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Anyone here living with adult ADHD?
I'm 36 years old and totally desperate. I've been to several therapists over the past 15 years with depression, panic and anxiety problems and my general fucked-upness. No solution has been found however.
It was just recently that I realized I may have been living with adult ADHD. The general symptom is that I am an avid procastrinator with concentration problems: whenever I got to do something I become stressful or over-excited so I can't find the flow of getting shit done and can't finish in time. I always...
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Sup man. You pretty much described me til you got to this part:
>bing eating, binge drinking or online time-wasting, online porn and masturbation. I think I am somewhat of a sex addict (been fapping since the age of 9). (Really.)
Replace all that with playing video games, playing video games, and playing video games, and we're pretty much the same person, save for a small age gap. (I'm 31.)
I've been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD since I was about 9. Later I got slapped with the fun "depression" diagnosis...
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>>16524440
Anon, I am 44 and your situation describes me to a 't'. I just picked up therapy in the last year to try to salvage my relationship with my now fiance. I was doing all of the above AND going to hookers/paying girls to be my sugar babies (basically under the radar hookers). A big part of it was the overwhelming anxiety and need for constant validation. I had really, really fucked up my life. I was dating a fantastic woman and fucking her over heavily by my neurotic activities. I work for an internet company with no supervision so I was fucking over my coworkers and my business partner by not getting things done. I would constantly procrastinate, and still do.
I'm a year into therapy and just looking into meds, mostly for the intrusive/negative thinking but also for cycling/sproadic depression.
Like 16524518 anon said, it's a lot of fucking work. And the recognition of the problem is small comfort, because you have that weighing on you now and there will be a lot of days where you feel as though it's just not worth it.
Stimulants do help. Lots and lots and lots of caffiene will at least get you moving, but you'll build tolerance and you don't want your heart to get out of sorts when you get to that level. I am trying Folate (metafolin) and that seems to flatten out the lows a little, but it does make me a bit irritable, esp. if I'm not consistently taking it. I'm also trying PQQ (Quinone) for energy, once you get past the wicked stomach upset it seems to give a bit of a morning bump. Initially it's a HUGE bump, but that settles down after a while as well.
>>16524704
Con't
My therapist is getting me to go see a Nurse practitioner (I'm in the states, if that makes any difference to you) as he says they are a bit more on the bleeding edge as far as treatment goes. They seem to tend to take a holistic approach including diet.
Best of luck to you, anon. If anyone wants to chat about similar problems, I'd be happy to post my kik here to talk. It helps to find people who 'get' you. Those who don't get it won't, but don't let that stop...
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So there was this girl I was together with for 8 months. When we got together, she told me she was physically abused by her 1st ex and I thought to myself then that I have to protect this girl and keep her happy. On the 6th month or so, things went downhill on my part. I was petty and kept being pissed and acted like an immature brat around her. I didnt physically hurt her but I think how i acted hurt her even more. And she broke up with me 2 months later.
Its been 2 years since then and she just broke up with her 3rd because he had been cheating her of her money.
When...
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You sound really corny right now. Honestly? Something like that would make me laugh but I'd probably want to catch up with you if you went out of your way to make it for me.
Nothing to lose. It might make her day and who knows, maybe you could get back together.
>>16524382
Which part of it is corny though? I mean i would like to cut down on that part when I talk to her
>>16524383
Thanks
I just need to finish the recording now and my voice isnt cooperating
Is it possible to become addicted to swallowing glass?
swallow a shard of glass and see if its possible to like it
>>16524370
I did, before making this thread. It was more immediately soothing than smoking a cigarette. I'm completely calm now and not anxious at all.
>>16524375
I guess that's your new thing.
How do you ween yourself from an internet addiction? I am absolutely dependent on online attention, and get massive fits of anxiety whenever I can't talk to someone, be on a forum, or generally have my existence aknowledged by an online forum. It wouldn't otherwise be a problem but I often end up resorting to self-harm or drinking to calm myself down, and if the conditions aren't external (such as the internet being completely down), I usually end up online anyway.
