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By the end of my relationship i got some dark bumps on the base of my shaft.
I'm pretty sure they might be warts. I'll get them checked in a week or two.
My question is, i had a bad breakup with that girl. Pretty shit one. I was madly in love, and she also talked about being so in love etc and i knew she was, but she was quite drama and last months were horrible. She would fight all the time. She broke up by provoking fight after fight till i said something not very nice and use that to break up.
Anyways, i noticed these bumps last two weeks with her. Been together for a year. Hadn't touched any other girl half year before being with her.
On the other hand i hadn't ever thought she could have cheated or anything. And i still 99 % don't think so ... Gut feeling.
But at the same time it eats me thinking about it and i don't know that to say to her, or if i even should or am i just writing to get a reaction from her?
Once i get it confirmed, if it's ANY kind of STD. Should i say:
1-nothing. Get it fixed and never think of it again.
2-tell her what i got and tell her to get checked as well . That's it "hey, i noticed i got blabla, and the doctor says it's blabla. You should check with your doctor too "
If she didn't cheat she might think i did. If she did she will wonder if i think she did?
3-indirectly suggest it but dont accuse. Maybe something like: "hey, last weeks with you i noticed i had blabla, but couldn't check them till now. I hadn't been with any girl but you for the past year and a half until you broke up. I'm not going to ask how i got them, just letting you know you should get checked"
4-accuse directly, but don't think i should
5-??? Any better ideas?
You are legally required to tell past sex partners about your STD diagnosis.
>>16551306
First of all, warts are caused by HPV which is a virus and can lie dormant for years, can pass asymptomatically, and can crop up at any time, is one of the most common STDs, and nearly everyone can or does get infected at some point in their life. It often resolves without treatment though it can cause complications, such as reproductive organ damage, so I wouldn't just wait it out.
I'd get it checked out sooner than later, let her know the diagnosis with no accusation, suggestions for action, or excuses. She doesn't owe you an explanation. Also, it's a common courtesy to let someone you're fucking know if you have some weird shit on your junk rather than keep it to yourself and continue to bone them, just for future reference.
>>16551424
It can be, but it normally appears within 2 weeks -months.
I'm not having sex with anyone till this gets checked and resolved.
I broke up with her half year ago, will get checked pretty soon.
And you're right.. I should just tell her and that's it. But something in my wants to find out if there was something else. Also, in her culture they're quite ignorant of sex ed. I might get accused myself.
Surprise!! You're having a baby (or your partner is)
You have to choose one male and one female name. What do you choose?
>>16551279
Burton
Minerva
>Xavier
>Eleanor
Moonbeam and Noh
So, tomorrow is my last day of my first semester in college. I have been doing my best in school, and honestly, I am not a good student, i'm average at best, at worst, a C or D student. My family wants me to do my best,and I do, but I found out today I may have failed one of my classes. Tomorrow I have my final for my history class, and I am failing that class too. And for my English class, maybe, but let's just say I did fail English as well.
I have failed three out of my four classes. I am on financial aid,and after tomorrows exam, I am afraid to come home to my family. I am not the only one who has been to college. My older brother has and finished school, his graduation in next week. My cousin is also finishing up school and this Saturday is his graduation. I am the youngest children here who is attending college and I pretty much failed my first semester. My older brother and cousin never failed any of their classes.
I'm afraid /adv/. I'm having trouble breathing, knowing I failed. My family isn't well off, we're middle class, but because of my financial aid, I know we're going to have to pay back all the money I wasted for those three classes. Maybe two incase I pass English. My family expects great things from me, and seeing how my brother is, he's way better off then I am. He is better in almost every single way possible. I'm just the fuck up child in the family. At 18, I have managed to already fuck up my start to college and now will face the consequences. I'm not telling my family until tomorrow about any of this. I'm considering not coming home tomorrow either, until maybe 8 or 9 at night. I don't want to disappoint my family any more, and yet I already have.
This isn't a "i'm gonna kill myself" thread, I need help. What do I do ? Are things going to get better for me? Am I just a fuck up? Please, help. Help.
College isn't for everyone. It doesn't sound like it's for you
Many of my friends who flunked out of college became successful businessmen (and one businesswoman). It's a mindset thing.
>>16551138
Am I a failure then?
I am going to die a virgin, I am okay with this.
My family is not.
How do i get them to accept this?
Because saying you'll die a virgin is silly.
>>16551075
Tell them you're not a virgin. Or find a girl who will settle for you.
>>16551075
unless you've got 6 months to live, there is no feasible way you will die a virgin
Hey, /adv/! What are some good gift ideas to give to a romantic guy that you've been seeing for only three months?
