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There were some sanitary napkins with notes on them hanging in my school today. The notes said: "imagine if men were as disgusted with rape as they are with periods". gonna get my revenge soon! Any advice on what I should do?
but periodblood is one of my fetishes!!!
Girl here. What is this supposed to accomplish? You aren't supposed to talk about periods, you know, openly. At the most, upon seeing it, I'd probably cringe and continue walking, or look at it and do nothing.
>>16545624
Frats and sororities are the worst. They put balloons around campus promoting this same shit over and over again.
Does anyone like "creepy" looking people or am I going to be forced to ACTUALLY rape someone for love? (Rather not if I can avoid it)
You can't rape someone "for love".
If you just want to have sex without effort, consider a prostitute.
If you actually want love, you'll have to find someone you love and who loves you back, which isn't about looks.
>>16545609
Oh ok that makes sense
My ex loved dirty looking guys that looked like hobos, not kidding like real fucking hobos.
"Whoever does not work does not eat" - is this statement true or is it a quote from the Bible taken seriously? Must we always feel under pressure for our safety? Are we not free?
If you want to eat you need to give something in exchange
For example, working, donating, doing something for charity. The key is not being a lazy ass.
Opus dei take this seriously and work big jobs and never stops because that dignifies them in their eyes to god. Take it was you want.
Is not about being free or feeling under pressure, is doing something to get it, if you want free food make your own garden, it still takes work. But you have to make something in order to obtain something
> Must we always feel under pressure for our safety
Yes that is life.
I think one of the biggest dangers the human race faces today is becoming dependent on hand outs. They would die as they have no clue how to take care of themselves. I struggle everyday and work twelve hours 6-7 days a week to give my family a good life and sustenance.
If I was a lazy piece of shit they'd either leave or starve whichever comes first.
I refuse help from the government as it's my responsibility to care of myself and my family. I'm a fucking adult, and I can take care of myself and my family just fine without handouts.
I am not a Christian but I do agree with this bible verse.
I need to know if I am wrong here.
Last week I was pmsing really bad, it's usually really painful but sometimes you can also get unbearably horny, most of my friends also say this is true for them. Im on my vacation already so Ive just been staying at home all day and doing pretty much nothing while my husband works. Around thursday last week I got really, really and uncontrollably horny to the point my whole body started sweating and everything. Ive called him at work and he said he didnt have time to play, which got me a little irritated.
I wanted to do something so I posted a pic similar to pic related on snapchat in my bed with the caption "come play" and within five minutes there were like ten guys sending me nudes. Ive talked to two of them and sent them pictures and videos back. Ive sent them everything and there were a few screenshots. Now it seems my mind has cleared and Im regretting it and Im worried about the consequences not only of what I did but the screenshots. Everyone knows Im married.
Im feeling really regretful ever since yesterday and Ive been having panic attacks thinking about what might happen. It was literally uncontrollable hormones. What do I do?
Tell your husband and hope for the best
>>16545486
> Ive just been staying at home all day and doing pretty much nothing
> while my husband works
> It was literally uncontrollable hormones. What do I do?
Women as we know them. Always blaming someone/something else.
Protipp: Your inner whore wants to be released.
You're a whore and you should tell your poor husband so he can leave you and get a woman he deserves.
Whore!
>>16545486
Eh, as long as you weren't actually fucking anyone else I wouldn't give a shit. But then again I like sluts.
Summary: If I am the dad, I know what I have to do. I'm not trying to get out of it, but I'm not sure it's mine. Baby isn't born yet and I haven't even replied to her yet. I just found out yesterday. To be honest, she is kind of crazy but was a good lay, so I'm not ruling out this being made up as she lacks providing me with real information.
Long story:
Dated a girl for like 2 months. Lots of sex. Anyway, the last date we had sex was July 3, 2015.
I get an email the other day saying she's preggo and due in April. She didn't say which day in april. She sent two messages a week apart, the same text except one of them had this line of text, "you don't have to respond, i just want you to know to be fair".
Never did she say anything about me replying to sort it out or anything, or deciding what to do.
I ran a calculator (i know it's not exact) and chances are she was either telling the truth or used a calculator herself to make up a lie.
http://www.baby2see.com/conception_calculator.html#ConceptionCalculator
First Day of Last Menstrual Period: June 26, 2015
Probable Date of Ovulation: July 10, 2015
Possible Dates of Conception: July 6 to July 14, 2015
Due Date: April 1, 2016 (40 weeks)
That's assuming she meant April 1.
