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I failed out of college a few years ago. I'm back in now, but I'm afraid that my bad grades will prevent me from getting into grad school or a good job. I'm so miserable that I wish I'd never been born. Is there any hope left at all?
dealing with something similar from an undx'd medical problem which kept cropping up over and over again
you can only move forward. uni is too highstakes imo: hold onto your inner peace and try not to sweat the stuff you can't control. going back as an older adult my impression has been that these profs dick you around WAY too much. don't be their slave.
cheers.
>>16525809
What are you saying I should do about it?
>>16525819
finish college.
I need advice on how to quit my job. I don't want to burn bridges.
I notified by supervisors and HR that I got a new job, and my new employer wanted me to start 12 days after I gave notice. I wanted to give standard 2 weeks (14 days) notice but asked if I could leave in 12 days. It's been a full week since I notified them and I haven't gotten any response whatsoever. I work from home so I can't just walk over and talk to them.
Should I assume they need more time to replace me and work a whole extra week, or should I just leave on the date I...
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>>16525697
did you cc your boss? you should have emailed your direct supervisor first. if you have not, do it now.
you're not gonna burn bridges unless they really suck, people get new jobs and it's expected. good luck and congrats!
I work in HR
The whole 2 week concepts is absolutely retarded. It takes much, much longer to hire someone.
You first need to create/update Job Description and create the essential qualifications, create the test, create the interview questions (at least a week)
Then we we need to advertise said position (at least a week)
Then we need to do initial screening (1-2 days depending on the job and the number of applicants)
Then we need to schedule interviews/testing (if it has a test plus an interview we are looking at least 2 weeks just to conduct...
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Just came ITT to say I ordered two books from this guy and can't wait to get on it.
How do I invite a girl over to my place (for the sex) after a nice date, without sounding like "we gon fuck tonight"
>>16525553
What's wrong with letting a girl know you're into her? If you try to hide everything about your attraction to her, she's just gonna think you're really nice.
go with ur gut bro
>>16525558
but if she's one of those boring "I think you're hot and funny but I'm still not gonna put out because then society thinks I'm a slut" type of girls and I just end up scaring her away
How do I move to LA NYC or Miami living in the middle of nowhere without rich parents or diplomas? How do people with normal jobs do it?
You can't and would be totally miserable if you did.
"Normal" people don't move to those places. Light-blue and white collar people do.
>>16525492
You move some where shitty close to those areas, then in after a few years of making contacts in the shity you move again.
Apply for job, get job, rent place, move, start working.
Millions of people have managed it.
They aren't even the most expensive cities in the world.
So this 19 year old fucking faggot is acting all rapey and keeps trying to get with my little sister at her highschool who's only fucking 15. She was telling me about how he harassed her and kept messaging her on facebook until she was forced to block him. I went on to his facebook to tell him to fuck off but it turns out he's like a foot taller than me and could probably kick my ass. I'm not very intimidating at all. I have broad shoulders but I'm only 5" 3' and kinda doughy. I'm strong but I'm not intimidating and I don't have a...
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Report him for being a pedo, duh
>>16525467
tell the cops. Tell her to save anything he sends her, messages, texts etc. take her with the evidence and go to the police
bam, he gets harassment charges and possibly stalking/harassing a minor charges. Maybe even gets slapped on the sex offender list which seems like a great way of preventing him from doing this to other girls
>>16525467
you got 3 options
Round up guys and beat him down
Find him and beat him down
Report him to someone of a higher power
Either way, what's important is how far you're willing to go.
I just found out my sister wrote something and my mom found it and I just read it and I don't know what I should do about it
How old is the kid? Sounds like something my sister might write too.
Have a talk with her, worst case scenario she needs to see a therapist
>>16525466
She's being a fucking brat and thinks she can act crazy to get out of school. You have 2 options here: make her go to school anyways (the smart option) because this is real life where you have to do things even if you don't wanna, or put her in the psych ward for a week so she can see how much it fucking sucks and she'll be desperate to go back to school.
>shut up shut up SHUT UP
Give me a break.
wow she's normal. she just got caught venting. she does make excellent observations.
Sup /adv/. I'd like to learn French in a relatively cheap way. I lack motivation at times so it may be in my best interests to do something easy, as stupid as that sounds when trying something that I think would be difficult. So for my biluingists, how did you guys learn? What was most effective for you?
Thanks.
>>16525412
After I learned basics I read lots of French comics when trying to learn it and then swapped for books once I got hang of it. Reading only gets you so far, though, because the pronunciation and spelling are so different. Watch lots of French movies and listen to music. Audio books work too. Eventually try to find native speakers you can try to talk with.
Join the French Foreign Legion!
>>16525428
Thanks. Where'd you learn the basics? Just from google-searched sites?
Hi! I was wondering if any of you, fellow anons, could help me out with where/how to start my quest towards the mastery of c++. I'm pretty much an absolute begginer. Only thing i've done even remotely close to programming was playing around with autoit. Thanks in advance!
>>16525395
w3schools, then find a book on discrete math.
>>16525395
There's plenty of online guides and courses for programming. Good luck anon. Also try picking up a scripting language and learning SQL. You'll need all of those!
If money is not a problem; Lynda. Search for something like C++ essential and advance and you'll pretty much learn everything you'll need.
