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Ok pls help i feel like complete garbage i fucked a girl and she was virgin after that we got on a fwb relationship but today she was messaging me and calling me like crazy and i decided to end it but she told me how stupid she was and that she ahted me and so on i feel really bad but i dont know she already blocked me but if she agreed to that its fair right? idk i feel pretty bad
>>16536937
Get yourself neutered.
>>16536942
apart from that any other sugestion?
>>16536937
The only thing you should feel bad about is that run-on sentence.
Hey, so I have a question and I don't really know where else to turn, please help.
My girlfriend (of almost 1 year) had a younger brother with severe autism, no one else in her family has it, and no one in my family has it. I'm genuinely terrified my kid will have autism, and I'm not sure that I could love a child with the disorder. According to her family doctor, there is a test they can run before the child is born that has 100% accuracy in diagnosing the disorder while still in the legal abortion window. She said she is willing to get an abortion for me...
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>>16536916
Yes, sort of.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genetic_counseling
Very little is known about the genetics of autism, so drilling it down to an actionable percentage chance of your having an autistic child with this girl is near impossible. If nobody else in her family is autistic and nobody in your family is autistic, you're probably fine, and any child you have with anyone else is still going to carry the risk of developmental disorders.
Links to a bunch of studies at https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heritability_of_autism
But nothing's been done regarding children of parents of siblings with autism obviously.
>>16536916
I don't blame you for being concerned. I have autism and my parents don't love me, either. Tollerate perhaps, definitely pity, but that'd be about the extent of it.
Actually, top props for having a proper level of self awareness and not committing yourself to something you wouldn't be able to follow through with! I wish more people were like that.
Asian femanon who took a liking to a Hispanic guy here. Should I ask him out? I know that my parents will not like the idea of me having a long-term relationship with a Hispanic guy with Hispanic nations being developing countries and all, but hey, my parents are not in America right now.
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do it fuck ur parents
Your happiness trumps over everyone elses. Including your family. It doesnt work if everyone else is happy but you.
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Student loans: Should I refinance, or do full payments?
I owe 75k and I haven't landed a full time job yet. I've been doing freelance with my skill as a somewhat well known contemporary fine artist, but print sales are not consistent and I can't support myself + my loans off of this. My loan payments start next month at $850 in total (one is 550, other is 300). My parents want me to do full payments and get it over with, but my quality of life will significantly plummet with this lingering bill. Blah blah blah, everyone is going through the same shit, right?
What...
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>>16536757
Why can't you do both?
I don't have a student loan, but if I did, I'd pick the option that allowed me to pay it of ASAP. Especially if I owed $75k
>>16536770
You would spend seven years of your life paying $850 a month as apposed to stretching it with $200 payments?
Singaporefag with UK citizenship here. I am thinking about finding a job in the English countryside. It really appeals to me as it's very different from where I am now. I've lived in homestay hotels in the European countryside and I loved it. I don't know if I am romanticising life in the countryside too much and I am wondering if I will get bored of it in the future.
>>16536735
Maybe try >>>/out/, >>>/trv/, or >>>/int/
>>16537096
No advice here?
>>16537096
>>>>/out/
It's not like I will be backpacking in the UK
>>>/trv/
Or travelling
>>>/int/
Kek I don't want people to tell me to fuck off and stay away from their homeland
What are some good texts that I can send so she texts me back?
Its been two weeks since I talked to her and I dont know what to do. The simple Hey or Hello wont do the trick anymore.
And then i had avoided her on school until the semester ended, only to regret that decision
throwing insults usuallty works to grab people's attention
you won't insult her obviously, but maybe saying something challenging in a funny way might work
"Why are gorillas always frowning?"
But seriously, a "Hey I saw your twin today!" usually does the trick. Unless she's Asian, in which case you can still do it but it has a more interesting twist on it.
Hey guys. 21/m/USA. Parents abandoned me when i was 12. Was raised by a family friend until I was 19 when she passed away. Losing friends to their colleges, careers, moving, and outright disliking me, don't have much family left (not that they associate with me, anyways.) Living on my own, working a full-time shitty job where I'm constantly put down by shitty blue-collar co-workers. I graduated advanced with honors in high school and with college course. Just now finishing my associates 3 years later. No motivation, out of shape, unhappy. Feeling lost and worthless. any advice?
>>16536612
Prove them wrong op. Get fit, keep doing good in school, prove your a better person than the ones in the office. Most of the time self improvement can solve your problems man. Just can't give up and keep pushing.
>>16536612
Whoever that family was who raised you, do it for them. Think about how amazing that was, and help them prove to the world that you are special, becuase thats what they did for you
DO IT OUT OF SPITE
Yeah, pursuing their passions is a good thing, but don't they realise that they are probably romanticising a job too much? A job is not meant to be fun and every job has its own terrible aspects.
Why would a Brit who got top grades in his finals pick Mathematics instead of Medicine? Isn't doing research more stressful than being a doctor? If you have nothing published, you will have no funding. Chances are such a person will struggle to find a full-time, tenured post as almost all unis are hiring a lot of adjunts. At least a doctor has a high income and career stability.
