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Alright guys I need boyfriend advice and I'm coming to you because I need an outside perspective
This is my second serious relationship, we've been dating for nearly a year now and we have a pretty decent thing going on right now.
However there's a girl in one of his classes that he has told me about, she sounds like she's interested in him and (in my opinion) has implied them having sex. He told me he brushes her off and I believed him so I didn't think anything of it until one of my friends saw him messaging someone and that person sent him a picture of herself and that he stared at it for a few good minutes.
When she described the girl in the picture I immediately knew it was the girl from his class. I never go through his phone because I never thought it was necessary, but this has changed my mind and tomorrow I plan on confronting him about it and looking through it.
But what do I do if he is actually talking to her? Do I just tell him to stop it? I know how I'm going to bring it up but I have no idea what I'm going to do if he is actually talking and flirting with her. I don't want to lose him.
We're both college students by the way. Sorry for the long read
Tl;dr boyfriend is texting a girl who's interested in him. Friend saw him stare at her picture for some minutes. I'm looking through his phone tomorrow, I need suggestions on what to do if he is actually texting to her way too much/flirting also I'd like suggestions on what to do about him taking pictures of her (I saw pics of her on his phone once)
>>16522784
well there arn't many things you can do, which makes your decision simpler to some extent.
you can ask the other girl to leave him alone (good luck)
you can yell at the other girl for being a hussy
you can ask your boyfriend to leave her alone
you can yell at your boyfriend
or you can ignore it
if it was me I'd yell at the girl and tell everyone she's a slut, then tell your boyfriend that other people have noticed him talking to her and it's embarrassed and upset you, he might be under the impression that just talking to her doesn't do any harm
you can't force either of them to be moral, and you can't fix it by making yourself a better girlfriend, this is on them
then
>>16522824
Anon, it's nice that you tried to help, but this is abysmal advice for OP...
>>16522784
So, to me OP it's a respect thing. I would never allow a dude to flirt with me when I'm in a relationship. And if this other guy also KNOWS I'm with someone, and hits on me anyway, I have no problem being a huge dick to him.
If it's to the point that you feel like you need to confront the chick, you've already lost. You should never HAVE to, he should tell her to back off on his own. Also, I can almost guarantee you- you won't like what you find on his phone. You know your boyfriend, and you know when somethings up. You know when it's just a friend, and when it's not. Your gut is usually right, so prepare yourself.
A girl I met on Tinder asked me for tea a while ago. I wondered if "having tea" was another way of saying of having sex so I asked whether I could come for tea late at night, say 3 - 5 am. She said yes. So... Am I getting some?
>>16522755
It'll only result in sex if you're both in the mood and if the setting is right. Don't get your hopes up and definitely don't be a fucking neckbeard about it if nothing happens.
>>16522764
But why would she invite me for tea in the middle of the night?
Bruh nah, Don't ruin this for yourself getting so hung up on the possibility of sex, because if sex doesn't happen you'll feel disappointed.
Expect nothing, prepare for the whole spectrum from good to bad. Enjoy her company, and be good company.
I asked a girl on a date on this weekend and she said she doesn't know me well enough to hangout alone. But she said we should hang out with a mutual friend first.
Does this mean exactly what she said or do I abort?
>>16522746
When did you meet? Sounds like you just saw her. You should have just settled for getting a number and work your way up. Anyway it doesnt matter because shes putting up a hurdle for you. I know girls that do this. Kind of a way to filter out creep asses. Up to you if you want to go through the trouble.
>>16522746
>Does this mean exactly what she said or do I abort?
abort. she isnt mature enough for a date obv so dont continue
>>16522794
I hooked her up with some stuff. Could this mean she's just being nice to get better deals in the future?
Going to Seattle this weekend for unrelated reasons and thought "Hey why don't I utilize this legal weed shit"
I want to get high, not even really high just half a joint high, to relax one night. Where do I do this in public? What is sold in the legal weed shops? Pre-rolled joints (yeah I just want convenience I don't care if that's gay)
tl;dr
Going to Seattle, I want one joint and a safe place to use it before returning to my hotel room and listening to music for the night
Tips please
Have you ever smoked before? Legal grass can be pretty strong.
