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Just moved to NYC for a new job and am depressed as fuck. I don't know a single soul here, and there's so, so, so many happy people around me enjoying their lives. I was depressed before the move, but holy fuck being here has definitely magnified it. There's tons of bars, restaurants and cafes around me, but I've got nobody to go with, they're all just full of couples and friend groups.
>>16529841
I'm trying to move there soon anon. I have a few friends there but I suspect I'll be very lonely. I'm super co-dependent on friends/boyfriends (I've never eaten at restaurant, seen a movie alone, or gone shopping). But I have gotten better about it, makes things easier.
Listening to audiobooks/standup comedy on my headphones makes it easier to do boring errands.
Hopefully you'll make friends at your job. Where do you live and what do you do OP?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7X7sZzSXYs
>>16529867
I'm in Williamsburg and the job hasn't started yet, will in a week or so. Until then I'm just sitting in my room bored until I need to go buy groceries or something. I'll go get coffee at a nearby cafe some mornings, but that's it...
>>16529896
I think it'll be better once your job starts man. Hopefully you'll make some good connections there. I'm pretty nervous myself
Hey /adv/, this might be a simple question for some, but I'm at a loss at how to do this.
I'll sum it up with a green text
>See cute girl on FB that I share mutual friends with
>Add her, she adds me back
>Since I dont really know her, I never message her. But I like her posts time to time.
>Finally after watching some of her posts I realize she is single.
>But I still dont contact.
>I finally give up the notion of contacting her.
>Fast forward till this past weekend
>I finally try Tinder
>When behold, her profile comes up.
>So I like it
>As soon as I do I get the pop up letting me know she done swiped right on me as well.
>I message her on tinder to no response
>So I message her on FB and she responds with a single word answer, so I never answer cause I feel she is not really wanting to talk
Am I reading into this too much or did she swipe with a Chad that shot me out of the saddle?
What should be my next move?
Keep in mind this isnt a huge crush. Just a girl I would like to meet and see where it goes.
pic semi related, she is a thick girl with big tits
In 5 seconds upon seeing that picture I immediately wonder what everything looks like when you take the corset off. Corsets, ultimate weapons of hambeast deception.
>>16529798
Same, and looks like her titts are saggy or shapeless irl because he wears too small cup. Take this corset off and the gut pops out.
>>16529798
>>16529810
Just fuck her while she wears the corset, no harm done.
Been with my GF for more than 2 years.
We love each other and she wants to get married someday and have kids.
Things are really good between us and she's my biggest support, but there's one thing I have trouble letting go of.
For the first few months of our relationship she was on Tinder talking to multiple guys. I never got to see those conversations and after I found out she deleted the app.
Now if I trust what she says, she never cheated on me and she claims she didn't know the app was used for hooking up/dating. She thought of it as a way to make friends. That sounds retarded, but she can be a bit of a dumbass at times.
I'd say I moved on, but anytime I think about it or someone mentions Tinder I feel like shit and start doubting things.
She either cheated on you or was planning to.
c.vck
>We love each other and she wants to get married someday and have kids.
hahahahahaha
>2015
>marrying a tinder slut
>marrying at all
>"just wanted friends! honest!"
You deserve whatever she makes you suffer years down the line, for ignoring the obvious red flags.
>she claims she didn't know the app was used for hooking up/dating
That is a lie. She at the least was doing it for attention, which is wrong if you were in a committed relationship. If you were dating and nothing official, then she can do that. To say it was for finding friends only (of the opposite sex only) is a straight up lie.
At this point, if this was an issue 2 years ago when the relationship first started it seems like you should have broken up or moved on and continued your relationship, but you did neither. It sucks, but it seems unfair to dig this up now and throw it back at her. You either trust her or you do not, if you do not, the relationship should end.
Is online dating just a meme or can it lead to a long term relationship?
My friend is marrying someone she met off OKcupid. They've been together 3 years.
I mean the guy has 30k student loan debt with no degree, lives with his parents, barely has a job and looks like a balding gremlin.
But I guess it can happen.
>>16529709
>Is online dating just a meme or can it lead to a long term relationship?
Met my girlfriend on OkCupid. We've been together for a little over a year.