Due April 8th and onwards and the chances are slimmer it was even me:
First Day of Last Menstrual Period: July 3, 2015
Probable Date of Ovulation: July 17, 2015
Possible Dates of Conception: July 13 to July 21, 2015
Due Date: April 8, 2016 (40 weeks)
I think it's likely she had one nighters after me, but I'm not for certain.
The real answer is I have to take a paternity test once baby arrives, if this is true.
What is your opinion on this information, besides, OP you idiot, go sort it out and find out?
The reason I think she's crazy is she's OD on pain killers before and ended up in the hospital after I broke up with her.
Should I wait for REAL contact from a law firm / court?
OP Here:
She doesn't have my new number, I don't think she knows my address, but has been to my house and all my emails from her go to my deleted folder. She hasn't gone really out of her way to contact me besides these two emails.
>>16545448
What you should do is all based on whether or not you even like her. Clearly you already broke up, so I'm assuming you don't. So assuming you don't like her and want to be with her, I would just tell her that you would support her and would like a paternity test. If the baby turns out to be yours, you are already in good standing by showing support before hand. If the baby isn't yours, fucking bye falicia and you're out. The only negative thing I can think of by supporting her is having to listen to her bitch every once in a while during the pregnancy. But just saying fuck you, it ain't mine and leaving isnt smart at all because eventually you will be contacted by a lawyer or some shit and you will be out alot of money
Run away nigga.
Srsly just assume it's not your dude.
Your in for a life of shit and misery if you let this cunt into your life.
Maybe you can avoid her until the kid is older (if it's yours that is which I doubt for your sake)
Also next time just jack off you fag.
The good associated with how good raw sex feels is overshadowed by the risk.
Every time you see some hot psycho bitch your attracted to wait till you get home and load up a pornographic site.
If you can start cappin to 2D as eventually you will find 3D not as attractive (it works trust me.)
Good luck bro, stop thinking with your dick. It can and will be the death of you.
Vaginas are evil money and life sucking black holes of despair.
Wasn't sure where else to post this, but sorry in advance if this isn't a good place. I wanted to post somewhere anonymously where, since I'll get judged, I won't get recognized.
I'll make this short and sweet and to the point as possible. I've been on 4chan since about the third month its been around, but I stopped visiting about five years ago when things here started to get really bad. Had a lot of family issues as well, which is partially why I'm making this thread.
Back in about 2000, my wife left me and our daughter behind for another guy. Don't know the guy at all, but he's a lot older than me, and I guess she'd been cheating on me with him for awhile, not sure how long. But he's the CEO of a company (won't name it) and makes a fair amount more than me. I met my now ex-wife when I was about 14, we had our daughter at 16. I am now 33. (switching numbers around a bit here so I'm not as easily identified) and my daughter is just about to turn 17.
Sorry, I'm droning on too long. Really anxious about all this and I have no idea who to turn to without getting my daughter taken away from me or being accused of molesting her or something.
This is going to sound like a really shitty porno or fantasy or whatever, but I'm not making any of it up and I don't want to have anything to do with it and I don't know what to do. But I woke up to my daughter essentially jerking me off. I'm a really heavy sleeper and I almost felt like I was going to blow my load, so when I woke up I thought I was having a wet dream at first, but then I look down and my daughter's under the covers with me. I freaked the fuck out and yelled at her and she's at school now and I don't know what the fuck to do.
I would say this came out of nowhere, but I'm putting two and two together and I've noticed for the past few months I've bumped into her way too often while I was trying to get changed or coming out of the shower. Sorry if anyone thinks this is a troll, seriously not sure what to do.
>>16545345
oh jesus christ, this has got to be bait
>>16545345
this cannot be serious
>>16545345
Be a man for once in your fucking life and talk to her about how it isn't right to jerk off your dad. Move on.
>>thread
>Tell parents I'm moving out
>Going to make it on my own
>Ask where I'm going
>Refuse to tell them
>Freak out
>They say they're entitled to know where they're child is going
I know it's normal for parents to be concerned for their kid and stuff, but I don't like people knowing my business nor do I feel my parents are entitled to know my business. I like to do things my way and not have people guilt me into or out of decisions.
However, I'm a bit torn. I live under the premise that nobody owes anyone anything. Nobody is entitled to anything. My parents didn't conceive me for my behalf. They did it for themselves. I'm not saying I'm not grateful, I am. I am only anything because of them. However, if I had a child, I don't believe I'd think he owed me for his conception or me taking care of him. I don't think "anyone" owes me for anything I do, even if I believe it's for them.