And then there are people who pursued Designing as well instead of Law. Designers have to deal with picky customers - it's not like their jobs are always fun and their income may be unstable depending on the number of clients.
And what about people who switch careers? Why switch from being an engineer to teaching? At least engineers do not have to deal with bratty, out-of-control kids who do not care about their homework. A teaching job is not necessarily better than an engineering job.
Are you the same person who can't understand why people would want to travel?
>>16536543
Yeah, all these people who pursue their passions in their jobs or give up theirs jobs to travel/backpack are irrational!
>>16536549
What are you even talking about
What's the most effective natural birth control? My boyfriend is allergic to latex so we don't use condoms. He just pulls out and it's such a pain. I get anxious whenever he feels like he's about to cum so we just consider pulling it out and finishing it by ourselves.
I also don't want to spend much money on contraceptives so I'm trying to look for better ways to have safe and enjoyable sex.
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>>16536441
>My boyfriend is allergic to latex so we don't use condoms.
You pretty much have to choose between natural condoms and some form of birth control for you. Pulling out is not safe at all.
Lambskin.
Non-latex condoms.
>>16536441
Here you go
http://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/unintendedpregnancy/pdf/contraceptive_methods_508.pdf
I'm an 18 yr old girl and i happen to be talking to my older brother's girlfriend's baby daddy. Is that weird? He says he wants to be with me and stuff but I have my doubts about this all. Any advice?
>>16536433
Don't go for it. If he is the baby daddy of another girl all he wants is sex. He doesn't care about you.
>>16536433
>Is that weird?
Yes. You're just going to end up ruining your relationship with your family. Stop talking to this person, because that is incredibly trashy.
>>16536433
It sounds like he probably wants to piss off his ex. This is an incredibaly weird situation. If its true love then roll with it. But your 18, young, dumb, and soon to be full of cum.
Remember this guy got that girl prego
And remember youd be making your brother REALLY uncomfortable
If you go through with it expect to lose your brother
I need help /adv/
I'm a 22 year old from /r9k/ trying to improve my life. The problem is I have literally 0 experiance with dating/relationships. I lack the flirting gene completely, and my self confidence issues led me to not bother chasing girls at all.
I realize I can't live forever like this and have two dates off tinder lined up, but seriously I'm freaked. I've never been on a date, or even honestly just hung out with a girl alone. I'm a fucking train wreck, how do I fix myself?
>>16536398
>I lack the flirting gene completely
Even if it was genetic and not a culturally thing it would definitely be the result of more than one gene.
>>16536398
it's okay. i havn't got laid in 5 years. i don't know how to even either. your'e not alone robot.
>>16536416
or lack there of.
What does it mean when you dislike children? I mean DISLIKE not HATE, people usually misunderstand the difference. Kids are okay, I guess, I just don't know what I'd do with them. Basically everyone I know would hover around a kid when they see one and pinch their cheeks or w/e. On the other hand, I'm indifferent when they're around. My friends would think that every kid, either it's covered in snot and shit or terribly obese as fuck, they would still think it's cute. My boyfriend absolutely loves children and wants to have one. He also said that...
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>>16536343
Wait your boyfriend wants kids and you don't? Have you told him this?
My little nieces are whip smart and fun to be around. My cousins' kids are lazy undisciplined dummies. Maybe you haven't met any good kids.
Kids aren't for everyone. Talk to your boyfriend about this and let him know you're not interested.
I'm a pharmacist in Australia. Managed to find a job despite the fact that the job market is saturated. What I love is teaching though. I took part in teaching voluntary programs during summer and I really enjoyed them, and I find teaching much more rewarding than my current job as a pharmacist.
Is a career change worth it?
>>16536338
>Is a career change worth it?
Depends on what you mean by 'worth it'.
>>16536358
>Depends on what you mean by 'worth it'.
I don't know where to start with how I define "worth it". Give me something to start with.
Do it by taking night classes.
Never had sex/relations, etc. Saving it for marriage. But when I get excited sometimes ans touch my dick, I lose it.
How did you guys gain that ability to not cum easily?
I would heavily consider not saving yourself before marriage because the obvious major question is, what if you two are not sexually compatible in the least?
Not cumming is all about mental clarity and focus. Of course to practice for this you need to practice jerking off and you don't come off as a person who do that.
>>16536220
>Saving it for marriage.
>>16536232
>>16536234
Oh boy here we go. You should have known not to say that on /adv/, OP.
So I am 21f, with my 23m for 4 years. I have explained to him my preference/ fantasy of him being with another woman sexually for quite a long time. We were successful in him kissing and touching a work friend of mine and a classmate. This was all good, but I wanted more. We resorted to tinder to find hookups, but almost nond went through with anything.
Recently, my SO found a girl on tinder that is basically perfect, but my SO didn't tell her he is in a relationship. Basically she does not want to have sex unless she is in a relationship. My SO asked what we should...
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>>16536159
wow, you two are fucking shit
>>16536161
Thanks!
You're using somebody for sexual gratification. Go fuck yourself.
