if she wants to be kissed or have some physicality? I'm 20, she's 26.
I'm pretty oblivious and only have experience with girls my same age. Tonight we're going on our 3rd date, havent done a move yet, and tonight it is movie+dinner near her place.
Hey anon, I just want to say that I'm 27 and I love younger guys, so since she's going out with you I'm sure she does too. We don't act any differently from 20 year old girls when we want to be kissed or touched . . . and if she's been on 3 dates with you, she must be into you :) And if all else fails, just ask if she wants you to kiss her, it's so cute when guys do that!
Good luck, anon.
if she touches your upper arm repeatedly, that's a big sign she wants closer physical contact. goes for girls of all ages
>>16527643
>3rd date
> some physicality?
haven't had any? or?
it's not different from a 20y/o, if anything older/experienced girls are more confident in my experience so more likely to just pull you in. hence it surprises me to hear that you haven't kissed on 2nd date.
just grab her hand when she's walking close to you, also in cinema, grab her hand, play with it. she will either enjoy and slowly move more to you or pull back.
Escalate...
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Is Wikipedia reliable, honestl ? I was thinking about subscribing to Encyclopaedia Universalis if not, is it a good choice ?
>>16527550
as reliable as a any encyclopaedia.
>>16527550
Wikipedia is written by volunteers. Some know what they're talking about, some don't and some are deliberately misleading. The editors try to control quality but can't be expert enough in everything.
It's a convenient place to start, and to get simple facts, like someone's dates. And its references might send you to other good sources.
But double check anything you find there. And don't ever use it as a source in a school paper or assignment.
I only used wiki during my schooling. I wasn't stupid enough to list it as a source, what I would do is is list all the references for the article as a source.
The notes on my papers form the teacher.
>That is an impressive list of sources you found.
What makes one attracted to bigger girls?
I know people are just going to want to say "we like what we like". But why?
I've had a couple relationships with fitter girls and they just never hold my interest. On the other hand a bigger girl has always just felt "right" to me. It gets weird sometimes when I'm out with my friends and we talk about girls and I have to pretend to like what the like.
Why? WHY?
I dunno, it seems kind of unnatural thus weird. It implies that you are attracted to people that lack discipline and that probably have some issues. Maybe you feel less intimidated and judged because they aren't perfect, just like you?
>>16527461
>implies that you are attracted to people that lack discipline and that probably have some issues
You can get that with skinnier chicks. Btw, I'm not talking about huge or even obese just slightly chubby or thick.
>>16527463
Sure. But they might appear "perfect" from a distance. Chubby girl have obvious "flaws".
I've had unprotected sex with a guy last week. It was our 3. Date and certainly not planned that way. I have an IUD, but i'm rather paranoid about getting pregnant (thus the IUD despite not being in a LTR...) Today my paranoia got the best of me and i went to my doc to check if the IUD is still where it belongs. Everythings fine. Should i tell the guy that i got it checked (maybe he's being paranoid too and it would ease his mind...). that it was a dumb idea to not use protection and that we would have to use condoms in the future? I don't want to bombard...
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Nah, just leave it. Then when you hook up with him again, subtley play it off as "I was kinda worried last time, so I wanna use a condom this time"
Its not a big deal.
>>16527459
Right. I tend to overcomplicate everything. Thanks anon.
Why have the IUD and ruin it with a condom?
Requesting any possible advice from oldguyfags lurking 4chains.
Come on, bros. Pass your knowledge onto millenials. Help us living a decent life.
Any subject, anything at all.
To start the conversation, I'll ask the question that worries me the most: should I chase after money (I'm 23) to try to buy myself my own apartment (without taking loans from the bank). Or should I just spend it on everything I want to do from going to guitar lessons to travelling? Mind you, I spend all my free time on 3 different jobs, trying to maintain sanity.
But...
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>>16527322
Firstly, let me start off by saying nice dubs. Life is about happiness. It's not about how many things you have, materialism is a man-made idea. For all you know, you could die tomorrow & on the verge of death you don't want to vehemently regret the decisions you made prior to your departure. Take a vacation, treat yourself to a new guitar, go buy some whiskey & fucking drown yourself in it OP. This world is for men who act and not those who plan. More than half of the time nothing goes as planned...
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You're 23 on a regular full-time job, you can't be exhausted.
First comes the work, then comes the fun.
>>16527349
>Life is about happines
Also don't listen to the hedonists and faggots who come to this board exactly because they only see short-term gratification (who are those people again? oh right, MILLENIALS)
Challenge yourself, work, save money, have fun, rebuild yourself.
