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So here's this situation.
I've been talking to this girl I meet every week and it's really obvious that she's into me. Looks are about a 7.5/10 and seems to be nice and all, basically girlfriend material. But the thing is that she's depressed (diagnosed) and is currently on some anti depressants, and she had a history of selfharm.
what to do? help
So much for "advice"
Everyone has depression. You'd be stupid to break things off just because of that. The self harm is a red flag though. How do I know? I used to have a problem with it myself. It means she suffers/suffered from a mental pain so great that she tries to distract herself by creating physical pain.
Does she cut? Have you seen her scars? Does she burn herself? How do you know she self harms?
If she outright told you such sensitive information it's a good sign. It means she trusts you. I would never tell anyone I cut myself, only the one I trust the most.
>>16561627
She told me almost in the beginning that she had been cutting before, on her inner thighs, but that she has stopped now and tries to keep it that way. I've not seen them, but she has told me about it
A year ago I moved in to be roommates with this girl I've been friends with since we were 14. Everything was ok for a while, we both have habits that the other one fucking hates - I drink and smoke and go to gym and she's a junk food addict and a picky eater - but apparently we've gradually ended up living pretty much as a couple. Like, literally everything save for sex or lip-kissing.
I don't know what to do about it, the living situation is perfectly fine and we do get along but I'm 22 and I don't know if I'm ready for living-with-your-girlfriend -level of serious relationships or if I even like her that much.
Start by inserting your 'penis' in her'vagina'.
>>16561572
I have some health issues that kind of prevent penetrative sex - especially with a bigger girl, like she is - and that's probably one of the reasons why nothing explicitly sexual has happened yet.
>>16561575
Are you insane?
So I don't know if this is the right place to be but I need advice people - I'm a lesbian but I'm scared to come out to my friends - what should I do?
lol wtf? r you sure u are? have you ever gotten horny from holding a womans privates, or going down town on them? i suggest you experiment first before you do anything like that to make sure
>>16561496
Yes I have tried stuff with girls - please be nice
Tell them?
Should I get food or not?
1. I've been eating like trash for the past two days.
2. It's 4 pm and I haven't eaten today but I don't really feel hungry.
3. The store closes in two hours but I know I'll probably be staying up all night.
4. I don't know what I'd get if I did.
>>16561457
>zeroth world problems
>>16561465
Congratulations on your edge. Do you have anything constructive to say?
>>16561466
Sure, my dearest internet friend. How about you stop being a useless piece of shit and cook for yourself?
I live in a rural area and my only dream is to move to LA. I keep hearing that it costs 1k a month just to live in a ghetto but I think people are exegerrating. For the time being I don't really care about TV and internet i just want a room and a job. I wouldn't mind a place slightly run down but to be literally like in the culdasac of Compton might be a bit much. What do I do? I found nice looking rooms on craigslist for 600-800/mo
>>16561338
Rent in the 'ghetto' is often higher than safer areas. In L.A. you may be able to find low rents in nice areas that are inconveniently located, such as San Pedro or Topanga.
>>16561338
Cost of living is no exaggeration. Been there done that. Was paying as much for rent just just a furnished room in one city as an entire house payment would have cost in another. You'll be moving to the ghetto and won't survive for very long. The new arrivals with no street-smarts are always short-lived in L.A. You will be just another tragic death statistic that nobody will notice. Don't do it.
>>16561390
So just move out to east LA?
So I recently noticed a behavioural change in me recently. Lately I have been getting angry at anything I find remotely annoying, and I'm letting those small things bother me for days on end. Anything I could do to help not be as stressed everday as I am?
You need to figure out what's bothering you
Protip: It's not the small things
You can try meditation.
Are you on withdrawal?
>>16561288
Can you give me any tips for mediation? I'm always open for new ideas.
>>16561291
Not a withdrawal, but I do partake in smoke.