>>16522741
Once. I got extremely high. I couldn't even talk or move my body right because I smoked way too much so this time I want to try less so I assume like 1-2 puffs instead of the 4-6 I did that time
do it. one good hit (not too small not too big) should have you feeling great. finish a prerolled joint on your own might leave you incredibly baked.
How do you fake confidence and self-esteem when you've never had any?
>>16522703
Observe how other (confident) people act, copy their mannerisms, adapt to your specific needs. Ta-da fake confidence.
>>16522707
Normal people turn hostile if I come too near them.
>>16522703
Here's how I did it back in high school
>I don't care
>I don't care
>I don't care
>I don't care
I repeated this in my head every time someone/something would bother me.
By the end of HS it evolved into
>I like my life
>I like who I am
>I like how I look
>I don't care
>I ENJOY LIFE
I know this board is shit but I'll try it anyway.
What do you call it when you have standards for a gf but once you finally get said gf you feel like she's too good for you?
>>16522574
It's called having low self worth.
>>16522574
insecurity
>>16522574
Just remember: she wants you, so just accept that you are actually good enough for her
girlfriend found out about my fetish and said its the grossest fucking thing
what do
im kind of mortified
i aimed to keep it a secret
its embarrassing
>>16522549
well this is an ANONYMOUS board, so... you kinda need to tell us what the fuck it is, Anon.
>>16522549
This is why you disclose everything and do it early. That way you find someone you're actually compatible with.
People insist on deceiving, lying, and hiding, thinking that's how to build a healthy, successful relationship.
Learn from this mistake.
>>16522575
Agreed. Give more insight or there is nothing we can do for you.
How do I stop this from happening to me? I can't make friends, never asked out the girl I loved. My live is getting worse and worse because of this.
>>16522531
Maybe work on your grammar.
>X and X will came too.
>And you better gotta deal with it
Lol who fucking wrote this?
Anywhoo, what's on your mind anon? Maybe I can help. I'm bored asf procrastinating my essay.
>>16522531
>>16522553
EH, didn't bother reading your entire post my B.
>I can't make friends
Yeah you can. You should elaborate on why first before just throwing that out there.
>never asked out the girl I loved
Love is mutual, sorry senpai she didn't love you. But that blows, better move on.
>My live is getting worse and worse because of this.
hmm. well you have the ability to make yourself feel happy, so why not try and just feel happy?
>>16522553
Well my life is basically like this:
Before 3rd grade I was this happy kid with all kinds of friends, I was not afraid to talk to strangers or girls. Then in the middle of 3rd grade, I started to become nervous when among people. Lost friends and got bullied until 7th grade and in these years I would cry whenever I got home. 8th grade, I'm completely silent in class, never say anything and fails a lot. Parents are called, they are disappointed in me. 9th grade people ignore me and I lose almost all of my friends, only friend I have left is just as beta and stupid as me. 10th grade, I try to talk to people, small talk and such, better than nothing. People see me as their friend and add me on Facebook but never invite me to stuff. Now on to business school (3 years on total). 1st year I'm in the same class as beta stupid friend, yay. He begins in gym, gets more social with others, and starts forgetting me. I try to make friends, kinda works. Make some friends here. 2nd year my friend begin to make a bit fun of me, I just accept it so that I have someone to talk with. I actually get invited to shit and meet 2 cute girls, 1 I'm extremely interested in. Never ask her out and instead do stupid shit near her. 3rd and current year, I'm still being made fun of, never invited to anything really, when I'm home I just play video games. Hate my family for who they are. Now we are close to the end of the school year, I feel like I will fail and have to start over, my friends are drifting away from me, my beta stupid friend has a gf and has a nice looking body. I'm just here even more pathetic than before, shaking writing this, semi-crying, not knowing what to do.