I think people, parents, everyone attach strings to the things they do. I'm not buying into that shit.
I feel a bit bad since they're my parents, but I don't feel in debt to them. I feel grateful, not in debt.
A lot of my friends seem to disagree. They say I do owe them. Can someone explain this? I mean I understand the idea, but maybe there is something I'm missing.
There is an expectation that I will take over the family business, be the bread winner. Not necessary to "support" the family, but to be the future of our family lineage. I did not agree to this. This is the expectation based on my birth, being well off, being relatively capable of handling family affairs. I let them know that if I'm to do this, I'll do it my own way. I'd do a lot of drastic things, but nothing financially foolish.
I owe them a legacy? My privacy? Making money? Being successful? Having kids?
I already know my answer, I don't. I'm just looking for some outside insight; agree or disagree.
>>16545255
its not really about oweing anyone anything, its implied that you want to break contact with them, regardless how you feel about them they still raised you
>>16545267
If I don't, they'll contact me and slowly grind away at me. I know it's in good intention, but they'll about my future, the family business, having kids, holiday gatherings(which we'll be talking about my future, business, having kids), etc etc etc.
These are things I'm morally against. I want to adopt a kid. They aren't cool with that.
If I take over the family business, I want to do it my way asap. I don't want to be stuck in a position of weakness and slowly grind my way up the ladder and finally be free to do what I please when I'm 60.
>>16545278
if thats the case then make it clear to them that you want your own space away from them, that you will end up adopting and it has nothing to do with their principles
Me and my fiance, who is 11 years older than me, have agreed to a prenup before we get married. I'm much younger and a student with no income, whereas he owns two companies, a house worth ~$400k, and 3 very nice BMWs, etc etc.
I thought it was common sense that we'd sign one and I'd have worried if he hadn't of brought it up. It was just something I always assumed we'd do because it's smart on his part and I don't date idiots. He also has slight trust issues because his brother, who he had made his business partner, royally screwed him over.
The only issues is, when I read the prenup, it said that if I signed, I'd be waiving my right to spousal support. Hypothetically, if we were married and he started cheating on me, if I wanted a divorce because of that I'd be completely on my own, with only our divided marital property, and my small income that I had garnered working for him (plus in the event of a divorce I'd no longer be working for him and have any income). No alimony payments on his part. Is this even legal? Would this prenup even stand in court? I am currently 8 months pregnant, and as soon as we sign this thing we are getting courthouse hitched (my family is very traditional and would disinherit me if we had a child out of wedlock).
I mean isn't the law super accommodating for women? I'm 11 years younger (21), 8 months pregnant, and a full-time student. Wouldn't those factors alone be enough to throw out a prenup in court? All I'd have to say is that I was under duress/pressure, right?
Don't misunderstand, I love this man dearly and would never be unfaithful, and would always try and work things out before considering a divorce, especially since we have a child, but I'm just making sure my ass is protected in case he turns out to be a cheater. I've been cheated on by all my exes and it's just something I won't stand for. P.S. I plan to stay in great shape, give him sex whenever he wants it, etc.
Don't worry you can still legally stick your grubby hands in his pocket and take the money he's earned.
Hopefully he'll learn next time to not marry.
What a great marriage you will have. You haven't even sealed the deal and you're planning extensively to see if you can fuck him over when you had agreed in the first place to have a prenup with him.
>>16545249
lol I feel like guys with that attitude are the ones that shouldn't marry. He's Russian and believes that men are the bread-earners, and that women stay pretty and sexy, cook, clean, and have babies. Which I'm totally fine with, but all that stuff is a full-time job, too. So it's not like I'm just sitting around the house getting fat and spending his money.
I dance in my spare time to stay fit and learn languages for fun. I always keep a positive attitude even when I'm having a bad day just to lift him up, and love to give him massages, cut his nails, etc.
basically treat him like a king and enhance the overall quality of his life, make sure he always comes home to a perfectly clean home with a delicious meal prepared, myself dressed and makeup/hair done tastefully even if nobody else were to see me that day, etc etc, etc.
That is how I justify my legal entitlement to his money. I want him to be able to protect his premarital assets, but if I give and give and he takes me for granted then I do believe he should not go without punishment, and I also believe I should be able to maintain a similar standard of living. Like, I do nothing wrong, then suddenly I have to be a single mother in a crappy apartment looking for shitty job because I was forced to downgrade schools and raise children instead of getting work experience?
