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>be me
>major depression
>fat double chin
>barely motivated to get out of bed all day
>24
>all my past is marked by failure
>some so bad that they make me want to kill myself immediately by hanging even though thats not the way I want to die
>"drug addict" I guess been shooting meth coke and heroin for a while when...
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>Your authority is not recognized in Fort Breadsticks.
I think you need to stop making decisions for yourself buddy. Give someone else the reigns and be happy for a change.
>>16518187
Also give them the reins. Kings and horses, kings and horses everywhere.
>>16518187
you mean god?
>zoning out while walking to class
>hands in pockets, staring at ground
>might have had a frustrated look on face, not really sure
>some girl passes by walking in the opposite direction
>out of fucking nowhere the BITCH turns to me and says "Hi"
>completely off guard, no time to plan out my response, have to act on instinct
>look up with really confused expression, reflexively try to say hi but it sounds more like "Hiaah?"
>she smiles at me
>look down and keep walking
>this fucking cunt is probably going to feel smug all day for her """""good deed""""" or some shit
Why the FUCK do normies think it's acceptable behavior to talk to strangers out of the blue? Who the fuck do they think they are? If you don't know someone, you've got to be pretty full of yourself to just assume they want to be talked at out of nowhere.
Is there some way to signal people to just leave you alone?
Hahahahaha o dear....
> Is there some way to signal people to just leave you alone?
Yea, listen to music with headphones/ear buds in. No one will bother you then
srsly OP?
Bait.
Relationship dilemma: I lived with my ex for the entire time i knew him, we got in a lot of fights but there was always a strong bond and lots of love between us. We moved across the country together after only knowing each other for 3 months and put our young relationship through a lot of stress. We broke up because there was a lot of stress after a year and a half and I moved back, 3000 miles away. We didn't talk for 2 months.
In those 2 months, i met someone else who i also love. I don't love him with the same passion that I did my ex, but he seemed like...
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I'm you ex. You're the woman I want to marry one day.
Only difference is I wouldn't want to marry you until I've seen that you are going to devote yourself to me in the long term. I don't feel like the new guy is any real competition, and even if you did end up marrying him, I would think that you're being impatient and kind of immature.
The right thing to do would be to not be in a hurry. If you love us both, then how do you justify having to make a choice. You should be free to continue your singledom until you know for certain which...
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Same fag
>>16518409
You idiot 3 different IPs. It is not a samefag but rather a shitty troll. Smarten the fuck up.
24 year old kissless virgin here with no friends.
People always say in order to make friends and especially to attract girls, you need to be ''confident''
Can somebody here explain to me what the hell ''confidence'' means?
Its broad term but i think i can help with a couple of examples. Confidence means when you encounter someone new at work or something you dont look at your feet and murmur "how are you", it means putting yourself out there and asking that co-worker where he got that sick shirt from or cracking a joke in an appropriate situation.
>>16517958
so i need to force myself unto other people like some annoying asshole?
>>16517948
it means you need to have the qualities women want
Hello /adv/ !
>Long story short
I met a girl recently. I find her really cute, I talked to her a bit and it doesn't feel awkward at all. Though, tomorrow will probably be the last time I see her in person (at least for a while). Could you help me find an excuse to get her number/Facebook to stay in touch with her ?
>Here are some details
I'm in my second university year and she's at her final high school grade. We're both at the same conservatoire but not in the same department...
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Shameless selfbump, I'm really not good at this and hope that someone would help me.
You don't need an excuse. By creating an excuse, you're creating the illusion that you're not interested in going on a date with her. It's okay with letting someone believe you're interested in them - in fact, it's necessary.
You can just ask her for her number. You can just ask her for her Facebook. Or you could just ask her to go for a coffee with you, or something similar. Indubitably, if you both feel some sympathy for each other, there'll be a moment and an opening when you're not walking away from each other too quickly.
Everyone...
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>>16518016
>>16518016
So I just have to say something like "I find you really cute, can I have your number so we could stay in touch and maybe go for a drink someday" ?
I don't disagree with you but she seems relatively shy, don't you think she could kinda freak out if I tell her this ?
Ask a 22 year old artist with no college education who works at a smokeshop and sells cigarettes all day anything.
pic related, chalk drawing I did for a street art competition. didn't place.
