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So I am recently married (less than 1 year), and I spend 1 night a week playing table top games with friends—I stay out sometimes as late as say midnight on a late bout of it.
I am a grad student and my wife works(I provide income based off military benefits from the GI bill). My schedule is much more lax than hers. She says I need to come home earlier EVERY time I try to have a guys not out playing games—not chasing women and drinking—playing games. I only do it once a week.
She believes that our house is prone to getting broken into—I live in one of the least crime ridden university towns in Alabama—Auburn. She says that one time she heard someone trying to open the door (her car in the drive way) while she was on the couch. Our rental home is old and is 50 feet from road—she also sometimes has night terrors and has slept walked. I honestly don’t know if I believe her. I was at this guy’s night when this happened. And I Rushed from speeding home( concealed pistol in hand) ready to help—calming her on the phone all the while telling her to get a pistol and barricade the bedroom door. Get home—nothing.
Every night I try to do this she will ask me to come home early—I say “ill try” most of the time but don’t do it. Should asking me to sacrifice one night of harmless fun a week wrong of her? I feel one night a week of being out (with my limited responsibility) isn’t a big deal. Is the women I married just crazy? Or am I being an asshole?
How do you know her fears aren't legitimate? If you're this dismissive of her fears, then you're not exactly the only victim in this scenario
>>16554653
OP here. This is one of the safest areas ever. This happened weeks ago about the "door knob turning". She sees things in her sleep. If I wake her from naps she will be so out of it. She says she sees things that aren't real in her waking moments right after sleep. She normally naps on the couch. This event happened when she was on the couch. I believed her at the time. So I sped home ready to blast people. But there was no car out. No weirdos out. Just nothing.
>>16554648
How about instead of leaving her behind, tell her to go out with her friends? Or maybe even go hang out with yours? Then she could be at ease about you "chasing women" if that's even an issue. Also, maybe look into some security precautions? Just to give her peace of mind.
How do I do it?
I came her asking the same question a couple weeks ago, and you guys basically told me that I should:
>talk dirty
>engage his balls
>try to overpower him
And I've been successful in the first two, but as for overpowering him, well let's say that although I'm a match for him physically, I'm really sensitive. And so whenever I try to overpower him and get in control of the situation, he tickles me or he plays with my nipples or whatever, and I'm reduced to that doing that weird full-body twitchy thing that I can't help but do. And he knows it frustrates the shit out of me that I'm so helpless in bed, but he really just seems to find it amusing? Like, whenever we have sex, I'll end up really sweaty and my legs don't work and it's hard to be coherent but he'll be completely fine, if not just a little sleepy. It's infuriating!
So how do I make him work harder? Why the fuck am I lifting if I can't even force a guy to sweat?
>I'll end up really sweaty and my legs don't work and it's hard to be coherent
You sound like the perfect lay. That is a lucky man. My goal is to leave chicks like this aka "dick drunk". How big is his dick?
>>16554633
I think it's at least 7", cause it's a good deal longer than my hands.
Why would anybody want a sweaty, lame and dumb chick flailing in their bed?
Bump.
I'd like to hear what you guys think. I'm a black woman who grew up in mostly a dysfunctional ghetto family, my brother gang bangs,my mom cheats the system, my family is also ironically religious and abusive. I have severe mental issues that none of them care to
address until I end up in a hospital and forced into a mental institution. They have disrespected my home and my husband calling him white devil because he wouldn’t be their door mat and I dared to stand up for him. I want to distance myself from but they keep forcing their way in. They are racist, abusive, selfish people who are hindering my recovery. They spew all this black togetherness, religious, family crap and shame me for “acting white”. How can I distance myself from them?
>>16554616
>Black women on 4chan is a first. No joke.
Depends on how badly you want to distance yourself from them. Do you dislike/dispise/hate/loathe them? If your bro died in a gun fight would you cry? If your mom got kicked out, would you take her ass in?
>>16554616
Just forget them for not being open to who you are. Try your best to let them know if they want back in your life that they have to love you for you and anything else is unacceptable.
Focus on being you and whatever that means and try to understand what your family gets from shaming you, because it's not your fault they are being spiteful.
>>16554616
Dealt with this and found there is no way to change family, they disrespected my husband one too many times and i no longer answer calls/the door anything for them. It gets easier after they get the hintbut cutting off contact is the only way to go. Sorry
/adv/ would it be weird to add this girl on Snapchat out of the blue? Went on one date, never kissed, still text occasionally. I wouldn't be sending dick pics
no just do it
JUST DO IT
I just feel like she would immediately think "lol he wants nudes/perv/lame
>>16554600
>>16554600
You do kmow snapchat is more for posting funny sniplets of shit you do and not a porno thing. If you still text on occasuon, I don't see why would it be bad to add her on snapchat.