Sorry if text is full of grammar mistakes or hard to read.
Okay, I have never used this board before, so sorry in advance if I'm doing something wrong here. This is gonna be two posts, and pic unrelated.
I recently met this guy and we've been hanging out and flirting a lot but we haven't actually kissed or gone on anything that was explicitly a date. He's a bit older and a lot more experienced than me, but he's sort of a witty sarcastic smartass and I feel like our lack of moves towards one another is some sort of game that we're playing trying to get the other one all riled up. But if it was a game, I'm pretty sure I lost it yesterday, but I've never played games like this before and I feel out of my league and I don't really know what to do next. I can't really ask him because I feel like that would spoil it, and I don't really want to ask my friends, so here I am.
So night before last he came over, we stayed up late talking and having drinks until about 4 AM. He had to work early in the morning, so he left, and nothing really happened but he left his jacket at my place. The next day at work he was texting me about how tired he was, joking that it was my fault, and he was going to come over after his shift to get his jacket. He came over and was pretty out of it. I said something dumb about how he could take a nap here and I could keep him warm, half thinking that he would say no, but he agreed. We got in my bed, I had no idea if this was going anywhere or not but it definitely seemed like more progress than we'd made in the past.
>>16522492
I can't really write this in a way that doesn't sound sort of smutty, so I'm just gonna go for it. He stripped to his shirt and boxers, me to my shirt and panties, we spooned on my bed and sort of drifted in and out of sleep. We talked for a while. He got hard. He wasn't really trying to hide it, it was pressed up against my butt, and I just decided "fuck it" and started wiggling my butt against him. I started subtle, it sort of got more and more intense, he started making happy noises, his hands started wandering, I thought "thank fucking christ this is finally fucking happening" and turned around and put my hand down his boxers.
Here's where I get confused. He grabbed my arms and rolled over on top of me, pinned my arms down over my head and straddled one of my legs so one of his thighs was rubbing my crotch, and had his lips right down to my ear and he sort of sexy growled "what do you think you're doing?" I did the whole dumb "oh I just thought I felt something hard there, wanted to see what it was" thing. He's goes "Oh is that all you wanted?" and I sort of floundered for a response, but then he just says "Tell me what you want." So basically here he is, pinning me down, we're both in our underwear, we're both turned on and grinding on each other, he's breathing his hot breath on my neck and grazing it with his lips and asking me what I want, so I feel like that's pretty clearly a green light, right? So I say "I want you to fuck me." He sort of smiles, gets up really close in my face like he's about to kiss me, but right before he does he just goes "Nnnnope."
I'm kind of stunned, as he just hops up out of bed and basically goes "hey good nap I'm well rested now thanks for the jacket I've gotta go study for finals see you later" and leaves me there horny as fuck and with no idea what the shit just happened. Then a day goes by and it hasn't really been addressed and I don't know how to proceed and now here I am asking for advice.
Fuck that's hot. You're on cock ban. Enjoy. :) This shit makes me wet as fuck
He was disappointed in your answer and thus you as a person. You came off as slutty and it probably turned him off. He then remembered why he was there and quickly made a decision using his head instead of his dick.
Next time don't be so autistic and say what you want from the get go without causing all this unnecessary shit.
I have just started talking to this girl in class, I don't even have her number. I want to get to know her/date her/fuck her.
I have noticed she seems to have a ton of orbiters, and I know she is single. After class, she is always talking with guys, sometimes quite a few of them.
How do I stand out to this girl since she presumably has a ton of orbiters breathing over her neck all the time? Should I just make it explicitly clear I'm looking for a relationship early on at the risk of coming on too hard? Should I just give up since she already has tons of males trying to fuck her anyway?
Walk right up to hwr. Blank any orbiters present at the moment. Ask her out. Turn to the most sour-looking orbiter and do your best trollface "Problem?" Then walk away.
Fewer orbiters tomorrow. Problem solved.
