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How do you lower your standards when it comes to dating?
Think about dying alone or having to lower your standards even further when you're older because all the good ones are already taken.
>>16559338
What are your standards?
Start with height, and breast size. Lower both. Easy.
So a drunk drive ran into my fence. Since it isn't my fault my insurance can't raise the cost if I report it to them and have them pay for the repairs right?
>>16559317
Get the paperwork for your insurance plan.
I think normally the person who did the damage has to have their insurance pay for it.
>>16559326
There's no way they will raise your homeowner's rates based on that.
>>16559326
Idk who it was it happened when I wasn't home
I want to buy my parents a modest apartment for $200k to retire in. The mortgage will be in my name and they will pay me rent whatever the mortgage payment will be.
Is this a wise move for my financial well being? I'm planning on getting a place of my own in the next 5 years. I make 120k a year.
It would be better to talk to your bank about it.
>>16559257
>200k apartment
What the fuck? I'm no expert on housing but why not just buy them A HOUSE for that price?
>>16559280
Houses go for 400k+ around where I live. My parents are stubborn and want to stay put here.
There's a girl who works for a different company in my building who comes to the office I work in maybe two or three times a day to print things off at the printer beside me. She is extremely beautiful and is exactly the sort of girl I'm attracted to. However, she is privately educated and presumably from an upper-middle class family, and her co-workers and probably her friends are from that class / background too.
I've only talked to her in order to help her with printing problems once or twice, other than that I've consciously adopted a pose of indifference towards her and pretended not to notice her entering the office. How could I go about talking to her? Or should I not do that in your opinion? I really would like to at least try to talk to her, but since I'm a quiet person at work it will be obvious if I suddenly make conversation with her.
Girls like manly lower middle class guys. Chat her up.
Lay that game down! Show the office how it's done!
>>16559254
DUDE! I thought I was the only loser reading those!
I'm not alone!
My boyfriend always complains about my stinking feet,
but what he doesn't know is that I do this thing where I dip my toes and feet into a bowel of olive oil, vinegar and sardines because I have a sexual fetish for stinky feet.
I don't know how to go about telling him this because I've heard him talk badly of women and men who have fetishes, calling them freaks, perverts, and degenerates.
What do I do adv?
Your fetish is only interesting to you.
Try peaches and onions.
idk maybe just do that when you know you aren't going to see him
desu that's really odd
fucking captcha was milkshakes. i want milkshakes.
For anyone who has cheated on their boyfriend /girlfriend, do you feel regret afterwords?
>>16559199
Usually people with morals do.
Some people are born without Morals, that's why we have rapists, killers and just outright disgusting people.
Yes, I felt regret, and I immediately informed her afterwards, breaking up with her, as it was the only proper thing to do.
If you want to know more general stuff about this topic, ask away.
>>16559199
sometimes. havent cheated since late teens/early twenties, but guilt did come into play in most cases. when you progress past a certain point, you realize its just more efficient and less hassle to break up with someone rather than fuck around on them
It started when I was 16 and discovered things I found cool like 4chan, Science, spirituality, Religion, technology and self awareness. I had an obsession with knowing more about the world. I'm 19 trying to figure out what to do with my life while balancing work and play like everyone else. Everything I learned about life just made me feel like shit, what's the point of life? Death doesn't scare me but the one thing I learned from Buddhism is that although you don't know what's next, you must cherish this life, so I can't kill myself. I smoke weed and ciggerettes to speed up the process though. I don't mind working but I feel like I'm trapped trading an hour of my life for minimum wage when I'm supposed to be cherishing it. Im to self aware of life itself and can't stop thinking about it to the point where I would rather be in my head than socialize with other people. I feel like everyone is to caught up in their own story that they can't see the bigger picture or probably don't care. I look around me and see people chasing women, money and success. I wonder why if non of this matters when you're dead? Why is the human race the way it is? What's wrong with me? And what can I do about it? please.
TL;DR
> can't stop thinking about the bigger picture of life, the reason we are all alive and what we are supposed to do about it.
It's pretty normal to feel like that at some point in your life. Have you ever seen the Zeitgeist series, it will blow your mind dude I really recommend it to you. It will definitely expand your mind from this current shitty way of life in we all live. Start with Zeitgeist The Movie, then Zeitgeist Addendum and finally Zeitgeist Moving Forward.
>>16559127
Looks interesting ill watch it now
>>16559142
Cool! Get some hits from your joint before start watching but not to much cuz it's a lot of information to process haha
How does somebody deal with being blackmailed with sensitive photos?