How do I get a gf if I look like pic related?
>>16554562
Move to Japan
>>16554562
>gf
son...
>>16554562
Asian men and women look the same. Search in asia.
>be me
>never had gf
>loner.jpg
>friend likes qt3.14 from his class
>invites me to come along to hang out with him, her, and other chicks
>doesnt want to be only guy there
>she and i hit it off
>friend obviously sees and jealous
>threatens me if i try anything
>unstable guy, i back off
>fast forward two months
>he fails to ask her out
>friendzone.jpg
>he continues to grow suspicious of me despite not trying anything
>one day snaps and yells at me over nothing
>ineedtoendthisbeforehekillsmeinsleep.webm
>meet up with girl and discuss everything
>she doesnt like him, agrees with everything i said
>she says she likes me
>blusheslikeschoolgirl.bmp
>reciprocates feelings
>not awkward between us, we talk and laugh all the way back to her dorm
>go home
>mfw we still came up with no solution
What do? I like her a lot, but I'm best friends with Mr. unstable and desperate
>>16554510
It'd be easier to say with friend and girl's side of the story.
>>16554510
Well break it to him he may be pissed as fuck at first but in a bit he'll be happy that you did that jealousy breeds anger and anger leads to a loss of time
Just tell the dude that she doesn't like him and that he will find someone else. Then nope the fuck out before he kills you.
>in love with this girl
>been in love with her for almost 3 years, she didn't know til this past summer
>Shes extremely attractive, likable, and smart.
>Very popular with the guys at her school, if you catch my drift.
>Every boyfriend she's had has been nothing short of a jerk.
>I started talking to her A LOT this past summer.
>She got a boyfriend towards the beginning of the school year, but he too was an ass.
>I was discreetly trying to get her to like me, I knew she knew I liked her but I didn't know how much.
>Finally works
>She snaps after a lot of crap and breaks up with him.
>We move closer together at an extremely rapid pace.
>I try my best to be a gentleman by the textbook white mom definition, I never ask for revealing pictures or anything like that.
>We eventually confess our love to each other but she isn't ready to go out yet with all the exams and stuff this time of the year.
>The small perverted slice of my brain becomes increasingly thirsty for any sex appeal from her other than her words and face.
>I forget how, but a few days ago we started texting each other a bunch, and the subject matter drifted into sex.
>I said something about how I liked thighs
>She sent me a few revealing photos, very, very nice but nothing too risque.
>She sent a few more
>I feel like a have to one-up her, pay her back, something.
>The subject carries into the next day.
>We both start talking about having sex with each other.
>Conversation becomes increasingly steamy.
>She sends me a picture of her with only her hand covering her lady parts, and her hair covering her breasts.
>By now you probably guessed I'm feeling like a supercharged jet engine.
>I say I've been "excited" for well over an hour, if you catch my drift.
>She says "Prove it"
>Obviously my queue to send a picture of my, uh, you know.
>Get all shaved and nice looking
>Send her a picture.
>She loves it
>We talk about more sex for a while then I go to bed feeling like a champ.
>>16554415
Hurry up i want to laugh at you and then give you advice you moron
This is /adv/, not your personal blog.
Do people really think this is how you use green text? To tell really long fucking stories?
>she's 15
>I'm 18
Fuck why did i let myself fall for this girl?
We're great friends and i just don't know what to do.
>>16554379
I feel your pain
She's 16
I'm 19
Wait till she's older? Need halp on this also
I feel ya mate, she's 17 I'm 20 :/
I'm almost 20 and Virgin... She is 16 and not virgin. Fack!
I want to stop being afraid of engaging in conversations with attractive women and I want to be more confidence when I do engage, how can I manage this?
I go to college and like 55% of the people there are girls my age.
Talk to unattractive girls first
>>16554342
buddy if it's time for you to talk to attractive girls, they usually talk to you first
nobody wants that weird guy just randomly talkng to them all of a sudden
>>16554345
I find that pretty easy even though I don't do it often but that's a numbers issue, haven't had many unattractive ones to talk to.
>>16554351
I've had some try to do so actually but that was a while ago. Also, how am I going to get better if I just hope someone approaches me?
Well here I am again /adv/ with more girl issues. (yippie)
I live somewhere in Utah, have interest in a girl, live around a moderately medium sized city, and I would like to have her on a date. But I don't know where to bring here, I know for a fact she dislikes the idea of movie theater for a first date (Learning that from a previous discussion the other day). Surrounded by mountains and farmland, she isn't a huge fan of outside things like hikes and stuff.
