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Anyone here a Dr or a programmer?
I am 19 about to drop out of community college to save up some money for a car and my own place.
I am married so I can no longer live with my mother.
I find huge interest in the medical field but I also like technology and detective type stuff. I wanted to seek becoming a Dr but I do not know if I have the brains for it.
Can any Dr's or successful anon's give me some output?
become a cop, suck a lot of dick and look good for 3 years, become a murder police
there now your detectin
>>16546775
what the fuck
>>16546767
OP
if you go doctor then becoming Forensic Pathologist would be great
OK /adv/isors. It's been a long time, but I'm desperate for help.
I've been at college for a few months now, and things have been going sub-par. My grades are fine, my residence hall is good. I'm not suicidal. That's not the problem. The problem is women.
Particularly this one, however, and here's why: Let's call her Jane for the sake of the thread. Jane and I have known each other for about three years now, and she's probably one of my best friends. Her and I were two of the smartest people at our high school, and both social...
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>>16546760
Ask her on a date?
There are very few desires I have in this world above her. She embodies almost everything I value in a woman: character, quirkyness, intelligence, assertiveness, beauty. All of it. Hell, my other friends have put pressure on me, saying that she's smoking hot (which she is.)
But another issue is that most of my friends are in relationships, and also actively pressure me to try and find a girlfriend. My parents are even worse. My dad puts pressure on me to party it up and fuck everything on two legs that doesn't look like shit, while my mother seems to want me...
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>>16546764
My issue is that my anxiety levels are through the roof when it comes to women. I've never been in a real, "normal" relationship. (technically had one that I don't talk about, was very short, fortunately). I have not idea what to say, and I always feel like I'm fucking up everything I do.
I don't want to fuck up my friendship with Jane, but I simply can't go on shoving it into a dark corner of my soul.
Guys, i'm starting to get really pissed off with myself. I always have this feeling of "guilt" continuously. Whenever I go into a fucking store, i'm always thinking that Loss Prevention is watching me on cameras, when I walk out i'm always thinking that the door alarms will go off. When I travel on a train or go to the airport and get screened, I always worry. Yet I don't do anything wrong. I just have this in my head like i'm guilty, of nothing. Just a hour ago, I got pulled over by a Sheriff Deputy. It was just a courtesy stop because my...
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>>16546754
Do you get out of your house/apartment a lot? Sounds like a self-esteem problem, you need more social interaction dude.
>>16546761
Just when i work. Which is weird, because I do Armed Security for work. And I'm always around tons of people. But i feel comfortable on the job.
Its like, only when I'm not at work. But no, when I'm off i usually just sit on 4chan and watch Cops. occasionally i'll see some friends maybe once every 2 weeks or so.
>>16546771
Get out more, try to find a hobby that keeps you outside of the house, or even start using the gym.
You need to talk to people, stop fearing others.
If you're going to kill yourself is it better to try and slowly kill off any friendships?
Should you just do it out of nowhere or should you tell someone so they get to talk to you one last time?
Is leaving a note a bad idea?
>>16546728
You don't want to kill yourself. There is no turning back. Start up again and renew your mind. Don't fear making bad choices because you will learn from them (excluding suicide of course). Do you want to talk about what´s wrong anon? Why do you want to kill yourself?
>slowly kill off friendships or not
They'll realize after you off yourself that you killed the friendships because you were going to off yourself so it's just causing more pain than you need to.
>do it out of nowhere or tell someone
There's no real way to get someone that cares about you to accept that you're going to kill yourself. No matter how rationally you present yourself it won't be good enough.
>leave a note or not
Do it. The last thing you...
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>>16546762
>you dont want to kill yourself
Fuck off
If they have the will and the want fucking let them
How does one man up?
First off, stop using gender specific terms, we're living in 2015. Easiest way to feel better about yourself, get out and jog, rest will follow
>>16546708
Okay how does one human the fuck up?
Hello anons
I have a small problem, want your perspectives if you would be so kind.
Started work at a new place, all was well, then a new supervisor arrived, and I work underneath him.
Problem is, He is a giant cunt faggot hole, he is constantly belittling and intimidating the male staff, while carrying out light sexual abuse on the female staff.
Logic obviously does not work, when I correct his bullshit it goes right over his head, and continues to claim whatever it is he is babbling.
Its got to the point where I have to go take a moment...
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>>16546668
feel like this is me but I typically apologize in my head and expect people to hear it, maybe i'd categorize better under schizotypal-oid.
>>16546674
OPhere
You apologise in your head so you cant be that bad.
but nobody likes you. sorry.
1. Get the women he's committing this sexual assault on together and put together a complaint to his superiors or a lawsuit if you have the time and money.
OR
2. Recognize that sometimes you just have to eat shit from your superiors. Don't worry about what he says, don't try to correct him, just do your job so you keep getting paid. He can only get under your skin if you let him.
Hey guys, I've been thinking about getting contacts, but I'm not sure. Should I? What are your experiences with contacts?
Don't do it unless you want your vision to get even worse through a fucking eye infection.
I love wearing contacts. Everyone's experience varies however. You can't really know how yours will be until you give it a try. If you have the money, get examined/fitted and buy a small quantity. You can order more if it goes well.
>>16546614
I've never had them, but my boyfriend has. He prefers the convenience and ease of glasses
Anyone have any experience with the "casual encounters" section of craigslist?
I haven't had sex in years and I can't afford to/am uncomfortable with hiring a prostitute.
Any decent looking girls? Obviously I don't expect to find a 10/10 model in a place like that, but something better than a literal ogre is preferable.