I'm too scared to talk about this to a professional of any kind, they'll just tell...
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You can't ween yourself off of the internet, it's all or nothing.
>>16524339
But I start freaking out and doing damaging shit when I'm off of it.
The answer is [spoiler] you don't. [/spoiler]
I'll cut to the chase. Im a freshman in college and my girlfriend and I have been together for two years so far, have an amazing relationship. Just this summer we started having sex (we weren't ready before then), made our relationship better in every way, we could be completely open with each other about what we wanted and such.
Now we are going to college about 4 hours away from each other, neither of us with cars. I've visited her about once a month since October and when we are together I love it, the sex is awesome, the togetherness and closeness is...
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the sex will continue to get less gratifying. If you want to marry her then consider talking to her, but if that's not an issue then what you're experiencing is normal. For me, it wasn't until I has sex with 50 or so grils that I realized the few relationships that I had were more satisfying
>>16524240
>blaming porn
dude porn has pretty much nothing to do with it, seeing eachother only once a month is the problem.
it's just enough to linger on for a while, but probably not enough to move on to a more mature stage of relationship, which is nesecarry cause the initial phase wears off after a while.
>>16524240
Ok, so me and you have the same problem, but desu my problem has been more focused on being with an amazing lady that has kidney problems and cheating on her to find a more healthy woman. I'm not proud of this, and for a while, she made me feel insecure and unattractive for years before we dated. So now that I have her, its just not that great. I mean, I still don't know why she ever chose me after so many times I've been rejected, but I feel like for a guy to go through all the abuse and neglect,...
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Moved in with my girlfriend of 4 years a few months ago and I don't think I love her anymore. Fights come so easily and last for ages, I feel like she's keeping me from really focusing on my passion of making music, and i'm constantly checking out other people. Plus I've realised during the relationship I'm bi, and I want to explore that side, but I'm not a cheater.
What do?
>>16524200
break up with her
>>16524200
Tell her you might be bi, she'll run a mile.
>>16524200
break up
So, looking for help/advice for my monitors, here is my current parts that I could find. The rest is the case, Hard drives, and peripherals, which I don't think matter past the list. (Which I also couldn't find on the website). I can list though if requested.
http://pcpartpicker.com/p/WTDvXL
I bought two Monitors: http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16824022246&RandomID=998236822424112220151126121712
I noticed a fps drop in games when I attempt to play in 3840x2160, from my previous 1440x900.
Yes I quite literally built...
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The monitors were on a whim, didn't think of upgrading the OS because it's worked exceptionally well for me since I got it. But thanks all who reply with your thoughts.
No.
4k is too expensive for what it is at the moment. I do agree that 4k is very nice you really notice the reducation in pixelation and it looks more like vectors but they are expensive because they are new. Wait out the hype train Anon.
>>16524150
Oh you already bought them.
There is a noticeable lag for pc on fallout 4 every person I know with really nice comps all had this issue too. What are your hertz at?
>kept staring at my female friend
>didn't look where I was going
>walk pass her and into a wall
>female friend walked by, didn't look at me
>but sounded happy as she said "oh Anon"
Did I fuck up?
A little. You need to take on a bit more of a "been there, done that" mentality. Getting captivated by people and things only makes you look wet behind the ears. That's not a hallmark of maturity.
You've seen attractive people before. You've seen her before. Stop staring.
>>16524119
This girl seemed interested in me before
She did sound quite happy
>>16524123
That changes absolutely nothing of what I said.
I asked my boss for more workers because are department is too swamped for three people.
My boss hired two people who are on reduced work load from other departments but problem is instead of putting them on while I work he took away my hours and split them between the two.
Now its even more swamped and I went from 40 hours to 20. I am one of the hardest workers at my job and are always getting daily good reviews. What is this shit? I feel like I am being punished for trying to help and make things more possible.
