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How do I cope with missing out on life/escape hell
>born in upstate NY
>literally hell
>jobs are a 80 mile drive for part time min wage
>no clubs or bars
>went to a bar one time and they were playing country music and some old guy fell down the stairs and the paramedics came to pick him up
>never seen a night club before
>5 hours from the closest amusement...
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>>16542781
military or americorp
also if you live in a place with over 200 people, there has to be work available for you.
worse comes to worst take out a small loan and go to school for a trade
>>16542781
stop posting that you giant turd
>>16542781
Upstate? Move to one fo the 5 boroughs. Brooklyn fag here. Even more expensive out here in the 5 so yeah.
What do you think you owe your parents?
I don't owe them anything. I told them tonight by the time I'm 30 I will take every single penny they've earned from them for treating me how they did for 20 years.
I will not help them at all and the moment I'm finished college they are dead to me, I will never speak or have anything to do with my family the day I graduate, I'll never ever speak to them after that day.
>>16542749
You're such a bad ass op.
>>16542749
You're a real rebel OP, I admire such antiestablishment fellows such as yourself.
I love my parents and I owe them everything. I owe my life to them. I would love to be able to support them when they are old and I'm an adult. I'd want to give them a comfortable life where they don't have to work anymore. I'd love it if they could live with me. And even though the thought right now is scary, I think I want to give them grand kids some day. That would make them so happy.
I recently asked a girl out, and she said yes but was a little hesitant because I didn't seem like a very religious person (because I'm not). She, on the other hand, is a devout Chrisitan. Now I need to find Jesus quick before she calls me out on my shit and ends the relationship. What do I do other than go to church more often?
>>16542712
That's not going to work. Let her find another Christian, and let yourself find another non-religious girl. You will be much happier, more compatible, and have a higher chance of relationship success.
Fuck, some of you guys go through way too much for some pussy.
I mean I'd do a lot for a girl, but pray? Fuck no.
Get out of it now, because it won't work for more than a few dates (which won't lead anywhere caused by the religious background).
Or you could do the Costanza approach of bluffing your way through it, but we all know how that ended.
I've been told to develop interesting interests to be more attractive to potential partners and friends.
I've been thinking of re-learning french.
Is halfway shittily speaking a foreign language an interesting skill?
Not really, because it doesn't leave room for another person. Relationships are built on SHARED experience. Interests are a context for those to happen.
Now if you used French to, say, travel, then it would be a good foundation. But the worthwhile interest there would be travel--the thing you can share--and not "I know French."
>>16542689
So if I can vaguely understand books written in french, I'm still boring and unlikeable?
>>16542685
No, not really.
This guy >>16542689 pretty much summed it up. Sure, it's great that you know french, but being able to play the guitar, or paint, something you guys can SHARE would be wayyyyyyy better.
Hi.
Fucking help me.
I come to you with a problem that I'm lately having a real hard time coping with.
About a year ago I started in college (studying film arts) and about two months later i got together with a coursemate.
Now shes a 9/10 easy, but as I grew to understand, she has some serious mental issues.
So 2015 january is about when it all started. She started getting upset very quickly and would fall into some serious depression and anxiety attacks. There was a period when she was only talking about suicide and i had to be by her side...
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Cont:
Facts:
-Me - 23 Extravert
-Quite confident, cant leave a man behind, love hard work, quite an asshole sometimes.
-She - 20 Introvert
-Together for 1y3w.
-Last doctor said she's probably bipolar.
-She's the best fuck in town.
-She blows me regularly
-She cooks for me regularly
-She loves me more than life
-I can't go to parties alone (cause she cant stand me having fun while shes at home).
-If we're not together then she either talks to me continously on facebook, or makes a phone call (even if the call...
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Sup one of my closest friend is going trough the same thing.
His gf committed suicide 10 years back when she was planning her own and lately just the word father, as in my father told me about this show i should watch, sends her into a mental breakdown.
She told him that he didn't love her anymore/enough last time while he spends all the free time he has trying to make her feel better.
Didn't know what to do in the end too
>>16542720
Ah fuck a typo.