>>16559086
By going to the police with your evidence and letting them handle it.
>>16559087
Gime a braak police dont do jack
>>16559092
By posting the sensitive photos on 4chan, so the blackmailer won't have any leverage.
Am I wrong for feeling like I fucked up my life?
>Went to uni at 17 studying computer science.
>Fucked up after the 2nd year, skipped classes. dropped out shortly after, lost interest in cs completely
>worked in warehousing for a while, parent's tell me to move out at 20.
>work whatever shitty job I can to get by, go back to college to study civil engineering.
>that feel when 24 in second last year, living off of student loans and part time jobs, barely any friends, never had a real relationship, live in a basement apartment I rented for cheap, take public transit, buy my groceries on a bicycle.
>family never talks to me, friends slowly lessened contact over time.
>steadily become a daily marijuana smoker, almost always smoke or drink alone.
>occasionally get dates off of dating apps, but never a 2nd
>watching tv and movies is pretty much the only thing I look forward to anymore.
Every single day it's like I can feel myself calling myself a loser. Like I just look at other people's lives and try to avoid thinking about how much of a failure I feel like compared to everyone else. I try to make an effort to tell myself, sometimes out loud, that I'm not a loser and that I'm doing well in life; I think I do it just to try and keep my head on straight. I keep trying to tell myself I'm going to graduate soon and have decent career prospects and that things will improve... at the moment though I just feel old.. like I wasted my youth... I feel immature and stupid for my age. When I was younger people used to tell me I was the smartest person they knew or they expected me to do something amazing with my life. Instead I just became boring and fucked up most of the things I ever tried in life, ruined most of my relationships with people through bad social skills. I once got put in the psych ward by my parents when I was really suicidal. Lately I've been wondering if I should go back to seek therapy or mental help or if I'm just in a rut in life I have to dig out of.
you're at an age where this kind of shit happens.i was in a similar situation but fortunately i had friends. seek therapy but be sure that you're treated by a good therapist, which is hard. if not, try to have a positive attitude and go out, and perhaps you'll meet somebody
>>16559079
Don't blame yourself because your parents forced you to be some sort of child prodigy (assuming that's what happened, or at least they had some role in that, seeing as you went to uni at 17).
Yeah just stop blaming yourself. And as my dad said to me, "no man is an island". You shouldn't think to yourself "this burden is mine and mine alone, I have to deal with it".
You could try contacting your family, surely they would be happy to hear from you. If you want nothing to do with them then you could try contacting old friends I suppose.
I've had times where I didn't even want to talk to my family and was sure they fucking hated me, but then I ended up contacting me and actually they're just happy to hear from me, and then it makes things easier. Family is important, I think. As long as they're alive you should do what you can to get along because some people don't have parents, and yours won't be around for ever, and they shouldn't be taken for granted.
I recommend traveling to get some new perspectives.
Works for me everytime I'm in the dumps.
Women, what famous person do you have a crush on?
Asked already in that ask girls thread, no reply.
>>16559029
Paul Rudd. Ever since I first saw Clueless when I was 9.
>>16559040
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XWX4GUYGQXQ
Yes, celery man is great.
>>16559040
Yes, that is correct
and Iris Elba
I got a little problem with that. My most sweaty regions are hands, face and feets, 5 minutes after a shower i am already moist in these places. It gets me anxiety because of sloppy handshakes and wet face. Also my feets smell really bad, like vinegar. I eat healthy stuff, not much fat, salt or spicy things, i also do work out. I am not fat aswell. What do i do?
How old are you? Mine was pretty fowl until I was 22 or so.
As for your feet, it's probably either a fungal infection or it's your socks/shoes. Go get new socks/shoes and wash your socks every day; don't wear either inside and let your feet air out.
Personally, my GF loves the smell of my sweat like it's some kind of aphrodisiac, but I'm also vegan so idk if that impacts my smell at all.
>>16559032
Im 18, and i care about my higiene. I put on socks only when i go to school or leave house in general. I never wear socks twice before washing them. It probably isnt infection aswell, my mother has sweaty feets aswell.
They use botox injections to treat that.
Is it ok to rest on weekends?
I think i changed, I started being a very productive person, time table oriented, very focused on my goals and everything, but for some reason I feel like not doing it today. Is it because it's saturday? Is it ok to rest on weekends or is that just for faggots?
pic unrelated, not a roll thread
Laziness on your part. You can rest and enjoy yourself after you get all your responsibilities done for the day.
>>16558956
Rolling!
