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>gf routinely takes 20+ minutes to respond to EVERY text message
Am I right to be annoyed by this? It's so hard to keep the conversation flowing. I really do love her but sometimes it makes me wanna JUST FUCKING GRAB HER BY THE NECK AND CHOKE THE LIFE OUTABKASKDLANKDKA
If it bothers you that much, call her instead. You're half the problem here
>>16536133
annoying games.
I don't do those games, they send me insane.
>>16536141
What do you mean games? Like she does it on purpose?
hi 4chan. i'm a very pale girl like pic related and all My friends tell me to go and use tanning beds (cause i don't tan naturally) and they keep saying i look like shit and ill....i guess i look kinda white and i have darkish hair so it shows
Should i tan myself artifically???
>>16536067
depends what youre into and what kind of crowd youre associated with.
pale skin and dark hair is kind of the holy grail though isnt it? i guess not for everybody, but thats always been like top tier girl for me. and honestly this is the first time i've heard of someone not fawning over that type
>>16536067
No. My skin is really light in winter and naturally really tanned in summer. It's a huge difference and I used to hate my light skin because it made me look like a vampire junkie, but I realized women who use tanning beds regularly are usually very insecure and I didn't want to be like that. Also, if you have really fair skin, a tanning bed probably won't help. You might burn or end up with an ugly color. I can't really explain, but people who have more pinkish skin look weird when they tan, unlike people with yellowish/olive skin tones. Accept yourself as you are, fuck what your friends say. If they were real friends they wouldn't call you disgusting.
>>16536067
No, you shouldn't... cancer isn't sexy
>tfw you realize you're an invalid who goes to an anonymous shithole to "communicate" and barely has any friends because you can't handle life and society
How do you deal with this?
I jack off a lot.
by owning people at online games, that's how i deal with it
>>16536046
i'm a good looking guy and in shape, but i have a urostomy and pee in a bag on my abdomen.
i'm 31, still a virgin, and will never get laid.
>People are telling me that I'm being condescending
>Get into arguments where people won't admit they are wrong to me
>End up arguing with people when I don't even want to
>Feel like I am always trying to seek mutual understanding but people let their emotions get in the way
>Go quiet, get along better with people but once I forget to and relax the problem persists again
>>16536022
Goddamn those earmuffs!
Holy shit you sound insufferable. People call you condescending, and they are "letting their emotions get in the way" because some part of either how you express your opinion (too much hyperbole, personal attacks etc) gives them the feeling that you're some kind of blowhard shitlord. You're also "seeking mutual understanding" and have "arguments where people won't admit they are wrong to me" both sound like instances where you don't know when shut up and to fucking drop the subject. You're like the four year old kid asking "Why?" all the time. So that's two strikes right there.
Now that I've gotten that out of my system, my advice is to stick with fairly neutral topics, which means no religion and definitely no politics. Don't talk about controversial subjects (gun control, abortion, terrorism) unless you want to get into an argument. Talk about books, movies, nature, etc. And for the love of God even if someone is wrong, quit badgering them. There is pretty much a zero chance that they will admit they are wrong to you, even if they are.
>>16536022
Depends on context a lot. I'm called argumentative, but I'm not really. I know when I'm right about something and people don't like it when I push it.
Example:
There's an annoying charity event at work for one of the employees. Her step-son is being sponsored to cycle all over Europe to raise money for cancer. I didn't want to put in, because it's not really for cancer. It's so he can tour the damn world under the pretense of raising money for cancer.
I start getting bugged to put in. I refuse. I get called ignorant by one of the other workers there. I correct her, saying that ignorance means lack of knowledge, and I don't see how that applies here just because I don't want to donate money. She insists that it isn't what ignorance means. I google her the dictionary meaning of it. Because she's wrong, it switches to how I can't let something drop and I'm argumentative.