I had an awesome linguistics internship opportunity in Washington this past summer and I gave it up because it was far from him, and he couldn't go without seeing me for 3 months (prob read: would have fucked around).
I also go to a top tier university and will have to downgrade to community college-level university because it's the only school near his house. Give and take.
general question for all comers, i'd love to hear lots of different answers--
how do you not get attached? do you have a particular method?
i ask because although i'm a confident person with my own stuff going on, i'm pretty sure i get attached quickly (friends / romantic partners / whoever) when i like a person and i worry about pushing them away because of it.
By not being a little bitch
JOHN CEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEENAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
>>16545159
Realising that people are not that essential to your happiness, i dont need friends to get my doctorate or get that job, friends and relatiosnhips are just a nice way to relax after work or have some fun, you cant just have the good without any bad
I didn't choose to not become attached. I think I just eventually shut it off subconsciously. Definitely not a conscious decision I would make.
I've moved a lot. That may have something to do with it.
I'll keep this short. I need some input as to what /adv/ thinks about this situation.
Gf and I dating for a few months, and the ex bf bans me from seeing "their" kid knowing that means I can't see her.
The entire time we were friends and started dating he would do petty shit to express his dislike of her hanging out with me b/c he has his own issues and fucked up their relationship. He cheated on her, lied to her constantly, treated her like shit, and refused to do even the simplest task to help raise his child.
Until 6-8 months ago he wouldn't even watch her or pick her up unless she (gf) made him do it. It was that bad. Even now, she has to tell him how to parent properly, make him come get her, and has to beg him not to drop her off early when he has her. Being a single parent is hard and wanting a whole 48 hours to relax is needed at times.
Gf and I have depression, just fyi.
Anyway. She and I are dating, things were going great, then she got scared she was getting too attached so she grew distant. We had a fight, and in the heat of the moment and during a bout of depression. I yelled at her and said something I'll regret until I die. After she cut herself, and I thought tried to kill herself I threatened her. Her daughter was present during everything (2yo).
She took a nap as she was sick and depressed. I watched her daughter and we played for about 5 hours. After she awoke, and awkwardness we talked about the situation, and she expressed her fears.
She told her ex about the situation and he said that we needed time apart so she could think, and that he didn't want me around their daughter until she thought that i was safe to be around.
Over the next weeks or so we talked about the situation, and I expressed my sincere apology for the situation. She stated that I am a great parent (her words), and that she wants things to work, but cannot because the ex said I'm not allowed to see "his daughter".
I do have a daughter in a different state, whom I had to move away from for work, and miss every day. That situation was mutual, and I still see her on skype, and plan on visiting often. Her mom and I are great friends, but were not good together in a relationship.
The gf(?) at this point wants to have things work out with me. We both get along well, I get along great with her daughter and I'm a good parent (her words). However, despite hating her ex, thinking he's a horrible parent, etc, he has told her he doesn't want me to see his daughter.
The gf(?) stated that she couldn't have a relationship with someone who can't be around her daughter. She thinks that magically in a month or two he'll retract that statement, and all will be good. All the while, she comes over when sick for snuggles, we hang out when her daughter is with her dad and babysat, we talk on the phone (with her daughter present who expresses missing me, and crying about it), we even skype until she falls asleep at night. We talk constantly.
The gf wants all of the perks of being in a relationship, and expresses missing me. Feeling empty without me, and feels depressed because I'm not around. I feel the same. I love, and I'm in love with her. She feels the same, and that's evident. She's given me another chance from my screw up so I can prove my worth as a man.
However, we're both as a loss for how to proceed. What do you suggest?
There is no court involved in this: they never went to court for separation or custody since they weren't married, and the dad wanted nothing to do with either of them when they split.
With that said, she wants to stay on good terms with the dad as she fears he'll hurt himself. (she stuck with him for 3 years because the last almost two years she thought he was going to kill himself. As he's cut himself often, severely, and tried to kill himself) Realistically, he's more of a danger to her than i am imo. Someone that unstable doesn't need to be around their child. That's why I went off when the gf cut herself with her daughter around. Yes, they both have some SERIOUS issues they need to work through. However, I signed up to deal with her past bs, and help with that. Not deal with his shit.
It's cool that your fucking the mom and all but fuck off that's not your kid.
Stop being a pappy to something that isn't yours.