So my girlfriend and I got in a pretty serious argument the other day over our sexual compatibility. Essentially, she isn't really turned on by the thought of having sex in a bed at night. Something about it being too planned out, predictable; she has to sit around expecting it all day. She wants to be "surprised" when we're out in public, from what I understand. Wants me to like, drag her into a dark alley or some shit when we're on a walk. We were at an amusement park and she kept making what I thought were jokes about sneaking off, but later got upset with me for not being "open minded" enough. I've always been under the impression that people who can't get off with normal sex are fucked in the head somehow, but I care about her. Is this a dealbreaker? I'm really totally not down with the idea of fucking in public, especially getting caught doing it.
>>16525394
not really a deal breaker if the two of you can reach a compromise. if you're not comfortable doing something sexual, you absolutely should not do it, everyone has their own personal boundaries and its important that your partner respects that.
that being said, there is no reason that you can't spice things up at home. instead of waiting before bed at night, why not approach her in a different room during the day, or in the morning? try it out in different spots in the house and different times and see how it goes
I'm not a HUGE fan of public sex, but I mean I'll do it occasionally if I know for sure we won't be seen. You could think of places you can bang without anyone catching you.
My boyfriend is friends with a guy who once full on just fucked a girl over a park table during the day, in view of anyone who walked by; shit like that is awkward. Don't do that.
>>16525400
I mean I just don't see a compromise if I'm unwilling to have sex in public - that seems like a pretty specific and serious desire. I don't really think she respects the boundary though because she is hinting that we can't make it long term if this is the case. I can't do much about the home situation because A) we don't live together and B) because of her work hours. Even when I stay over, with her leaving for work by 7am and getting home at 6 "too tired" to do anything,...
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Broke up with a girlfriend three weeks ago. It was a long distance relationship but we kept in touch however we could. We visited each other. Then it got fucked up somehow, she said it's over and it is not really working, but I know she loved me before. She never felt the same for anyone before me. I was her first.
She now hates me I think. I still love her and care for her. I can't even text her about how she's feeling. I just wait and kill time hoping she will text me. It's crippling.
It's like she'd died, only then I wouldn't...
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>>16525372
you sound like a clingy beta. was she your first too? personality flaws and problems often become apparent later in the relationship, and that's why people break up. she got over it, you didn't- and now you're being a nuisance.
>>16525389
I didn't even know what clingy meant, and by definition, no, I'm not that type of guy.
We don't have more answers for you. You already posted. It takes time to get over. There's no other way. Everyone had their first time, first breakup, first pain that they were sure would NEVER end. It just feels like that for awhile though. You will be okay.
Please help. This is fucking stupid. I am crushing on someone that looks like my LDR boyfriend. This man is a customer service person so I often visit the store just to get a glimpse of him. When I return items, this means I have to speak to and look at him, and I visibly blush and be shy.
PLEASE HELP, THIS HAS TO STOP! I've already masturbated to him a few times (one of those times I penetrated myself). THIS IS NOT FAIR TO MY LOVING BOYFRIEND!
I know why I'm doing it. I desperately want to meet with my boyfriend and we've never touched yet, so I'm...
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Please make fun of me all you want. I deserve it. I don't want to be bad
LDR's can be hard. I know that all too well. I suggest try shopping at another store. All you can really do in a LDR is be faithful and pray your partner is doing the same. Sorry I'm not all too much help. And if he looks this strikingly similar, maybe it's really your boyfriend you think about when you masturbate? Unless you know for a fact it's this stranger.
>>16525311
My partner is more than faithful while my reserve slips sometimes because I miss him so much, and just want to hold him.
You know what I could do? This store is a place I visit at least twice a week for necessities. But the young man works customer service so he no doubt sees me each time. When I enter the store, my back is to him so I cannot see him automatically. What I can do: Go into the store and ignore ignore ignore. I can look at the picture of my boyfriend I keep in a locket? Yeah?
I guess you get a lot of those threads around here... but that's just because this is a really hard decision.
Some important points:
-I'm the guy.
-We are going to make the decision together.
-We are together for 8 months, but we have been great friends for the last ~15 years.
-I moved away to a different city about 30 days ago, because of work.
-She didn't come with me.
-She will come to live with me if we choose to keep it.
-We are 28 and 29 years old.
-I have a decent job, but I can't pay the costs o education with my current pay, but It's very likely that I will be able to afford it by the time I need to.
-She doesn't have a steady job but she owns her own company that is stable but doesn't generate more revenue than a minimum wage "yet".
-She is extremely mature.
-I consider myself to be mature enough to raise a child.
-I would be giving up an MBA.
-She would be giving up finishing college, her company, living with her family and the city she grew up in.
-We have no idea where to go for an abortion.
-it's not legal in my country.
-The places that do it are usually really bad and the procedure is dangerous to her health.
-She did that once already, but the place no longer exists.
-We both consider each other a great person to raise kids with.
-We are both scared shitless of having a child.
-We both dream of having a child.
-My family is not rich, but we have enough money to be sure everything will be provided... in case that I can't.
-Both our families will be extremely happy if we choose to.
-I don't know what else I should consider.
I would be happy to have any kind of feedback, but I would appreciate if it comes in this format:
1- Your age (your opinion is important regardless)
2- Do you have kids? Y/N (your opinion is important regardless)
3- Do you think we should abort? Y/N
4- Why do you think that?
5- What else do you think I should consider when making this decision?