Why do you believe you are so interesting you need your own thread for people to ask questions in?
/adv/ is to ask people for advice and give them advice. Not give advice to people who haven't even asked a question...
As an artist, I do get that you might be illogical – but come on man. Even I am a self-proclaimed artist but I'm not this up in the clouds.
>>16517854
Is this really an AMA or a cry for help?
>>16517854
This isn't a thinly veiled attempt to fish for compliments about your art. Nope. Not at all.
My biggest fantasy is for a girl to ride me while I'm asleep/passed out drunk/not conscious enough to understand where I am. How do I go about making this happen safely?
>>16517842
>safely
Idk.
Happened to me once but I had smoked some heroin with my ex and nodded the fuck out and don't even remember it. I just remember waking up totally naked at her place and apparently we were back together
Shit sucked, i was back with my crazy ex and i don't even remember the sex
>>16517862
Ahh, that must have been a bummer. Everything except for the ex and the heroine sounds amazing though.
I should also mention that I have a GF and have no problem with her drugging me, as long as there are no major health risks.
Anyone? I would even be contempt with stories.
Dunno if this is the right board for this.
I am, and always have been (upon hearing of his story), been fascinated with Elliot Roger and his plight. It took me days but I even read his whole manifest. His plight is NOT unique. There are thousands of young men around the world in the same situation as him (Just go to /r9k/ or /adv/ and you'll see. I frequent /adv/ myself). All they want is to be loved, wanted, and accepted. It is heartbreaking thinking about how many young men this encompasses. Imagine being invisible everywhere you go. Imagine having no friends whatsoever,...
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>>16517719
It makes me angry that people make people like him out to be irredeemable, black-hearted villains. Like he just hated people, especially women, because he couldn't have sex, so he's a misogynist. That was just his obsession. It was a manifestation of his real problems. In reality, he was a broken, lonely person. It's not so much as that he was rejected by women, but that he was rejected by EVERYBODY. It may not amount to being mentally ill, but it's just undesirable of a condition, isn't...
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>>16517738
Yes I agree with you wholeheartedly.
I'll put on a trip so im easier to recognize i guess
The only thing negative I'll say about The Supreme Gentleman is that he hated women yet wanted their love, yet blamed them when they rejected him.
I wouldn't start to feel too much sympathy with him in particular, OP.
No matter how lonely/fucked up your life is, taking human life isn't even close to justified. He had mental issues.
You are correct about there being sad lonely guys out there, though. Thanks for the consideration.
So my wife is mad at me because my new higher paying job makes me wake up earlier 1 hr and goes home 1 to 1.5 hrs later.
My old job was in an agency kinda thing and schedule was very flexible - also the office was closer. I could wake up at 9, arrive at 10, and went back at 5. The catch was, I often had to continue my work for almost 3 hrs at home..which for me a bit tiresome.
Plus, this new job offers me a higher position and 2.5 times my current salary. Wife is not working and we are expecting our first child, so obviously we need some money now..
Is this...
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It's understandable why she's upset, but the fact is this job is much better for you both overall. She'll probably realize that once the money starts coming in.
Additional info : my previous job could barely make any saving in the bank.
How can I convince her? Marriedfags could probably relate better, but all suggestions are welcome.
Tell that bitch this isn't fucking Disney, that if she isn't working and there is a kid on the way, you will need to put extra hours in.
She should be happy that you have made an advancement in your job if she wasn't being selfish, but no boo hoo you won't be around as much, well that's fucking reality and yes it sucks.
Let me put it this way OP, she'd have complained if you didn't take the higher paying job when the reality of the expense of a child kicks in. You were fucked either way. Now is the time to make it very clear this...
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soo my bf cheated on me with his ex while they were still seeing each other. What can i do to punish him for this
he is acting like he doesn't know what he did wrong, which is a lie
>>16517489
Punishing is immature, just break up with him like adults do.
>>16517489
Make him do the most humiliating sexual act you can think of and then dump him.
Be the better person? Drop him, move on and cope with the pain for a while.
Me and boyfriend haven't had sex in 6 months.