>>16558956
Roll
Here’s the story… From around 2 years ago I like my friend's girlfriend, she’s cute, funny and has some style that I really love. We chat sometimes and we (my friend, she and I) hang out and we always have a good time. When we chat, sometimes she says things related to her relationship with my friend, how unsatisfied she is and sometimes about sex. When I respond to her words and try to have some sex with her at the same time she immediately changes the subject and stuff like that. I’ve recently discover that she put some pics in some sexy page and she appears shirtless, and it’s driving me crazy!!!! I really want to have sex with her, she have an amazing body. What can I do?
>>16558905
Back off and have respect. How would you feel if you had a gf and your friend was secretly trying to find a way to be with her?
Nothing, she has a guy and isn't interested. Find a girl who doesn't have a boyfriend and is interested in you.
I think you need cut contact to a bare minimum with the girl and maintain your friendship with your bro. Bros before hoes man.
>>16558909
Actually, he tried to do the same thing with an ex-gf but he doesn't know that I know, it was a couple of years ago. I realized about it around a year later and I didn't say anything cuz my ex-gf is in the past now and doesn't worth it to bring it out now. It's the same coin.
My girlfriend of 8 months just told me that she wants to take a "break" in order to deal with some issues in her life on her own. She's got family issues and is generally stressed out about school, and she's depressed. She said that it's not fair to me to be the way she is and still be with me, and told me that she was not being a good girlfriend because of it. From my end she's been coming off a little more distant but that's pretty much it, and I told her that I would be there for her.
I don't really understand why she feels the need to be by herself during this, wouldn't it be easier for her if I were there for support? I told her that she's not inconveniencing me but she still said that she needed some time for herself. Now of course this is going to raise suspicion and i'm sure a ton of people here are just going to tell me that she's seeing another guy or something, but that doesn't seem to be the case. She said that she still loves me and wants me to be a part of her life, and that i'm an amazing person and all that. What do you guys think? Do "breaks" in relationships even work out? I don't think she's breaking off all contact with me either, i'm almost positive we'll keep in touch, just not as often. She didn't really make it clear how long it would be either, but said that she might feel better once her exams are over. pic unrelated
>>16558889
break=fuck other guys
2015 and fags still don't know about this?
>>16558900
simply epic
>>16558889
In my experience, break = I want to dump you but don't have the balls to do it just yet.
Hi, /adv/.
>be me
>have a lot of people who consider me their friend, both male and female
>still fee like an outcast because they never text me just to talk, I always have to initiate everything with them
>when I do, they always reply with 'Anon, so good to hear from you, hahaha!' and the conversation usually goes pretty well
>when it ends they always say we need to talk more often
>they still never initiate conversations with me ever
>I see them talk about how they have hour-long text conversations or snapchat wars, generic young adult friendship stuff that I've never experienced because nobody has initiated it with me and I don't know how to initiate it in a way that won't seem annoying or weird
>they don't invite me to their parties or to just hang out, either, I always have to awkwardly ask if anything is going on. It makes me feel like I'm inviting myself to everything because I know under normal circumstances they would never actually ask me if I wanted to come.
>eventually I just stop trying to talk to them because I worry I'm interrupting their lives or annoying them
What the fuck is going on? Am I their friend or aren't I? How can I have a large social group but feel like I'm all alone 90 percent of the time? Do they even see me as a person they want to talk to, or just an epic quirky guy who is sort of cool to hang around but not someone they would want to regularly hang out with?
I'm so tired of being alone. I've tried to separate myself from people and from society and embrace introvert/shut-in/robot life, but I can't, no matter how hard I try. I need people. I need to feel like I'm cared about. I need companionship, not just romantic (that's a whole other beast I'm dealing with, but not one that's really relevant to my main question) but also platonic, and I'm getting neither. And I don't know what I'm doing wrong, and it's killing me.
How do I fix this?
Bump. Having the same problem here
>>16558881
Thanks Anon, seems like it's a difficult problem to solve seeing how nobody seems to be able to give advice on it so far.
Self bump I guess.
hey OP, i'm going through a really similar thing right now. i just got out of a relationship so i'm making a lot of new friendships i couldn't have before, but no one i talk to ever seems to want to get past the "small talk when we see each other" phase. i made all the social media other people have, try to initiate jokes/conversations, and nothing happens. i feel like a freak honestly. even if people don't outright dislike me, it just seems like no one likes me enough to hang out with me or interact with me a lot.
sorry i can't give any advice, but i hope the best for both of us. i'll contribute a bump instead