We matched, talked for a few days, invited her over to my place for wine and video games and the rest is history. Its actually a really great way to meet women that you typically wouldn't have the opportunity to cross path withs in the real world.
A lot of people think its bullshit but the truth is that all dating is bullshit. All dating is chalk full of disappointment and awkwardness and psychos and dickheads; its not exclusive to the internet.
Try it out. If it doesn't work then the worst that'll happen is you'll be right back where you started.
>>16529713
I fear to think how she looks like...
But no, Op, online dating leads mostly to mediocre ons and genital herpes
>girl starts working at my job
>we stat talking, get along great
>exchange numbers, text alot, she sends me alot of G rated pics
>find out she's in a shitty marriage, trying to get a divorce
>get a text one night where she tells me she spent her whole break trying to tell me that she liked me
>tell her i like her too
>she tells me she doesn't know if its right or wrong, but it isn't the right time, maybe once she's divorced
>then she tells me she has to stop talking to me in order to make the divorce proceedings go smoother
>really bummed about it, don't hear from her for over a year
>calls me about 3 weeks ago, tells me she ran off to dubai and stayed with family for 10 months because she was becoming suicidal due to her bad marriage
>we start talking and texting every day
>she asks me to go out clubbing with her but i decline
>she calls me, wasted, at 4am, we talk for a bit, then she says she needs to go, but texts me shortly after, sends me a pic in just her bra laying in bed, then asks if its okay to send pics like that. i say yes.
>3 days later my dog dies and i'm really distraught over it, text her about it
>she calls me and i ask her if she wants to hang out, and she says no, she's been drinking (it was 9:30pm), and then tells me that i shouldn't have told her about my dog because it made her sad
>i overlook it for the time being since im upset about my dog, and try to get her to pin down a time in the near future to hang out, feel like she's not really making any effort to put me first as she says that most of her friends get out of work before me so she's busy all nights of the next week
>i end the call, but text her shortly after, ask her if she still likes me as more than a friend, she says yes
>i reply that i do too, but that it made me upset that she didn't seem to care about my feelings and instead made it about how i made her sad by telling her about my dog. i also tell her that if she wants to spend time with me she needs to make time instead of fitting me into her schedule of hanging out with other friends.
>she doesn't reply that night, so i text her the next day telling her that i was being honest and didn't mean to upset her, if i did upset her at all
>she doesn't reply that day either, so i call her, it rings until voicemail
>i've tried to text and call, and even left a voicemail basically pouring my heart out but she hasn't replied since that day (10 days ago at this point)
I'm pretty lost as to what I should think/feel/do at this point. I thought there was something between us, but if she disappears after I'm honest to her without bad intention, it makes me worry how things would go in the future.
pic related: its her
Post her number and we will get her to talk to you
>>16529777
Lol nah, I'm not an idiot. But any honest opinions and/or advice would be helpful.
Does anybody have ano infograph, or pics or links or whatever rhythms shows how shitty Islam is?
I want to redpill my girlfriend about Islam but I have nothing
>>16529625
PRAISE BE UNTO HIM
If she's got half a decent brain on her shoulders, she won't be sold on criticizing something because of infographs. Would you get "redpilled" from a pro-Islam picture from the internet?
The convincing way is the hard way. Do proper research. Then there's no bullshit.
>>16529625
Here my 'moderate' friend.
it's the stupidest thing ever. i make all kinds of crazy posts pretending to be someone that people might react to. a transgender, a gay guy, suicidal people, etc. and usually posting on 4chan makes me feel bad. like sometimes i'll go to r9k and pretend i'm trans there, and people will give me all this hate for being trans and then i feel bad.
idk man this isn't normal. also i have an internet addiction in general. it sucks. i want to grow up and do something with my life but at this rate i'll be 40 by the time i move out because i don't fucking do anything but troll 4chan, feel sorry for myself, and eat. i eat a lot.
sometimes i keep up the same internet persona for months, trolling people over time. but mostly i think i'm trolling myself. my life sucks lol.
>>16529581
You've probably never done that and are trolling us right now.
I suggest turning off your internet for a month or two (or just unplugging it when you don't need it) and only using public wifi.
Bad troll, go back to work.
>>16529581
You are a method actor. Keep perfecting your craft and you can be a meme king.
Kinda a long story, but here it goes..