How about you worry about your own daughter you cunt, try and do more than just skyping her involve yourself in her life and don't just replace her.
I have a son myself and if I had some nigga trying to act like he's my sons replacement father if me and my wife split id have a serious talk to that guy about it. If he couldn't respect that it would escalate from that point.
Take care of your own god damn child OP.
I want to kill myself. I'm so dreadfully unhappy with my life and I feel like such a fucking failure that I don't belong on this earth. I can't seem to do anything right and I'm just a pathetic mess of anxiety and self-loathing all the time. All I seem to do is make people angry and annoyed at my existence. I can't conceive of ever being able to become a functioning member of society anymore because of how alienated I feel from it. Everything just feels fucking impossible. There's only so many times you can keep yourself deluded with "it's going to get better" until you realise it's not. I literally feel like a blight on this earth. A useless waste of oxygen that fails at life.
I don't even know if I have a question but I needed to type that out so at least someone knows how I've feel before I end it.
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>>16545136
>>16546203
Wow, /adv/.
To op, I've been through that, believe me. The issue is, you can't afford to lose the chance for your life to become good in the future. I'm 30 and I only recently met a beautiful (girl?woman? She's 29) that I love with all my hearth. In the shittiest moment of my life, when even waking up was painfil, when I was too coward to even put a bullet through my head, she appeared out of nowhere and made me live again.
Do you want to give up on that possibly happening? No
Live
This isn't a whining-about-no-gf post, so I'll nip that misconception in the bud. It's more a curiosity / explanation thing. I get hit on by guys 2-3 more times than I get hit on by girls. My gay friend spent tonight completely unsolicitedly telling me that he thinks I'm really attractive, doesn't understand why I dont have a gf, and that he wishes his boyfriend was good looking like me (I am not making this shit up). I couldn't care less about guys finding me attractive; I'm not homophobic and I take it as a compliment. But why do I find it so hard to attract women in comparison?
>>16545106
You probably look gay then
Because women are passive. They will naturally hit on you less.
>>16545110
How does someone "Look gay"? Some of my gay mates are really effeninate, some are fucking bears. Some of my straight mates are waifish with long hair and high voices. Some of my straight mates look like fucking bears. There's no net change either way.
Am I baldin?
Your hair looks thin in general. Could be that your hair is just thin anyway. Or you're malnourished, which causes hair loss over the entire head. Male patterned baldness is usually localised on top of your head or at receding hairlines.
Talk to your doctor.
I've been taking finasteride for 82 days now. Over the past few weeks I've experienced a rapid decline in hair loss. Try it if your doctor thinks i would help! I feel much better now after the hair loss stopped.
Rogain works, but it takes a while to start seeing results, and your hair may thin more before new groth occurs. It's also expensive. Best thing is keep your hair medium short, and find a style that works for you.
>>16545269
Nah it fell flat around 2 months ago and then it started to recede my temples were fuller. The only thing I lack is sleep since I work night shifts and mostly get 3-5 hours or no hours of sleep all month long. Here's the thing though the back of my head is completely in tact and not thinning at all. Everywhere else is thinning though including sides. General would be all over including the back right? My scalp is also sore/achy on touch since this started happening and keeps itching like mad.
I already have some FIN on hand since this keeps getting worse but man I'm afraid this shit is gonna give me brain fog depression and liver failure. You've been on it for 82 days so how is it?
>Go to a bar for the first time
>The place is earsplittingly loud
>Wait 20 minutes in a queue for a drink
>Tastes like 10% beer and 90% water
>Spend another 15 minutes finding a table to stand at
>Can't hear the person standing 30cm in front of me
>Have to shout in their face for them to hear me
>DJ is playing shitty dubstep
>End up watching the simpsons episode that's playing in a store across the street
I'm sorry but how do people enjoy this? What is the secret?
idk go to Another Place or maybe sit down somewhere in the park and drink for yourself and smoke i usllay enyoj that
How the fuck do you talk to girls in a place like this?
>>16545036
"HEY WANT A DRINK?"
Last weekend me and my sister went out with some friends. We both got really drunk and high. One of our friends must have brought us back. Not really sure I pretty much blacked out. When we woke up we were both in my bed and it was pretty obvious we had sex.
We haven't talked since Sunday and I'm not sure how to approach the topic or even what to say to her.
Can I get some input on this?
safe mate
Holy shit OP.
That's heavy shit.
Xmas dinner is gonna be pretty awkward eh?
>you fucked your sister