>He's rich, has all the regular gamer stuff besides new consoles (I can't afford)
The only idea I have that could be taken seriously is to make a CD of me singing/playing covers of his favorite songs (all the dumb romantic ones, especially since he loves female singers) but I want to do something more for him.
The thing is, I know that he will probably get me something expensive (since he said he wanted to) and I just can't reciprocate, and I wish I could so much. I'm really at a loss here. :s
Any help would mean the world to me.
The CD sounds pretty good to me, and I'm not normally one for super romantic things either. Maybe get him something practical? Guys tend to like practical gifts
>>16551042
Your anal virginity.
>>16551042
>a CD of me singing/playing covers of his favorite songs
I would cringe if a girl did that for me. Get him cologne, candles or something like that.
If I'm a guy and I wear loose jeans without a belt and wear a thong underneath. If I go to Victoria secret's and bend over the whole time do you guys dare me to do this.
What will all the girls think? Would they circle me like sharks haha
>>16551018
>haha wouldnt it be super crazy is I pretended to be gay guys
>what if I wore thongs hahaha what a riot
>what if I sucked someones dick haha I bet everyone would go crazy I bet you guys wont dare me to
you should totally do it
Will a lot of girls be giggling at me?
Guys I'm confused. Maybe I can get some of your opinions to help me out.
I'm 24, prior US military, no degree, currently work doing Armed Security making great money. But i'm not satisfied with that job. The whole job hunt is stressful. the competition is crazy and my list of jobs i can apply to is very limited. Its not about the money to me. I just want a job I care about. I'm never going to get married or have kids. So i don't really have shit to live for 2bh. I just want a job i can focus on and care about. Below is 2 options that I could potentionally have. I just can't decide what to do.
1. A friend of mine works for a large, local Energy company. It's known to be a really good company to work for. They pay great, take great care of their employees, and overall just have very good ratings and reviews. My friend showed me a entry level position as a Groundman that the starting pay is almost identical to what i'm making now ($25/hr). Its all on the job training, and after a 1-2 years you can certify to be a Linesman. If you pass the certification your pay jumps to $37-39/hr. Which is obviously great. So there is that option.
2. My second option is i could hope and pray that the one job i really want, (Federal Air Marshal) opens up in the next few months like there is talk about. That job seems ideal to me because its constant travel, gov benefits, and i like shooting guns. Problem is its extremely competitive. But i have a plus because i have a Security clearance, and suitability with that Agency because of my current job. *note- my BEST bet to get hired for Federal Air Marshal would be while i'm still employed with my current company. Because i'll lose my agency specific suitability if i quit, and that can take months to get.
Continued...
Friend of mine's uncle was a linesman. It's not a job you grow old in.
$25/h isn't great money.
So what should i do guys?
My friend with the Energy Company is pretty confident that they would hire me. From the point he applied and got hired it only took just over a month. But with the Air Marshals, it could take many months before I'd find out if I was even getting a interview. But like I said about them before, My absolute best shot at them is while i'm still working where I am currently employed. If i leave my job, my suitability will expire. And my network with some of the Supervisors might die out too since I won't be around them.
I really want to do the Air Marshal, thats a job that only opens like once every 6 years or so. So this would literally be my only shot. But with the Energy Company. Thats a really good opportunity, and since i have someone on the inside willing to help, I might not get another shot at that either.
TL;DR- What job should i put my 100% focus on. The job i really want that i might not get. Or a good career that i don't necessarily want.
>>16551023
>$25/h isn't great money
why do you say that? I remember reading that $50-60,000/yr is what most families survive on. I'm only 24, and never going to have a family. To me at least, its good pay.
I've never been able to deal with life issues well. I've always done well in school and whatnot, however I've never been good at dealing with life issues.
Whenever somethings troubling me, I sit there and I think and I think and I think, but I come up blank, so naturally my next step is to seek help from my loved ones. While I recognize there's nothing wrong with asking for help, I feel like relying on others this much is really unhealthy.
Maybe it's because I grew up as what was essentially an only child (A have a half sister and a step brother who lived on and off with me and my parents growing up, however I'm significantly younger than them so they were always really nice to me) so I may of never developed proper problem solving/conflict resolution skills (In fact, in kindergarden to about grade 2 my social skills were so poor I had to take special classes to develop them properly), however I can't help but feel like there's something more at play here.
I can provide examples if needed.
Have you ever gotten your penis stuck in a thermostat?
A man's got to know his limitations....
Examples are obviously needed, OP
so my gf is going to move aways with her mother to new york. she wants me to go with her. thats the other side of the country. i don't think her mother lilkes me too much. me and my gf have minimum wage jobs and live with our parents. Im not sure if i should go or not. I hate it here in this shit town but at least its safe right. I just don't know. I don't want her to leave either. any adviice ??