First 3 months was due to his anxiety about sex (long story short, he had a masturbation addiction before we dated, it carried on through our relationship, sex became boring for him, we stopped, I stepped in, he stopped masturbating, but too anxious to stay hard during sex)
Just as he was starting to get over the anxiety he developed a bacterial infection that restricts his foreskin. We physically cannot have sex. He did not like doing other sexual stuff as it frustrated him to get hard and not be able to fuck/relieve himself. After 3 months I struggle to see him as more than a platonic friend as I find it hard to establish a romantic relationship without sex.
He tries to cuddle me, etc, I pull away, uncomfortable. We talk about it, and we make more effort. I begin being attracted to him again, he helps me jerk off. He helped me jerk off 3 times, I was starting to feel good. Then the past two times he has declined saying he has a headache. I believe he genuinely has a headache btw, that's not the issue. He has a terrible diet and drinks 8 cans of soda a day (he's skinnyfat). But being rejected twice so soon has caused me to switch off again and see him as platonic once more. What do? How do I get over this? Every time it goes well I get shut down.
Is it unreasonable of me to get upset over him rejecting me twice? He couldn't technically help it but its just ANOTHER THING to kill our sex life
>>16517479
Are you gay? Girls don't jerk off. Believable story. 2/10 for having a vivid imagination. Next.
You need to talk to him about it. You both have needs and a relationship isn't about you sacrificing yourself for him, it's about you both finding compromise and respecting each other.
Rejection is a legit reason so feel hurt. You need to talk to him about his issues, how they make you feel, and that you're here for him if he needs help. If he cares at all, he'll listen and act like an adult to even try more. If he thinkis the conversation is stupid or ignores your feelings then I don't think you should be dating him.
>>16517501
I talked to him and he said he is not to blame as he couldn't help his headache and the discussion ended there. I am scared that by being upset I'm crossing his boundaries sexually and not respecting his space, I don't want to force sex on him but its upsetting he doesn't feel like he has to push through for me. But again, he says it couldn't be helped as he has a headache
How do get into 3D chicks? I've been attracted to 2D ever since puberty. I'm 20 now, and I've never been attracted to 3D. How can I fix this? I went six months this year without watching any anime or even looking at anything anime related, and it only made my 2D fixation more powerful.
>stop watching anime
>don't be an idiot
>bee urself
>¿¿¿
>maximize revenue
Op who the fck cares maximise revenue and do what the fck you wanna do
If you want to be attracted to 3D I recommend learning to not listen to them. Don't even ignore them, just stop registering it. That way their physical traits still seem worth the time and effort.
Have you ever reached a point where you started thinking of suicide as a viable solution?
What was the situation?
What was the thought that finally convinced you NOT to?
OR
How did you counter it and get your shit back on track?
>on /adv/
>"has anyone ever thought if suicide"
>MFW
>>16517240
Of course they have.
I'm more interested in success stories on how they defeated those thoughts.
I just pushed through it. College exam. All nighter. I couldn't understand the material and my mind did a snowball type train of thought.
> Don't pass exam, grades go down, drop out, we're dirt poor so nothing to lean back on, not even a citizen of the country so government won't help, family screwed.
Suicide seemed like an easy way out.
Tried to shake the thoughts with more studying. Passed the exam but have failed others without suicidal thoughts. I just gotta be aware of when my mind is doing that snowball thing....
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I have 3 jobs and go to uni. I've been essentially homeless for a few months but finally found a place near my school. Finals are coming up and I have so much to study for.
The problem is that I've been a cunt to gf for months and she's become more and more distant to the point where she's almost afraid of me.
It's putting me in a constant state of depression and bitterness, and I can't get anything done even though I have so much to do, and I just act like a bigger cunt and I don't realize it until it's too late.
In one bad...
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>>16516996
Please help, please respond.
>tl;dr heartbroken and I can't focus on anything because of the pain
Why do you have 3 jobs? Can you not afford to let one go?
It's the stress, obviously, that's making you act this way. Tell me about your situation with more depth.
>>16517068
>It's the stress, obviously, that's making you act this way.
I try to tell her this, and she understands to an extent, but I was like this (not as bad though) before shit really hit the fan though.
>Tell me about your situation with more depth.
To put as briefly as I can
>live with mum all life
>court battle over house for a bit, had $15k in savings that eventually got drained...
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Dear fellow ladies, at what age did you get your first period? I'm just curious and doing research. I was 10.
>>16516995
13 or 14 ish. It wasn't memorable enough to remember my age.
>>16516995
5th grade. 10 or 11ish.