My mother was living off of government housing, and she decided to move out of state, so she put the housing in my name, basically the rent is greatly reduced. Anyway, the stipulation is that she cant come back (It was worded like she couldn't even visit, let alone stay), otherwise if I was caught I could lose my housing, be fined thousands, or even jail time. However, after a few months she said she burned through 15k and needed a place to stay and nobody else in the family would take her, so I agreed that she could stay for a month. Literally think it was one of the worst in my life. She's not abusive or anything, just very very irritating. For example she's sleep in the living room because this was supposed to be my place and it's only a one bedroom. So I'd come back from college since I have afternoon/night classes, and I'd surf the web, do homework, play games, etc usually from 10-2. I'd cook something for dinner, and she threatened to kick me out multiple times because the smell of food or the smoke stopped her from sleeping. Sure, I ate out when I could, but that's pretty unhealthy not to mention costly when doing it pretty much 5 days out of the week. Not only that, but she's turn off the Internet when she went to sleep and would give no fucks if I was using it, even if I told her I was in the middle of something. She claimed "The Wifi is interrupting her sleep ad giving her headaches".
1/2
2/2
So anyway, when she left she took the parking permit (I live in a gated apartment and have 2 spots, one needing a permit), and made herself a copy of the key, and took the gate opening button even though that was the only one. Parking is very hard to find in the area, outside of the gate is pretty much the ghetto (quite literally filled with gangbangers, someone was murdered a while back). Couldn't even find parking there, so my friend had to park about a mile away just to get inside. So one of my friends parked inside, and since I couldn't give him the permit he parked inside and was unlucky enough that he got towed and it cost him $300 to get it out.
So, yesterday when I was at work she called me from pretty much a different state and said she broke her computer, I told her how she can get it fixed for cheap. She calls me back a few hours later and she said she just quit her job (Live in caregiver) and she's coming over to stay and have me fix her computer without even asking me.
After I fixed her computer, I demanded the key/clicker/Permit back. I didn't say she couldn't stay, only that I wanted those back first. She agrees that its my place and those are my property (I'm responsible for them, if they're lost I have to buy them again), but she refuses to give them back no matter what. Yet again she tried to guilt trip me about it because I'm her son and she got me the place, but I could potentially lose it if I got in trouble and I told her I don't want her here because she won't even give me my property back. So she just stormed out.
If she gave them back I would have let her stay, but her acting so entitled to it just really annoyed me. I guess now she would be "Homeless", but she could easily get a job even if it's low paying, but she refuses to work any job that she doesn't like no matter how broke she is. I already make shit pay and still have to pay bills, and this whole thing is stressful AF.
TLDR:
Mom got me a place with cheap rent, she's not supposed to be staying there (legally). She needs a place to stay, I let her stay for a month. It was literally worst month of my life. She leaves, then a month later tells me that she broke her computer, I tell her how to fix it. She then tells me she quit her job that day and needs a place to stay and is driving to my house right now from another state. I fix it and tell her that she needs to give me the Gate Key/house key/Parking permit before we talk about her staying, then she trys to guilt trip me and I tell her this is why I don't want her here, and she leaves.
What do?
>>16529491
I'm so, so sorry OP. My mom is bad, but never that bad. I sadly don't have any advice, since getting cops involved could easily fuck you over.
This girl has a ton of stuff going on right now in school, and just wants to be friends.
However, multiple times during this conversation, she kept saying being friends will give us something to build off of, and that she thinks maybe in the future there could be something.
Am I friendzoned hard? Am I still in the clear? Am I in a spot of the friend zone where I could work my way out?
How would you guys play this?
Thanks!
>>16529421
This picture is too good. Damn. That's some quality shit.
She's making a dumb decision, but it's nothing worth arguing about. All you have to do is make her become emotionally dependent on you and she's yours.
If she chills around you like that, you might be becoming "one of the girls". How long have you known her for?
Sounds like she wants to keep you as an orbiter while she fucks Chad.
Don't be that orbiter.
Have any of you successfully gotten back together with an ex?
How did you do it?
Feeling a bit confused about it and whether or not to pursue it.
one does not successfully get back together with an ex
>>16529424
But I must have her.
>>16529415
It lasted for a week and the same old problems resurfaced. This is after 1.5 years of not being together.