>Meet girl last week at work
>End up walking her home back to campus after shift
>Hit it off, ask for facebook
>Couple days after ask her to hang for a coffee
>We do, goes really nice, we had a lot in common
>Couple days later go see a movie, followed by dinner then she suggests we meet her a friends (a couple) in town
>Have a chill evening, over the course of some more drinks she tells me she just broke up with an ex of two years about two weeks previous, but not to worry about it because "You arent a rebound, because That relationship was going downhill for a long time, so I was emotionally out of it for a while"
>Asks me to stay at hers that night
> I oblige, on bus home she tells me she feels like things have become "real" between us really fast, I said "We dont have to go too fast or be anything we dont wanna be, for now we can just be two people that enjoy each other's company and hang out"
>She liked that, said she was glad we spoke about that
>At her place we ended up kissing and sleeping together, but not actually sex (we were really tired) and we resolved to do it another time, so we just kissed more and felt each other up before sleeping
>Next morning she goes back home to her parents place up north, says we'll talk and we'll see each other the times we come back, and she wants me to come visit her when I go back to london
>Otherwise she wont be back full time until february
>Text her the following day, telling her I had a good time with her the night before, she said she did too, but it made her realise shes not ready for anything emotional because its just too soon,
>I said "Its cool, I understand. I hope we can still hang out though? Keep things platonic."
>She says "Yeah ofc :)"
So whats my play here?
I really like her, and I dont usually actually get feelings for people in a romantic way like this
Do you think this is a complete shut down? Or do I just play it cool and friendly and hang out with her, and wait until shes more ready?
>>16561180
Also sorry for huge wall of text.
TL;DR: Just met girl, we really hit it off, she feels its too soon to get emotional, either because we only met a a week ago or because she got out of a long relationships a couple weeks ago
I really like her. She even said on the friday night date she didnt want anything to do with a relationship, but I convinced her apparently.
Rape her.
>Or do I just play it cool and friendly and hang out with her, and wait until shes more ready?
prolly your best shot at this point. to get over her breakup might take a long ass time tho. you better not get too attached and spill your spaghetti too soon.
I live in a flat with 4 other people who completely refuse to crumple up plastic bottles or other materials which take up a lot of space, and it's triggering my autism hard. Whenever i see a 2 litre bottle just stuffed in the garbrage i take it out and crumple the shit out of it. Today I was making some cereal and my friend threw the milk box out and told me that he won't ever crumple it after i had told him to.
Am I being an unreasonable little bitch about it? It takes like 3 seconds motherfucker just do it and make some room for the others. I need to hear some arguments from you guys.
That'd be like OCD, not autism because it has nothing to do with social skills. If you've asked them to nicely and they aren't doing it, then you're fucked. Either move out, do it yourself, or get over it.
Well if anything they're the unreasonable ones here if they act like little shits "no i won't crumple it because you told me to :)))".
It shouldn't trigger you so hard but it's true that it's annoying for the one taking out the trash. If they don't want to crumple it then let them take out the trash or find other roomates because they obviously are assholes
>>16561153
First world problem. Yeah, you need to get over it. Some people are going to live differently than you. Nobody needs to cater to your preferences, pal. I prefer roommates that bring me hot sluts every day to sleep with. Should I get mad if they don't? Fuck no. Because they don't owe me shit. You're getting upset about a couple of square inches in a trash bag? Geez. Go find real things to be upset about.
Hey /adv/. Oblivious male dumby here. I had an incredible week and met the most incredible girl out of it. Like this experience was straight out of a romantic movie. However I am a dumb oblivious male.
I was asked to teach a culinary arts class for a week to kids from smaller communities in northern canada and I was incredibly nervous everything would go wrong and blow up(im 22). For a week i ushered 6 kids in a kitchen and cleaned up their messes. We were supposed to make a salad, meal, and dessert for 40-50 other people each day. And these kids literally did not care to be there or to learn, it was essentially a free trip out of their home town. I wanted to teach them basic skills and to have fun cooking. We made everything from scratch, vinaigrettes to sauces(minus real stock because of time constraints). Everything rested on me pushing these kids to do everything, and I enjoyed it honestly. Made me miss cooking in fine dining establishments. But then this chaperone walked in on the second day who blew me away, she even demo'd a pepper for me and made the pie with one of the groups(i hate making pies). I flirted with her here and there. But after the second day they gave me a new chaperone, and a new one after that. But i would see her at lunch for 5 minutes after i finished cleaning the kitchen on wednesday. Somehow I managed to get her number(though i only have a sketchy texting app, and when I texted herit apparantly didnt send). She brought the kids to the local rec centre where I work and I had another oppertunity to talk to her, infact she came up and engaged me! She was genuinely curious and wanted to know me better. So we talked and flirted a bit. The next day i saw her at lunch for 5 minutes and asked her out to hot chocolate, she smiled and said yes so naturally I was pretty stoked, the only hoop was she had to be with the kids 24/7 as she was a chaperone and didnt get a break at our designated date time(we had until 8:30 that night)
I sense a wall of text tl;dr incoming...