I dropped both, not speaking to either until I left that job. I don't need to be pestered to give money, and as far as I'm aware, I'm not the one that came up to them calling them this or that or demanding money from them. It was them that did that to me. Yet, they would gossip amongst themselves I'm argumentative. My cousin has a go to where he says something, I counter what he's saying, and it's me being argumentative. Like people can't disagree with him otherwise they are considered argumentative.
People just don't like being called on their shit, when they talk shit, so they try to switch the blame onto you. It's their way of trying to outwit you. If you say anything different that opposes them, you're argumentative.
Do yourself a favour. Find another crowd. There's a reason you're arguing with these people. It's most likely they are idiots, and don't like being called on it.
How to deal with the friendzoned keks trying to get my girlfriend?
>Meet now girlfriend a little over a month ago
>We click and pretty much fall in love straight away, been living with her the last two weeks
>She tells me that there was this guy that comforted her during her last break up and that he's in love with her
>She never thought of him as more than a friend and they never did anything
>He apparently once made a move and she flat out said no
>Enter me
>He's now getting more and more pushy now that I'm with her
>Yesterday, he tried to arrange to get keys to her house so that he could fix her sinks while her and I were out to lunch
>She says to arrange for another time but he keeps pushing the subject
>I don't trust him in the fucking slightest to be in her house alone, fuck knows what else he'll do, install cameras or mics or bugs or whatever
>She just hangs up
>I'm actually fucking furious and hadn't realised that I'd scratched markings into my plate during the whole phone conversation
>That's just once instance
How the hell do you deal with someone so incessant?
>>16536018
Huh, does kek filter to kek now?
>>16536018
>Meet now girlfriend a little over a month ago
>been living with her the last two weeks
You fucked up.
The problem isn't necessarily the guy, but your girlfriend. She isn't putting a stop to this because she secretly likes the attention. This is a huge red flag. If I find out that someone is really into me, and I don't reciprocate those feelings, I quickly put that shit to rest and distance myself from them. Letting them hang around, for whatever reason, is just stringing them along. She's given him false hope.
>>16536051
Sorry, I should have clarified. I was just supposed to stay at hers for four days initially because my car is in the mechanics and her house is much closer to work than mine. The mechanic has screwed me around and has taken two weeks instead of the four days he promised.
So we're not exactly living living together as such.
>befriend with girl i like
>talk for 6 months or so
>after some time and finding out she doesn't likes anyone, i tell her how i feel
>she answer with "hah thank you but im confused right now"
>talk a lot with her even after that
>some of her friends tell me she likes how i am, think im funny, etc
>tell her some stuff about her being beautil and so on, she thanks me and all of that
>dont kno what to do, help me please, i really really like her.
>>16536014
How old are you?
If her friends tell u she likes you, but things aren't moving fluidly she probably WOULD hook up/make out with you but doesn't want to commitedly attach herself to u bcuz ur not being a man.
Lay it on her, get her alone and ask her to kiss you... That's the first step anyway
Try to get a balloon n hit on her to use her for sex first,if u two work out n have strong connection don't use her n love her..if it's just friends fuck someone else or try to, just keep on trying, one out of thirty woman u approach will fuck u unless u are fugly, get heathy if u weirdo
The same thing happened to my boyfriend
What are things you have learned from being cheated on?
Things you learned from cheating?
>>16536000
>What are things you have learned from being cheated on?
While another person's actions are completely out of your hands, and you shouldn't beat yourself up over it, you should periodically step away to look for red flags. Don't pass over something just because you happen to really care for the person. And being nice =/= doormat. Don't be a doormat.
>>16536000
I now don't trust anyone at all. Learned isn't really a positive in my case.
>>16536000
49 year old disappointed in life, excuse my english.
>meet a lovely intelligent med student
>we date, get married
>she's kind of a bitch, but pretty straightforward and not manipulative
>have 2 kids
>some shit gets in me and I cheat on her
>she suspects, but couldn't prove
>almost get divorced when she was pregnant a second time
>cheat again with multiple women(nurses etc.)