Because our department*
>>16524050
You wanted more workers and that's exactly what you got.
That's because you are being punished.
Start looking for a new job. Your boss should do the same, because as soon as you leave that department is going to fail. At least he'll have collected his bonus first.
How can I psych myself out of this thought cycle?
>think I'd like to get a girlfriend/have sex/etc.
>"that's for attractive people"
>"you are not attractive"
>Oh yeah
>nothing changes
I'm trying to improve myself (i have lost weight recently) but there's been no marked improvement in my self esteem.
And getting a girlfriend won't improve your self esteem either.
>>16524005
See, knowing that one's depression, or shyness, or anxiety or fear of talking to women won't be improved by getting a girlfriend is actually liberating.
You shouldn't have so much weighing on your mind when you talk to a girl. "If I could only get a girlfriend things would be better!" --Anxiety sets in-- "Oh Glob, now I've screwed that up again!"
>>16524002
>>16524002
>and only 47 Sahelanthropuses in my Sahelanthropus account
If you're objectively making progress and your feelings aren't changing, you just need to work this stuff out with a therapist. There's no two ways about it. It's obviously a problem of thinking and not one of reality.
So my parents are potentially getting a divorce.
To save many paragraphs of explanation, my younger brother is going to cast the final stone on their marriage and he's aware of it, he just doesn't care because it get him something he wants, plus he doesn't like our mother very much and refuses to take no for an answer. Says "It's going to happen anyway" so he figures he might as well speed up the process
ANYWAY:
If they do get divorced, I don't want to have to choose who I live with. I'm 19, live at home, attend community...
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Split your time equally.
I say live with whoever is most convenient to live with. If one parent move to somewhere where it's easier to get to college, then move in with them, otherwise stay where you are. You shouldn't be seen as picking a side when you do this, and they should understand that
>>16523981
>doesnt explain what the brother can possibly do to "throw the stone"
You're a fag OP.
How do I stop longing after a relationship and start living for my own sake?
>>16523953
You're not truly living until you're living for a woman senpai.
>>16523962
I'm gay.
Rap music
Okay, fuck all this stupid relationship advice always posted on here, I need some real answers.
I've been conducting a study to measure the effects of priming when it comes to animals images in context of animal testing, I have two groups, a control group and a test group. Control group received s survey asking their opinions on animal testing while the test group received the same survey but included pictures of cute animals.
I've compiled the data and surprisingly the only statistical significant different between the marked responses is my first question,...
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http://www.biostathandbook.com/testchoice.html
Might help you. I think you have a problem in that you have such a small sample size though, you should have at least 30 in each group.
>>16523960
I agree, if I could conduct the study again I would find more participants, but the study is concluded and now I'm just compiling and examining the data.
Bump
I feel very directionless in my life at the moment. Right now I'm in college for a history degree. I don't see this being a very practical choice but I'd rather not go into business or something else I would just hate. My future plan was to teach history and travel during my summers to other countries. Traveling is the one thing I feel that makes me want to do something with my life.
I feel I'm being a naïve autist who just wants to avoid the grind of daily life.
Right the fuck now go find a way to get a masters.
Get paid to be study history.
Don't wait until your 3rd or 4th year.
Trust me.
Right the hell now.
Talk to your profs, department deans, whoever.
Find out whose dick you need to suck to get into a masters program.
If you can get that, you can get paid to learn.
>>16523870
Right now I'm only in my sophomore year. I don't even have a bachelor degree yet.
>>16523881
That's the time you need to get on it.
You think that nerdy ass faggot is going to wait.
There's like 100 sophmores and like 10 masters students.
Who are you going to be?
Find the right path now. Find what you need to do.
pls post first date ideas
Ask her to have sex, and if she won't do it then punch her in the face
show her your gootch
Show up naked and tell her to suck your dick