Why is your gf moving with her mom to a strange city instead of the two of you getting your shit together and planning to move someplace together as a young couple starting out?
Come up with a not shitty answer to that and then we'll talk.
>>16550955
New york local here don't go because of a girl unless you are sure you love here enough. Sure shit goes down here and there are so many beautiful girls but our culture is sex and consumerism to the max. We also have possibly the highest standard of living in the country and a lot of people with college degrees still work like slaves because of this.
>>16550964
>highest standard of living
I think you mean highest cost of living.
I've been in a weird borderline emotionally abusive relationship the last 2 years.
If I think about it logically I have no reason to stay, and I should have left a long time ago but I stick around and I crave him and want to be with him. I have no idea why I do this, I love myself, and I think I'm pretty decent looking and smart and I know I could get another boyfriend yet I still fucking stay.
How do people get out of these things? Weve tried breaking up a few time and we ALWAYS go back.
and just a note* by abusive I didn't mean he calls me names or anything I just mean hes throwing me around emotionally and constantly says things he "dosnt mean" and then takes them back and its confusing and it helps keep me around.
sometime I really think me and him could get married and belong together but other days I KNOW that that will never happen and if it did it wouldn't work out.
I think marriage would make it worse, you'd be 'locked in'. Please don't get married.
This one is difficult because I don't know the details, but I would say just from what you've told us, to get out and don't look back. It doesn't sound like he knows how to be a man and he will never make you truly happy.
Read up on codependency.
Am I the only straight man that thinks that vaginas are disgusting?
I'm a straight man, but I am turned on by a woman's face, her figure, breasts, legs, etc. When it comes to the vagina, it's just a big turn off in terms of visual attractiveness (outies in particular).
It does feel great and all, I can obviously concede that, but I find it odd that people look at picture of vaginas and get turned on by them, while I find them so gross.
Maybe you have the gays.
Genitals are disgusting in general. All of them.
>>16550948
If it didn't feel good, no one would have sex. The genitals were designed to be ugly. You aren't supposed to look at them.
I just swallowed cum for the first time, but it's getting hard to hold it down.
I really don't wanna ruin my first sexual by vomiting, any tips on avoiding regurgitation?
go to /b/
>>16550889
Have someone pat your back and burp you.
if hes not around puke it up then
I have a lot of issues with insecurity, and I snooped on my boyfriend's (of 2 yrs) "notes" in his phone : ( I found something there that said that "4 of the most beautiful people he worked with" had asked him out in the past week. A couple weeks later, asked him if anyone ever asks him out, he said no. What do I do? I want to come clean about the snooping.
>I have a lot of issues with insecurity
yeah you and everyone else on the planet. But the rest of us just don't roll around in it like a dog who finds shit on the ground. Insecurity is not a reason to be an asshole, which is what you are being.
Who knows what the note is even referencing?
If it's really about him, it said nothing about him accepting the interest, or you'd have said that.
and, if you're really insecure, I sure as fuck wouldn't tell you things you didn't need to know over which I had no control. People are going to be attracted to your boyfriend (if he's attractive) any time any place, he can't control what other people feel and you're a complete asshole for letting your insecurity violate the boundaries of your relationship.
He should dump you, but apparently he loves you enough to put up with all this dumb bullshit so count your fucking blessings you selfish cunt.
>>16550837
Yes, I know this. I'm just wondering why he didn't tell me?
I do know it was about it him- it listed their names and the way they asked him out. Ie "kate came up to me and asked me if I was still seeing x and asked if I'd like to go see a movie together"...
Should I tell him I snooped? I feel like I should. Even if not to confront him about this white lie, which is essentially harmless- though I am a bit confused about marrying someone who wouldn't tell me something like that...
Anyone have some perspective about why he might not tell me? He doesn't want to make me feel bad or something? I would really like him to tell me those kinds of things, not out of jealousy, but yeah, just as conversation, I tell him if people ask me out. Idk.
Hey /adv/, whenever I stay at my girlfriend's house lately I've been waking up at ~5am and being violently sick. I'm fine if I'm sleeping in my own bed, it just seems to be her place. Has anyone ever heard of this?
>>16550771
Pet allergies if she has a dog or cat that normally sleeps on the bed?
>>16550804
no, she has a dog but it stays outside. It's not been a problem until recently.
>>16550771
You're allergic to heterosexual sex
I am horny asfk and fap so much. I used to fap more than 3 times a week but I'm fapping once a week these past months. how can I stop ! pls help /adv/
use tabasco sauce as lube
>>16550695
Refocus the energy you put into jerking your dick into improving yourself so you can get a girlfriend, then fuck her every day. You won't want to fap then.
Don't stop, I fap once or maybe even twice a day and not even counting actual sex lmao, it's supposedly healthy for you. Keep on stroking my friend!