>>16522489
This.
Just ask her out man, everyone else will get BTFO at your confidence and pride. She might reject you though, just gotta not give a fuck.
I did this with some artsy chick in my theater class freshmen year at my CC. She was literally the only attractive girl in the class, and every fucking being with a penis wanted that ass. I was the only one who had enough balls to ask her though. She said yes but nothing came of it, still I'm glad I just went for it.
>>16522489
>>16522513
How do I ask her out and make sure it's clear I want to bone/love her and not just be another orbiter? Like, what should I ask her to do or how should I ask her?
I need to turn one guy down- we were on 3 dates total and I am sure it will not work in any way.
The problem is he seems to be dumb and persistent type: I don't know which words to use because usual things might not work out (like "I don't feel chemistry" etc).
What can I say to make it clearest and hurt his feelings to smallest amount possible (like use an excuse "I have too little time for dating" or "I am not over my ex?" could help?).
To all guys: what's your opinion on using mentioned excuses and what's a way that seems most acceptable to you?
>pic unrelated
>>16522448
In the past I've just been honest- anything else kinda leaves a window open. Just tell him that you just don't seem very compatible to you, and you'd like to end things.
It's going to suck regardless anon, but the facts are the facts.
>>16522458
the problem is he is most likely not going to see we are incompatible even if I said it straight.
He seems absolutely convinced we are most compatible thing ever since first meeting even if it isn;t true.
There is also my fault in that since I always try to find mutual stuff and try to talk about them on first dates.
>>16522477
"It isn't going to work, not now or ever. We don't click and I want to cease all contact. If you do contact me I will contact the authorities."
Pretty brutal but enough to never having you deal with this sob.
I feel like a huge dick for even thinking this, let alone posting/asking about it, but bear with me please. My gf is lacking in the "youthful and sexy" department and I need help fixing it.
I've been with her for 6 years and intend to marry her. I love her, she's a perfect match for me and 100% wife material. We agree on major life decisions and plans, share interests, our families like each other, we can make anything mundane into a good time, just because we get along so well and enjoy each other's company. I could go on and on about how great she is but it would quickly become TL;DR.
BUT, and here is the one and only thing that bothers me about her. She's not very sexy. She has a high sex drive and is always DTF, we do it twice a day on average, but she has zero imagination and is pretty vanilla and passive in bed. Anything we've done, I've initiated, and usually had to push her to try. She was a virgin before me and has zero sexual experience/awareness outside of what I do with her or she sees on mainstream TV. She is pretty much clueless about sex and has little curiosity. Getting her to dress in anything revealing or even wear a bikini is a very steep uphill battle.
Whenever I suggest something new she always shoots it down immediately and usually says something along the lines of "I just don't get why people like that". I, on the other hand, have a very active imagination, I'm spontaneous and would like to play around with fantasy/roleplay, among a bunch of other things, but she's so vanilla that she won't even consider trying it. She can't wrap her head around the fact that people do things other than the basics. She also doesn't like porn, except for the nighttime cable TV stuff (True Blood, GOT, 50 shades, etc). She loves that shit but "real" porn does nothing for her, she won't even watch it with me, at least not without making fun of it. I think she's fapped to porn maybe once or twice in her whole life, and it was when she was like 18-19.
cont
She only ever masturbated regularly (once a week) for about a year, same age range 18-19 (she's 23). It slowly faded away and now she does it maybe once or twice a year. I've tried encouraging her, us doing it together, even buying her toys, but even shopping for sex stuff she makes me do most of the work, and doesn't even "get" most sex toys. She has a rabbit that she likes, or at least likes to say that she likes, but rarely ever uses. Even when she was mastrubating most of it was with my encoragement, and usually during phone sex or sexting.
The weird thing is that she THINKS that she's kinky, and always brags about how much sexier and more fun she is than her friends (which is technically true, but isn't saying much because her friends are barely functional at all). But in reality she's unimaginative and very dismissive of new ideas.