His girlfriends dad committed suicide
Anyone have s y tips for men's skin care/acne? Quick, simple things that can help your skin? Have something adorable for your help.
Put banana peels on your face. I'm not kidding, look it up. Fast and effective method.
>>16542582
pay a little more attention to your skin throughout the day. just like if you wanted whiter teeth, you would try and brush your teeth after every meal rather than just twice a day.
wash face thoroughly once in the morning, once before bed and any time throughout the day after sweating, or feel like your face is getting a bit oily.
i've tried the ol' toothpaste on pimple trick when I felt like one was coming on. sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't, and really irritates the skin.
don't...
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>>16542830
I've no issues for buying anythin, have a budget of about 50 bucks. I am looking t spend as little as possible, but if there are some good products I will buy them. Any suggestions?
Is fast food okay if you otherwise eat healthy?
I work at Mcdonalds at the moment, and due to getting free meals I usually get a crispy salad or nuggets/coleslaw 5 days a week, as well as buying 2 fast food pizzas a week.
Outside of that, I still eat 5+ servings of vegetables and 3+ servings of fruit, and don't drink soft drink or anything like that.
Am I still killing myself from the amount of fast food I consume?
Depends. How much dressing is in that salad and coleslaw? There are generally a million hidden calories in 'healthy' options like that. Nuggets aren't healthy either, and I'm surprised you don't know that. If I was eating fast food 5 days a week already, I sure as fuck wouldn't be buying two pizzas on top of that.
That said, you're probably still eating better than 90% of people your age.
Depends. Ever look at a nutrition label? Everything on there matters.
Right now you've got the serving amounts covered. Great. What about calories? What about macronutrient balance (fat:protein:carb)? What about sodium? Minerals like iron and calcium? Vitamins?
And that's just the chemistry. There's also the biology to consider. Are you feeling satiated by the food you eat, or do you find yourself just getting hungry again later and overeating? Does it give you intestinal distress to eat this food? Does it affect your energy levels?
Fast...
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Seems alright, if you're feeling well.
It depends on what you want to achieve. Do you want to gain weight? Lose weight? Don't care?
You don't have to worry about iron, calcium or vitamins with that diet. Any remotely normal diet works for that. No idea why the other anon mentioned those.
Sodium might be an issue if you gets too much, but that also doesn't really matter unless you have high blood pressure/diabetes.
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Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get...
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(redoing from last thread which got full)
Girls, how would you react if your mutual interest who is over a foot taller than you gave you a hug and you felt his boner press up to your boob? I'm trying to play it off like I had my phone in my pocket but wondering if I should just tell the truth. We're both into each other but no kissing as of yet so I don't want to rush things. Still I'm kinda curious how she might react and just remembering it really turns me on
edit: i got the response about moving things along faster instead of playing games,...
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>>16542443
She knows it was your boner.
Girl anons, I'm asking you this question.
Back in late October I asked this girl out in my class. She said no, and that she's not looking for a romantic relationship right now, and that she wants to be friends. I get that what she meant was that she just didn't want to go out with me and was putting me down lightly. But, just recently, I've noticed her looking at me in class a lot lately and when I look back, she turns away. We still talk and we're still friends, but she's really quiet and shy, so I can't really get a read on her. So, what...
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How to talk to women? and start up conversation in general?
>>16542376
like men, women are a diverse bunch. sure there's some broad strokes, but ultimately, we are all the same, but extremely different from one another.
so when it comes to talking to women, starting a conversation there is no 'one size fits all'. you have to tailor your approach each and every day.
thats why men are called 'pick up artists' not 'pick up scientist'. there is no formula, only talented people who create something entirely new everytime they pick up the...
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>>16542376
Look for a young milf (18-24) that's outside smoking, they're usually open to any type of small talk from my experience
>>16542429
I'm around college girls most of the day and I'm not attractive but here's a pic anyway.
Long story short:
>last semester of university
>got a course called "Professional Practice" on Fridays at night
>gotta practice in a company and make a thesis
>it's bullshit because we study at night and everyone already has a fulltime job
>I already have a fulltime job in a big 4, have had my job for almost 2 fucking years, same scenario with most classmates
>I always...