How to reply and not sound creepy (as though the whole thing weren't creepy in itself)? How to act during a meetup? Etc etc.
Any craigslist meetup info appreciated.
Just use Tinder man
>>16546587
Nobody would swipe right on me
>>16546591
what makes you think craigslist girls will want to sleep with you then?
I've never been able to get over the only 'relationship' I ever had, which was with my friend's ex. We were never a couple and I knew that, but we'd been close friends for more than a year, were sleeping with each other, hanging out all the time, and had plans to carry on doing all of those things. Then she met someone she liked better and started sleeping with him. When I told her how hurt I was, she pretty much told me that we'd never been anything more than casual and she'd never had feelings for me. We went back to being the 'just...
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>>16546514
>dating a friends ex
You deserve all of the pain you got from this bitch.
>>16546531
Yeah I know that was stupid of me. As I say, this is the closest I'd ever come to a relationship, and I never knew what the pain of a breakup was really like. Ironically enough, she actually started sleeping with him again a few months after ending it with me (although it was just temporary, and she's been with a new guy for over a year now), so I guess I got what I deserved there. If I'd have known what it feels like to watch someone you still have feelings for with someone else, particularly one...
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>>16546514
i'm not sure where you're confused. she was honest with you? she never had feelings for you and never wanted the relationship to progress past what it was. she obviously enjoyed your company, hence being your friend and having any kind of relationship with you. sounds like you were just an interim for her.
and it sounds like that's not good enough. you want this woman to have had feelings for you at some point. you want her to miss you, too. and i'm sorry to say that just isn't going...
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Whenever I shave, my facial hair is always still kind of noticeable, and I don't know if this because the disposable razors I'm using are low quality, or if it's just because I'm pale as fuck and it stands out.
I don't know too much about shaving, so I thought I'd ask if anyone could recommend any types or brands of razors that would give a smooth shave, as well as just advice on how to shave well.
>>16546502
You always get a small shadow, that's just the way it is. However you should use something else than shitty one time use razors.
learn to shave better and try different razors till you find one you like that aint super cheap
ive notcied the cheap ones make shaving harder or something
>>16546517
>>16546507
Any kind you think I should start with?
How do I get girls to like me? I'm 21 and in college.
The girls at work seem to like me a lot but all the good looking ones have boyfs. Girls at college are hard to make friends with, they all seem so mean.
>Girls at college are hard to make friends with, they all seem so mean.
Maybe you're too sensitive and they're just fucking around.
>>16546474
Date a ugly duckling.
>>16546492
Nah I can take jokes and harsh words. It just seems like they all have this aloof standoffish attitude. Like I'm a threat or an annoyance.
>>16546494
Thought about it. I'd be down to date a girl with a wonky face or weird style if she was cool. Unfortunately the only girls that throw themselves at me are fat and I just can't make it work with fat chicks.
How do I get better at Chess? No matter what I do, I get beaten by practically everybody. Even when I do everything right, the opponent still has something up his sleeve.
>>16546444
Study plays.
>>16546489
Well I do that, I see my blunder and I think to myself "I'll try not to do that again"
Next thing I know, I'm still losing.
>>16546444
Let's start with a lesson, what do you already know and where have you gone to learn more?
>stopped fapping to improve sexual performance and ejoyment
>used to fap daily
>went for a few weeks, sex life improved notably
>just broke the streak and fapped
>came hard in under five minutes
>feel like shit
>feel like I've betrayed my SO
>promised to self not to do it anymore
>as I'm...
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In what way did it improve your sex life?
>>16546291
came harder with them, felt hornier more often, got more adventurous, went for round 2 and 3
>>16546277
Do it. Or you're a faggot, actually never mind OP is always a fag.
How can avoid feeling bad because of my age?
I'll be fairly old next year (24) and I'll still be in college, since I have stayed away from it for personal reasons. I have plans to finish next year, but I feel awkward since many people I know are now years ahead and working there, while I still be graduating next year (if I'm lucky).
When I think of the shame of seeing many teachers again, while I am taking basic courses I should have taken years ago, I feel I just want to drop it and forget about it. I'm not going to do that, but still, I feel...
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>>16546266
I'll be 24 when I finish too, but that's not unusual for what I'm doing. That said, I have friends who are much older, and honestly, it's not that bad. Your options are to keep going, or drop out and be even more of a 'loser' - you can't change what's already happened. The former is obviously preferable.
>>16546266
>but that's not unusual for what I'm doing
What do you do?
>>16546305
I'm a law student. Where I live, law is an undergrad degree so it can done in 4 years, but most people do another degree alongside it, which adds another year or two, so people are 23/24 when they finish, assuming they started at 18. I've just finished my other degree, and I have a year of law left.
I'm in my late teens, living with my parents, and there is nothing i like to do. I mostly shitpost, browse reddit and play vidya to kill time, but none of it makes me happy. It's just an effective way to kill time.
I feel no desire to go to uni even though i could, i feel no desire to play a sport even though i could be decently competitive in a few of them, i feel no desire to play music even though i'm a decent bass player. How do i make myself give a fuck?
>>16546214
You don't, you just suffer more and more until, hopefully, you realize it's your lack of action that is making you miserable, and you start making a change, being willing to sacrifice some short term escapism for a gain in reality.
Or you can wind up on /r9k/ never-never land and stay a child forever
Don't use the internet for a week
How about not giving about not giving a fuck?
Would you say you are complacent, bored, looking for something to do?
You don't need constant stimulus all the time. You can be perfectly fine with doing nothing.