Physically, she's not all that attractive either. She looks twice her age already, she's got a big belly and saggy tits (her nipples point straight down) and double chin. Sshe's not a "hamplanet", her sillohouette is a very nice hourglass, and honestly she's pretty sexy looking with clothes on, she's just chubby with a very unfortunate distrubution of her weight and doesn't look good naked or in a bikini. I know I sound like a major ass and trust me, i know, but I'm saying all this because I'm sure it ties in to her being close-minded/shy/insecure/reluctant to try things in bed or dress sexy in public. She diets and excercises on and off but never makes much progress. I always tell her how beautiful and sexy she is, and I really mean it, but she either rejects it or enjoys the compliments but won't build up any more self esteem. I don't even care so much about what she looks like, I just want her to be confident and fun!
>>16522438
Stop watching porn
Dude, just think about this. Would you rather be with your girlfriend whole, while doesn't have high sex appeal, at least she can be faithful and loyal to you till the very bitter end...
... Or would you date a typical woman who has high sex appeal (cleavage, short skirts, etc) but has no qualms about cheating on you with Mr Chad Thundercock? Just saying, because that's how high-sex-appeal women are like.
oooooooook /b/ i have an incest issue
When i was a little kid, i ono, around 10 or younger. Me and my little sister would play "doctor". Touch each other, kiss, anything that felt good but didnt understand why. First head I ever got was from my little sister. Eventually we get caught and even as kids know we have done something bad. Be ashamed and such.
Anyway years pass, have grown up (24) and I have grown a powerful incest fetish. Pretty sure it originates from this little experience.
My sister is 21 now (will not post pics) and while I've always secretly wanted to do stuff with her, she recently lost some weight and has become hott as fuck. I shit you not, I dont even know why she did it.
We have never talked about what we did as kids, although once I got high and asked her if we maybe give each other a massage. Didnt go well. We never talked about that either.
Anyway I'm probably just doomed to have the fetish unfilled.
bang her
>ooooooook /b/
not b but alright
>>16522437
You really should go to a shrink and see if you can get rid of it. (I wouldn't want to be doomed to have it unfulfilled either). Because if you DO fulfill, that's........ life ruining.
Can't go back from that. You'll have to lie to whatever woman you're with, because she won't be cool with it... I could go on & on about how it would just wreck shit forever.
I just want to leave my rural village but I don't have a lot of money
What fucking do? I'm gods gift to this world with a god like intelligence and mindset but I'm stuck out here and the rednecks are trying to sabotage me out of jealousy
you're more likely a big fish in a tiny pond. stay there, we don't want you.
>>16522379
nigga you post this thread several times a week. Can't give you much more information than we already have.
If you don't have a job, get one
if you have a job, save up money
if you have the money, starting putting in applications online
if you have -enough- money, for at least three months for example, find a cheap apartment and move into it. get roommates if you have to
a lot of big cities will have affordable housing in shitty but not completely awful neighborhoods. Your roommates can vary from outright terrible to mediocre to maybe becoming your friends. It's all a gamble
that is all we can say to your situation. if you haven't begun doing any of these things, no one can help you otherwise. No one is going to offer you a place in their home, or a place in their job in your fantasy urban adventure city
get to work
>>16522384
Go fuck yourself they should give me your spot in civilization because you're just going to sit here and complain and virginity anyway
Hi
My mate bought this and I asked him for half, I've never drank before what do I do with this to get maximum out of it? Swallow it in one go, mix it with something and sip it? I smelt it and tasted 1 drop and it's disgusting and burns my throat am I allergic? Thanks in advance
It's 1 shot / 25mls jack Daniels whiskey
>>16522204
Are you like 13?
Guys, is this a bait? It better be a bait. I'm pretty positive this is a bait.
>trying to alcohol via the mouth
You've got to be 13.
Eyeball that shit you noob.
>>16522211
21
Unfortunately not bait
Grew up with strict conservative Christian parents
Alcohol never entered my house
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