Hey /adv
I had a fight with my dad .... didn't do anything wrong as usual
>In bathroom
>Washing hands
>Dad pushes door a little bit (The doors don't have a lock)
>Keep door closed with hip
>I'm in the bathroom
>dad pushed door in and out really load and yells something
>Didn't know what he yelled
>Pass by his room on my way to take a shower
>Ask "what did you say back there?"
>He stand up and yells "Maybe next time you can tell me you are in the bathroom!"
>say "what are you yelling about I just asked you a question"
>Starts yelling how I should have told him I was in the bathroom
>Say "what are you doing acting like a crazy person yelling over nothing"
>Yelling "are you done! are you done!"
>I messed up here I guess... said "Next time you don't knock on the door and someone is in the bathroom you just leave you don't start yelling at them like a crazy person."(Lights where on the air conditioning was on, he must have heard the toilet flush, he should have heard the water was on)
>he starts yelling "get out!get out" while walking closer.
>Mom has to come in and tells me to leave but I say i have to go take a shower
>then I just o take a shower
I don't know what I did wrong..this kind of shit always has happened. But this reminds me of my past and about how I used to have straight A's and be top of my class and stuff but I began to play video games 24/7 and I realized I only played games for like an escape you know....Not gonna lie I cried a little writing this post, I try to avoid him but we live in the same house you know.... (plus holidays coming and I'm going to have to be around him and pretend everything is ok) I realized I don't want this asshole to influence me anymore and I am just wondering is there is a way to stop this kind of stuff from happening and if I can stop this guy from influencing me anymore, or what I should do. Thx
>>16529352
I remember when I was 16
>>16529354
Cool
Just let it go and try to stay calm, understand your not really gona be able to change either of your parents and all you really have control over is yourself and how you react to things. So just work on yourself and stay even. Eventually you will move out.
I feel like my life is dog shit because of how little experience I have had with women. For example, I am 24 and never had a girlfriend. I have tried and tried and tried. Been friend zoned countless times. I have been lead on? I asked one girl out on a date(I even used the word date explicitly) and after we went out she said she didn't think it was a date but us just hanging out.. We went out to dinner, just she and I. How the fuck could she think it was anything else. Anyway, I am actually depressed about not being able to attract women enough to have a relationship. I am missing some sort of masculine spark I think..
What the FUCK is going on!?
Do you lift faggot?
What happened with the girl you went on the date with?
You have to know what you want and you have to communicate that
Change image.
And your mindset you fucking kek. When talking to a girl be clear to state your intentions. Dont be afraid to ask or to be sure that your not lead on again
I think I have autism guys
>constantly get fixated on one thing
>deep thought patterns
>never sleep because I think too much
>have to force myself to socialise
>feel exhausted when talking to people
>If I find something interesting I get obsessed with it
>hard to make and keep friends
>>16529301
Congratulations. We're all very happy for you
>>16529301
It's a possibility, but those issues aren't necessarily related to autism. There's more to it than that. Those aspects could be stand-alone, or something entirely different, all depending on your situation.
I wish you the best of luck in coping with your challenges, OP. If things persist down the road, you can get a hold of a therapist/psychiatrist/mental-health professional to help you out.
>>16529301
The fact you came to this conclusion yourself also makes it highly unlikely you actually do have autism. Aspergers if anything, but full autism is very unlikely.
She flaked tonight (no call/text). Is it ok to send her a non butthurt text or should I give her the silent treatment ?
if you are wrong, text
If there is nothing going on, text
If you talked as last, dont
You should stop being a faggot, forget and next. If she texts you don't respond.
>>16529276
No butthurt messages. Maybe say something, don't be a bitch. Then silent treatment
How much should i stress myself out about getting laid? Honestly i can have a great day, but when i realize i have to get to that i get really upset.
>>16529216
Not at all.
>i have to get to that
Wut?
>>16529216
NOT AT ALL. Not ever having to worry about STDs or pregnancy scares is much better than worrying about getting laid.
I'm a 27 year old virgin, yet healthier and happier than 98% of 4chan
>>16529216
Not at all. Don't stress about it, just pursue it at your leisure.
Your life is yours to be enjoyed, don't feel 'pressured' by others to rush into something, just go for it whenever you want to.
Shit ain't worth stressing over