>meet a cute 10 years younger kind submissive woman
>she treats me like a god
>divorce wife and leave her and kids
>get married to younger blonde, have a kid
>she gets fat and bitchy, spends my money
>turns out she was the manipulative bitch all the time
Fast forward 6 years
>fat bitch wife and a spoiled kid
>oldest daughter is 18, doing well in med school
>doesn't really want to see me anymore
>I'm too old for this all
>wasting my life here
>think I might be an alcoholic
I fucked up my life by being stupid and cheating around. Don't cheat. Don't put up with it. Control yourselves or break up.
Ok /adv/, I need some serious help here.
I took a pizza delivery job and met a girl there. She really seemed to be into me and initiated a lot. I never really treated her as more than a coworker/friend because that was our relationship, but I liked her.
Anyways, as time went on some shit went down involving some drunk customers who fought with me on a delivery and I decided to quit. I guess I'm still on goodish terms with most of the people there...but boy that girl is stabbing into my mind hard, like every single night I can't sleep.
So I was thinking I might just walk right in tomorrow night and talk to her...what do you ya'll think about this? Idk if I should since when I left I dumped my stuff out at the front of the store and didn't say a word to anyone. I did come in once to get collect my tips and they seemed to react nicely with me, if a little standoffish.
Just start picking up your pizza there, eventually you will see her and if she still seems into you like before, make your move. You got this.
>>16536109
Alright bro, are you positive? I posted this thread before because it's eating me up that much, and they suggested that I do this, and now I'm seriously thinking about doing it. Just don't want to come off as a creep is all.
>>16535990
We had this same thread a while ago. Stop.
>be me
>been really busy job searching, doctor appointments, family stuff, work experience, other shit
>girlfriend literally does nothing except hanging out with friends
>keeps pestering me to invite her "over" to my place
>keep having to change plans to work around changes in work plans, and appointments
>keeps telling me she gets "upset" and "sad" around these change in plans (since she can't come over coz I'm busy)
>pissing me off
>brings it up every day, several times
>mfw stfu
I literally have no idea what to do, I've been busy af. Today, I had a massive headache so had to tell her no (now she's getting pissy)
Help me out /adv/
Try and explain best you can. If she keeps nagging, I'd suggest dumping her.
It sounds like you both want different things out of the relationship. I suggest talking to her about how you feel and her doing the same. That way you both understand what the other wants.
So you do everything and all she does is bitch and complain. A girlfriend should be compromising and understanding.
All she does is take advantage of you and whine like a kid. Talk to her on a one and one level privately and air out your problems anon
The sooner the better.
>find girl
>become friends with girl
>friends with girl for 8 months
>talk to her nearly every day
>I tell her I like her in September
>says she only thinks of me as a friend
>still friends
>since she knows that I like her I can now freely express my feelings to her right?
>do that
>November
>A guy that shes been friends with all the way back since high school freshman year asks her to some sort of ball or something
>she says yes
>I ask her if she likes him
>she says that it isnt my business
>I push on
>she tells me that she does
>shes angry at me
>I say we shouldnt talk for awhile
>I message the guy
>tell him that she likes him and that he should ask her out
>he says yes and thanks me
>its been a week
>theyre a couple and me and her arent freinds anymore
>I messaged her yesterday saying that I was happy for her and wanted to try and work things out to be atleast friends with her
>she says that I cant expect for her to get over this quickly and she needs some space and time before we can become friends again
I dont understand why she would be mad or depressed. I mean shouldnt the one who should be angry or sad be ME? I dont get it can anyone else figure this out.
>>16535952
I think you should move on. She probably wants to focus on her new relationship and not complicate it with other guys who have feelings for her.