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so i start my shift at 7(i usually work 3-12 but took my 3-6 shifts off for the week to teach the program). Usually my co worker goes on her break from 7-8, but today she went to yoga and did break from 6:15-7:15 which was great because we had limited time. After half an hour of a busy front desk and talking to this girl in between clients (its a small town, not tooo professional) but obvious im busy and cant help people and flirt at the same time. So when my co worker finally comes out of yoga and her 15 minute (unwind from yoga) break I can take this girl out for hot chocolate. So i bail on my work, and she bails on her responsibility as a chaperone. We leave the front doors and start running down the street togeather.(said she was going back to her dorm because she had a headache, but we were going in a different direction so we ran to avoid any of the kids she had to chaperone). After a 15 minute walk to the coffee shop full of laughs smiles and good times I pull my first spaghetti move. The 20 dollars i set aside for the hot chocolate could not be located in my pockets. After searching nervously in line, checking all my pockets she steps up and pays... then I find my cash, and im super embarassed. We leave laughing about the situation, and walking back i accidentally bump into her, being the canadian I am "sorry"is the first reaction. She says "its okay" and bumps into me. We start bumping into eachother for a bit laughing and all. Till we get on some side walk. I subtly call her extremely pretty and she picks up on it and smiles. We eventually get back infront of the rec, and its 830. Her group of kids are leaving the rec walking in a line so we decide to hide to avoid gettin caught. While were hiding theres 5 seconds of silenc and I que in that nows my chance.
>>16561026
Sorry, on my phone and its got a cracked screen. This is some struggles so not alot of punctuation or structure. Ill tldr version towards the end.
Hi /adv/
If a girl sort of smiles when she sees me looking at her through her peripheral vision does that mean she wants to fuck or go out with me?
Yes.
>>16560982
thank god...
are you a girl?
bump, tell me how much she wants to fuck me
How do you get out of being stuck in a loop that just keeps repeating itself? I've been trying to turn my life around since I was a kid. I'm 27 (pathetic I know) now, and it feels like everything is just part of a hopeless trap. I've just always been a failure. Even attempting self improvement contributes to failure. It's the ebb before a large wave of my own incompetence crashes down. I don't know what to do anymore. Please help. I don't want to die, but I honestly can't keep living if this is how life is.
Details, please...
>>16560972
What would you like details on?
>>16560983
On any repeated mistakes.
use several types of 'dating' apps, like Tindr, okcupid, POF. I'm decent looking 7/10-ish and I actually get non-bot matches on Tindr, about 220 so far, but not a single one of them has messaged me back. I've tried everything from the usual, hey whats up, to writing a fucking essay about the one sentence they felt obliged to write about them liking to hang out with friends and enjoying other basic human needs. Ditto for the other sites. What gives? I figure I should have at least gotten one to reply by accident now, statistically speaking.
Your photos may be horrendous.
Your writing may be horrendous.
We need to see samples to be of help.
>>16560874
Say something about food, trivia, or things you like to do, but make it something that asks for a reply (it doesn't need to be a question to warrant a reply)
>>16560886
My photos are fine or I wouldnt be getting matches.
as for a sample of what I'm writing see below:
I've tried a variety of compliments, short and long greetings.
Hey, have anything fun planned this weekend? I'm [insert name here].
Hey, hows it going?
Hey I noticed from your profile that you like hiking, have you ever been to [insert location that I've gone hiking]?
Hey good looking, what you got cooking?
etc.
What she just sent me killed me.
Its my gf. We've had a rough patch of arguments and whatnot. But the love we have for each other is powerful. I love this girl more than anything, and when she tells me I "scare" her with the things I say when arguing......I feel dead inside. Like i don't deserve her.
>>16560833
What do you say that scares her?
>>16560833
This doesn't seem so bad.
DESU DESUDESUDESUDESUDESUDESU
NIGGERS DID &7/11111
LELELELELELELELELELELLELELELELELELELELELELELLE
RU PAUL WARNED US
Is 22-23 too late to go to college whilst still not knowing what you want to go to school for?
Nope.
If you have the money colleges will literally not care.
>>16560669
Any age is a bad age to go to college if you don't know why you're going.
Am I a c uck if I want to get back together with a girl who cheated on me?
No, you are a glutton for punishment.
>>16560662
you should kill yourself while youre at it
>>16560666
Tropsy tripsy