So /adv/, please help for date ideas.
Aren't there any restaurants?
>>16554291
Mostly fast food considering we're not too huge, but that's not too memorable, if she thought a movie theater was boring I'm sure eating greasy food is a smidge worse.
>>16554298
Well it's not MTV, you're not going to roll up to some field with a goofy game set up. It's up to you to make it memorable. If she's a bit of a homebody invite her to your place, cook for her.
I feel as if I am missing out on life /adv/. I am 25 and I don't go clubbing or out to bars or any of that shit. I feel like there is a aspect of my life I missing. I don't get to meet women. My confidence is SHIT. I have no idea how to build confidence.
What can I do? I have no faith in myself when talking to women. I don't feel I can do it properly. I am missing something. Like that "masculine spark" that seems to attract women to even HUMAN SHITS like meth addicts or some shit.
Help me. I don't even know what to say to women!
You just seem to care too much about women. Just live your life as you like and they'll come. Don't think too much about it.
>>16554770
It sounds counter-intuitive but this is exactly right.
Op here, honestly I just feel very... Inept. I want to experience relationships but women ask too much I think. I just don't have the capital other males have.
I want to ask a girl out that I've known for some months now. The thing is I don't see her too often and I'm not always the most fun person ever when she's around. I think I can probably do well if we do go out but I'm afraid that she may reject me if I ask her, for the reason that I didn't make a great impression yet. Should I take some more time and try to prove to her that I can be fun? Or should I ask her out already and hope for the best?
I know it's my fault for not having asked her out sooner.
>>16554163
>for the reason that I didn't make a great impression yet.
How long will it take you to make a good impression?
Now consider this, how long will it take for someone else she knows to ask her out and become her boyfriend?
Stop wasting time. You've made your first impression, just ask her out right here and right now. Every second you waste saying "I'll look like an awesome person to her tomorrow" is a second someone else could be asking her out. Just do it already.
Besides. Dates are for making good impressions.
>>16554163
Does she looks like a girl who wants a girl that makes a great impression?
If so, you should probably make a great impression before asking her out. Otherwise, you should be fine asking her out now. Maybe just spend some more time with her before that.
is the girl in the purple asking for it?
>>16554143
Just another shade of gray.
In my opinion, if she was just with her girl friends, then no. If she didn't consent to this photo, no. If she didn't consent to this photo being posted, no.
If she was raped the night of this photo when she was pretty drunk, that's pretty gray.
If someone saw this photo and was like "Yea, I know she's a slut, so Im gonna rape her when I get the chance." Thats rape
>guy whips out his dick
is he asking for it?
do you think that little string she is wearing is hot?
I have this ex boyfriend who literally ruined my life for a year and a half. I didn't know it because it was mostly online, but he was lying to me about his name, age, workplace, where he lived, his family. My father died six months into the relationship, and I was on bad terms with my dad because of this ex.
He took my virginity and then a few minutes later, I found out all the lies. Even after, he continued to lie.
I also spend over 1000 dollars on him.
To say the least, all the deception and betrayal has fucked me up. He catfished me online. I don't trust anyone at all anymore. I have no money because of him. I wasted a year and a half on him.
Is there any legal action I can take against him?
Tldr;
> got catfished throughout a year and a half relationship
> dad died on bad terms because of ex
> spent over 1000 dollars on him
> no money, wasted time, and don't trust anyone.
>Emotionally fucked up because of ex.
> legal action against him?
Bumping to tame my curiosity. Hope you get an answer.
>>16554047
Thanks.
Bump again
No, your an idiot.
Can a girl learn to orgasm from penetration only?
Why do some girls get it from penetration and some don't?
>>16554007
no u can't learn to, everyone just gets off on different stuff. it's anatomy. i can only orgasm from clit stimulation but penetration in tandem makes it way more enjoyable. never in all my years have i come from penetration tho i enjoy it more. sucks man
>>16554019
It happened to me one single time in 11 years of sex and I feel like I'm just doing sex wrong if I still can't get it.
Clit stimulation with penetration works every time, but I've always wanted to just let go and cum without having to touch myself.
I've tried to let my partner touch me during but it's like no matter how he tries it just doesn't feel right.
It's really frustrating.
>>16554045
I feel you. I don't have as much experience but I always have to stimulate my clit. Feels bad because my bf wants to make me cum on his own and it makes him think he's not good enough at it or something.