>>16535952
she's trying to spare you feelings
>>16535960
Yeah my romantic feeling have kind of diminished since then so I'm ready to move on. But I just feel like I'm leaving loose ends behind if I didnt try to patch things between us.
so I'm clinicaly antisocial, I'm an asshole to everyone, have no respect for the law, peoples feelings, relationships etc etc
I don't give a damn if people like me, I'd rather be around people who hared me then around spineless people who like me
I'm in the market for a girlfriend, and I'm not sure what kind I should get
do I get a strong willed indipendant woman, a fawning useless blonde, a wise type, an intilectual, some hard assed car enthusiast?
looking for input
the answer "kill yourself" or "don't get a gf" are valid opinions, but why would I do either of those things
I don't believe you. Every line of your post screams "am I impressive yet?" and "PAY ATTENTION TO ME." I think you're childish and insecure.
Either way, a better question is, what kind of girl will be able to tolerate me? Because it might come as a shock, but you can't go to the store and peruse rows of girls like you can with a new bike, and somehow I doubt you're in a position to be choosy.
>>16535838
This.
>"Why would I do either of those things"
A bad relationship < being single. You don't get a gf you'll actually care about by actively searching for one. Make friends, if you start looking someone, go out.
Get a bitch just like yourself
Was watching movies with girl. All was going well. Was going to go for cuddle but then her brat child gets in the way and stays with the whole time. He's like some sort of force field. We ended up just watching the movie like normal people. No kind of intimacy.
How do I circumvent this??? I'm trying to be subtle so it's not like I can tell her to tell the child to fuck off for the night.
you circumvent this by not dating single moms
>>16535736
Get her a babysitter, pay for it, and take her out somewhere fancy and back to your place.
Also this: >>16535756
I have no aspiration to live. I genuinely want to die. I'm not depressed and I'm not in any sort of trouble. I just don't want to live anymore. I can't stand existance and the process that is mandatory for me to go through as a human makes me want to seek an alternative way out... which is suicide. I don't want kids, I don't want family, I don't want friends and I don't want to be here. Im posting here maybe because I missed some fundamental advice to make existance bearable and it is inconceivable to me in its pleasure. Although I've lost the ability to tell between pain and pleasure. First time posting because I know this probably sounds like an edge lord's OC character's bio but I'm interested in what's to come.
>>16535664
Having no desire to live/finding no pleasure in anything=depression.
Depression isn't about crying or being an emo pussy. It's literally having no desire to go on.
>>16535664
I don't know about how life in of itself is supposed to be pleasurable. I think if you stick someone in a box and tell them to stay there they don't find it pleasurable. I would say don't view living as the ends, but a means. Life is defined by what fills it. What does living actually mean to you right now?
>>16535673
"A serious medical condition in which a person feels very sad, hopeless, and unimportant and often is unable to live in a normal way" - Merriam-Webster
>the thing is I would entertain that I don't feel anything.
Anons I really need your help. My one friend has had suicidal thoughts for years , but he has fought through them. Recently his GF broke up with him, and he's pretty fuckig depressed. Today he wouldn't stop talking about how easy it would be to just off himself. Now I can't get him to pickup his phone or anyrhing . I know he said if he was to kill himself it would be at and abandoned titan missile silo . He knows where it is, I have no fucking clue. We live in Colorado, does anyone have a clue? I might be overreacting but..
>>16535565
Keep calling. Call his other friends, his family, his ex. If you still don't find them you should call the state/local police and give them what information you do have.
>>16535565
Go visit him, if you know where he lives. Otherwise, not much you can do.
About 45 minutes east of Denver is a tiny town called Deer Trail, and in the middle of this rural area is an abandoned Titan 1 missile silo.
>Girl who I've been seriously crushing on lately sort of gestures a hug when I'm getting ready to leave the group we're chilling with
>My arms start to reciprocate but then my mind panics and I switch into a high five
The fuck is wrong with me senpai
>>16535537
>My arms start to reciprocate but then my mind panics and I switch into a high five
Oh man you fucking beta OP... I'm not intentionally being mean, like I don't know what's wrong with you but I know for a fact you fucked that chance you ever had with that girl. Fucking learn to stop giving a shit and just stop overthinking things.
high fives are the most neckbeard thing to do.
JUST DO IT
Beta as fuck desu