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>doesn't follow the syllabus
>is surprised when he fails
You're clearly not as smart as you think you are
You ditched the class, you failed the class, now you're upset?
?? You deserve to fail??
Why are more and more men seemingly afraid to approach women now?
It seems that as the years go by, less guys are making the first move. And almost come off like they're devolving into misogyny and bitterness now.
>>16542316
Because of the wave of "feminism" that criminilises men for being bold and brash, classifi=ying it as assault or even "rape"
>>16542316
multiple reasons. part of it is women. not all of it, but women in general play a role.
it used to not be a big deal to ask women out, they'd kindly reject. but now a lot of women are more ballsy. if a guy asks them out they have no problem making fun of him or shooting him down hard, putting him in his place, for whatever reason.
another reason is men. being rejected by women means other men can make fun of you. especially considering we tend to ask people out who are in our social circles,...
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This thread's going to boil down to one answer: it's all women's fault.
If i got my fuckbuddy pregnant but she's adamant she wants to keep it, are there any possible consequences for me personally?
yeah, it's called fatherhood.
>>16542232
No but I mean like, it's not as if were married or some shit
Can I just walk out of her life right now and not worry about it?
Child support. The knowledge that there's a kid out there that you abandoned. The knowledge that you're a degenerate.
I split with my ex almost 2 years ago. I still miss her terribly Not a single day has gone by where I haven't thought of her.
Recently, I really feel the urge to meet up with her. I need to tell her how I feel and find out, once and for all, if there is any chance of a reunion. I know the usual advice is to simply move on and stop deluding myself. But I can't do that. I have to at least tell her how I feel. The question is; how?
We left on good terms but have not seen each other and barely spoken since the day she left. I can't just text or call...
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bumping for much needed /adv/
>>16542187
Bruh,you don't need someone else to make life worthwhile. She's obviously moved on. You should actually give it a try
Anon, I know how you feel. It hurts every day. Eventually I put up a barrier to try to block thinking of her. I know how much you must miss her and how you must wonder what you could've done different, and how you don't want anything more than you want to have her back. But this is a cruel world, anon. I can't stop you from writing her, but I need you to understand what you're doing to yourself. You're reopening a wound, reigniting those feelings full-force if you do this. Any steps you've taken to move on or protect yourself from those feelings...
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4chan - please help me.
My father died 6 days before his 50th birthday, after a week-long coma and it just seems like it never happened --- it was just a bad dream. And now I keep thinking there's just a void after death and we'll all be in that void.
TL;DR -
>dad died
>afraid death is the end of everything
>still can't handle reality.
TIA.
>>16542151
Death is the end, but its a lot better than never dying, magine existing forever, seeing alll you know die before you and existance becoming so boring and a torture. The best bit is that you wont know youre dead when you're dead
>>16542151
it's okay. everything is just going to be okay. just remember that.
Death IS the end anon.
Don't be sad about what's gone, be happy for what you had. It's gonna be hard no matter what. I wish I was dead, your father is in a better place now
Anybody ever have a late start getting into music? I'm in my 20s and I've been wanting to get into music for about three-four years but I don't know much of anything about music theory. I want to at least be functional at making music but I don't think I can even achieve that much at this point, like my brain just can't hack it anymore.
What do you guys think?
>>16542124
It's possible, but it's going to be a lot of work. I'm going to college right now for music, and one of the best guitarists around started just a few years ago. He had no music background in high school, came to be a singer, but that wasn't working out. He stumbled upon guitar, and fell in love. About four years later, he's now in the top jazz band, and getting his master's in jazz pedagogy. Granted, he spent every waking minute of every hour of every day studying and practicing in some...
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>>16542124
I started at 18 with a bass and I wish I had more time now and practiced more in the past.
If you have time, go on. Is the best thing in the world, except for reading.
>>16542124
I say start where five year olds start - learn to read music.
Older people tend to try and learn to play by ear, that is why they usually never get anywhere with music.
